Hello, amazing creatures!
In today's episode, we're discussing accepting that, in most cases, we're the masterminds behind our success but also the less favourable results of our actions. Confucious said:
"Although the wise man may be strict on himself, he demands nothing of others. He is satisfied with the way he is and never complains to heaven or blames others for his lot in life. In this lowly position, therefore, he submits to fate. The foolish man, on the other hand, in seeking the good things of this earth, falls into danger.
"When an arrow misses its target, the archer blames himself and not someone else. That is how the wise man behaves."
When good things happen, we often take credit for our successes and feel proud. However, when we face challenges, make mistakes, or encounter failures, we often look for external factors to blame. It's not uncommon for people to use their past experiences or circumstances as an excuse for not taking action or lacking motivation to improve themselves. It's a little trip back to the last episode and discussion about Adler's Psychology. We should accept the possibility of failing and not use our past as an excuse. We should allow ourselves to create a better future that is not defined by what happened to us in the past.
In the second part of the episode, we have a heated discussion about the meaning of vulnerability inspired by the conversation between Adam Grant and Brene Brown (link at the end)
Many people understand vulnerability as an emotional exposure, openly talking about our feelings or admitting to something. So, we're discussing our definition of vulnerability and how psychologists define it. Somewhere there, we stumble upon topics of racism, exclusion and questioning the status quo.
Listen, comment, share.
As always, we love you.
Niko & Klaudia
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Mentioned in the episode
Adam Grant and Brene Brown on the power of knowing what you don't know.
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