Episode Description: Welcome, warriors, to the final episode of the year! In this reflective, heart-centered conversation, we pause to honor everything this year asked of us, explore the importance of choosing ourselves, and set intentions for the year ahead, not as a “new year, new you” exercise, but as an invitation to care for and prioritize ourselves with compassion. We dive into: The power of choosing yourself as a practice, with intention Why resting, slowing down, and doing less is revolutionary for women How perfectionism, “prove-it-again” bias, & societal expectations shape our lives Reflections on community, support, and the collective wisdom of the Advancing Women Podcast Along the way, we revisit some of the year’s most resonant AWP episodes: Permission to Pause: Can We Stop Doing and Just Be for a Minute?: Exploring why productivity has become a stand-in for worth and why rest is essential. Go Little: Comfort, Joy, and the Art of Doing Less: Redefining success and learning to embrace the meaningfulness of “small” actions and joy. There Is a Crack in Everything: That’s How the Light Gets In: Inspired by Leonard Cohen’s lyric and Kintsugi, exploring perfectionism, resilience, and honoring the cracks in our lives. This episode is a reminder that choosing yourself isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. It’s about creating space, breathing room, and radical permission to prioritize your needs and growth. Thank you for walking this journey with me, for being part of our warrior community, and for showing up for yourself and each other. Episode Highlights / Key Takeaways: Choosing yourself is a skill or personality trait. It’s a practice that comes from small, intentional actions. Reflection and pausing are just as valuable as action and productivity. The cracks in our lives aren’t failures; they are opportunities for growth, wisdom, and light. Community matters: you are not alone in navigating all the things… Intentions are powerful even if resolutions aren’t perfectly kept; the act of aiming toward growth is what matters. Let’s Reflect: Take a moment to journal or reflect: What does “choosing yourself” look like for you right now? Where in your life can you create more space, permission, or breathing room? How can you step into the new year with intention, hope, and self-compassion? Let’s Connect: Instagram: @AdvancingWomenPodcast  https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/?hl=en Facebook: Advancing Women Podcast https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ LinkedIn: Dr. Kimberly DeSimone https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

Episode Description:It’s December. Again. And the end-of-year chaos is real. This episode is your invitation to slow down, find comfort, and embrace joy through the art of going little. In this episode,  we explore the Danish concept of Hygge and I share simple, science-backed practices to help you pause, reset, and reclaim calm during the busiest season of the year. From holding a warm drink to creating a cozy nook, or winding down with an intentional end-of-day ritual, these small, intentional actions are ways to soothe your nervous system and reconnect with yourself. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How warmth can regulate your nervous system and reduce stress The power of sensory anchoring to calm your mind The concept of environmental containment and creating a cozy sanctuary How to create an End-of-Day Soft Landing for better rest Why doing less doesn’t mean feeling less or being less Key Takeaway: Whether it’s holding a warm drink, anchoring yourself in a favorite sensory cue, carving out a cozy nook, or gliding gently into sleep, each of these practices invites intentional ease. Go little. Comfort, joy, and presence are not indulgent; they’re essential. Resources & References: The Year of Living Danishly by Helen Russell The Little Book of Hygge Yang, Z., Su, Q., Xie, J. et al. Music tempo modulates emotional states as revealed through EEG insights. Sci Rep 15, 8276 (2025). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-025-92679-1 Yang, SY., Wang, JY., Liu, C. et al. Effects of binaural beat therapy with different frequencies on autonomic nervous system regulation among college students. BMC Complement Med Ther 25, 206 (2025). https://doi.org/10.1186/s12906-025-04922-x Listen, Subscribe, Connect! Instagram: @AdvancingWomenPodcast https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/?hl=en Facebook: Advancing Women Podcast https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ LinkedIn: Dr. Kimberly DeSimone https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

