As leaders move into a new season, many feel pressure to move faster and do more. But resilient leaders prepare differently. They slow down, get clear, and lead with intention. In this episode, Tami Imlay shares three things every resilient leader does before stepping into a new season. This conversation weaves together themes from the Resilient Leader series and focuses on identity, steadiness, and clarity under pressure. Whether you’re closing out a year, stepping into a new role, or sensing it’s time to lead differently, this episode offers grounded perspective and practical reflection for leaders who want to show up well when it matters most.

In this reflective holiday episode, Tami speaks directly to leaders about the quiet responsibility they carry and what resilient leadership looks like when energy is low and pressure remains.

In Part 4 of the Resilient Team series, Tami explores how leadership presence, emotional regulation, and calm with resolve shape team culture, decision-making, and performance under pressure. This episode breaks down why resilient leadership starts with the nervous system and how leaders unintentionally set the emotional climate for their teams.

If you feel like you’re working harder than ever but making less progress, this episode will tell you exactly why. In Part 2 of the Lessons I Learned in 2025 series, Tami dives into the patterns leaders overlook, the clarity they wait too long to claim, and the subtle ways high-achievers accidentally sabotage their own leadership. She shares the story of a CEO who increased revenue by 22% in one quarter simply by analyzing her own patterns — not by grinding harder. You’ll also hear why clarity is a non-negotiable (and something no one can hand you), how to stop managing everyone else’s anxiety, and why the tight grip of control is costing you more than you realize. If you’re stepping into 2026 craving more alignment, energy, and confidence, this episode is your roadmap to leading from strength instead of survival.

Why does success feel heavier than it should? In this two-part mini-series, Tami shares the first two lessons she learned this year that completely changed how she leads, rests, and protects the things that matter. From confronting the brutal truth about her calendar to realizing that “rest” isn’t numbing out in front of Netflix, these lessons helped Tami — and her highest-performing clients — go from exhausted to steady without changing a single thing about their workload. If you’re ending 2025 feeling drained, distracted, or stretched too thin, this episode will help you understand why… and what small, doable shifts can change everything going into 2026.

When did kindness start meaning “lower the bar”? In this episode, Tami breaks down why true compassion in leadership never requires you to shrink your standards. Drawing from her Air Force experience and years of coaching high-level leaders, she explores the tension leaders feel between caring for their people and holding the line — and why that tension, handled well, becomes the foundation of a resilient, confident, high-performing team. You’ll learn why compassion without standards creates chaos, why standards without compassion create burnout, and how ethical leadership actually lives in the middle. If you’ve been tired of carrying everyone’s emotions or frustrated by lowering expectations that never help, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air — and a call back to the leader you know you’re meant to be.

Growing up military taught me that resilience isn’t built in trauma - it’s built on Tuesday mornings. Through Air Force crisis team experience and Kobe Bryant’s 4:30 AM basic drills philosophy, discover why the quiet, ordinary work you do before life tilts determines how you lead when it does. Learn four Tuesday habits that separate teams who crumble from those who rise.

When crisis hits, your team doesn’t follow the plan - they follow your energy. Former Air Force crisis team commander Tami Marie reveals the three realities every leader must know before chaos strikes, why your breathing matters more than your business plan, and the exact four things to say when everything goes sideways. First episode in the Resilient Leadership series.

That person who irritates you in meetings? That’s your Leadership Lens at work. Discover the 3 filters hijacking your decisions & why you’re not broken—your lens is just outdated. Your next level isn’t about doing more, it’s about seeing differently.

You’re growth-minded, but your team feels stuck. What if the problem isn’t their mindset—it’s yours? Here’s why trying to fix your team keeps you both stuck, and what actually creates the conditions where growth becomes inevitable.

Executive presence isn’t something you perform—it’s something you embody. If you’re exhausted from being ”on” all the time and still feel like an imposter, the problem isn’t your presence. It’s the gap between who you are and the role you’re trying to play.

Feeling disconnected from your leadership? Learn the 3-step Reconnection Protocol to stop going through the motions and lead with clarity and conviction again.

Every quick fix you reach for—another book, certification, workshop—is costing you more than time and money. Here’s what high-level leaders actually need to stop the cycle and lead from alignment.

The leaders with the strongest teams aren’t reading more business books. They’ve mastered 5 simple habits that happen behind closed doors. Here’s what they are.

Self-awareness and emotional intelligence aren’t interchangeable—one is the foundation of knowing yourself, the other is the application that creates leadership influence. Discover why leaders need both capabilities and how to bridge the gap between internal clarity and external presence for sustainable leadership effectiveness.

Most leaders develop emotional intelligence randomly instead of systematically, which is why they still feel reactive under pressure despite reading books and attending workshops. Discover the 5 Dimensions of Impact Intelligence that turn self-awareness into leadership effectiveness through a strategic, house-building approach to personal development.

