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Be Boujee Be True Be You

Charlotte Jones

66 episodes

3 days ago

How many of us have felt pressured at one time or another, to make sure our relationship was moving along at the so called "right time". Many of us have had the thoughts, is this moving too quickly, are we falling behind, shouldn't we already be "there" (wherever there is) by now?! As much as we know there is no one size fits all, and no one set timeline that can measure our relationships by, we can still so often fall into that trap of looking around us, seeing what everyone else is up to,...

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How many of us have felt pressured at one time or another, to make sure our relationship was moving along at the so called "right time". Many of us have had the thoughts, is this moving too quickly, are we falling behind, shouldn't we already be "there" (wherever there is) by now?! As much as we know there is no one size fits all, and no one set timeline that can measure our relationships by, we can still so often fall into that trap of looking around us, seeing what everyone else is up to,...

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Be Boujee Be True Be You

#17: Relationship Timelines - What Is The Perfect Relationship Timeline? How Do We Know When It Is Right To Take The Next Step & Creating A Relationship Timeline The Works For You

How many of us have felt pressured at one time or another, to make sure our relationship was moving along at the so called "right time". Many of us have had the thoughts, is this moving too quickly, are we falling behind, shouldn't we already be "there" (wherever there is) by now?! As much as we know there is no one size fits all, and no one set timeline that can measure our relationships by, we can still so often fall into that trap of looking around us, seeing what everyone else is up to,...

2 years ago

20 minutes

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#16: Divorce, Closure & Being True To Yourself: When To Stop Trying To Fix The Unfixable, How To Find Closure When Communication Breaks Down & Embracing Vulnerability

Up until the summer of 2022, Sarah Valentine was living in New Zealand with her husband and trying to work on her marriage. When Sarah's marriage ended and her world was turned upside down, she made the decision to share her story on social media, with the intent of helping other women who found themselves in a similar situation. Sarah's vulnerability and transparency has reached hundreds of thousands of women across the world, and helped them to feel less alone during one of the bigg...

2 years ago

28 minutes

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#15: The "Instant" Spark In Dating - How It Can Make You Settle For Less, Help You Understand Past Trauma & The Difference Between Feelings Numb & Genuinely Feelings No Connection

"The spark", "instant chemistry", "butterflies", these are the markers that so many of us still mistakenly use in dating, when deciding how much we invest in someone. In this episode, I discuss what those feelings can actually mean (spoiler, they aren't always to do with attraction!), I share my personal experiences with these feelings, and how they led me in to anxious relationships over healthy, happy and fulfilling ones. I also share how to listen to your gut, and the difference between ...

2 years ago

23 minutes

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#14: Divorce & Finances - A Woman's Guide To Gaining Confidence When Navigating The Financial Aspect Of Divorce Financial Abuse & How to Be Treated As An Equal Partner

One of the most overwhelming and life changing parts of a divorce is splitting the assets and finances. In a lot of marriages, there tends to be one person who is responsible for managing what money comes in and what goes out and if you aren't that person, you can feel like a rabbit in the headlights, not knowing where to turn or what to decide. In this episode I chat with Ceri Griffiths, who is a divorce financial planner and who also holds financial abuse and narcissism qualifications. &n...

2 years ago

40 minutes

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#13: "High Maintenance" - What Does It Mean, Is There More To The Label Than Meets The Eye & Trusting Your Gut

The label "high maintenance" can take many different meanings, depending on who you ask, and usually it is not meant in the most positive light. In this episode, I discuss what springs to mind when I hear the words "high maintenance", and how I have been associated with labels like this in the past. When it comes to our romantic relationships there are definitely times when we can be more demanding than normal and there is no deflecting from that! But, there are times when when phrases such...

