E110 | How to Say No Without Guilt – Without Shutting Down the Relationship

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E110 | How to Say No Without Guilt – Without Shutting Down the Relationship | Dr. Jen Fry

Building Healthy Relationships - The 4 Habits Podcast

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3 weeks ago

E110 | How to Say No Without Guilt – Without Shutting Down the Relationship | Dr. Jen Fry

Wish you could say “no” without guilt — and without shutting down the relationship?

In this powerful episode, continuing our theme on handling conflict and anger well (see episodes #104, #105, #106 & #109, in case you missed them), we’re joined by Dr. Jen Fry — conflict literacy expert, TEDx speaker, and author of I Said No: How to Have a Backbone and Boundaries Without Being a Jerk.

Jen helps people navigate emotionally loaded situations — from the workplace to home — without blowing up, backing down, or burning bridges. Whether you’re facing a toxic boss, managing team tension, or trying to speak up without disconnecting from people you care about, this conversation is packed with tools to help you say what needs to be said, in a way that protects both your peace and the relationship.

⏱️ EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)

00:00 | Welcome & why this topic matters

01:42 | Jen’s book “I Said No” – the real story behind it

04:08 | Conflict as a mirror: what it shows us about ourselves

07:30 | The cost of avoiding hard conversations

10:15 | When someone explodes — or shuts down

14:55 | Power dynamics, emotional safety & silence

19:40 | Scripts for setting boundaries without shame

24:22 | Saying no without being a jerk

28:10 | “You’re too much”: how to respond with clarity

32:50 | Tough talks in leadership and friendship

38:15 | From rupture to repair: handling emotional friction

44:05 | Conflict vs. disconnection — there’s a difference

48:22 | Jen’s final word: courage, clarity & connection

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