Episode Summary   In this powerful episode, Kimberly calls us into a deeper, more intentional approach to the holiday season; one rooted in solidarity, economic empowerment, and supporting women in every space they lead, create, and build. As the holidays approach and our shopping lists grow, this episode challenges the default: What if your purchases, your recommendations, your shares, and your reviews became part of a larger movement? What if supporting women wasn’t just an act of generosity, but an act of cultural change? Kimberly explores the real data on women’s economic power, the systemic gaps women entrepreneurs face, the inequities in the creator economy, and the small-but-mighty actions each of us can take to move the needle. This episode is your guide to:✨ Women-owned products to explore✨ Women-led services to consider✨ How to use directories + simple search tools✨ Free ways to amplify women on social media✨ How to leave meaningful reviews✨ How to support women creators and voices Your dollars matter, but your voice, influence, and solidarity matter just as much! Let’s make this holiday season one rooted in intention, empowerment, and the collective strength of the per-sisterhood. Key Topics Covered ·       The mental load & invisible holiday labor women carry ·       Why supporting women-owned businesses creates real economic impact ·       Practical ways to “vote with your wallet” this season ·       How to find women-owned businesses (WBENC, W Marketplace, Etsy filters, more) ·       Simple, free, high-impact ways to support women on social media ·       Why reviews matter more for women founders ·       How to back women in the creator economy ·       Recommendations as a form of influence and solidarity Resources Mentioned. Directories + Marketplaces: ·       WBENC Women-Owned Business Directory ·       SBA WOSB Resources ·       NAWBO Member Lists ·       The W Marketplace ·       Etsy Women-Owned Filter ·       Amazon Women-Owned Page ·       "Women-owned businesses near me" (Google search, seriously, try it!)  If you discover a women-owned business you love, tag it on Instagram @advancingwomenpodcast so we can amplify it too! Call to Action ·       Share this episode with the women in your life who love supporting women. ·       Tell a friend about your favorite women podcasters, creators, and entrepreneurs. ·       Post, tag, save, review — it all matters. ·       This season, let your spending, your voice, and your influence become part of a cultural shift that amplifies women everywhere.  Let’s Connect: Instagram: @AdvancingWomenPodcast https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/?hl=en Facebook: Advancing Women Podcast https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ LinkedIn: Dr. Kimberly DeSimone https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

As Thanksgiving approaches, we’re reclaiming the true power of gratitude. Not the polished, pressured version women are so often handed. This episode digs into how gratitude has been distorted, weaponized, or used to quiet our very real experiences, and invites you to take it back on your own terms. In this episode, we discuss: How “enforced gratitude” becomes emotional dismissal and invalidation The gendered gratitude gap and why women often give more than they receive Emotional multiplicity: holding gratitude and struggle at the same time Reverse gratitude: being thankful for what you released or outgrew What healthy, self-directed, truthful gratitude actually looks like Join me for an honest, empowering conversation about gratitude as resistance, empowerment, and restoration. Key Takeaways: Gratitude should empower, not silence You can hold multiple feelings and emotions at once Letting go can be something to be grateful for Healthy gratitude is self-directed, grounded, and restorative Hashtags:#AdvancingWomenPodcast #GratitudeWithoutGuilt #WomenAndGratitude #EmotionalLabor #ReverseGratitude #WomenEmpowerment #HonestGratitude #HolidayWellness #BoundariesAreBeautiful #ReclaimYourTime #ReclaimYourPeace Previous episode referenced in this episode: Advancing Women Podcast. Spotify Weaponized Gratitude & Gratitude Shaming https://open.spotify.com/episode/1CKUwcWxCqGyuieOplP2GP?si=c7ffc86d6c8041e9 Let’s Connect: Instagram: @AdvancingWomenPodcast https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/?hl=en Facebook: Advancing Women Podcast https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ LinkedIn: Dr. Kimberly DeSimone https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

Episode Summary:In this episode of The Advancing Women Podcast, Dr. Kimberly DeSimone explores the science and social conditioning behind women’s emotional sensitivity, and reframes it more accurately…as a strength, not a flaw. Research shows that women, on average, have lower baseline serotonin levels than men; but the story doesn’t end there. This biological difference interacts with hormonal cycles and cultural expectations to shape how women feel, respond, and are perceived. Dr. DeSimone reveals how emotional responsiveness, so often dismissed as being “too emotional”, is actually a powerful form of emotional intelligence, leadership, and adaptive strength. From boardrooms to families, women’s ability to read the room, sense tension, and lead with empathy is not “soft,” it’s strategic. This episode offers both a scientific and empowering reframe that helps us honor our depth, protect our energy, and lead from emotional authenticity without apology. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why women’s serotonin levels affect emotional sensitivity — and what that means for mood and connection.How cultural conditioning distorts emotional intelligence into “overreaction.”The “gendered emotion hierarchy”, and how bias defines which emotions are labeled as strength or weakness.Why empathy and sensitivity are forms of data gatheringand leadership.How to protect your emotional energy through mindful boundaries and self-compassion. Key Takeaways:Sensitivity is strength. Emotional attunement is intelligence.Emotion is data, not drama.Boundaries protect your empathy.Reframing emotional intelligence is revolutionary leadership. Mentioned concepts: Serotonin and hormonal influence on mood Gender socialization and emotional labor Emotional intelligence and leadership Patriarchal bias in emotion valuation Mindful self-protection and boundary-setting #AdvancingWomenPodcast #EmotionalIntelligence #WomenInLeadership #SensitivityIsStrength #GenderBias #EmotionalIntelligenceAtWork #EmpathyInLeadership References: Don’t Call Them Soft Skills: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-call-them-soft-skills-with-communications/id1569849100?i=1000606194105 Brain and Behavior Research Foundation (2024). Male-Female Differences in the Serotonin System May Help Explain Differences in Stress Vulnerability, Study Suggests:  https://bbrfoundation.org/content/male-female-differences-serotonin-system-may-help-explain-differences-stress-vulnerability   National Institute of Health: Differences between males and females in rates of serotonin synthesis in human brain. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC24674/   Let’s Connect: Instagram: @AdvancingWomenPodcast https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/?hl=en Facebook: Advancing Women Podcast https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ LinkedIn: Dr. Kimberly DeSimone https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

