A viral “Grandma Cam” clip sparks a real conversation: Is it okay for parents to take a vacation with only their biological kids… and leave out the in-laws? Adam and Ashlee react in real time, talk through why this idea blew up, and break down the difference between intentional quality time vs. subtle exclusion. They get into the heart of what makes family dynamics healthy (or toxic), especially when adult children get married and start building families of their own.From navigating different family cultures to setting boundaries that actually protect relationships, this episode gets practical fast. Adam shares what he’s seen through years of counseling and pastoring—how unspoken expectations, poor communication, and “holiday faking” can quietly fracture families over time. If you’re married (or planning to be), this is one of those conversations that helps you think clearly, love well, and build a family culture that lasts.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
As the new year begins, Adam challenges the way we typically think about New Year’s resolutions. Instead of short-lived goals and burst motivation, this solo episode invites listeners to shift toward rhythms—sustainable habits and frameworks that actually shape a healthy life.Adam walks through six practical frameworks designed to help you close the previous season well, recognize what drains you versus what gives you life, and build routines that support long-term growth. Rather than chasing pressure or comparison, the focus is on alignment—aligning your values, pace, and priorities so your life produces real fruit.This conversation is both reflective and actionable, encouraging listeners to stop carrying what no longer belongs, protect what’s working, and intentionally design a year that is spiritually grounded, emotionally healthy, and relationally strong. If you’ve ever felt discouraged by resolutions that don’t last, this episode offers a wiser and more sustainable approach to the year ahead.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/
After walking through their family’s recent experience with an ADHD diagnosis, they unpack the frustrations many parents and adults feel toward the education system and its one-size-fits-all approach to learning. Adam shares his own journey with ADHD, how school nearly convinced him he wasn’t capable, and why discipline—not excuses—became the key to thriving in adulthood.Together, they talk through practical disciplines they’ve found helpful for both children and adults with ADHD, the dangers of turning diagnoses into crutches, and how to advocate for your child without lowering expectations. This episode isn’t anti-medication or anti-school—it’s pro-wisdom, pro-discipline, and pro-understanding how God uniquely wires people to thrive.Whether you’re parenting a child with ADHD, navigating it yourself, or simply trying to build better rhythms in the new year, this conversation brings clarity, hope, and a lot of real-life perspective.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
This one starts hilarious and ends way deeper than expected. Adam, Sammy, Jeff, and returning co-host Will Chung kick things off with holiday chaos, inside jokes, and stories that make you say, “Wait… y’all really did that?!” But the conversation pivots into something real: how leaders can look “put together” on the outside while still carrying old patterns on the inside.They talk burnout, capacity, and the difference between abstinence and actual recovery—how you can stop destructive habits but still be chasing the same inner need through “better-looking” addictions like work, ministry, or achievement. They unpack the question “What’s wrong with me?” vs. “What happened to me?”, how trauma shows up in the body, and why Sabbath, rhythms, and honest self-awareness matter if you want longevity. It’s funny, reflective, and surprisingly freeing—especially if you’ve been running on fumes.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Jeff Osborne https://www.instagram.com/jefftosborne/Will Chung https://www.instagram.com/willkchung/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/
The holidays are here, and Adam & Ashlee are keeping it light, loud, and hilarious. This episode is basically a Christmas living room moment—full of roasts, playful jabs, inside jokes, and the kind of marriage banter that only works when you actually love each other. They also take a second to shout out everyone who showed love in their Spotify wrapped and supported Beyond I Do all year—seriously, it means more than you know.Then they jump into a super relatable holiday question: what do you even gift someone who “already has everything”? Adam and Ashlee talk gift-giving styles, why thoughtful gifts hit deeper than expensive ones, and why “cash/gift cards” might actually be the most practical love language for some people (without the pressure and expectations 😅). Plus—if you’re watching on Christmas Day… there may or may not be coffee involved. 👀☕️--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Adam sits down with Dr. Paul Pitts III for a deeply grounding conversation about salvation, assurance, and the gospel’s steady power in everyday life. Together, they unpack why assurance isn’t ultimately found in emotional highs, personal performance, or constant self-examination—but in the finished work of Jesus: His righteous life, His sacrificial death, and His victory over sin as an eternal covenant for all who believe. They also talk through how God often moves through “ordinary” means—Scripture, prayer, church, repentance, and faithful consistency—when our generation is trained to chase novelty and instant results.They also go straight at two of the most common spiritual questions: “How do I know I’m saved?” and “Why hasn’t anything changed yet?” Dr. Pitts reframes assurance as assurance of the Savior, not obsession over the self—reminding listeners that feelings can follow truth, but they shouldn’t lead it. Adam and Dr. Pitts explore what sanctification actually looks like over time, why Jesus isn’t a quick-fix genie, and how real spiritual growth often happens slowly—but surely—when Christ remains the point. If you’ve ever felt stuck, numb, doubtful, or tired of the “what’s next?” mindset, this episode brings you back to the anchor: Jesus is enough, and the gospel still works.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Dr. Paul Pitts III https://www.instagram.com/paulpitts3/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/
