Family estrangement is one of the most painful and complex relationship experiences a person can walk through, and this episode approaches it with honesty, compassion, and deep care. Dave shares his personal journey with family estrangement, what it has cost him, what it has taught him, and how he’s been able to create healthier relationships on the other side. Shiv and Dave explore estrangement from the perspectives of the parent, adult child, and sibling, and the emotional dynamics that often shape these ruptures. The conversation unpacks why someone may choose distance, the grief that follows for everyone involved, and the critical importance of validating the hurt of the person who comes to you — because that validation can be the difference between preserving a relationship or losing it. A grounded, tender episode about boundaries, repair, and the courage it takes to do family differently.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

The New Year tends to arrive with a lot of pressure — to change faster, do more, fix everything, and somehow become a brand-new version of yourself overnight. In this episode, we slow the whole thing down and offer a different perspective on what this season is actually for. We talk about why this time of year is better suited for rest, reflection, and intention than rigid goal-setting, and how many of the resolutions we’re taught to make are rooted in shame, comparison, and fear of being behind. When goals are chosen from self-criticism instead of self-connection, motivation becomes exhausting, failure feels personal, and trust in yourself slowly erodes. Instead, we explore a more sustainable way of approaching growth — one that honors who you’ve been, gets honest about who you’re becoming, and allows your goals to come from alignment rather than pressure. If you’ve ever felt discouraged by resolutions, stuck in the same cycle year after year, or unsure what you even want next, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

The holidays are often framed as the happiest time of the year… but for many, they can also be the hardest. In this episode, Dave and Shiv talk honestly about why the holiday season can feel so heavy, from unmet expectations and family dynamics to grief, loneliness, and the invisible mental load—especially for women. Shiv shares why she used to dread the holidays, and together they explore what it’s like to navigate this season when you’re already on emotional thin ice. A real, compassionate conversation for anyone trying to hold space for what this time of year actually brings.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

We talk a lot about the power of gratitude—but if it’s so good for us, why don’t we live there all the time? In this episode, we explore the blocks to gratitude and what actually gets in the way of feeling it, even when there’s so much to appreciate. Using a real moment from the day after Disneyland, we unpack how easy it is to slip into shame and self-criticism—and how gratitude isn’t about bypassing the hard, but staying grounded in reality. We talk about how gratitude allows space for both the good and the hard to exist at the same time. Because when gratitude is embodied—not forced—it changes your energy, your perspective, and the way you show up in the world.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this conversation, we explore one of the most surprising truths about personal development: the work you do for your relationship is the same work that transforms every part of your life. Relationships act like a mirror—showing you the patterns, wounds, and habits that quietly shape how you communicate, lead, set boundaries, and move through the world. When you choose to grow inside your partnership, that growth follows you everywhere. Your career, your confidence, your spiritual life, your friendships… all of it gets upgraded when you start doing the inner work that creates safety, honesty, and emotional maturity at home. In this episode, we talk about how healing relational patterns naturally spills into your work life, why breakthroughs in communication become breakthroughs in leadership and self-trust, and how tending to your inner world creates ripple effects you never expected. If you’ve ever wondered why the hardest moments in your relationship also end up being the biggest catalysts for your evolution, this is the episode for you.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this episode, we unpack the complicated relationship between trauma and growth—and why going through something hard isn’t what makes you stronger. We talk about the difference between experiencing trauma and actually healing from it, and Shiv opens up about how the saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” she was told in the wake of extreme loss did more harm than good. We also dig into the way our upbringing shapes us, especially the belief that harshness builds resilience. (Spoiler: yelling doesn’t make kids stronger—it creates insecure attachment.) By looking at our childhood patterns with honesty and compassion, we can understand ourselves more clearly and choose a healthier path forward. It’s a tender, grounding conversation about growth without glorifying the pain that came before it.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this episode, we’re getting honest about a pattern we didn’t expect to find in our own relationship: using personal growth tools in ways they were never meant to be used. We talk about how easy it is, once you’ve done a lot of healing and communication work, to slip into correcting, analyzing, or psychoanalyzing your partner — all under the guise of “using the tools.” If you’ve ever caught yourself turning relationship tools as a weapon, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

This week we’re diving into the uncomfortable truth that not everyone is going to like you — and why that’s actually okay. We talk through our own experiences with rejection, wanting to be misunderstood, and the pressure to manage how people see you. It’s an honest, unstructured conversation about what it looks like to release that weight and stay grounded in who you are. If you’ve ever felt the urge to shrink, shape-shift, or people-please your way into being liked, this one’s for you.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Ever feel totally fine… until your partner seems a little off? And suddenly you’re questioning yourself, replaying conversations, or wondering if you did something wrong? That’s outsourcing your self-worth — and most people don’t even realize they’re doing it. In this episode, we break down why your partner’s mood or behavior can feel like it determines your value, how this pattern quietly shows up in relationships, and what it actually takes to stop letting someone else’s emotions dictate how you feel about yourself.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Ever notice how when one part of your life feels off, everything else starts to feel a little off too? In this episode, we explore how all areas of your health:  mental, physical, emotional, relational, spiritual, and even financial are deeply connected. We talk about why you can’t truly feel well if you’re neglecting one area, how imbalance shows up in subtle ways, and what it actually looks like to bring yourself back into alignment. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how caring for one area of your life creates a ripple effect of healing and wholeness in the others.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