Episode Summary:Welcome to the Advancing Women Podcast! In this Halloween-themed episode, we reclaim the witch archetype as a symbol of female power, independence, and solidarity. Building on last year’s Season of the Witch, we explore how the witch reflects the experiences of ambitious women across history and today…from the backlash faced by independent women to the double standards confronting women leaders. Through media, history, and lived experience, we uncover how witches (and women!) have been feared, misunderstood, and sometimes punished for asserting autonomy. But there’s a bright side: the witch is being reclaimed in fiction, in culture, and in women’s networks, offering a model for persistence, solidarity, and strategic power. Join us as we dive into: The historical and modern symbolism of the witch How autonomy, economic independence, and ambition have provoked backlash across centuries The parallels between historical witch hunts and modern workplace double standards The power of covens—real and metaphorical—and what I call persisterhood Strategies for building networks of support, mentorship, and collective resilience This episode is a call to embrace your coven, celebrate your independence, and wear your power proudly. Because we are the persisterhood, and our solidarity, creativity, and courage are our most potent magic. “We are the granddaughters of the witches you weren’t able to burn. Let’s wear that badge proudly.” #covenofpersisterhood #seasonofthewitch #persisterhood #genderbias #leadershipbias #leadership #advancingwomenpodcast #genderequity Resources & References: Mona Chollet, In Defense of Witches Joan Williams, research on the tightrope bias and workplace double standards Media examples: Wicked, Practical Magic, Marvel’s Agatha Harkness Historical context: Matilda Joslyn Gage on persecution of witches (Woman, Church and State, 1893) Connect & Engage: Subscribe, rate, and share the podcast! Leave a review or a like on Instagram if this episode resonated with your inner witch! Follow, and Join the Conversation on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ & Facebook https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ More on Dr. DeSimone here! https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

Episode Summary:Have you ever felt like a part of yourself got lost along the way? That lighter, playful version of you—the one who laughed without thinking, chased silly ideas, or turned a rainy day into an adventure—quietly slipped away amid responsibilities, deadlines, and endless to-do lists? When was the last time you played just for the joy of it? Not for productivity, not for output…just for YOU? In this episode of Advancing Women Podcast, I explore the lost art of playfulness and why reclaiming it matters; not just for joy, but for creativity, resilience, connection, and well-being. Drawing inspiration from childhood stories, pop culture, and science-backed research, I’ll share practical strategies to invite play back into your life. #tunein We’ll discuss: Why productivity culture and societal pressures often push play aside, especially for ambitious women. How play actually improves brain function, problem-solving, creativity, and relationships. Micro-play rituals and imaginative practices you can start today. How reconnecting with your playful self can reduce stress, spark joy, and strengthen community. Key Takeaways: Playfulness is not optional—it’s foundational to thriving. Shared laughter and playful interactions enhance connection and trust. Start small: 5 minutes of dancing, doodling, silly voice texts, or gamifying everyday tasks can reignite your playful spirit. Revisit childhood joys and bring them into adult life intentionally. Use micro-play rituals to make routine spaces and moments playful and alive. Resources Mentioned: Brown, Stuart. Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul.Avery. Ware, Bronnie. The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing.Hay House. Apps / Tools: Habitica. Habitica, https://habitica.com/ and Epic Win. Redwood Games, https://www.redwoodgames.com/epicwin Let’s Connect: Instagram: @AdvancingWomenPodcast https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/?hl=en Facebook: Advancing Women Podcast https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ LinkedIn: Dr. Kimberly DeSimone https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