Marriage doesn’t just reveal who you are—it forms who you’re becoming. In this episode, Adam and Ashlee sit down with Nathan and Sanaz for a real (and hilarious) conversation about how spouses change each other over time—and why that’s actually part of God’s design. They talk about what it means to “see potential” in your spouse, how encouragement can pull out the best in someone, and why character matters more than shared hobbies when you’re building a life together.They also get super practical about the day-to-day stuff: learning each other’s strengths, dividing responsibilities without keeping score, and having hard conversations without resentment. Plus, they dig into a powerful idea: marriage isn’t about holding someone’s past over their head—it’s about covering, healing, and walking forward as one. If you’ve ever felt stuck in “roommate mode,” or wondered how to inspire growth without becoming controlling, this one’s for you.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Nathan & Sanaz Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/nathanjmesa/https://www.instagram.com/sanazmesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
What happens when someone who barely knows the Bible actually starts reading it—and it wrecks them in real time? In this episode, Adam, Sammy, Fuego, and Sanaz sit down to talk about the raw, disruptive power of God’s Word and what it really looks like to disciple people who know almost nothing about Jesus, church, or Scripture.They start with a wild childhood snake story (yes, a real python on a bucket of cookies used as a sermon illustration on temptation) and use it as a picture of how sin looks harmless until you reach for it. From there, the conversation zooms out to our current moment: a generation that’s biblically illiterate, de-churched, and yet deeply hungry—like the viral influencer who started reading the Bible on camera, got confronted by Jesus’ teaching on lust and dehumanizing people, and found his desires changing just from engaging Scripture.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Fuego Padilla https://www.instagram.com/iamfuegopadilla/Sanaz Mesa https://www.instagram.com/sanazmesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/
In this episode, Adam and Ashlee respond to the viral “cab-light theory” — the idea that men suddenly “turn their light on,” get serious, and commit to the next girl who shows up… even if they just told the last one they “weren’t ready.” They unpack whether it’s really “right person, wrong time,” or if it’s often a lack of discipline, standards, and honesty in dating.They also talk about Christian sexual ethics, moving in together, “playing house,” and why so many couples give each other all the benefits of marriage with none of the covenant. Ashlee shares how past relationships and breakups shaped her insecurities, Adam shares from years of pastoring couples, and together they offer super practical (and pretty direct) advice on boundaries, timelines, engagement, and why you can’t change someone who never wanted marriage in the first place. If you’re single, dating, or parenting teens/young adults, this one is a must-listen.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Sammy slides into the host chair and is joined by Haron and special guest Allan Walters—three former youth pastors who’ve spent years discipling the next generation. Together they tackle one big question: are you actually called, or just chasing influence?Allan shares how a lifelong desire to help people, plus years of youth and young adult ministry, slowly revealed his calling—not through a “burning bush moment,” but through consistent burdens and faithfulness. Haron talks about getting saved, starting a random campus Bible study, serving on Skid Row, and discovering that calling usually shows up as a conviction to help people long before it looks like a platform.If you’ve ever thought, “I feel something… but I don’t know if it’s really a calling,” or you’re torn between ministry, creativity, and influence, this conversation will help you slow down, get honest, and refocus on the One who’s actually calling you.--Connect with:Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Haron Kaisa https://www.instagram.com/kaisaclan/Allan Walters https://www.instagram.com/alllanwalters/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/
What do you do when it feels like your spouse cares more about their friends’ opinions than yours? In this episode, Adam and Ashlee react to a viral clip of a husband who says his wife “respects her friends more than her husband,” then unpack what respect in marriage really looks like. They talk about the difference between wanting respect and demanding control, how roles and finances can affect respect, and why so many couples feel unseen or unheard in their own home.Ashlee also gets honest about how she vents and processes with friends, why she is extremely careful about how she talks about Adam, and why your “venting buddy” can either protect or poison your marriage. Adam shares a fresh story from their own home about Christmas-tree stress, short tempers, and what it looks like to NOT take everything personally, but still communicate honestly and grow. If you’ve ever wondered how much to share with friends, how to protect your spouse’s character, or how to balance forgiveness with boundaries, this conversation is for you.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
