Good morning! Good evening!
Today's episode goes into two topics, both equally important. The first part is about making amends and accepting that sometimes you might not be forgiven. The second is about setting boundaries and why we even need boundaries.
When you reflect on the actions of your younger self, you will find plenty of things you could do better and plenty of people you've hurt. Not every one undertakes the task of rectifying past mistakes. However, those who do must accept that not everyone will forgive or forget. They have a right to do so; they have their perspective and side of the story, and getting it is a part of your healing journey.
Now, onto boundaries. A hard border like that between North and South Korea is unmistakable. It requires adherence to specific rules. Those are your rigid boundaries, those situations when you instantly know, "No, stop. I'm not ok with this". Similarly, there's the Schengen zone, where boundaries are more flexible, allowing smoother transitions but easier to push, bend and abuse.
The skill of setting healthy boundaries is often misunderstood and associated with egoism and excuses. Why? Because establishing and executing boundaries places you in a position of power, asserting control over what is deemed acceptable. With practice, this skill becomes more refined, and you become more confident in spotting other people's boundaries even when you're still in the Schengen zone.
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As always, we love you!
Niko & Klaudia
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