We’ve all heard it: “You’re too controlling.” “You should smile more.” “Maybe if you weren’t so emotional…” But here’s the truth: not all feedback is created equal. And far too often, what women receive isn’t feedback at all. It’s bias dressed up as “constructive criticism.” In this episode, we’re tackling a common but often invisible challenge in professional and personal life: feedback that masquerades as growth but is actually bias. We explore how women frequently receive critiques that focus on personality, style, or likability rather than skills or outcomes. Feedback that can drain energy, reinforce double standards, and perpetuate gender bias. Finally, I share strategies for reframing and resisting biased feedback, so you can protect your confidence and focus on growth that truly matters. If you’ve ever felt like you’re working twice as hard to fix things that were never broken, this episode is for you. Key Topics Covered: Feedback vs. bias: How to tell the difference Competence vs. likability: The damned-if-you-do, doomed-if-you-don’t bind Joan Williams’ prove-it-again bias and its impact on women’s careers Vocal fry, uptalk, and other examples of style policing as bias Practical strategies: reframing biased feedback and pushing back with questions  Manifestatement (Key Takeaway): Biased feedback is not your personal deficit. You are neither broken, nor defective. By reframing and resisting, we reclaim our power, keep the focus on outcomes, and push toward greater equity. Resources & References: Williams, J. C., & Dempsey, R. (2014). What works for women at work: Four patterns working women need to know. New York University Press.  Previous Advancing Women Podcast Episode: Tone Policing, Vocal Fry, & Upspeak (4/7/22) https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/tone-policing-vocal-fry-upspeak/id1569849100?i=1000568796565 TikTok trend example (Is a “top-tier” man just an average woman?) https://www.facebook.com/share/v/17XnA2v6E3/ Let’s Connect:Instagram: @AdvancingWomenPodcast https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/?hl=en Facebook: Advancing Women Podcast https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ LinkedIn: Dr. Kimberly DeSimone https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

Episode Summary:What can a pack of African painted dogs teach us about leadership and gender equity? A lot more than you might think. On a recent Disney trip with my son, I hopped on my favorite ride - Kilimanjaro Safari -in one of my favorite parks – Animal Kingdom, and our guide, Kyla, shared something that really caught my attention: painted dogs are the most successful hunters in the animal kingdom with an incredible 85% success rate. Compare that to the so-called “King of the Jungle,” the lion, who is successful only about 20% of the time. The difference? Not brute force. Not dominance. Not confidence.The painted dogs’ secret is collaboration. They succeed because an alpha male and alpha female lead together, backed by the entire pack. In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, we explore: Why win/win beats win/lose in leadership and equity. The hidden strengths that are too often overlooked and undervalued. How McKinsey research proves diverse, collaborative leadership outperforms. The importance of communal traits like empathy, compassion, and collaboration. Why the future of leadership looks a lot less like lions, and a lot more like painted dogs. This episode is a reminder that leadership and equity aren’t about fighting for the biggest piece of the pie. it’s about ditching the scarcity mindset in favor of abundance. Win/Win! If you lead a team, an organization, or even your own family, this episode will challenge you to rethink leadership and equity, not as competition, but as collaboration. #tunein and discover why the case for gender equity is really the case for better leadership for everyone. References:🎧 Advancing Women Podcast (2023, July 17). Gender Equity = Win/WinListen here 📊 Hunt, V., Prince, S., Dixon-Fyle, S., & Yee, L. (2020). Diversity Wins: How Inclusion Matters. McKinsey & Company.Read here 📖 Covey, S. R. (1989). The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Free Press. (See Habit #4: Think Win-Win) Let’s Connect:Instagram: @AdvancingWomenPodcastFacebook: Advancing Women PodcastLinkedIn: Dr. Kimberly DeSimone Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share the podcast!

A few  years ago, we explored The Art and Agony of No—one of the most popular episodes in the Advancing Women Podcast archive. In this episode, we revisit that topic and dig deeper into why saying no feels so agonizing for women, especially in professional and personal contexts. From social conditioning and workplace biases to household expectations, we explore the forces that keep women overcommitted and undervalued. Using research, real stories, and practical strategies, we discuss: The concept of non-promotable work and why women are asked to do it more often—and why we say yes. How prove-it-again and tightrope biases make saying no feel risky. The transformative story of the No Club, a collective approach to saying no strategically and confidently. Actionable ways to start protecting your time, energy, and opportunities, both at work and at home. A cultural reflection inspired by the movie 9 to 5, showing how little has changed in the fight for workplace balance. Key Takeaways / Manifestatement:Your time, your energy, your brilliance are precious. Saying no protects them. This episode is about being intentional, reclaiming your boundaries, and understanding that every no is a doorway to your best yes. Action Steps for Listeners: Start Your Own No Club: Set a goal for how many requests you’ll decline this week or month. Keep a Log: Track your nos to notice patterns and normalize boundary-setting. Share Your Practice: Encourage friends, colleagues, and family that saying no is strategic, not selfish. Episode referenced in this episode: The Art and Agony of Saying NO! (8/2/2021) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-art-and-agony-of-saying-no/id1569849100?i=1000530813744 Let’s Connect @AdvancingWomenPodcast   Subscribe, rate, and share the podcast!   Follow, and Join the Conversation on: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ & Facebook https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/   More on Dr. DeSimone here! https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

