BYOLC S2 E6
What if abundance isn’t something you chase—but something you tune into?
As we close out 2025 and step into a new year filled with goals, desires, and intentions, this episode dives deep into what abundance really is. Yes, money matters—but abundance is far bigger than finances. It’s a frequency, a mindset, and a way of relating to life that opens the door to emotional fulfillment, loving relationships, creativity, time freedom, health, spiritual connection, and aligned opportunities.
In this episode, we explore:
The true meaning of abundance beyond money
Emotional, energetic, relational, creative, spiritual, and financial abundance
Scarcity vs. abundance mindset—and how your thoughts shape your reality
Dr. David R. Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness and emotional frequency
How gratitude, joy, and love raise your vibration and attract abundance
The science behind heart-brain coherence (HeartMath Institute)
Dr. Joe Dispenza’s teachings on elevated emotions and creating success
Why abundance is about allowing, receiving, and trusting divine timing
You’ll also be guided through a Coach Yourself journaling practice, powerful affirmations, and a visualization to help you feel abundance in your body, release scarcity beliefs, and open yourself to receiving more—without guilt or force.
Abundance begets abundance.
Life is happening for you, not to you.
And when you shift your frequency, everything begins to align.
🎧 Tune in and remember: you are already more abundant than you realize.
BYOLC S2 E5
Self Awareness, Are you Born with it? Can you lose it? and if so can you get it back?
In this episode of Be Your Own Life Coach, Bretagne and Anike take you deep into the heart of self-awareness — what it is, why it fades, and how to rebuild it with intention. If you’ve ever found yourself snapping without knowing why, repeating the same patterns, shutting down in conflict, or feeling disconnected from your emotions, this conversation will feel like a mirror.We break down the two essential types of self-awareness — internal (your thoughts, emotions, triggers, patterns) and external (how others experience you). Together, we explore how autopilot, burnout, childhood conditioning, and survival mode quietly pull you away from yourself.You’ll learn:How lack of self-awareness shows up in everyday lifeHow to recognize emotional triggers before they take overHow your body signals the truth before your mind doesWhy certain patterns repeat — and how to interrupt themHow to shift from reacting to respondingSimple micro-practices for daily clarityA guided self-coaching check-in to reconnect with yourselfThis episode is your reminder that self-awareness isn’t about perfection — it’s about curiosity. The moment you notice your patterns, you reclaim your power to change them.
Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast with Bretagne Stowe & Anike Wilder
Breaking the Cycle — Finding the Motivation to Quit a Bad Habit
Struggling to quit a bad habit you keep falling back into? In this episode, Bretagne Stowe and Anike Wilder break down why we repeat behaviors that drain our energy, clarity, and confidence — and how to finally change them.
With the New Year approaching, resolutions are top of mind. But real transformation starts with understanding the need behind the habit. Whether it’s social media, overeating, smoking or drinking, lying, sitting too long, avoiding a sleep routine, or breaking promises to yourself, every habit is meeting a deeper need: comfort, control, escape, connection, or safety.
You’ll learn:
The hidden “reward” your habit gives you
What the habit protects you from
Why you can’t change a behavior you’re still defending
How to uncover the emotional need beneath the pattern
Plus simple, doable replacements:
Scrolling → stretching
Second plate → brush your teeth
Lying → listen
Sitting too long → change location
No sleep routine → 3-minute ritual
Breaking promises → micro-promises
We also dive into habit stacking, micro-changes, and a quick self-coaching framework to help you identify triggers, rebuild self-trust, and take actionable steps toward a better habit system.
7-Day Challenge: Replace your habit with one small action and track your energy.
Because quitting isn’t just stopping — it’s starting something better.
BYOLC S2 E3
In this episode, we explore the true power of gratitude—not just as a daily habit, but as a spiritual, emotional, and neurological force that shapes your mindset, your relationships, and the reality you create.