We think we want “I’m sorry,” but what we’re really craving is to be seen in our pain. In this episode, we share a story from one of our own past fights and talk about why apologies sometimes don’t land the way we hope they will. Because not all of the pain is from the moment—it’s often old, living in our bodies and showing up when we least expect it. We’ll unpack what it really means to feel seen, and how to repair in a way that brings you closer instead of getting stuck in the same loop. This one’s for anyone who’s ever thought, “Why doesn’t their apology feel like enough?”   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Have you ever accused someone of something, only to realize later that it was actually about you? In this episode, we’re diving deep into projection, which is the unconscious defense mechanism that makes us see our own wounds, insecurities, and traits in others. We talk about why projection is so sneaky, how it keeps both people stuck, and what to do when you’re either the one projecting or the one being projected onto. You’ll hear real examples of how projection shows up in relationships (including ours) from jealousy and criticism to perfectionism and even social media comparison and how to recognize when it’s happening. If you’re ready to stop seeing your pain in someone else and start meeting it within yourself, this episode will help you take that first step. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

We all like to believe we’re “not manipulative.” But the truth? Most of us do it, often without even knowing. In this episode, Shiv opens up about the sneaky, unintentional ways she's tried to control situations or people, and how manipulation can quietly show up in our relationships, families, and even faith. We explore what manipulation actually is (and isn’t), why we do it, and how fear, control, and learned behavior play a role. From saying “everyone thinks this way” during an argument, to guilt-tripping someone we love, to using silence or comparison to get our needs met — manipulation is often a mask for unmet needs and unspoken fears. This episode invites you to look inward with compassion and courage. Because when we stop trying to control others, we finally create space for real love, respect, and trust to grow.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

You can be sitting next to someone you love and still feel completely alone.In this episode, we talk about what it really means to have an absent partner and how absence isn’t just physical. It can be emotional, mental, relational, or even spiritual. We explore the subtle ways absence shows up in relationships: when your partner stops sharing what’s really going on inside, when conversations stay surface-level, when you’re carrying the weight of connection, or when they’re home but their spirit feels miles away. Being with an absent partner can actually feel lonelier than being single and that loneliness can quietly erode trust and intimacy over time. But absence doesn’t always mean it’s over. Sometimes, it’s a signal of something unhealed, unspoken, or unmanaged beneath the surface. This episode is a compassionate look at what happens when distance creeps in, and what it actually takes to rebuild closeness, safety, and love again.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this episode, we explore how so much of what we do comes down to either chasing or avoiding our emotions. We chase because we believe others have something we’re missing. We avoid because we don’t want to feel what’s already here. And while both patterns can sometimes lead to “good” outcomes, neither one ultimately brings the fulfillment we’re longing for. We’ll also dive into how this plays out in relationships—how trying to control, manipulate, or look outside the partnership for certain feelings can keep us stuck if we don’t recognize what’s really going on inside of us. Most importantly, we’ll talk about how to break free from this cycle. What would it look like to actually confront the feeling you’re avoiding? What do you believe you don’t already have that you’re chasing? And how do you begin to shift into a place of awareness and wholeness, instead of chasing or running away? Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com  

We’ve all hit that moment of wondering: do I need to slow down, or do I just need to push a little harder? In this episode, we unpack how to tell the difference. Self-compassion doesn’t mean complacency—it’s what fuels resilience and lasting growth. Research shows that when we meet ourselves with kindness, we actually achieve more, not less. But pushing when your body and nervous system are already tapped out can do more harm than good. We explore why rest isn’t the opposite of productivity but the very thing that sustains it, how self-acceptance lays the foundation for real change, and what happens when personal growth turns into perfectionism in disguise. Dave shares his own story of shifting from striving for validation to pursuing true inspiration, and how that completely changed his relationship with growth. At the heart of it, this is a conversation about learning to listen—so you can know when to pause, when to push, and how to keep moving forward without losing yourself along the way.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Where’s the line between a healthy boundary and trying to control someone you love? In this episode, we dive into the difference. Boundaries create safety, clarity, and respect in a relationship — while control often comes from fear, insecurity, or a need to manage the other person. We’ll share real-life examples of what healthy boundaries sound like versus what control looks like in disguise, and how to know when you’re crossing the line. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I setting a boundary, or am I just trying to get my way?” this episode is for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

What if the confidence you’ve been chasing isn’t about looking put together or pretending you’ve got it all figured out, but about healing the parts of you that were hurt in the first place? In this episode, we’re breaking down what real self-confidence looks like and why it can’t come from surface-level fixes. We talk about the wounds that shape how we see ourselves and the subtle ways we avoid facing our insecurities. You’ll hear personal stories of the areas we lack self confidence and how we work on the parts of ourselves that need it. By the end, you’ll see why healing, not hiding, is the only true path to lasting self-confidence.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Jealousy is one of those emotions everyone feels but no one really likes to talk about. Is it a natural part of love, or does it always point to deeper insecurity? In this episode, we dive into the complexities of jealousy — where it comes from, how it shows up in relationships, and what it might actually be trying to tell us. We also share how our own views of jealousy have shifted over time and the ways we’ve learned to navigate it in a healthier, more honest way. If you’ve ever wrestled with jealousy (and let’s be real — who hasn’t?) this episode will give you a fresh perspective and practical tools to bring more trust and safety into your relationship.   Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

This week's episode is a little different…Instead of diving deep into one theme, Shiv and Dave are serving up their hot takes—the rants, opinions, and random musings that don’t quite fit into a full topic but are too wild and funny to keep off the mic. From believing that social media isn’t bad to discussing why sometimes eating “unhealthy” is actually the healthier choice, we’re sharing the things we’re currently chewing on. These takes aren’t set in stone—we believe them today, might change our minds tomorrow, and that’s half the fun. Tune in for laughs, unfiltered conversation, and a peek into how our brains spiral when we let loose. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min   ⟡ Instagram:   / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com