Episode 53: On Rebuilding Trust and the One-Down Position

https://is1-ssl.mzstatic.com/image/thumb/Podcasts221/v4/66/00/38/660038fe-38c0-b024-68db-d19f38f5b9f7/mza_12839439753306442136.jpg/600x600bb.jpg

Therapists' Take with Carrie and Josh

Family Solutions Media

75 episodes

2 weeks ago

Have you ever wondered what therapists talk about with each other behind closed doors? Carrie and Josh are two mental health professionals with nearly four decades of experience between the two of them; and they are opening the door to welcome you in as they discuss and critically think through mental health, relational health, recovery issues as well as the therapeutic processes involved. You'll find these episodes to be informative, compassionate, endearing, and at times, comical. Tune in to watch the LIVE broadcasts of these episodes on Facebook and YouTube.

Mental Health

Health & Fitness

RSS

All content for Therapists' Take with Carrie and Josh is the property of Family Solutions Media and is served directly from their servers with no modification, redirects, or rehosting. The podcast is not affiliated with or endorsed by Podjoint in any way.

Mental Health

Health & Fitness

https://d3t3ozftmdmh3i.cloudfront.net/staging/podcast_uploaded_episode/39752333/39752333-1743804745462-32cf7af3725e.jpg

Episode 53: On Rebuilding Trust and the One-Down Position

Therapists' Take with Carrie and Josh

39 minutes 14 seconds

7 months ago

Episode 53: On Rebuilding Trust and the One-Down Position

In this episode of Therapists' Take, we dive into the concept of taking the one-down position in betrayal trauma couple recovery. After betrayal, the partner who caused harm often struggles with defensiveness, shame, or minimizing their actions. However, true healing requires a shift toward humility, accountability, and emotional attunement. The one-down position is not about self-degradation—it’s about owning the harm, prioritizing the injured partner’s healing, and rebuilding trust through consistent actions.

We’ll explore how this approach plays out in real-world relationships and address the common challenges that arise, including power imbalances and the betrayed partner’s need for validation. Whether you’re a therapist helping couples or someone on a personal healing journey, this episode offers essential insights into how the one-down position contributes to deep relational healing and lasting change.

____________________

00:00 - Introduction

01:00 - Hi, Carrie!

02:15 - Episode Breakdown

03:04 - New Workbook

06:42 - What Is the One-Down Position?

16:00 - The Danger of Defensiveness

4:33 - The Power of Imbalance

32:24 - Rebalancing Power

37:55 - Conclusion

____________________

Books & Links

"Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity after Infidelity" by Dr Shirley Glass - https://amzn.to/3XKDZcn

"Forgiving the Devil" by Terry Hargrave - https://amzn.to/4cfF1mq

Episode on Authenticity - https://www.youtube.com/live/48vTHXudO-s?si=PYl_zyrjDPz7MCdX

Video on One-Down Position - https://youtu.be/1nG3l9oecFE?si=avU1SGrLW8uVp6L0

____________________

Our ONLINE STORE is coming soon! In the meantime, to get a copy of our workbook, The Plan for Peace of Mind: The Betrayed Partner's Guide to Healing Following the Discovery of Infidelity, email us at therapy@familysolutionsok.com.