We break down how gratitude literally shifts the brain: boosting dopamine and serotonin, increasing neuroplasticity, and helping you form new empowering patterns. You'll learn why gratitude is one of the most effective tools for reducing anxiety, improving sleep, building emotional resilience, and cultivating the mindset of abundance.
We also dive into the spiritual side of gratitude—how it aligns with the law of attraction, why gratitude amplifies your energetic frequency, and how ancient prayer traditions from Christianity to Buddhism begin with “thank you.” You’ll hear stories, guiding questions, and a powerful reminder: you attract what you emotionally align with.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How gratitude rewires the brain for positivity, motivation, and growth
Why gratitude increases neuroplasticity and supports emotional regulation
The link between gratitude, the law of attraction, and manifesting abundance
Embodied gratitude: how to “feel the future now”
The role of discipline and daily gratitude practices in shaping your reality
How gratitude deepens relationships, strengthens self-trust, and fosters presence
Why “thank you before you ask” is a spiritual technology
Practical self-coaching tools to bring gratitude into your daily life
You’ll also explore reflective questions to help you integrate what you learn—questions that bring you back into your heart, your body, and the truth of what’s already working in your life.
This episode is for you if you want to:
Develop a powerful mindset rooted in abundance
Reduce stress, fear, and emotional overwhelm
Strengthen your spiritual practice
Heal relationships and deepen connection
Manifest with more clarity and confidence
Build resilience during difficult seasons
Create intentional habits that elevate your daily life
We close with a reminder from Melody Beattie:
“Gratitude turns what we have into enough.”
Gratitude isn’t just a feeling—it’s a transformational force. Let’s tap into it together.
BYOLC S2 E2
What if your deepest fear of being "too much" or "not enough" is actually your greatest strength? In this powerful episode, we explore how vulnerability—far from being a flaw—is a gateway to transformation, authentic connection, and true courage. Inspired by Brene Brown’s insights and grounded in personal storytelling, this episode invites you to rethink what it means to be strong.
Walk the metaphorical tightrope between who you are and who you’re becoming, and discover how vulnerability can be your bridge to authenticity. Plus, get guided reflection questions, a visualization exercise to help remove your emotional armor, and one simple truth to share today.
Topics include:
The myths and truths about vulnerability
How vulnerability and authenticity work together
Questions to coach yourself into courageous self-expression
Listen in and step into your power—one honest moment at a time.
BYOLC S2 E1 🌿 Season 2 Premiere: Trusting the Seasons of Change 🌿Welcome back to the Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast with Host Bretagne Stowe and Cohost Anike Wilder! In this soulful Season 2 opener, we explore how life—like nature—moves through cycles of growth, letting go, rest, and renewal, and how aligning with these rhythms can bring more grace, clarity, and self-trust.Bretagne shares her own transition into motherhood and identity shifts, while Anike opens up about planting new roots—buying a home. Together, they offer stories, reflections, and gentle self-coaching practices to help you navigate your season of life with more ease and intention.✨ Inside this episode:Deep reflection questions to guide your inner journeyA powerful tree-inspired visualization for grounding and clarityA monthly season check-in ritualPractices to help you release, restore, and grow in your own timing🌳 Remember: not every season is for blooming. Some are for resting. Some are for rooting. All are sacred.🎧 Subscribe and step into Season 2 with us—one breath, one season at a time.#LifeCoachPodcast #BretagneStowe #AnikeWilder #SeasonOfChange #SelfCoaching #PersonalGrowth #MindfulLiving #BeYourOwnLifeCoach
BYOLC S1 E17
In a world filled with highlight reels and performance, authenticity becomes your ultimate power source. When you stop performing and start living truthfully, you become unstoppable.
What authenticity really means – showing up honestly for yourself and others
How to recognize inauthentic living – asking yourself, “Am I living my own truth or someone else’s?”
