Our award-winning podcast is an honest and illuminating take on the challenges of IVF and donor conception. We're Becky and Ben Saer, fertility trailblazers on a mission. As former IVF patients, we spent years, and a small fortune, trying to conceive. We're now proud parents to two wonderful donor-conceived daughters, Ida and Coral. It was a tough journey and we're here to share everything we learned.
We've supported thousands of fertility patients over the last 12 years in our day jobs as fertility treatment coordinators. Add that experience to our personal IVF struggles and you're going to hear some unique insights into the world of IVF, donor eggs and embryo adoption.
Enjoy our fabulous guests, fertility tips, emotional advice, and much more. We'll help you develop a fertility mindset to survive this often gruelling road to parenthood.
Our mantra? Don't despair, we'll get there.
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Our award-winning podcast is an honest and illuminating take on the challenges of IVF and donor conception. We're Becky and Ben Saer, fertility trailblazers on a mission. As former IVF patients, we spent years, and a small fortune, trying to conceive. We're now proud parents to two wonderful donor-conceived daughters, Ida and Coral. It was a tough journey and we're here to share everything we learned.
We've supported thousands of fertility patients over the last 12 years in our day jobs as fertility treatment coordinators. Add that experience to our personal IVF struggles and you're going to hear some unique insights into the world of IVF, donor eggs and embryo adoption.
Enjoy our fabulous guests, fertility tips, emotional advice, and much more. We'll help you develop a fertility mindset to survive this often gruelling road to parenthood.
Our mantra? Don't despair, we'll get there.
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Positive pregnancy test after IVF treatment? Fantastic. Now comes the next challenge – the pregnancy itself. Many fertility patients are in their late 30s or early 40s, and pregnancies in this age group require close care and monitoring. We speak to renowned fetal medicine specialist Ruwan Wimalasundera, senior consultant obstetrician at London’s University College Hospital. We discuss the medical risks associated with older mothers, specifically relating to multiple pregnancies and the complications that can occur. These include preeclampsia, preterm birth and gestational diabetes, and we stress the importance of single embryo transfers to reduce these pregnancy risks. We also talk about the positive aspects of having children later in life. From surgery in the womb to emotional support in the consulting room, this is a reflective interview with an outstanding doctor in tune with the challenges and joys of IVF pregnancies.
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What foods should you eat when trying to conceive? We meet functional nutritionist Hayley Paul, who takes a science-based approach to food, drink and dietary planning. We ask if fertility patients really need to eat pineapple to boost their pregnancy chances. We discuss the ‘superfood’ label: beetroot, maca powder and green tea all score highly. And we look at the benefits of full fat dairy products, antioxidants and other important food groups. Overlooking all of this is Hayley’s strong interest in good digestion, gut health and the nature of food absorption. A detailed and fascinating look at the ways we can optimise our conception health – and, crucially, our potential baby’s health too.
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Can you maintain a happy sex life during fertility treatment – and after it? We speak to world-renowned sex therapist Kate Moyle about this tricky dilemma. The disruptive nature of IVF can often affect closeness and Intimacy. But, as Kate points out, not all relationships need sex to thrive and survive. We discuss the different approaches to sexual comfort by couples and singles on their fertility journeys. IVF affects everyone in different ways. Common feelings of temporary unhappiness can sometimes lead to strained sexual connections. And this unhappiness can spill over into life after the birth of a longed-for child. Kate opens up about her own IVF experience and the challenges she herself faced. A frank and revealing discussion, highlighting the obstacles and solutions to love and togetherness on the infertility road.
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Do IVF patients make better parents? We discuss the reality that many fertility patients are, like us, older. Now in our fifties, with two children under 13, we ask if age is a help or a hindrance to good parenting. Positivity and energy are key. Health is a priority. We explore the nature of love, our friendships with fellow parents younger than us, generational ties, and what our ages really mean to our two daughters. It’s all about the quality of our time together. From there it's a short step to happiness, where stability and the flow of love underpin our children’s future.
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A fascinating chat with Liberty Mills, an integrative health and nutrition coach with a remarkable life story. She conceived her second daughter naturally, at 44, after a range of holistic and lifestyle changes. Liberty talks with honesty and humour about the highs and lows of her life, and how determination and pragmatism saw her through. We explore the small adjustments that could make a big difference to conception success. These include a tailored approach to diet and exercise, digital detoxing and an awareness of pollutants in the home. We discuss Liberty's new book, 360 Fertility, a compendium of ideas for optimising male and female fertility. Liberty's interview is warm and inspiring, full of personal and professional wisdom.