2 years ago

16 minutes

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#12: Exercise & Grief - Feeling Connected To A Loved One Who Is No Longer With Us, Accepting The Praise You'll Never Hear & Overcoming The Pain

Grief comes in many forms, from the end of a relationship to the passing of a loved one. In this episode I speak with my brother Jon, to ask him how he used sports and exercise to cope with the death of our dad when we were 6 and 7 years old. Jon discusses how taking up sports helped him to create a connection with our dad, how he learned to no longer need the praise we so often crave from our parents and using his experience to create a new career and help people build their self con...

2 years ago

1 hour 8 minutes

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#11: Romantic Attraction - How Important Is It When Finding A Long Term Relationship, Are Our Standards A Form Of Self Protection & What Does "Settling" Really Mean?

There are so many factors when it comes to deciding who we find attractive in a romantic sense, and frustratingly, quite a few of these factors can distort how we view this topic. In this episode, I discuss how important it is to find someone attractive if we are in a long term relationship with them, how our ego and the opinion of other's can impact who we find attractive and try to pursue in the hopes of finding long term happiness and finally, what does settling really mean? Could shiftin...

2 years ago

24 minutes

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#10: Dating Apps From A Man's Perspective - An Honest Insight Into The Complex World Of Online Dating, Being Catfished & Knowing When To Get Off The Carousel

Anyone who has ever used a dating app before will know, the process can feel anything but straightforward... Through social media, it is become more and more common for people to share their experiences of dating, but often, it will be women and men sharing their views separately, and these posts are often negative or strongly driven by one particular view. For a while now, I have been having conversations with my friend Toby, who has always been very open about his experience with dating a...

3 years ago

1 hour 28 minutes

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#9: Relationship Perfectionism - Why Do We Need Our Relationship To Appear Perfect? How To Lose The Need Of Everything To Go Perfectly & Feel Great In Your Relationship (No Matter What Anyone Else Thinks)

We've all seen those couples on social media over the years, the couples who post constant mushy, loved up posts about each other, only to notice they have changed their relationship status to "single" a short while later. Throughout my twenties, I was one of those people. I had such a strong need to make sure if anyone was going to be thinking or talking about my relationship, that they would be thinking and saying all the right things, and I would go to great lengths to make that ha...

3 years ago

23 minutes

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#8: Divorce Burnout & Keeping Things Amicable - Why Communication Breaks Down So Easily, Looking At Both Sides & How To Navigate The Stress Of Divorce

Divorce burnout is not a term I had heard until recently, but after looking into it, it was definitely something I had experienced and is not something to ignore. In this episode I speak with Claire Black, who shares in depth the reasons why communication throughout the divorce process breaks down so easily, what can be done to help keep things amicable, why time is so important and how to spot the signs of divorce burnout. Claire also shares how to find the positives in something as heartb...

3 years ago

36 minutes

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#7: When Life Turns Upside Down... Embracing Uncertainty, Creating A New Path & Rewriting The Future

There are people who love and embrace change and then, there are people (like me) who finds change reeeeally uncomfortable (even when it is a positive and exciting change). Sometimes that change is a new job, moving to a new location, a breakup or even a death. There are times when some of these changes are our choice and more often, change happens and we have to pivot in a new direction when we just didn't see it coming. In this episode I discuss how to navigate those pivots and chan...

3 years ago

26 minutes

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#6: Can Women Have It All? How To Run A Successful Business, Maintain A Happy Family & Discover How Your Hormone Health Has A Vital Role To Play

Can women have it all? This is a question that has been asked, well, for as long as I can remember! It is also a question that has so many levels and can take on a variety of different meanings. In this episode with the fantastic Lynda Stretton, about all things hormone health and just how little women are taught about how our bodies work, let alone how to help our bodies work for us so we no longer have to suffer with issues such as painful periods, mood swings, fatigue etc. Lynda also sha...