The link between authenticity and confidence – when actions align with beliefs, trust and self-esteem flourish
Building confidence through consistency – small daily habits matter more than external praise
Practical self‑esteem boosters – how to keep promises to yourself, set boundaries, and protect your energy
Assertiveness in action – learn to say “no” even in everyday situations
Navigating imposter syndrome – embracing transitions and trusting your evolving self
Bretagne’s middle‑school story
“It’s better to be a first‑rate version of yourself than a second‑rate version of someone else.”
A personal anecdote about practicing assertiveness and saying “no” before you’re even asked
Journal prompts to identify where you’re out of alignment
Reflect on hidden parts of yourself and why you might be silencing them
A simple exercise: list your top 3 values and set one daily habit that aligns with each
Authenticity isn’t about perfection—it’s about courage. It’s the key to deeper connection, lasting impact, and living with integrity. When you stop performing, you free space for your true power to shine.
BYOLC S1 E16
Join us in Episode 16, Physical Self-Esteem: The Mirror Isn’t the Enemy as we dive into redefining how you feel about your body—beyond aesthetics and society’s shifting beauty standards.
What is physical self-esteem? It’s how you feel about your appearance, physical competence, and health—about nurturing a loving relationship with your body, not avoiding change but embracing intentional self-compassion.
We break down:
Cultural perspectives on beauty—from Tonga’s celebration of round bellies to pale-skin ideals in China/Korea, the rise of BBL culture and shifting American preferences.
The comparison trap—why comparing yourself to social media and mainstream media highlights is illogical (“You can’t compare your whole story to someone else’s highlight reel.”)
Changing vs. accepting your body—exploring makeup, lashes, Botox vs. Frownies, cosmetic acupuncture, and Cameron Diaz’s insights from The Body Book.
Trauma, safety, and self-protection—how past wounds shape our body armor and self-image.
From shame to acceptance to empowerment—a three-step ladder for building lasting physical self-esteem.
We close with a powerful Coach Yourself Segment featuring “The Mirror Method”: a daily ritual to stand naked or vulnerable in front of the mirror, say three things you love, express gratitude for how your body serves you, and finish with a self-nurturing affirmation.
BYOLC S1 E15
Now that we’ve grounded ourselves in the truth that self-worth is innate, it's time to explore its shakier sibling—self-esteem. Where does your self-esteem come from... and can you actually take control of it?
In this powerful continuation, Anike and Bretagne dive into the four core elements of self-esteem and share how to shift from external validation to internal power.
Common self-esteem sources:
Achievement (grades, goals)
Appearance (image, body)
Relationships (roles, status)
Financial success (stuff, stability)
The 4 Pillars of Self-Esteem:
Identity – Who you are and what you believe
Belonging – Connection to others and your community
Competence – Confidence in your skills
Purpose – Knowing your impact and direction
“While your self-worth is unconditional, your self-esteem is in motion. And you can steer it.”
How childhood praise, punishment, and patterns shape your view of self
Maslow’s Hierarchy: Why self-esteem is critical for motivation and well-being
Why external validation (likes, praise, image) is fragile—and how to build internal esteem through values and discipline
Be like an artist—express yourself for the sake of creation, not for the applause or the critique.
Choose a context where your esteem dips (e.g., comparison scrolling)
Ask: Where is my esteem coming from right now?
Shift inward: Name a value-based truth (“I am compassionate, I am creative”)
Action step: Write down one internal affirmation. Say it daily. Let it anchor you.
Affirmation: “My esteem may shift, but I always return to the truth of who I am.”
Coach yourself: Spot one external trigger and counter it with one internal truth.
Because while self-esteem might fluctuate, you don’t have to leave it up to fate.
BYOLC S1 E14
Do you tie your value to your achievements—or know your worth even when you fall short?
In this illuminating episode of the Be Your Own Lifecoach Podcast, Anike and Bretagne unpack the critical but often misunderstood difference between self-worth (innate, unconditional) and self-esteem (fluctuating, performance-based). This isn't just a feel-good topic—understanding this difference can change how you live, lead, and love.