Episode Summary: From middle school cliques to corporate boardrooms, patterns of competition, division, and survival strategies among women persist. Here’s the thing though: this isn’t about a flaw in women; it’s about a flawed system. In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, we explore the rise of Queen Bee Syndrome and the "Pick-Me" phenomenon, and what pop culture, psychology, and gender bias research reveal about why these patterns exist, and how we can challenge them. We dig deep into: The cultural roots of Queen Bee and Pick-Me behaviors Internalized sexism, patriarchal bargaining, and the male gaze The myth of women as each other’s worst enemy Strategies to disrupt toxic narratives and build true solidarity It’s time to move from scarcity to solidarity, from competition to coalition—and rewrite the narrative with the persisterhood at the center. Key Takeaways: “Pick-Me” behavior isn't vanity, it’s often survival in biased systems. Queen Bee Syndrome isn't about women being mean, it's about navigating tokenism and structural barriers. Internalized sexism and societal “shoulds” fuel division. Systemic bias, NOT women, is the root issue. Solidarity is the antidote to scarcity. Call to Action: Let’s stop shaming Queen Bees and Pick-Me girls and start fixing the systems that pit women against each other. Let’s write a new chapter grounded in persisterhood, because together, we rise further. References AWP Episode referenced in this episode: Tug of War Bias, Tokenism & Queen Bee Syndrome. https://open.spotify.com/episode/75MiOAvyhFje37sDd9Latc?si=RBUK5seNRUa5-6VOZIW8Yw Rhimes, S. (Writer), & Corn, R. (Director). (2005, May 22). Losing My Religion (Season 2, Episode 27) [TV series episode]. In S. Rhimes (Executive Producer), Grey’s Anatomy. ABC Studios (This is the episode featuring Meredith Grey’s “Pick me. Choose me. Love me.” Speech). TikTok. (n.d.). #pickmegirl. Retrieved August 6, 2025, from https://www.tiktok.com/tag/pickmegirl Brown, A. (2023). The Implications of the Queen Bee Phenomenon in the Workplace. Journal of Organizational Culture Communications and Conflict, 27(1). Wiseman, R. (2002). Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping your daughter survive cliques, gossip, boyfriends, and the new realities of girl world. Crown Publishing Group. Rudman LA, Goodwin SA. Gender differences in automatic in-group bias: why do women like women more than men like men? J Pers Soc Psychol. 2023, 87(4):494-509. doi: 10.1037/0022-3514.87.4.494. PMID: 15491274 Rubin, M., Owuamalam, C. K., Spears, R., & Caricati, L. (2023). A social identity model of system attitudes (SIMSA): Multiple explanations of system justification by the disadvantaged that do not depend on a separate system justification motive. European Review of Social Psychology, 34(2), 203–243 https://doi.org/10.1080/10463283.2022.2046422 Let’s Connect @AdvancingWomenPodcast Subscribe, rate, and share the podcast! Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ & Facebook https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ More on Dr. DeSimone here! https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

We’ve all heard the story of Adam and Eve. The so-called “first sin,” the disobedience, the downfall. But what if we’ve been reading it wrong? What if this ancient story isn’t about the first sinner…but the first failed leader? In this episode, leadership scholar and host Dr. Kimberly DeSimone challenges centuries of patriarchal interpretation by reframing the Genesis narrative through the lens of modern, evidence-based leadership theory. From blame-shifting to moral cowardice, we explore how Adam’s behavior maps onto core leadership failures across five foundational models: Transformational, Servant, Authentic, Adaptive, and Ethical Leadership. We also examine the enduring harm caused by reading Eve as the source of sin—a misreading that has fueled generations of bias, blame, and the marginalization of women. With insight from feminist and womanist scholars like Phyllis Trible, Renita Weems, and Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza, this episode is a powerful call to reclaim sacred texts in ways that center accountability, equity, and truth. Key Topics Covered: Re-examining Genesis 2–3: What the Bible actually says vs. how it’s been taught How Adam failed as a leader, not just as a man of faith Applying 5 modern leadership theories to the Eden narrative The damaging legacy of blaming Eve—and by extension, women—for failure The power of feminist biblical interpretation and why it matters How reclaiming this story can lead to more just and equitable leadership today Biblical References: Genesis 2:16–17, 2:22, 3:6, 3:12(The Holy Bible, New Revised Standard Version. Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the USA, 1989.) Scholars & Thought Leaders: Trible, P. (1984). Texts of Terror Trible, P. (1978). God and the Rhetoric of Sexuality Elisabeth Schüssler Fiorenza – In Memory of Her (1983) Renita J. Weems – Just a Sister Away (1988) Carol Meyers – Discovering Eve (1988) Harding, S. (1991). Whose Science? Whose Knowledge?: Thinking from Women's Lives Code, L. (1991). What Can She Know? Feminist Theory and the Construction of Knowledge  My Manifestatement (Key Takeaway): “It’s time to stop interpreting scripture only through the eyes of patriarchy. If we want better leaders, we need better stories—ones that hold power accountable and stop demonizing women to excuse weak leadership.”   Let’s Connect @AdvancingWomenPodcast    Please subscribe, rate, and share the podcast! It helps more people find the show!   Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ & Facebook https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/   More on Dr. DeSimone here! https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