In a world where one comment, clip, or TikTok can reshape your entire reputation, this episode hits different. Adam sits with Aaron and Jermaine to break down how social media has changed the way we see people — and how fast a single moment can follow you for years.From a viral post misidentifying Adam as “the rudest pastor ever” (for something that wasn’t even him — and happened 15 years ago) to a local business collapsing overnight after one filmed interaction, the guys unpack why today's culture gives you zero room for mistakes. They explore borrowed offense, digital dogpiling, and why people online judge with no context but full confidence.But this episode goes deeper. The conversation becomes a masterclass in conflict, character, and relationships — how to apologize well, how to repair trust, and why so many people today don’t actually know how to restore anything. They talk parenting, marriage counseling, generational wounds, timeliness drama 😂, and the humility required to build healthy relationships that don’t crumble at the first misunderstanding.If you’ve ever been misunderstood, misrepresented, or misread — online or in real life — this episode is a must-watch.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Jermaine Baker https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/Aaron Levy https://www.instagram.com/_aaronlevy/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/
What do you do when someone flirts with you… and you’re married? In this episode, Adam and Ashlee sit down at the table to talk about real-life moments of getting hit on at airports, stoplights, DMs, and even the doctor’s office – and how they choose to respond as a husband and wife. They unpack why it’s not always about the other person being “threatening,” but often about our own security, personality, and the health of our marriage.From joking about “being an Indiana 10” to sharing serious stories about boundaries, exes sliding into DMs, and how quickly “innocent” attention can become a doorway for the enemy, Adam and Ashlee walk through how they process attraction, jealousy, and honesty. They talk about knowing your spouse’s personality, setting wise boundaries without becoming controlling, confessing when you crossed a line, and why your ultimate security has to be rooted in God – not in your spouse’s flawless behavior. If you’ve ever wondered, “Should I tell my spouse when someone flirts with me?”, this one is for you.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
What do you do with those moments where you think God spoke…but you’re not totally sure? In this episode of Beyond the Letter, Adam sits down with Sammy, Julian, and Harrison to talk all things prophecy—the real, the wild, and the actually healthy.Julian shares some crazy stories, including a prophetic word that ended up covering a husband in a freak motorcycle accident and a vision about a blue-haired student that led to a literal life-saving moment. The guys unpack how prophetic gifts work alongside Scripture, why craving “a word” without loving the Bible is dangerous, and how God often moves through instincts and ideas, not just dramatic moments on a stage.They also talk about prophetic creativity in business and ministry, how to practice hearing God without getting weird, and even tell a hilarious story about almost throwing hands in Newport over a parking mishap. If you’ve ever wondered, “Is that God or just me?” this convo will help you slow down, test what you’re sensing, and grow in hearing God’s voice in a grounded, biblical way.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Julian Lowe https://www.instagram.com/julianlowe/Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Harrison Domingue https://www.instagram.com/harrisondomingue/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/
In this week’s episode, Adam and Ashlee sit down for a completely unscripted, last-minute conversation that turns into one of their most honest Q&A sessions yet. From dreams they’ve never fully said out loud to the habits that help (and hurt) their marriage, they walk through a set of intentional life-planning questions designed to help couples get clear, get connected, and get real about their future together.They open up about insecurity, confidence, routines, parenting, schedule strain, and the pressures of balancing ministry, marriage, and family life. Adam shares why honesty and self-awareness matter more to him than perfection, while Ashlee talks about confidence, health, and what it feels like to carry unspoken expectations. Together, they unpack how far they’ve come, what they used to disagree on, and what they hope the next season of marriage looks like.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
From backwash debates and water-bottle slander to championship soccer and college football chaos, this episode is all about sports, kids, and character. Adam, Aaron, and Haron unpack how youth sports can become one of the best classrooms for resilience, humility, and real-world discipleship—if we let them be more than a place to chase highlight reels.
Adam shares stories from his son Matthias’ back-to-back championship soccer seasons: learning to play defense instead of chasing the spotlight, dealing with the pain of feeling like you “lost” personally even when your team wins, and being pushed to celebrate others even when you’re disappointed in yourself. The guys talk about how parents can either fuel entitlement (“my kid has to be the star”) or form character by helping their kids embrace their actual role on the team.