Self-Worth: Constant and unconditional. It’s who you are—not what you do.
Self-Esteem: Linked to accomplishments, appearance, approval. It can rise or fall.
Why confusing the two can lead to burnout, anxiety, and perfectionism.
How to build true resilience and compassion by separating your identity from your output.
“You are not your performance. You are not your productivity. You are a powerful being—always enough.”
Visual exercise: See yourself not in the universe—but as the universe
“Measure the gain, not the gap” – A reframe from Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy
How to bounce back with grace instead of spiraling into shame
STOP, DROP & ROLL when you're caught in negative self-talk:
Stop – Notice your inner dialogue.
Drop – Break the thought loop. Move. Shift your environment.
Roll & Reframe – Say it out loud: “This doesn’t define my worth.”
Practice imagining what you’d say to a friend in your shoes—and offer yourself that same kindness.
“Even when I miss the mark, I am still magical. My worth is not up for debate.”
You are allowed to feel discouraged after a tough moment. That’s human. But don’t ever confuse that moment with your identity. Your worth is permanent. It doesn’t fluctuate.
BYOLC S1 E13
In this raw and revealing episode, we're getting real about health—the hidden force that can quietly sabotage your motivation. This isn’t about aesthetics or six-packs. It’s about energy, vitality, and being well enough to chase your dreams.
Health Disclaimer: We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. This episode shares personal experiences only. Please consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice.
Bretagne shares her powerful journey: from nearly dying as a newborn, battling chronic illness in her 20s—including shingles and weight gain—to the moment she knew she had to take back her health.
Anike opens up about her unique health challenges, the practices that helped, and how tuning into her body brought unexpected clarity and motivation.
Common hidden health-related motivation killers:
Chronic stress & adrenal fatigue
Autoimmune disorders & energy drain
Prescription overload & nutrient depletion
Environmental toxins: mold, heavy metals, parasites
Gut-brain connection: brain fog, mood swings
“You’re not lazy. Your body might be crying for help.”
Functional tests: hair analysis, bloodwork, and tracking tools
Nutrition tips: easy meal planning, macro basics, substitutions over restrictions
Movement magic:
Cardio = energy boost
Strength training = builds resilience
Stretching = soothes your nervous system
Pro Tip: Law of inertia—an object in motion stays in motion.
Ask: What have I accepted as “normal” that’s actually draining me?
Reflect: How does my physical state affect my mental drive?
Challenge: Pick ONE habit to improve this week—meal prep, 20-min walk, symptom journaling
“By supporting my body, I support my dreams.”
Hey Listeners! What are YOUR favorite health hacks or habits? DM us or drop a comment—we’d love to share your ideas in a future episode!
BYOLC S1 E12
“Have you ever worked yourself to the bone—not because you wanted to succeed, but because you were terrified to fail?”
In this soul-stirring episode of Be Your own Life Coach Podcast, we dive deep into the two major forces that drive human behavior: fear-based motivation (the stick) and love-based motivation (the carrot). If you've ever found yourself hustling from pressure, comparison, or survival instinct, this conversation will help you recalibrate.
The short-term power and long-term cost of fear-based drive: anxiety, burnout, and living in “not-enough-ness.”
The resilient strength of love-based motivation: rooted in purpose, passion, and self-respect.
Real talk on hustle culture, proving your worth, and what truly fuels sustainable success.
When fear is helpful (think deadlines and emergencies)—and when it sabotages your peace.
Reflect: Is your drive powered by fear or love?
Visualize: Are you running because something is chasing you—or because something is calling you forward?
Journal Prompt: What does love-based motivation look like for me?
Practice switching your driver in one area of life—fitness, career, parenting—and feel the ripple effect.
“I don’t need to prove my worth. My worth is innate.”
“When I am aligned with my purpose, I am naturally moving forward.”
Fear might get you going, but it’s love that keeps you growing.