Hey Friend! Are you watching good people disengage or leave your team? Seeing departments operate like separate islands instead of one cohesive unit? The problem isn't your strategy or your people—it's that you're leading through your own lens instead of seeing things through theirs. After two decades of guiding executives through team dynamics, I can tell you the leaders who master this aren't the ones with the most experience. They're the ones who understand that every person on their team has a different operating system. And once you learn to see through their lens, everything changes. 💬 "People don't leave hard work. They leave leadership that doesn't see them." Want to Go Deeper? Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: Surface-level leadership manages behaviors and asks "What are they doing wrong?" instead of "Why is this showing up?" Pattern-level leadership understands motivations and starts asking curious questions about the why behind behaviors Identity-level leadership unlocks each person's unique design—like giving every chef the right tools instead of forcing everyone to use the same saute pan The cost of lens-blindness includes high turnover, siloed departments, and losing your best people to organizations that actually see them Strategic questioning transforms resistance into engagement: "What's your thought process here?" beats "Why won't you just do what I asked?" every time ✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss: ➡️ When you have to repeat yourself three times to get through to a team member, that's not a process problem—it's a lens problem. Stop forcing your approach and start seeing their brilliance. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Next time someone on your team pushes back or seems disengaged, resist the urge to explain your position. Instead, ask: "What's your thought process here?" or "What are your concerns?" Then actually listen to understand their lens. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "Which team member am I trying to force into my way of working, and what might they need instead to bring their best?"   Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! Ever feel like you're checking all the boxes but still spinning your wheels? Like your team is busy but not actually getting anywhere meaningful? You're not behind, and you're definitely not lazy—but something's clouding your clarity and making you second-guess every move. After two decades of leadership coaching, I've discovered one of the most overlooked reasons high-capacity leaders feel scattered: time focus. It's not about productivity—it's about perspective. And once you understand yours, everything shifts. 💬 "The leadership you're called into requires alignment between your identity, your focus, and your action."   Want to Go Deeper? Ready to stop circling your calling and finally get clear on what’s next? Take the Purpose Map Quiz—just 7 powerful questions to uncover what’s keeping you stuck and the next aligned step you’re meant to take. 👉 Discover your Purpose Archetype now: TamiMarieCoaching.com/quiz   🔑 Key Takeaways: Past-focused leaders (Types 4, 5, 9) bring wisdom and context but can get stuck overthinking what was instead of moving toward what's next Present-focused leaders (Types 1, 2, 6) excel at immediate problem-solving but risk burnout from carrying everyone else's urgency as their own Future-focused leaders (Types 3, 7, 8) drive momentum and vision but may skip vital steps by outrunning discomfort instead of processing it The strongest teams integrate all three time perspectives—past wisdom, present awareness, and future vision working together Your compass problem isn't calendar management—it's understanding which lens you're unconsciously leading through and learning to access the others ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ You're not trying to fix your time focus—you're learning to leverage it. The goal isn't to become someone else; it's to understand your natural orientation and intentionally access what you're missing. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Identify your time focus this week. Are you stuck fixing the past, controlling the present, or outrunning toward the future? Then ask yourself: "What perspective am I missing right now?" and intentionally lean into it. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "What would change if I stopped operating from urgency and started leading from alignment?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! Ever catch yourself thinking you need to have it all figured out before stepping into bigger leadership? I recorded this episode twice (tech crashed the first time—apparently even I don't have all the answers about equipment!) because this message hit me so hard on a Sunday drive. If you're waiting for complete clarity before you lead, you're actually disqualifying yourself from being the leader your team needs most. Want to Go Deeper? Ready to lead with clarity instead of confusion? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to navigate uncertainty with confidence and finally step into the leadership identity you're called to embody. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call 🔑 Key Takeaways: You don't need to be the smartest person in the room—you need to embrace that you're not and surround yourself with people who know what you don't Curiosity beats certainty every time—model "I don't know, let's find out" instead of pretending to have answers you don't have Leadership isn't about having all the answers—it's about having the right people and being willing to learn alongside them Your people already know you're new—authenticity builds more trust than fake expertise ever will   ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ The ASK Framework: Accept that not knowing is data (not failure), Seek input from people who see what you can't, and Keep moving while you're learning. Don't stop to figure it all out—learn as you lead. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: In your next team meeting, ask "What am I missing here?" instead of pretending you have all the context. Watch how your team responds when you model curiosity over certainty. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "What question have I been afraid to ask my team because I think I should already know the answer?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025

Hey Friend! You're not someone who makes decisions from panic or pressure…you're someone who leads with intentional clarity and purpose. But sometimes that clarity feels a little cloudy, doesn't it? If you're nodding your head right now, this episode is exactly what you need. Today we're talking about the mirror test and why it's a complete game-changer for leaders who are ready to stop second-guessing themselves and start leading from their true identity.   💬 "Self-awareness isn't a destination—it's a practice. And the leaders who commit to the practice are the ones who actually change the game." ~Tami Imlay Want to Go Deeper? Ready to get clear on your next leadership move? Book a Leadership Strategy Call—your blueprint to clarity, confidence, and impact. 👉 TamiMarieCoaching.com/call  🔑 Key Takeaways: Strategy without self-awareness is expensive chaos—you can't navigate what you can't see clearly The best leaders aren't the ones with perfect instincts—they're the ones who catch themselves when they go off course Leading from reaction instead of intention costs you team trust, consistency, and burns you out fighting the same patterns The Mirror Test using the 3 C's gives you a simple framework to recalibrate in real-time: Catch, Clarify, Choose Every decision point is a choice—serve your leadership mission or serve your ego (both are human, but only one builds the future) ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss: ➡️ The Netflix story perfectly illustrates what happens when a leader chooses to build the future instead of protecting the past. Reed Hastings lost 800,000 subscribers in the short term, but he knew streaming was the wave of the future—and he made decisions from identity, not impulse. 💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it: Practice the Mirror Test this week using the 3 C's. Before your next big decision, ask yourself: What's really driving this? Does this serve my leadership or my ego? What would the leader I'm becoming choose here? Even if you make the same choice, slow down the process and let your heart, gut, and mind catch up with each other. 📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection: "When do I default to control, people-pleasing, or avoiding hard conversations? What patterns am I noticing without judgment—just as data?" Enjoyed the Episode? If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to:✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message!✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast.✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛 Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook LinkedIn @tamiimlay Email me:  tami@tamimariecoaching.com  My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you! For more information on the song: Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat) Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2025