"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
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"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
Death by 1,000 Cuts X: The Ten Emotional Commandments (You’re Most Likely Still Breaking)
Waking Up to Narcissism
1 hour 1 minute 54 seconds
1 month ago
Death by 1,000 Cuts X: The Ten Emotional Commandments (You’re Most Likely Still Breaking)
If you’ve ever been in a relationship with emotional immaturity or narcissistic behavior, you know the truth: Healing doesn’t come with a map. Emotional safety doesn’t come with instructions. And waking up is rarely a straight line.In this 10th “Death by 1,000 Cuts” episode, Tony introduces The Ten Emotional Commandments — the patterns, boundaries, and insights that so many people wish they had years earlier. These commandments aren’t rules you obey; they’re survival skills you learn. They’re the shifts that help you understand your emotions, trust your gut, stop overexplaining, and finally step out of the chaos you didn’t choose.This episode is validating, grounding, sometimes funny, sometimes painful — and deeply relatable. With listener-submitted “cuts,” real-world examples, and a gentle breakdown of what healing actually looks like, Tony helps you recognize the patterns AND understand how to break them.If you’ve felt alone in your confusion, in your exhaustion, or in the emotional whiplash of trying to make sense of someone else’s immaturity — this episode is for you.00:00 Introduction and Series Overview00:37 The Power of Your Stories01:20 A Survivor's Poem04:42 The 10 Emotional Commandments08:54 Commandment 1: Raise Your Emotional Baseline15:59 Commandment 2: Get Your PhD in Gaslighting21:53 Commandment 3: Drop the Rope of Emotional Tug of War27:33 Commandment 4: Set Boundaries and Mean Them32:17 Stop Searching for the Perfect Words33:01 Examples of False Promises and Manipulation33:52 Understanding Emotional Immaturity36:41 Limiting Your Attack Surface40:13 Recognizing Projection44:45 Honoring Your Inner Dialogue48:37 Trusting Your Gut and Emotions53:07 Change is Not Linear57:51 Final Thoughts and ResourcesWomen navigating emotionally immature relationships: come join Tony’s private women’s Facebook group.Men beginning your own emotional maturity journey: check out the Men’s Emotional Architects group.Links in the show notes.Contact Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com to learn more about his Emotional Architects men's group.And visit https://julie-dejesus.com/cruise to learn more about Tony and his friend Julie De Jesus's "I See You Living" cruise, a 5-night Western Caribbean Cruise from January 24-29, 2026 aboard the Royal Caribbean Cruise Line.
Waking Up to Narcissism
"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