BYOLC S1 E11
Life sometimes throws curveballs. In this empowering Be Your Own Life Coach episode, we explore real-world stories of profound rebirth—people who turned adversity into motivation and renewed purpose. Whether you’ve lost a job, faced a health crisis, or experienced business failure, this episode is your guide to transformation.
Bethany Hamilton – At age 12, lost her arm in a shark attack—returned stronger and inspired Soul Surfer.
Aron Ralston – Trapped by a boulder, self-amputated his arm—his story became the film 127 Hours.
Dave Ramsey – Built a $4M real estate portfolio by age 26, lost it all—now a celebrated financial coach and author.
Plus personal reflections on pivotal moments—like getting let go from SCA Pharma that ultimately led to BIG Rev.
Discover how overwhelm, comparison, and burnout sabotage motivation—and what to do about it.
Learn the power of the Coach Yourself mindset—expect obstacles, embrace them, and recognize them as signs of growth.
Adopt Bruce Lee’s wisdom:
“Do not pray for an easy life. Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.”
Write down the date and describe the setback.
Note what’s under your control.
Revisit it one month later—what did you learn?
Return two months later and discover what positive outcome arose as a result.
This simple tracking exercise trains resilience, helps you chart both struggles and victories, and connects the dots when life calls for a pivot.
“I do hard things.”
“I welcome opportunities for growth.”
“Resistance isn’t a flaw—it’s proof I’m on the path.”
This moment might be the turning point of your life. When you look back, how will you show up today?
BYOLC S1 E10
Welcome to the kickoff of our July Motivation Series—and we’re starting with the heart of it all: your “why.” In this episode of the Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast, Anike and Bretagne dive into the Japanese concept of Ikigai, your “reason for being,” and how understanding it can fuel you when motivation fades and no one is watching.
Discover how aligning your passions, talents, values, and the needs of the world creates a personal compass that guides your actions—even through burnout, boredom, and setbacks. Learn why initial inspiration is never enough, and how daily discipline is the real engine of success.
In this episode, we explore:
What is Ikigai and how to find yours
Why motivation fades and how to spark consistent drive
The difference between motivation vs. discipline (Brian Kight fans, this one’s for you!)
Simple daily habits to reconnect with your purpose
Coaching prompts and self-reflection questions to keep you grounded and growing
You’ll also get a mini self-coaching segment to set up your mornings for success, reflect in the evenings, and build the habits that move your vision forward.
“Motivation gets you started. Discipline gets you across the finish line.”
– Inspired by Bruce Lee & Brian Kight
Press play and start your day with clarity, courage, and a clear “why.”
BYOLC S1E9
Whether you're launching your first side hustle or scaling your sixth business, one thing is certain: fear is always part of the process. In this honest and insightful episode of Be Your Own Life Coach Podcast, co-hosts Anike and Bretagne dive deep into the psychology of fear in entrepreneurship—from the fear of failure to the fear of success—and how these hidden dynamics can shape your decisions, limit your growth, or even redirect your entire path.
Bretagne shares a vulnerable story about waiting too long to launch her business and how that delay revealed deeper fears about identity, money, and perfectionism. Anike opens up about the anxiety of being seen, the pressure of success, and why even “good things” can trigger imposter syndrome.
In this episode, we explore:
The fear of failure and why it still sneaks up—no matter how experienced you are
The fear of success and the hidden beliefs that hold us back
How to coach yourself through self-doubt, comparison, and perfectionism
Practical questions to reframe your fear into fuel
Why business bravery is an inside job—and how to take your next small, brave step
Plus: A powerful visualization to reconnect with your “why,” and one brave action to try this week.
Fear doesn’t mean you’re behind. It means you’re building.
Tune in and learn how to turn fear into your most honest business advisor.
BYOLC S1E8
Ever had a fear that made zero sense—like fearing voicemail playback or being scared of mirrors? In this deeply human (and surprisingly hilarious) episode, hosts Bretagne and Anike dive into irrational fears—what they are, why they matter, and powerful tools to release them without judgment.