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360 Fertility, by Liberty Mills, is published by Headline Home.
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What exactly are fertility add-ons? And are they safe, effective and worth the money? We speak to fertility specialist, Dr. Tomáš Bagócsi, from Reprofit, which has clinics in the Czech Republic and Slovakia. From embryo glue to PGT-A genetic testing, assisted hatching to time-lapse cameras, Dr. Tomáš summarises the risks and potential benefits of ten of the most popular add-on treatments. We reflect on the cautious approach taken by the HFEA (the regulator of UK fertility clinics), challenging its wariness. Skilled doctors and clinics, Dr. Tomáš argues, can be trusted to recommend add-ons responsibly. Larger trials may be needed, but this doesn’t mean add-ons should be disregarded. An honest and informative interview with a fertility doctor at the top of his game.
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Can herbs optimise your fertility? We speak to Jodie Foreman, a medical herbalist and reflexologist with a keen interest in pregnancy and conception issues. Plants have been used in medicine for centuries. Many countries, including China, embrace holistic approaches to health alongside man-made drugs. Jodie talks about the importance of tailored treatments, with an emphasis on carefully considered herbal assistance. She spent ten years herself trying to conceive – and Jodie’s empathy for those with fertility issues is clear. For her, as well as her patients, a delicate balance of herbs, emotional support, conventional medicine and lifestyle adjustments can work together. And when herbal remedies are used to improve general health, optimal fertility can follow.
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Is the womb the finest human organ? And what role does it really play in female identity? In this fascinating episode, we speak to Dr. Gabriel Weston – surgeon, broadcaster, author and mother. She argues that the womb is far more than an anatomical wonder. The stories and humanity behind it transcend its biological function. We discuss its form, its place in our collective imagination, and the patriarchy’s astonishing attempts to subvert its power. As Dr. Gabriel writes in her latest book, Alive, the womb represents something profound and provocative within the human journey. ‘Love is the inescapable accompaniment to giving birth to a child,’ she says in the interview. That’s just one of the emotions underpinning this remarkable organ.
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Alive: An Alternative Anatomy, by Dr. Gabriel Weston. Instagram: @gabrielwestonalive
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A landmark episode today, featuring 13-year-old Eve – a donor-egg child with a story to tell. Accompanied by her mother, Eve speaks with calmness and clarity about the way she came into the world. The present, not the past, is what drives her. She questions the donor-conceived label; how she was created is far less important to her than her family, friends and current interests. We discuss the emotional side of treatment from both the parent and child perspective, with some surprising revelations. A fascinating interview, enhanced with wisdom and thoughtfulness from Eve and her lovely mum.
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What’s it really like having IVF as a single woman in your 40s? Meet Sarah, now in her fourth year trying to conceive as a solo patient. She talks with honesty and intelligence about her fertility treatments and challenging journey. We discuss her choice of sperm donor, her support network, her contribution to Davina’s McCall’s new book, and the surprising gaps in care and information she received. Sarah speaks movingly about her approach, and the strength and motivation that guide her. This is a story about determination and deep thought. Her sense of ownership, of herself and her future, is palpable.
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Is IVF treatment open to same-sex female couples? In the UK, yes – and, thankfully, in many other countries. We speak to Hannah and Maria, two gay parents who had IVF – with the help of a sperm donor – over a decade ago. Back then, their decision was pioneering. Today, it’s more mainstream. We discuss their decision to have treatment, how they chose their donor, the support of their families, Maria’s decision to donate her eggs, and integrating their two children into the wider community. Two wonderful mums, who seized the moment on their path to parenthood and never looked back.
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Are donated eggs right for you? They were for us, but every patient is different. We launch season 2 with a frank discussion about egg donation. The decision to have it takes time – nobody makes it quickly or lightly. The key issues? Developing a positive mindset, tackling prejudice and entrenched views, trying not to overthink donor matching, and integrating a donor-conceived child into your life. We look back at the challenges we faced. Thoughts went deep; emotions ran high. But we kept communicating. Fertility treatment is, after all, one long conversation.