Episode Summary: In this deeply honest episode of The Advancing Women Podcast, we explore what it means to stop hiding the cracks—and start honoring them. Inspired by Leonard Cohen’s iconic lyric, “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in” from his song Anthem (1992), we dig into the cultural and professional pressures that push us all, especially women , toward perfectionism as a form of self-protection. Through the lens of the Japanese art of Kintsugi—the practice of repairing pottery with gold lacquer, which highlights rather than hides breakage—and the concept of “Prove-It-Again” bias coined by sociologist Joan Williams in her book What Works for Women at Work(2014), this episode invites listeners to see their so-called imperfections not as flaws, but as places of power, healing, and light. Host Dr. Kimberly doesn’t just speak about vulnerability—she practices it, sharing her own season of struggle and the truth that letting the light in starts with acknowledging - maybe even honoring - the cracks. In this episode, we unpack: The cultural myth of perfectionism—and who it really serves How gender bias reinforces the need to over-perform and under-rest What Kintsugi and Leonard Cohen’s Anthem can teach us about resilience Joan Williams’ research on the “Prove-It-Again” bias and how it impacts women at work References Williams, Joan C. and Rachel Dempsey. What Works for Women at Work: Four Patterns Working Women Need to Know. New York: New York University Press, 2014. (Chapter on “Prove-It-Again” bias) Cohen, Leonard. “Anthem.” The Future [Album], Columbia Records, 1992. https://youtu.be/1jzl0NlTmzY?si=S1wUBVh_7sXq_Wj3 Kintsugi: The Japanese Art of Precious Scars. [For readers, a good primer is by Bonnie Kemske, Kintsugi Wellness: The Japanese Art of Nourishing Mind, Body, and Spirit (2020)] Advancing Women Podcast (Spotify, iTunes) The Progress Principle https://open.spotify.com/episode/73WsiPl2cisLSd5XjZlco5?si=wfiNpNMPQpeWR9Cbl0tcAQ The Therapeutic Art of Kintsugi: Applying Japanese Pottery Repair Techniques to Personal Healing. Posted in: Mind/Body Medicine, Self-actualization, Spirituality (Guest post by Prudence Sinclair.) https://berniesiegelmd.com/the-therapeutic-art-of-kintsugi-applying-japanese-pottery-repair-techniques-to-personal-healing/ Let’s Connect @AdvancingWomenPodcast Subscribe, rate, and share the podcast! Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ More on Dr. DeSimone here! https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

Episode Summary:What if the most productive thing you could do this summer… is less? In this gentle-yet-grounded episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, we challenge the pressure to “make the most” of summer by doing more—and instead embrace the science and soul of slowing down. Host, Dr. Kimberly DeSimone offers five simple, evidence-based shortcuts to reclaim moments of real joy, presence, and restoration—without guilt or hustle. Grounded in psychology and full of permission to pause, this is your gentle invitation to swap striving for savoring, even just for a few minutes a day. In This Episode, We Explore: Why summer sometimes feels like a grind (and how to resist it) The science behind savoring: Attention Restoration Theory + Positive Psychology The power of micro-rest and ritual for combating burnout The Broaden-and-Build Theory and how joy makes us stronger 5 liberating shortcuts to lighten the mental load Here’s a sneak peak! 5 Tiny Summer Shortcuts for More Joy & Less Grind: Do chores in the sunshine – Boost mood & vitamin D while still getting things done. Reclaim waiting time – Turn “wasted” minutes into mini-retreats. Make a ritual, not a routine – Infuse meaning into daily habits. Go outside for no reason – Unplug, un-goal, and let nature reset your brain. Say yes to low-stakes joy – Let go of perfection and embrace play. Manifestatement: You don’t need to escape your life to enjoy your summer. You just need to insert small moments of pause, presence, and play into the life you already have. Listener Invitation: What does your micro-moment of joy look like?Tag @AdvancingWomenPodcast on IG or Facebook, or send a message to share how you’re reclaiming rest this summer! References: Attention Restoration Theory (Kaplan, 1995) Broaden-and-Build Theory (Barbara Fredrickson, 1998) Positive Psychology + the science of savoring Norton & Gino (2014) on the power of ritual Let’s Connect @AdvancingWomenPodcast Subscribe, rate, and share the podcast! Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ & Facebook https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ DM or tag to share your summer shortcut joy! More on Dr. DeSimone here! https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/

