Today we are discussing the association between men choosing to take care of themselves and the guilt that can be associated with that. When men take charge of their own mental health we get judged. Is selfcare and happiness synonymous? Self-care is about quality of life. Is a lack of happiness built into the definition of a man? The concessions that men make are usually silent. We make decisions that can be detrimental to our health and no one knows. Mikell points out how religion speaks to how men have been indoctrinated to servitude and accepting suffering.