In this episode of This Isn’t Working, we explore the power of turning your focus inward when you find yourself reacting to your partner. Meg shares a personal story about a recent experience with her partner, Walt, where she found herself caught up in trying to control an external situation which really had nothing to do with her feelings.

Instead of continuing the cycle of reactivity, she realized the importance of shifting her attention back to herself, where she has control over her emotions and responses. This episode dives into how old patterns and stories from the past can trigger unnecessary stress and conflict in relationships—and how you can break free from that loop by taking responsibility for your own feelings.

**Key Takeaways:**

- How focusing on external factors (like your partner’s actions) can increase stress and anxiety.

- The benefits of turning inward and taking responsibility for your own emotions.

- How past experiences can create stories that drive reactivity, and how to recognize when this is happening.

- Practical questions you can ask yourself to shift from reacting to reflecting.

**Reflection Questions:**  

To help you on your journey of self-awareness, here are some key reflection questions mentioned in this episode:

1. What am I feeling right now, and why?

2. What part of this situation is triggering me?

3. What story am I telling myself about my partner’s actions?

4. Am I making assumptions about my partner’s intentions?

5. How can I show understanding or compassion in this moment?

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