In this episode we cover our experiences pertaining to leaving jobs. If you’ve employed one of us and feel that we were critiquing you, it’s not personal. It is what it is. But also, welcome to your tape 🙂 (13 reasons why reference). Sandra was pet-sitting while we were recording this episode. Apologies for any cats that might be heard meowing in the background.

Inspired by Khadija Mbowe's video analysis of Netflix's The Ultimatum, the girls talk about love and possessiveness, hierarchy within love relationships, how the concept of "the one" stems from a scarcity mindset and much more. Cindy also expounds a little more on relationship anarchy, polyamory and ethical non monogamy. (PS// while editing another episode, Cindy mistakenly tampered with this one and deleted a short segment. A really short one, like 1, maybe 2 seconds. My sincerest apologies) Resources:  You don't own your partners 😗 The Ultimatum, love and possession analyzed by Khadija Mbowe The Ultimatum' & Supported Self-Sabotage by Tee Noir  All About Love by bell hooks Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s) by Sophie Lucido Johnson Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by by Adrienne Maree Brown.

The girls talk house parties, from the craziest ones they’ve been to, who’s on their guest list, food and drinks, to exist strategies, and so much more!

For this episode, we’re graced by Kesie, an aspiring popstar and a young Kenyan living in Germany, taking on the world one day at a time. We got to interview her and delight in her intelligence. We hope you enjoy this episode as much as we enjoyed recording it. Questions asked: What do you think your life will be like in the future? How would you change the world if you could? If you switched places with your teacher tomorrow, what would you teach the class? If you could set one rule for the family that we all have to follow, what would it be?  What do you feel are the most important things to living a great life? Of all the things you’re learning, what do you think will be most useful as an adult? If you could write a letter to your your future self to know, what would you like to ask/tell them? If you could travel back in time 3 years, what advice would you give yourself?  Do you ever get stressed, what stresses you (if you do) and how does it affect your normal functioning? How’s your relationship with your caregivers, how do you see life and what are you enjoying at the moment? What do you do when you can’t sleep at night?  If you were told you would live forever, what would you change about your life? 

We are joined by Tracy Omani, host of kelele za jikoni podcast and a fitness enthusiast, as we discuss intentional friendships. 

We talk about how we show up in friendships, how the ways we show up for ourselves influences our relationships, maintaining friendships on these internet streets, and of course, boundaries 

“Love as political resistance” in Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown “the pleasures of deep, intentional friendships” in Pleasure Activism Liberated relationships in Pleasure Activism A chapter in All About Love, by bell hooks titled community (chapter 8) 

There were a few audio glitches, please bear with us.

It’s 2022, and ignorance is not bliss, not any longer. As people who do not know Jada Pickett-Smith, Will Smith and Chris Rock personally, we critique Chris’ bad joke and the smackdown that quickly followed. Chris Rock joked about Jada Pinkett-Smith starring in "G.I. Jane 2" apparently because her head is shaved. Will Smith then walked to the stage and slapped Chris Rock. Once seated he (Will Smith) yelled at Rock "Keep my wife’s name out of your fucking mouth!” We talk about insults and willful ignorance masquerading as humor, and whether violence can ever be justified. We talk about this thing that happens all the time where women get decentred from their issues when men enter the picture. We talk about men needing a therapy & support group for the healing they’re clearly in need of. Then, there’s the Lupita memes 😂😂 The part of Will’s speech that we referenced (towards the end of the podcast): “Denzel [Washington] said to me a few minutes ago, he said, ‘At your highest moment, that’s when the devil comes for you… I want to apologize to the Academy, I want to apologize to my fellow nominees. This is a beautiful moment and I’m not crying for winning an award. It’s not about winning an award for me. It’s about being able to shine a light on all of the people … Art imitates life. I look like the crazy father just like they said … just like they said about Richard Williams. Love will make you do crazy things.”

Spoiler alert! If you haven’t watched the show yet, what are you waiting for?! We really enjoyed Young, Famous and African and had even more fun critiquing it. We discuss Khanyi and her parenting style, to Zari and her shade towards Annie’s dressing, to Nadia’s vulnerability when it comes to her childhood trauma, to Andile’s sleek flirting and much more 😋

Cindy asks Salina and Sandra a bunch of questions from the internet on love, romance and Valentine’s. The girls laugh through revelations of who amongst them has written love poems and love letters for their significant other. They talk about internet love, and extraordinary love that doesn’t last forever vs ordinary love that lasts forever, and a whole lot more! The questions asked: 1. Would you rather have more money or more time and why? 2. Is Valentine’s Day more for men or women? 3. Do you believe vulnerability is a good thing when it comes to love? 4. Who is most likely to write a love song? 5. Do you consider yourself romantic? 6. Would you rather have extraordinarily love that doesn’t last forever or ordinary love that does? 7. Do you believe it’s possible to fall in love on the internet? 8. If you could change anything about Valentine’s Day, what would you change? 9. How do you deal with unwanted romantic attention?

