What do you do when your partner just won’t change?You’ve done the work, communicated your needs, practiced patience—and it’s still not shifting.
In this heart-opening episode, Mike & Courtney dive into one of the most common questions couples face:
“What if I’m evolving and my partner isn’t?”
They reveal the hidden dynamics underneath this frustration—why we try to change others, what “counterwill” really is, and how to find your own clarity instead of waiting for someone else’s.
🌿 You’ll learn:
Why “trying to change your partner” always backfires
The real reason your partner resists transformation
How to move from control to curiosity
The link between self-abandonment and resentment
How to know when to accept, stay, or lovingly let go
A powerful journal prompt to reconnect to your truth
📍 Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Sacred Relationships
01:00 When Your Partner Won’t Change
03:00 The Confusion Crossroad: Stay or Go?
06:00 Love, Conditions, and Acceptance
10:00 Real Stories of Growth and Boundaries
15:00 The Power of Bringing Truth to the Table
22:00 Trying to Change vs. True Relating
27:00 Counterwill: Why Pressure Doesn’t Work
31:00 Facing Your Own Fear of Change
36:00 Teaching Your Partner How to Love You
42:00 Taking the First Step—Without a Guarantee
48:00 Acceptance vs. Dealbreakers
52:00 From Codependence to Self-Love
58:00 Journal Prompt + Together Community Invitation
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