BYOLC S1 E14
Do you tie your value to your achievements—or know your worth even when you fall short?
In this illuminating episode of the Be Your Own Lifecoach Podcast, Anike and Bretagne unpack the critical but often misunderstood difference between self-worth (innate, unconditional) and self-esteem (fluctuating, performance-based). This isn't just a feel-good topic—understanding this difference can change how you live, lead, and love.
Self-Worth: Constant and unconditional. It’s who you are—not what you do.
Self-Esteem: Linked to accomplishments, appearance, approval. It can rise or fall.
Why confusing the two can lead to burnout, anxiety, and perfectionism.
How to build true resilience and compassion by separating your identity from your output.
“You are not your performance. You are not your productivity. You are a powerful being—always enough.”
Visual exercise: See yourself not in the universe—but as the universe
“Measure the gain, not the gap” – A reframe from Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy
How to bounce back with grace instead of spiraling into shame
STOP, DROP & ROLL when you're caught in negative self-talk:
Stop – Notice your inner dialogue.
Drop – Break the thought loop. Move. Shift your environment.
Roll & Reframe – Say it out loud: “This doesn’t define my worth.”
Practice imagining what you’d say to a friend in your shoes—and offer yourself that same kindness.
“Even when I miss the mark, I am still magical. My worth is not up for debate.”
You are allowed to feel discouraged after a tough moment. That’s human. But don’t ever confuse that moment with your identity. Your worth is permanent. It doesn’t fluctuate.