On today’s serious episode of capitalists are mad mad and people don’t use their brains, we critique Don’t Look Up, a Netflix Movie about the end of the world. Considering the pandemic, how befitting to put out a movie about the end of the world (as we know it). Anyways, the books quoted in the episode are Capitalism Must Die by Stephanie McMillan, The ABCs of Socialism by Bhaskar Sunkara and Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by bell hooks

From body positivity to body neutrality and Radical Body Acceptance to Radical Self Love. There’s so much lingo and controlling images within society to police how we exist in our bodies, and whether we should be happy or confident with how we are and how we look. We sit down to sift through all the noise, and hope to inspire you to be more intentional with how you view & love your body, as well as how you do the same for others. Resources: The Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor, videos by Tee Noir https://youtu.be/Ro9n2RktH8k , https://youtu.be/18tP2Uh83AA and video by Shanspeare https://youtu.be/HccZjwwfmy8

We’re back! In this episode, we do a quick check-in with each other, and touch on what we’re looking forward to this year.

We’re at it again with another essay from Adrienne Maree Brown’s Pleasure Activism, Love as political resistance. We talk of how we’re conditioned to love in a way that sucks all the goodness out of it, and how we’re taught to lie and perform for love. From love as a limited resource, to corporate love and privatized love, to boundary-less love as unconditional love, join us as we move through the layers of what love could be when we move from a space of truth.

In her essay, Fuck you, pay me, Chanelle Gallant, beacons us to demand that we be compensated for what we consciously and unconsciously do for others. That we be compensated fully for the labor we have to do to survive under capitalism. She explains beautifully how we’re being used by the system and that we should ensure our energy is reciprocated. That we be confident in asking for what we’re rightfully deserving of. Which brings me to what The People’s Oracle, Dayna Lynn, said on one of her ig posts, “Don’t let neglect turn into the belief that you don’t need what you’re being denied.” This is not to say or imply that if someone gives you money, they are entitled to your energy, entitled to you catering to their demands and/or desires. If you do what they’re asking of you, it’s vital that you are respected and honored, and that you are compensated in the way that YOU deem fit. You can find the essay is in Adrienne Maree Brown’s book, Pleasure Activism.

We're joining the Squid Game hype 🙂😛 and criticing different aspects of the show, from the characters, to the plot, to some conspiracy theories and our takeaways. Link to the comment on Judicaelle's post about how Squid Game is a criticism of capitalism https://twitter.com/judicaelle_/status/1444103850688929792?s=21

A show we can actually relate to, from identity politics, and how that affects our professional pursuits, to having supportive, wholesome friendships. Of course, there’s the toxic masculinity, and the parents as antagonists 💀 this is more than a love story, and we just had to discuss it!

We tackle people pleasing i.e Changing your behavior to avoid a reaction you’re anticipating, usually a negative reaction. There's a plethora of ways this manifests. It's only right we do the needful to get to the bottom of it, because we aren't here to live for another, we surely aren't here to live a half a life. Ain't nobody got time for that! Mercury was retrograde when we recorded this episode, and naturally we encountered some technical difficulties. Please bear with us 😊

We discuss cancel culture, calling out and calling in, usually done to hold people accountable for their social transgressions to trigger some sort of reform by making them aware of their actions and how it impacts the rest. We do not exist in a vacuum, and our actions impact the collective more than we’d like to admit. But do we have the capacity to be held accountable and take responsibility for our actions? Mercury is also retrograde so please bear with us 😅

We use the WNRS (we’re not really strangers) and Red Table Talk collaboration deck to celebrate each other and our friendship.

We are back! Season 2 so it’s only right that we start hot! It’s about time we address capitalism, the strain it imposes on our mental health and sense of freedom, and how we’re pushed to feel as though we have to bargain our autonomy and selfhood in order to survive. If you’ve been thinking of quitting, come for your pep talk 😉😋