In this episode, we explore one of the most charged and misunderstood dynamics in relationships — when one person is fully ready for commitment and the other is not there yet.

We share the real story of a season in our relationship when Britta was a wholehearted yes to marriage and Kevin was not ready. Instead of treating this as a “problem,” we talk about the shift that changed everything: not knowing is not a problem.

We look at why so much mainstream relationship advice pathologizes this moment, how that reinforces insecurity, and what becomes possible when you step out of adversarial narratives like “he has commitment issues” and into curiosity, truth, and personal responsibility.

Inside the episode, we explore:

• the hidden advantage in seasons of unequal commitment

• how to reveal what you want without agenda or attachment

• why being a “yes” to your partner’s “no” creates safety instead of pressure

• bringing clean fire when fear (not wisdom) is running the show

• the three-question framework that opens a deeper intelligence

• a simple experiment that shows how you generate your own internal experience — and the physics of relating from awe, appreciation, and curiosity

This one is a recalibration of how we see commitment, desire, timing, and truth in relationships — and an invitation to live from the deeper well of your own wellbeing rather than outsourcing your okayness to your partner.

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Britta: ⁠⁠⁠brittakristin.com⁠⁠⁠

Kevin: ⁠kevinhasfun.com