Raise your hand if you’re a member of the Recovering People Pleasers Club (my hand is in the air!). In this episode, we’re joined by Sara Bybee Fisk, a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to tame the rampant people pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency that is causing them so much frustration and resentment. If you’re ready to release the anxiety and exhaustion that comes from outside expectations, this is the episode for you!
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Some key takeaways from this episode include:
From the time we’re born, we learn that pleasing our caregivers helps us get our basic needs met, making pleasing people second nature. If you’re socialized as a female, you are taught even more expectations to please everyone around you for acceptance.
The hypervigilance of trying to anticipate and meet others’ needs and wants is so exhausting. If you’re a chronic people pleaser and also burnt out and anxious, you might notice some of that exhaustion going away as you release the need to people please.
When you feel the urge to people please, sit with that feeling of anxiousness. Take deep breaths, embrace the feeling without acting on it, and start building that muscle of sitting with discomfort.
Welcome to the Wake Up Call Podcast with Alicia Hopkins (that’s me!). My goal in this podcast is to share valuable and actionable tips on what I call the “Core Four” - mindfulness, movement, habits, and growth - so you can build a life that feels true to you. I will be interviewing people who have had a “wake up call” that their good-on-paper life wasn’t lighting them up, and what they did to change that. Join us every week for a new episode of the Wake Up Call Podcast with Alicia Hopkins!
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