Click here to send me a text message. We all struggle with having uncomfortable, inappropriate, and unwanted thoughts, feelings, images, ideas and desires pop into our minds. Where are they coming from? What do they mean? How are we supposed to respond to them? There are answers to these questions, and hope for change, if we let God help us. If you have a question, or to arrange a speaking engagement, shoot me an email at robb.e.oram@gmail.com.

Click here to send me a text message. A lot is going on in our polarized political world today. How should we respond to what's happening? God has much to say about that, and it's critical we pay attention to what He's telling us. If you have a question, or to arrange a speaking engagement, shoot me an email at robb.e.oram@gmail.com.

Click here to send me a text message. Oftentimes, we let the feelings and reactions of other people have too great an influence on how we think, feel and act. Why? What can I do to change? How can my relationship with God make a difference? These are the issues I address in this episode... If you have a question, or to arrange a speaking engagement, shoot me an email at robb.e.oram@gmail.com.

Click here to send me a text message. Why is confronting someone so difficult? Should I even address this, or should I just let it go? How do I confront them in the right way? What do I do if they don’t respond well? These are the questions I address and answer in this episode. It's a bit longer than 20 minutes, but for good reason- there's a lot to say about this challenging topic! If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or r...

Click here to send me a text message. We all experience disappointment, frustration and anger in our lives. But why? Why so much, and so often? Is there anything we can do to reduce, or even eliminate, these unpleasant feelings? Yes! There is one critical factor which, if we adjust it in our lives, can make a radical difference. You may be surprised at what it is. If you're interested in learning more about me, or to schedule a counseling appointment (either in person, or remotely using Zoo...

Click here to send me a text message. Having a healthy sense of self respect is critical- it can impact every area of our lives. In this episode I examine why this is true, reveal unhealthy ways in which we try to develop our self respect, and share how we can grow in this aspect of life in a biblically appropriate way. A few key biblical passages which are relevant to this discussion: Genesis 1:27 Psalm 139 Romans 5:8 Ephesians 1:5 1 John 3:1 1 John 1:9 Romans 8:37-39 If you're interested ...

Click here to send me a text message. Making big decisions can often be very challenging. Especially when we realize the choices we make determine the trajectory of our lives. But, we don't have to make these critical decisions alone! In this episode, I share 4 steps we can take to make wise decisions, and explain how we can allow God to be actively involved in the process. In this episode I reference the story of Abraham and Isaac. You can read more about this in Genesis chapter 22. I also r...

Click here to send me a text message. Are there some things you want to change about your spouse? Have you been trying to change them, and been unsuccessful? Is it even possible to change them? In this episode I address this complicated issue, and offer some very practical strategies you can immediately begin to implement to promote change. Here are some key passages from the bible which provide specific instructions relevant to marriage relationships: “Judge not, that you be not judged. Fo...

Click here to send me a text message. Broken relationships are painful, and may feel like they can never be restored. In this episode, I provide some practical counsel on how to respond in these difficult situations, and offer some reasons to maintain hope for reconciliation. Here are a few of the Scripture references I mention: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18). ”Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my anxieties; ...

Click here to send me a text message. Disappointment- we all experience it. Sometimes, it's heartbreaking. How do we cope with it? In this episode, I provide some practical recommendations by challenging us to examine three important areas of our lives: our expectations, our gratitude, and our knowledge of God. Here are several of the Scripture references I mention: “I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have ...

Click here to send me a text message. Just because your marriage isn't what you thought it would be, or what you think it should be, or what you'd hoped it might be, doesn't mean you're stuck being unhappy forever. The good news is there are practical steps you can take to increase the joy in your life. And, the best news is you don't have to take them on your own. Here is the theme verse of this episode: "With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible" (Jesus - Matthew 1...

Click here to send me a text message. Shame is one of the most powerful, influential emotions we can experience. It's also one feeling that's very difficult to admit or discuss. In this episode I define shame, talk about where it comes from, and most importantly, share how we can be set free from it. Here are a few of the key bible verses I reference: “I have sinned against you—only against you— and done what you consider evil. So you are right in judging me; you are justified in condemning...

Click here to send me a text message. You might be surprised at how much you "self talk," and how much it affects you. In this episode I explain self talk, demonstrate how it can impact your life, and share how God can help you change it- which in turn will change your life. Here are a few (there are many more!) verses from Scripture which address the issue of self talk: “Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.” (Prov. 4:23, GNT) “And do not be conformed to this worl...

Click here to send me a text message. God calls us as Christ followers to help others. Jesus is our perfect example of this. However, not all "helping" is helpful. In fact, sometimes our helping can actually be harmful. In this episode I explain what this unhelpful helping, also known as "enabling," looks like. I also discuss the deep reasons why we enable. And, I share some strategies you can implement to begin to stop enabling. God can meet your need for: safety/security (Psalm 16:8)...

Click here to send me a text message. I've learned that despite the fact the we know God forgives us, many of us struggle to forgive ourselves. What makes this so hard? Is forgiving ourselves even the right thing to do? If so, how in the world do we go about doing it? In this episode I reference a website I use all the time and find very helpful: www.blueletterbible.org. Check it out. A couple of relevant verses about forgiveness: "There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are ...

Click here to send me a text message. God designed the marriage relationship to be the most intimate of all. Yet, sometimes we don't feel the closeness and connection we'd like to experience with our spouses. In this episode, I offer three practical strategies you can begin to implement today, which I guarantee will help you grow closer and more connected to each other. Here are the key biblical references I mention in this episode: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be ...

Click here to send me a text message. We all have our fears-we may not even be aware of some of them. They're impacting our lives more than we realize, and we tend to try to cope with them in unhelpful, unhealthy ways. In this episode, I share some healthy responses to fear, and explain how God can help us deal with it. “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10) “I ...

Click here to send me a text message. Marriage is challenging for all of us, because no spouse is perfect. But, some spouses are extremely difficult- even to the point of being "toxic." In this episode, I describe characteristics of a toxic spouse, and I offer some practical strategies to implement to help you cope in a very difficult situation. Some excerpts from the Bible describing God's plan for marriage: “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It ...

Click here to send me a text message. Temptation is something we all deal with. What makes it so difficult? What can we do to avoid giving in to it? How can God help us? In this episode, I offer some answers to these critical questions. Jesus' challenge to do "whatever it takes" to avoid giving in to temptation can be found in Matthew 5:29-30. God's promise to get us out of any temptation we face can be found in I Corinthians 10:13. The apostle Paul’s encouragement to us to fill our min...

Click here to send me a text message. Do you ever feel confused, ashamed, or frustrated about how you feel? Have you ever wondered why you feel a certain way? Are you struggling with how to deal with your emotions? Should you deny them, ignore them, or go with them? In this episode, I address the issue of what to do with our feelings, and how we can learn to manage them in a godly, biblical way. Here's what God says about our hearts: "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately...