The monotropic neurotype of Autism + ADHD holds strengths and challenges. Typical advice often doesn't work for us!
Your AuDHD host, Mattia Maurée (they/them), shares research, lived experience, and practical advice from coaching over 400 neurodivergent folks. They focus on feeling better first, before tackling the big life design questions.
You're doing great, you belong here, and it's possible to feel a lot better.
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The monotropic neurotype of Autism + ADHD holds strengths and challenges. Typical advice often doesn't work for us!
Your AuDHD host, Mattia Maurée (they/them), shares research, lived experience, and practical advice from coaching over 400 neurodivergent folks. They focus on feeling better first, before tackling the big life design questions.
You're doing great, you belong here, and it's possible to feel a lot better.
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Flow is pleasant and often productive. It may also require some guardrails to be healthy for AuDHDers, especially those of us on the very monotropic side.
It's often easy for us to get into flow and hyperfocus, and to stay in them until they stop feeling pleasant.
Adding in more rest and recovery, including preparatory rest as needed, can really help!
It's also okay to avoid flow states for a period of time, as I am right now for the most part.
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Max Alexander is an artist and play worker who has mapped some common shapes of autistic play. He's passionate about neuro-affirming play for all ages.
Play is both a healing tool, and can help prevent some of the effects of trauma (we touch on this lightly, a concept I learned from Linda Thai)
One possible way to apply the play styles is noticing which ones speak to you, and which ones you're already engaging in, then leaning into those.
The ebook is free, and it's a quick and excellent read!
Apologies for the audio quality. Max was using a headset and didn't have an actual microphone, so I did the best I could to clean it up
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AuDHD leadership touches on last week's interview with Dr Megan Anna Neff. And it goes beyond the visible leadership of creating content, or being in the public eye.
AuDHD leadership can include
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- Blog post with business episodes
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Dr Megan Anna Neff is a neurodivergent therapist and thought leader, who became popular in 2022 with their "Misdiagnosis Monday" series. Their thoughtful content has helped many thousands of AuDHDers and other neurodivergent folks feel seen and understood.
Today we talk about
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Doing less of what's harming you opens up time and energy. You can enjoy that as rest, and if desired, eventually fill it in with what you do want.
AuDHDers often need to move at a slower pace, in many ways. Sometimes we then have creative bursts that move fast... but the space comes FIRST!
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Pasha joins again to talk about what they've learned in the past two years since last being on the show! We talk about belonging, triggers in relationships, and much more.
She also shares the ableism behind the scenes of an autism training from a large (unnamed) org.
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Decluttering, organizing, and cleaning my home in a more routine way is having some interesting effects on my perfectionist tendencies! (Plus, perfectionism comes up in the decision-making process; more on that in my interview on A Slob Comes Clean, which I'll link here when it's out.)
Specifically, a cleaner space = less decision fatigue = lower cognitive load = more executive function resources for ME!
If you want support with that:
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Dana K White, like me, couldn't find advice that worked for her. So she made it up! And it turns out, it was helpful for many other people too.
After writing an anonymous blog about cleaning her overwhelmingly cluttered home, Dana "came out" and started helping others too. Also, many of those people let her know she seems to have ADHD ;)
Her explanations have already helped me a lot, and given me hope about a clean home for the first time in ages.
We talk about many of the overarching themes/tips in her books (which are linked below)
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Transitions are one of THE things that support the way that productivity shows up for AuDHDers! Transitions don't have to be all about work: play and rest can be transitions too. And sometimes we need transition time into and out of work, play, AND rest!
Today I talk in more detail about how long transitions can take for me (routinely 30-60 minutes). If that's true for you, a 20-minute chunk of work (or getting interrupted) isn't going to feel that good compared to the transition time required. (That said, anything goes in burnout recovery!)
Anecdotally: AuDHD folks may need more transition time than ADHD or Autistic folks (even though it's often talked about as an autism trait or need). If that's true, it's possible that it's monotropism that leads to higher transition time needs.
Note: I misspoke when I said "dares and challenges." They're actually dares and commitments :)
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PDA is the Persistent Drive for Autonomy (community term), or pathological demand avoidance (clinical & pathologizing term). What happens when PDA, ADHD, and autism all overlap? Well... stress and relationship challenges!
Thankfully, everything that helped me feel more safe has also made my PDA more manageable. There are many approaches to build that safety.