~A follow-up to “Permission to Pause” If you've ever stepped away to “rest” but came back feeling just as drained, this episode is for you. In this powerful follow-up to Permission to Pause, we name and unpack a concept that deeply resonated with listeners: contaminated leisure — the kind of downtime that looks like rest but still carries the weight of responsibility, guilt, and multitasking. And naming it matters. Because once we recognize what’s happening, we can begin to reclaim the kind of rest that actually restores. This episode dives deep into:  What contaminated leisure really is  The neuroscience behind why it’s so exhausting  Why ambitious women are especially affected  What the research says about emotional labor and the “leisure gap”  How to reclaim rest as a biological, psychological, and cultural necessity If rest has ever felt like another item on your to-do list, tune in.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The origins of the term contaminated leisure and how it shows up in everyday life Why “just relaxing” often doesn’t work — and how pseudo-recovery tricks our brains How true rest activates the Default Mode Network (DMN), the brain’s key to meaning-making, emotional regulation, and creativity How internalized expectations and the "casualty of competence" leave ambitious women especially vulnerable to burnout Five science-backed strategies to create space for real, uncontaminated rest Manifestatement: Rest doesn’t make you less ambitious, it makes your ambition sustainable. #ContaminatedLeisure #RestIsResistance #AmbitiousWomen #PermissionToPause References   Bianchi, S. M., & Mattingly, M. J. (2003). Time, Work, and Family: What Do We Know? Social Forces. Immordino-Yang, M. H. – Research on the brain’s Default Mode Network (DMN) and emotional processing. Shockley, K. M. – Studies on psychological detachment and pseudo-recovery. Csikszentmihalyi, M. (1990). Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience Hochschild, A. (1989). The Second Shift – On invisible labor and emotional management.   For more about Dr. DeSimone and the Advancing Women Podcast https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ https://advancingwomenpodcast.com/

This episode is for the ambitious woman who’s doing it all—and still feels like it’s never enough. If you’re listening while multitasking—folding laundry, answering emails, or in between Zoom calls—this one’s for you. Dr. KimberlyDeSimone invites you to press pause on the pressure and unpack why we’ve lost the ability to truly rest. With research, real talk, and radical empathy, this episode explores: The blurred boundaries of remote work and why they’re burning us out The myth of “productive breaks” and the science behind contaminated leisure The invisible labor women carry—and why it’s so exhausting How rest can be resistance, recovery, and a reclaiming of your humanity A gentle, 3-step invitation to begin unlearning productivity as self-worth If you’ve ever felt guilty for resting, this episode offers both validation and a vision for a more sustainable model of success. 🔑 Key Takeaways: Contaminated Leisure is real — downtime that isn’t really down leads to depletion, not restoration. Emotional labor—managing feelings, smoothing tension, anticipating needs—is invisible work that disproportionately falls on women and contributes to burnout. Rest as Resistance reframes rest as a radical act in a culture that equates productivity with worth. Guilt isn’t a sign you’re lazy — it’s often a signal you’re doing something different, not something wrong. Micro-moments of rest matter — true rest doesn’t require a retreat, just your presence. Research Referenced: LeanIn.org x McKinsey Report on women and the pandemic’s impact on unpaid labor Sociology Compass and American Psychological Association studies on gender and contaminated leisure Arlie Hochschild’s work on emotional labor Journal of Emotion study linking emotional labor to burnout Stephen Covey’s "sharpen the saw" philosophy Dr. Brené Brown’s “never enough” script and shame research✨ Manifestatement: "We are human beings, not human doings. We deserve rest—not because we’ve earned it, but because we are human."~ Dr. Kimberly DeSimone For more about Dr. DeSimone and the Advancing Women Podcast https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ https://advancingwomenpodcast.com/

Are Your Expectations Really the Problem — or Is That Just What You've Been Told? Research shows that expectations can be a major source of stress, anxiety, and even the breakdown of trust and respect in our relationships. But let’s challenge the tired narrative that women’s so-called “too high expectations” are to blame. In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, I flip the script. We take a closer look at the real issue: the difference between expectations (often shaped by social norms and limiting stereotypes) and requirements or standards (which are rooted in self-respect, self-worth, and self-care). The real question isn’t, “Are my expectations too high?” It’s:“What do I truly require in my relationships—and why?” Spoiler alert: You are allowed—encouraged, even—to set clear, healthy standards for how you want and deserve to be treated. This episode is your permission slip to stop shrinking, stop second-guessing, and start owning your requirements unapologetically. Tune in for a powerful mindset shift—from bending to meet others’ comfort zones to boldly honoring your own. Let’s stop blaming women for wanting more, and start asking why we’ve been taught to settle for less. Referenced Episodes: Young Men are Opting Out of Marriage and Relationships. Should We Care? (March 2023)  Comparison is the Thief of Joy (May 2023) For more about Dr. DeSimone and the Advancing Women Podcast https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/  https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/  https://advancingwomenpodcast.com/

