Could it be that the harder you try to “fix” your wife, the more cracks you’re putting in your marriage, your peace, and her trust?I know—it sounds backwards. But here’s the truth every Christian husband has to wrestle with: you don’t transform your wife by force. You transform your marriage by surrender. By walking with God. By leading from a place of example, not control.In this video, I’m breaking it down:🔨 Why spiritual leadership isn’t control—it’s covering (Ephesians 6) 🔥 What happens when you lead without protection 👀 The power of example vs. the pain of dragging 📖 How to grow your own walk with the 5-5-5 method 💡 What to do when your wife isn’t spiritually engaged ❤️ And how my own marriage shifted the moment I stopped pushing and started trusting God00:00 Introduction: The Paradox of Fixing Problems00:33 Personal Journey: Striving and Struggling01:49 The Firefighter Analogy: Protecting Your Marriage03:17 Focus on Your Walk: Spiritual Discipline03:56 Exciting News: New Journal Launch05:22 Lead by Example: Guiding, Not Dragging06:56 Trusting God: Patience and Humility11:43 Challenge: Daily Declarations and Reflections12:31 Conclusion: Sharpening Each Other📔 Get the P2P Journal – Principles to Practice for Men Who Lead Not a diary. A discipline. 👉 Grab your copy on Amazon: [link in description]📌 Join the 7-Day Challenge: Declare it out loud: “This week I will not defend my pride. I will defend the peace in my home.”Then reflect each evening:- What tested me today?- Did I react or respond?- What did I learn about myself and God?Drop your reflections in the comments. Let’s hold each other accountable.WHO AM IHey, I'm Red Wallace, a former rapper(10 year career) current drummer turned personal development coach. Through podcast(mostly on YouTube) and 1on1/group coaching, I provide guidance to help you chisel away the parts that aren’t you revealing your true identity, empowering you to live your God given purpose!