What if your greatest strength is your biggest flaw, and what if your phone knows you better than you know yourself? This week on the What a Gift podcast, We dive into the skills of talking it out and the blessing and curse that is social media. We get honest, real, and unwrap the gifts hiding in healthy communication, online identity, and why letting go of unspoken shame is the ultimate relief.

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The Gift of Talking It Out

We begin by discussing the human need and necessary skill of addressing conflict.

• Jule, an external processor, shares that she must instantly talk it out if she senses that the "vibe is off". She admits that she tends toward being an "anxious people pleaser" and has learned patience from her introverted husband, Chris, who needs time to process conflicts.

• Sarra reflects on learning healthy conflict resolution as an adult and her past tendency to keep conflict to herself, believing, "I'm just a burden. I'll just keep it to myself".

• They discuss the profound power of speaking shame aloud, noting that when hard things are "locked up inside of us, it's so easy to believe that it's our identity". As soon as something is spoken aloud, "it's separate from us".

• Confession and therapy are named as powerful places to speak the "unspeakable," allowing light to shine on problems and helping them find the truth.

The Gift of Social Media

Sarra unwraps the gift of social media, stating that she sees it as a tool that can be wielded in a healthy way.

• Jule shares how early social media (AOL Instant Messenger and MySpace) fundamentally rewired her brain chemistry, especially as a homeschooler. This era created an obsession with crafting her "brand," asking herself: "what color am I and what buddy icon am I".

• We discuss the constant pressure of being perceived, noting that social media changes brain chemistry to make users think all the time about how we are being perceived.

• Jule notes that TikTok has served as a mentor, teaching her new recipes and techniques like how to do her eyebrows.

• We stress the importance of gut checks to ensure we’re not measuring ourselves against fake curated lives.

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