In this powerful and timely episode, we explore how feedback—especially public feedback—can have vastly different impacts depending on gender, and why the principle “praise publicly, criticize privately” is more than just good advice—it’s a vital strategy for allyship, equity, and leadership development. Dr. Kimberly DeSimone shares personal insights from years of academic leadership, backed by compelling research on gender bias in student evaluations, performance reviews, and workplace feedback. This episode uncovers how even well-intentioned critiques can reinforce long-standing stereotypes and disproportionately affect women, particularly those in authority or leadership roles. From teaching evaluations to performance appraisals, listeners are challenged to think critically about how, where, and why they deliver feedback—and how they can shift their language and delivery to foster fairness, growth, and inclusion for everyone. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why feedback given to women is often shaped by unconscious gender norms. How student evaluations and performance reviews can reflect systemic bias—even unintentionally. The power of public praise to combat stereotypes and normalize women's success. How private critique, delivered thoughtfully, fosters psychological safety and growth without reinforcing harmful narratives. The importance of avoiding gendered labels like “bossy,” “catty,” or “cold,” and replacing them with specific, behavior-based feedback. Why women are judged on proof while men are judged on potential—and how to interrupt that dynamic. Key Takeaways: Bias in feedback is real, often unconscious, and has lasting consequences. Words matter. The language we use to describe women influences how they are perceived and treated. Allyship means being intentional. Supporting women means rethinking when, where, and how we give feedback. Public criticism can reinforce negative stereotypes, while public praise can disrupt them. Everyone carries unconscious bias. But with awareness, we can shift the culture—one conversation, one evaluation, and one word choice at a time. Resources Mentioned: Clare Boothe Luce’s quote on the burden of representation for women. Research by Joan Williams and the Center for WorkLife Law on gender bias. MacNell, Driscoll, and Hunt (2015) study on gender in teaching evaluations. Call to Action: Think about the last time you gave feedback—what words did you use? Was it public or private? This week, try praising a woman’s work formally and publicly, and if needed, deliver critique privately and constructively. It’s a small change with the potential for big impact.   Join the Conversation: Have a story about feedback—good or bad? Want to share how you’re practicing mindful allyship? Tag us on Instagram @advancingwomenpodcast to keep the conversation going. Subscribe & Share: If this episode resonated with you, share it with a colleague or friend who gives or receives feedback. And don’t forget to subscribe for more conversations on advancing women in leadership, work, and beyond.   For more information on Dr. DeSimone: https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/ https://advancingwomenpodcast.com/

We’re constantly reminded to take time for ourselves, to prioritize self-care, to fill our own cup first. These messages are everywhere—but let’s be honest, it’s not always that simple. Life has a way of stacking the deck against us. The expectations never stop piling up. We’re juggling so many responsibilities—personally, professionally, emotionally—and somehow we’re supposed to keep all the balls in the air…with a smile on our face. In this episode of the Advancing Women Podcast, I explore the radical idea of accepting the chaos—acknowledging it without judgment—and finding ways to care for ourselves within it. Not after everything is calm. Not when the to-do list is done. Now. This is about creating a sustainable practice of peace. It’s about showing up with intention, even in the messiness. Being mindful of how we feel, how we move through the world, and the energy we bring into our relationships and spaces. Let’s talk about the small but powerful ways we can nurture our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being—especially when life feels anything but peaceful.   References: The Blissful Mind website https://theblissfulmind.com/ https://recreation.ku.edu/seven-pillars-self-care# For more about Dr. DeSimone and the Advancing Women Podcast   https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/   https://advancingwomenpodcast.com/   https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast/

Want to know how you can truly support family or friends raising a child with autism? This episode is for you. With April being Autism Awareness Month, it’s the perfect time to learn about what really matters. Studies show that mothers of children with autism experience stress and depression levels on par with those of active combat soldiers. In this episode, we dive into the importance of awareness, empathy, and practical ways you can offer meaningful support. These are the things autism moms wish you understood, and this episode shares how you can show up for them. Tune in to the Advancing Women Podcast to hear from autism moms about our experiences and what you can say or do to offer the empathy and support we need. "No matter how confident we seem, we are scared all the time. No matter how energetic or enthusiastic we seem, we are exhausted all the time. No matter how together we seem, we often feel like we’re barely surviving. No matter how easy we make it look… it’s so freaking hard every day.” #tunein   For more information on Dr. Kimberly DeSimone or the Advancing Women Podcast:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advancingwomenpodcast/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/advancingwomenpodcast   Advancing Women Podcast Website: https://advancingwomenpodcast.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-desimone-phd-mba-ba00b88/