Husbands — is your tone tearing down the very people you’re called to love?
It’s not just what you say — it’s how you say it. In this video, I’m sharing the 5 tone shifts that changed everything for me: the way I talk to my wife, the atmosphere in my home, and the way I lead as a man of God.
I used to snap out of exhaustion, not anger — but my tone was still lethal. Maybe you’ve been there: your wife or kids flinch at your words, even when you didn’t mean harm. That’s when I realized: your tone sets the temperature of your home.
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These 5 shifts are rooted in Scripture + psychology and will help you:
Pause before you pounce (STOPP method)
Reframe negative thoughts before they poison your marriage
Step into your wife’s shoes to unlock empathy
Anchor calm when emotions run high
Speak truth in love — so it builds, not breaks
👉 Your tone sets the temperature of your home. Change your tone, and you’ll shift your legacy.
00:00 Introduction: The Power of Tone in Relationships
01:12 Understanding the Root of Emotional Mismanagement
02:07 Shift 1: Pause Before You Pounce
04:24 Shift 2: Reframe the Negativity
05:25 Shift 3: Step Into Her Shoes
06:25 Exciting News: P2P Principles to Practice Journal
07:49 Shift 4: Anchor a Calmer You
08:53 Shift 5: Speak the Truth in Love
09:49 Conclusion: Building a Legacy of Trust
11:26 Final Challenge and Call to Action
Drop a 🙏 in the comments if you’re committing to one shift this week.
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