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Welcome to season 2 of the podcast – created by patients, for patients. We’re rethinking IVF, giving you the tools and techniques to get you through. Here’s a taster of what’s coming up. More wonderful guests and pragmatic advice – presented with sensitivity and emotional intelligence by Becky and Ben.
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In this final episode of the first season, we revisit the moments that resonated most with listeners. The thoughtful reflections from Julia, a donor-egg mum, were a big hit. Deeper emotions were explored by Gemma, a positive psychology coach who highlighted our natural abilities to survive infertility. Many were moved by our own story, and we recall the kindness of Sheila, our local taxi driver, when things got tough. Everyone’s favourite ‘tech’ episode featured sonographer Kate, who talked about the importance of warmth and sympathy. And actor Simon Taylor returns to read The Solitary Reaper – a moving poem about loss that hints at better times ahead. To lighten the tone, we end with Ben’s Michael Caine impression, but the less said about that the better.
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In this episode, we look back in time with feminist scholar Dr. Kate Angell, who guides us through infertility in history and literature. Accompanied by readings from Simon Taylor, Kate presents an alternative framework of love and creativity from key writers, musicians and political thinkers. From Greek goddesses to medieval composers, Romantic poetry to 20th-century novelists, this is a fascinating discussion about female success, sacrifice and solidarity. We hope this 'alternative abundance of life' will inspire women struggling with infertility and childlessness. These voices offer us comfort and strength – real women who lived fulfilling and remarkable lives in the face of convention, tragedy and loss.
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Extract from O Viridissima Virga by Hildegard of Bingen, performed by Grace Davidson (soprano). From the album Sacred Chants. Label: Signum Classics. Used with permission.
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Does your vaginal microbiome help or hinder your reproductive health? We talk to Milena Mastroianni, a leading nutritionist with a keen interest in microbiome and optimising our bodies in the pre-conception period. Holistic therapies for infertility have, until recently, been limited to treatments like yoga, acupuncture and reflexology. But, as Milena explains, supporting the ‘good’ and treating the ‘bad’ in our vaginas is a sensible thing to do. What’s more, microbiome is not limited to the vagina or gut: it’s present in sperm, too. A fascinating discussion on a new and intriguing science – and the research behind it.
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Can you optimise your chances of a successful embryo transfer? What can you really do in the run-up to this critical moment - and afterwards? In this episode, we share key tips that may just lead to a successful pregnancy. Your clinic will know some of them, but others are down to you. From embryo quantity to the ERA test, acupuncture to alcohol reduction, we explore ways you can improve the odds of a successful embryo transfer as a fertility patient. One thing's for sure: a proactive approach to your mental and physical health, as we found out, makes a big difference.
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We're talking today about ultrasound scans, and we're joined by leading IVF sonographer Kate Richardson. Every fertility patient has them, but scans are more than routine assessments. The relationship with your sonographer is special: they're often the first and last person you see on your fertility journey. Emotional understanding and technical excellence are crucial. Fertility patients see their wombs, and their embryos, sooner and more often than women who conceive naturally. As Kate points out, the role of sonography in some ways frames and defines the fertility treatment process. The technology helped IVF develop – and every pregnancy is unique.
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In this episode, we talk to Mike and Jess, a wonderful couple who bravely opted for donor-embryo treatment. After years of trying naturally, unsuccessful IVF cycles, and a devastating ectopic pregnancy, they chose a fertility solution that gave them the highest possible chance of success: embryo adoption. Both talk passionately about that decision and the emotional aspects of using donated eggs and sperm. Embryo adoption was unusual even a decade ago. Today, it's an increasingly popular choice for single women, same-sex and heterosexual couples. The icing on the cake? Listen out for the surprise that made their family even more unique.
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How do we really survive infertility? We discuss coping strategies with Gemma Duffy, a positive psychology coach with a keen interest in IVF. Gemma explains how the capacity for resilience, strength and hope runs deeper in our characters than we think. Alongside traditional counselling, positive psychology coaching can help us to draw on these resources. We talk about our own childhoods, and how our contrasting experiences sowed the seeds of resilience for our challenging fertility journey. And we reflect on how humour helped – a powerful and uniting force for both of us. So how can we find that resilience? If we look within ourselves, it’s there for us.
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