3 years ago

1 hour 2 minutes

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#5: Controlling & Creating The Narrative - Why We Do It (Even With The Best Of Intentions), Reactive Abuse & How To Deal With Someone Creating A False Narrative About You

Controlling or creating the narrative is something that happens almost every day, even if its when you don't want to admit you ate the last row of the chocolate bar in the fridge when you know it was for someone else! Controlling the narrative scales from the little white lies we tell others (or even ourselves), to much bigger lies, manipulation, reactive abuse and gaslighting, which can have such damaging affects to those involved. In this episode I discuss the different reasons why ...

3 years ago

22 minutes

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#4: How To Survive & Thrive The First Decade Of Long-Term Love - The Dangers Of People Pleasing, Becoming The Light House & Changing The Mundane To Magic

Keeping a long-term relationship/marriage happily together throughout your twenties and into your thirties is not an easy thing to do (as so many of us know). The majority of us spend a large part of our twenties just trying to figure out what it means to be an adult! We are continuously learning what traits and characteristics we like, what our values are and over all the kind of person we want to be and the vision we have for our future and often, by the time we approach the age of 30, tha...

3 years ago

55 minutes

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#3: Solicitors & Divorce - How To Find the Right Solicitor For You, Dealing With The Other Side & What Not To Pay Attention To

One of the scariest parts of going through a divorce is the legal process. If you are someone (like me) who has never had to deal with solicitors before, it can be hard to understand what their role is throughout your divorce and how to know the best way of working with one. Solicitors and divorce are a very complex, sensitive topic and in this episode I share the human experience of how to know which solicitor is right for you and how to ensure their priority is you and what the best outco...

3 years ago

19 minutes

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#2: Navigating An Affair - The Initial Signs, Using Your Intuition & How To Rise Again After Your World Is Turned Upside Down

Finding out that your husband/wife/partner has had or, is currently having an affair can feel like one of the most devastating things that can happen to us. Every relationship and every situation are unique and nothing is ever black and white (no matter how much we would like it to be!). In this episode, I sit down with one of my oldest and closest friends Natasha, who bravely opened up and shared her experience of discovering that her husband and partner of eight years, had been involved i...

3 years ago

57 minutes

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#1: The Light At The End Of The Tunnel - Life After Divorce, Trusting The Process & How To Reach That Light

When we hear the saying "there is light at the end of the tunnel", it can often be followed by a mixed response in fact, if we are going through a difficult period, it can be the last thing we want to hear. In the first episode of season three, I share a life update with you, how I am finding life after divorce (including the real picture of what can happen once everything has been finalised and you begin to move forward). I also share how letting go and trusting the process was the best de...

3 years ago

30 minutes

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#25: Being Treated Fairly After A Break Up, What Does This Mean And Where Do You Draw The Line?

Being treated fairly in an emotional situation is, I feel, such a complex statement to make. It can be so hard to find the line between wanting to be treated fairly and equally to realising we are just projecting our frustration and hurt on the person or situation. In the final episode of season two, I discuss my views on different situations I have been in over the last two years, where I feel I have been treated unfairly or I have wanted to stand up for myself and share my tru...

3 years ago

17 minutes

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#24: "The Taylor Swift Effect" And Using Music To Process A Breakup

Until I spoke with Amie Jay, I had never heard of the "Taylor Swift Effect". In this episode, singer/songwriter Amie Jay discusses how she bravely uses personal experiences in her life such as her breakups and romantic relationships to create her music and how this has not only helped her to process difficult situations, but also make big decisions when it comes to her relationships. Amie and I also spoke about the different ways male and female singer/songwriters are portrayed in the music...

4 years ago

37 minutes

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#23: How Our Pets Can Support Us Through A Breakup And Those Big Life Changes

This last week I have felt a lot of heartbreak. My cat passed away and quite honestly has left a huge hole in my life. What I very quickly realised is just how much I had been relying on him in this last 18 months while I navigate the break down of my marriage and starting over. This episode is not to give advice, it is purely sharing a personal experience of something that has happened very recently and how I have realised our pets can and do support us through the most difficult times in ...

4 years ago

11 minutes