What we cover:
Tools to Heal:
Coach-Yourself Reflection Prompts:
Whether you’re afraid of the dark, spiders, or even voicemails—this episode reminds you that fearing is human. We’ll make you laugh, nod your head in recognition, and walk away with practical tools to tap into safety, self‑compassion, and empowerment.
BYOLC S1E7 Emotional Fears
Ever feel like you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop—even when life is good? Or like you crave connection but secretly fear being fully seen? In Episode 7, we’re pulling emotional fears into the light.
Hosts Bretagne and Anike dive deep into the quiet, powerful fears that don’t come from danger—but from vulnerability, joy, and intimacy. These emotional fears are sneaky. They show up as overthinking, emotional walls, ghosting, people-pleasing, or sabotaging happiness when things finally feel right.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
What emotional fears are and how they differ from other types of fear
The psychology behind fears of intimacy, being alone, and being happy
How emotional fears are disguised as logic or self-protection
Real Talk questions that help you spot these fears in your own life
Self-coaching prompts to transform fear into emotional courage
Coach Yourself Segment:
Includes powerful journal prompts and affirmations to help you rewire your relationship with vulnerability, joy, and emotional connection.
Quote:“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate... It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” – Marianne Williamson
BYOLC S1E6 Limiting Fear vs Helping Far
In this empowering episode, we delve into the dual nature of fear—how it can either hinder or propel us forward. Hosts Bretagne and Anike explore the concepts of healthy (healing) fear versus limiting fear, sharing personal stories and practical strategies to harness fear as a tool for personal growth.
Key Topics Covered:
Identifying the difference between healing and limiting fear
Understanding fear's role in personal development
Techniques to transform fear into a catalyst for change
Self-coaching exercises to navigate fear effectively
Join us as we uncover how to turn fear from a barrier into a bridge towards your goals.
BYOLC Podcast S1E5
Have you ever felt deeply let down by someone you trusted—parents, a partner, a sibling, a boss? In this powerful episode, Bretagne and Anike dive into the raw emotions and hard truths behind personal failure, betrayal, and the path to forgiveness.
From uprooting moves to broken trust, we unpack the victim mindset, the role of personal responsibility, and why forgiveness is not about excusing behavior—but about freeing yourself. We explore the Phases of Forgiveness, the emotional weight of holding grudges, and practical healing tools like “The Healing Code” and “The Little Red Tin” ritual.
You’ll learn:
What forgiveness is vs. what it’s not
How your brain relives past pain as if it’s happening now
How to identify hidden grievances and emotional stress
Bretagne’s step-by-step forgiveness framework
Reflection questions to coach yourself through the healing process
Affirmation: “I can imagine a world where I no longer let past events affect my future.”
Whether you're in the thick of it or reflecting on old wounds, this episode invites you to reclaim your power, shift your story, and make peace with the past—on your own terms.
Be Your Own Life Coach | Episode 4: How Childhood Failure Shapes Adult Identity
"Remember your first big failure as a kid? Maybe you flunked a test, forgot your lines in the school play, or got picked last for kickball. Today, we explore how those small childhood fails carry big messages that still whisper in our adult lives." – Bretagne
In this playful yet powerful episode, we're digging into the emotional roots of childhood failure—and how those moments quietly influence our adult lives. Whether it’s becoming a perfectionist, avoiding feedback, or constantly apologizing, chances are the story started way back when.
In this episode, we unpack:
Why childhood failure feels so big and permanent
How school, family, and culture shape our emotional response to failure
The link between early embarrassment and adult behavior patterns (hello, imposter syndrome)
Personal and hilarious stories from Bretagne and Anike—because healing doesn’t have to be heavy
How to reframe those old moments with wisdom instead of shame
Coach Yourself Segment:
Get guided through journal prompts like:
What failure still makes you hold back today?
What belief did you form about yourself in that moment?
What would your wiser, adult self say to your younger self now?