This episode is a follow-up to the interview on PDA last week
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It's been a running joke (that wasn't initially a joke) that I'm totally going to do a PDA episode very soon... since the very first episode of AuDHD Flourishing.
Now we have one, thanks to Chris Wells and Marni Kammersell for interviewing me on PDA: Resistance and Resilience, and letting me cross-post the episode here!
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About two years ago, I started ADHD stimulant medication as a regular (most days) thing. I've mentioned it here and there on the podcast.
This is my most concentrated "review" of the main things I've noticed over the past two years.
To be clear, when I mention a factor that might make stimulant meds more of a burnout risk, I'm not saying those folks shouldn't try it! Just to be very careful not to push through the body's capacity.
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One reason most advice doesn't work for us is that it's backwards. It's telling us to do/have the end result, rather than showing us how to get there.
In the case of safety or shame, it's pretty clear that we can't just leap to the end of the process (if there even is one with a traumatized body).
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TQ (they/them) is a queer, trans, physically disabled, AuDHD Chinese-Singaporean artist, author/host of the upcoming book/podcast Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC!, and community facilitator for other queer neurodivergent BIPOC.
In true ND fashion, we range over many topics, including the importance of community and hearing your own stories as a person with multiple intersecting identities.
You can pre-order a copy of their upcoming book for behind-the-scenes/early access to the interviews and writing!
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Also on YouTube for some visuals
My urge for minimalism is partly to provide myself with the visual cues I desperately need, without overwhelming myself with visual clutter. And, there has been a specifically classist push for minimalism that sometimes causes me to get rid of too much.
Here's an excellent thread about minimalism, class, and why you're probably not a hoarder
I especially loved the idea that you may just need better organization, because I really love lining things up. Now I'm focusing on organizing based on my interests, rather than what I think is the most practical or obvious!
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Thanks to Hyperfocus with Rae Jacobson for letting me cross-post this important discussion about one of the first longitudinal studies of ADHD in women and girls!
Full show notes, timestamps, and Transcript available on Hyperfocus' site
(Ep 5, The “devastating” findings of a decades-long ADHD study, Dec 5, 2024 has the full version; it was reposted Aug 28 2025 with more brief notes)
Dr. Stephen Hinshaw is one of the leading voices when it comes to ADHD in women and girls.
That’s in large part due to his work on The Berkeley Girls Study. (Its full name is The Berkeley Girls with ADHD Longitudinal Study, but most people know it by that shorthand or acronym: The BGALs Study.)
Under Steve’s leadership, researchers began studying 140 girls with ADHD and a control group of nearly 90 girls without it. They’ve been following these girls into their adulthood, producing a reams of information that has helped shape current understanding of ADHD in women and girls.
That said, Rae Jacobson had plenty of questions for Steve:
note: This episode includes discussion of suicide and self-harm. Please take care when listening and skip this one if you need to.
Listen to more episodes of Hyperfocus here
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Chronic shame makes us feel all kinds of terrible things that often are the triggers that send people to therapy.
It's caused in part by relational rupture without repair, especially as an infant and child.
While there's no quick fix, recognizing the signs and beginning to gently work with it does help over time.
This is episode 10 of a series of 10 that started with 102 AuDHD Therapy That Works with Joe Sosta
I'm working on some more materials to pull all these episodes together in a useful way and will add that here when they're done!
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Darren Glencross was diagnosed near the beginning of 2025, and since then has written multiple books and come up with a new framework for people to explore outside of the medical model.
It includes: Pattern Language, Inner Orbit with 12 satellites (and Their Orbit), and the Carry Kit
It's exciting to explore community-led models!
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AuDHD brains face many challenges when it comes to projects. It's something I've put a great deal of time and learning into, both personally and professionally. This episode covers many ideas and approaches that tend to work for us.
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The episode also walks through the Love Your Brain course, designed to help AuDHDers understand their mind-body system, work with brain states, and navigate project challenges. The course emphasizes self-compassion, experimentation, and building processes tailored to individual needs.
Repost - originally posted July 12th 2024
Note: not strictly in the current 10-episode series, but still relevant!
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This ep also available on YouTube
"use more lube:" do what you need to do to make life easier, more comfortable, and more pleasurable for you in the moment.
This goes beyond sensory needs, though that's often where we start.
You may not be sure what you want on the grand scale (or it feels impossible to get there). But being kind to yourself, and meeting your needs moment-to-moment, helps create a communication feedback loop with the body.
Better communication and care for the body makes everything easier.
ep. 8 in an interconnected 10-episode series
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