They also get into coachability—showing up on time, body language, attitude, receiving correction—and why those traits matter more than raw talent in both sports and life. Adam pulls back the curtain on his time pastoring future NFL players, including a brutal story of a second-string running back who missed a Super Bowl moment because he couldn’t be coached. From youth leagues to D1 and the pros, they wrestle with American individualism, money, fame, and how all of it shapes the way we see team, family, church, and calling.
If you’re a parent, coach, athlete, or just someone trying to raise (or become) a healthy adult in a me-first culture, this conversation will hit home.
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In this special live episode recorded at Daniel and Jackie Groves’ church, Adam and Ashlee dive into a transformative conversation about what it truly means to love well in marriage—not by achieving perfection, but by embracing honesty, healing, and spiritual alignment. Rooted in 1 Corinthians 13, they explore how declaring “I am patient, I am kind” isn’t pretending to be something we’re not—it’s prophesying who God is shaping us to become. Love becomes less about performing and more about surrendering to divine transformation.They also unpack the reality that our past doesn’t magically vanish when we get married or come to Christ. Every wound, decision, and old relationship comes into the new season with us unless we intentionally pursue healing. Adam and Ashlee break down the **three layers of intimacy—spiritual, emotional, and physical—**and explain why so many couples stay frustrated when these layers are built in the wrong order.One of the most freeing truths from this conversation: it is not our job to fix our spouse. It’s our job to intercede for them. When we stop trying to be the Holy Spirit in our marriage and instead bring our partner before God, we release the pressure—and make room for true transformation.Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, this episode calls you to build a love that lasts by letting God shape every layer of it.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Connect with Daniel & Jackie Groveshttps://www.instagram.com/degroves/https://www.instagram.com/jackiengroves/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
In this episode, Adam and Jermaine dig into the surge of Christian films and series—and what it really takes to translate Scripture to the screen with integrity. They unpack where creative license helps (and where it hurts), why the end message has to remain faithful, how scholar/pastor councils shape scripts, and the practical production tensions that come with timelines, budgets, and audience expectations.They also talk through recent and upcoming Bible-based projects, the importance of context and theology in pivotal scenes, and how live AI fact-checking can keep conversations sharp without slowing the flow. If you care about story, Scripture, and craft, this one’s for you.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Jermaine Baker https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Get Aaron Levy's book, JOHN: 21 Daily Drips of Dialogue: https://a.co/d/7lGB90i--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/
When convictions clash at the dinner table, how do you keep peace without caving? In this episode, Adam and Ashlee unpack how to handle family tension around faith—especially when relatives get offended or try to “Bible-bully” you. The core posture: a holy “don’t care” toward drama, not toward people. Hold your own convictions, honor others’ dignity, and refuse the bait. From navigating Catholic–Protestant differences (like communion etiquette and boundaries at Mass) to dealing with non-practicing relatives who still police your faith, this conversation offers level-headed language, real scripts, and a healthier way to love family without surrendering your walk with Jesus.You’ll hear how to separate emotions from truth, set clear boundaries with kindness, and keep inviting loved ones into your life even if they decline your church, baptism, or beliefs. The win? Living with consistent peace, character, and self-control so your life—not an argument—does the preaching. “I’m at peace with my convictions. I love you. You’re always invited.”--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com
In this solo episode, Adam gets practical about why so many young adults feel stuck at work—and what to do about it. No fluff, no finger-wagging. He lays out a clear four-part framework Gen Z (and anyone, really) can use to actually thrive: (1) build a personal foundation (character, routines, emotional control, time management), (2) level up relationally (real communication, conflict resolution, healthy boundaries, understanding personality types), (3) grow professionally (initiative, problem-solving, excellence, true professionalism), and (4) lock in purpose (make career moves that align with your values and long-term life rhythm).You’ll hear practical examples—from showing up on time and owning mistakes, to speaking clearly in person (not outsourcing your voice to AI), to earning recognition by solving real problems instead of chasing constant pats on the back. If you’ve wondered why “doing your job” hasn’t led to momentum—or how to turn discipline into opportunity—this episode gives you a straightforward playbook you can start using today.-Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Get Aaron Levy's book, JOHN: 21 Daily Drips of Dialogue: https://a.co/d/7lGB90i--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/