Who doesn't have conflict in their lives? Whether at work, at home or somewhere out in the world we are all affected by conflict even when it is indirect. The impact of poorly managed conflict can devastate lives. With 30 years’ experience mediating conflict and training peacemakers, Maria has held people’s hearts through everything from workplace hostility, board room battles, belligerent teenagers, separated parents at loggerheads to neighbours at war, street gang rivalries, threats to life and business deals gone wrong. In this podcast Maria lifts the lid on why we fight and how we can resolve conflict and design it out of our lives. Maria’s mission is to reduce unnecessary human suffering through conscious awareness, facilitated dialogue and trauma healing, using her communications tool, the Dialogue Road Map.
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Who doesn't have conflict in their lives? Whether at work, at home or somewhere out in the world we are all affected by conflict even when it is indirect. The impact of poorly managed conflict can devastate lives. With 30 years’ experience mediating conflict and training peacemakers, Maria has held people’s hearts through everything from workplace hostility, board room battles, belligerent teenagers, separated parents at loggerheads to neighbours at war, street gang rivalries, threats to life and business deals gone wrong. In this podcast Maria lifts the lid on why we fight and how we can resolve conflict and design it out of our lives. Maria’s mission is to reduce unnecessary human suffering through conscious awareness, facilitated dialogue and trauma healing, using her communications tool, the Dialogue Road Map.
Understanding Mistakes: How Fear and Shame Shape Our Responses to Conflict
All Things Conflict
43 minutes
1 month ago
Understanding Mistakes: How Fear and Shame Shape Our Responses to Conflict
In this episode of "All Things Conflict," Maria welcomes back philosopher Paul Baker for a thought-provoking discussion on the theme of justice in the context of systemic failures and scandals. They explore the pervasive nature of cover-ups and the human tendency to avoid accountability due to fear of punishment and shame. Paul introduces his concept of "systemic win," emphasising the importance of fostering better relationships and learning from mistakes rather than perpetuating cycles of denial and harm. The conversation delves into various historical and contemporary examples of injustice, highlighting the need for a shift towards generative justice that not only addresses wrongs but also seeks to improve systems and relationships. As they navigate complex issues surrounding ethics, transparency, and the consequences of actions, Maria and Paul challenge listeners to rethink their understanding of justice and consider how to create a more compassionate and accountable society.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Systemic Win Philosophy: The concept of systemic win emphasizes fostering positive interactions where individuals bring out the best in each other, moving towards better outcomes rather than getting caught in cycles of conflict and negativity.
Understanding Justice: There is a need to redefine and understand what justice truly means, as many current systems may inadvertently cause harm to innocent individuals associated with those who have committed wrongdoings.
Fear of Punishment: The fear of punishment often leads individuals to deny mistakes and engage in cover-ups, which perpetuates a cycle of dishonesty and conflict rather than encouraging accountability and learning from errors.
Generative Justice: Instead of merely restoring the status quo, the focus should be on generative justice, which aims to create better outcomes and healing processes for all parties involved, particularly those who have been harmed.
Transparency and Communication: Establishing a culture of transparency and open communication is crucial in addressing mistakes and conflicts. This involves not only acknowledging errors but also creating an environment where individuals feel safe to admit their shortcomings without fear of retribution.
Maria's Training
https://www.peacefulsolutions.org.uk/training/
SOCIAL LINKS
www.centreforpeacefulsolutions.org
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www.workplacehuddle.com
HOST BIO
Maria founded the Centre for Peaceful Solutions in response to the fatal shooting of a 7 year old in her neighbourhood. She developed a model of conflict resolution for violent crime using her brainchild, the Dialogue Road Map (DRM).
Over 30 years she has mediated everything from threat to life gang disputes to high stakes business deals gone wrong, Maria empowers people to resolve conflict without reliance on experts. So she trains violent prisoners to be facilitators, leaders to be effective communicators, teenagers to be peer mediators and neighbours to be tenant listeners within their respective communities.
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All Things Conflict
Who doesn't have conflict in their lives? Whether at work, at home or somewhere out in the world we are all affected by conflict even when it is indirect. The impact of poorly managed conflict can devastate lives. With 30 years’ experience mediating conflict and training peacemakers, Maria has held people’s hearts through everything from workplace hostility, board room battles, belligerent teenagers, separated parents at loggerheads to neighbours at war, street gang rivalries, threats to life and business deals gone wrong. In this podcast Maria lifts the lid on why we fight and how we can resolve conflict and design it out of our lives. Maria’s mission is to reduce unnecessary human suffering through conscious awareness, facilitated dialogue and trauma healing, using her communications tool, the Dialogue Road Map.
