In this episode of The Transform Your Life Podcast, I’m unpacking one of the sneakiest forces that keeps people stuck without even realizing it: secondary gain. This invisible pattern is often running in the background of your life, quietly meeting an unspoken need while sabotaging your progress toward your goals.
I share real-life stories from my own experience, my home organizing clients, and my NLP practice to show you exactly how to spot it—and most importantly—how to clear it. Once you see it, you can never unsee it, and the changes you can make are profound.
This episode is for you if:
You feel like you’re doing all the right things but still sabotage your progress.
You want to understand the deeper reasons you hold onto habits, clutter, or situations that don’t serve you.
You’ve tried to change before, but something always pulls you back to old patterns.
Topics we dive into:
What secondary gain is and why it’s such a powerful (and sneaky) force.
Real-life examples—from keeping clutter to staying in jobs, relationships, or habits that feel “safe.”
How secondary gain ties into identity, safety, comfort, and connection.
The exact questions you can ask yourself to uncover your own hidden payoffs.
How NLP helps rewire your subconscious so you can meet your needs without clinging to the problem.
If you’re ready to uncover the hidden reasons you’re stuck and finally break free, I’m offering free 30-minute Clarity Breakthrough Sessions. In our call, we’ll pinpoint your secondary gain and create a plan to move forward.
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