Can love survive betrayal? Can you truly rebuild trust, heal trauma, and find peace after infidelity, deception, or emotional wounds?
In this powerful episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, we dive deep into betrayal trauma recovery, emotional healing, rebuilding trust after infidelity, and restoring self‑worth in relationships. Our guest, Mr. Jay, a certified Betrayal Trauma Practitioner and Intrapersonal Relationship Coach, shares practical tools and hope‑filled insights for healing from broken trust, navigating emotional triggers, and repairing relationships after devastating betrayal.
Whether you’re struggling with relationship trust issues, learning to forgive after cheating, or trying to heal your nervous system and rebuild safety, this conversation will help you reconnect, recover, and rediscover your happily EVEN after.
⏱️ EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 | Welcome — and the power of relationships that heal
02:40 | What is betrayal trauma? (And why it cuts so deep)
05:12 | Why most people “cope” instead of actually healing
08:45 | Triggers: what they are and how to respond
13:50 | The “Intrapersonal” work that must come before relational healing
17:15 | Can trust ever really be rebuilt?
21:05 | How to show up when your partner is in pain
24:40 | How long does healing really take?
27:50 | Mr. Jay’s journaling tool — From Tears to Transformation
30:15 | Creating a Happily EVEN After
33:40 | What children need when they witness brokenness
36:50 | The surprising gift inside the pain
41:05 | Why broken crayons still colour beautifully
✅ NEXT STEPS SECTION
📍 Connect with Mr. Jay
🎧 Listen to More from The 4 Habits:
#BetrayalTrauma #HealingRelationships #RebuildTrust #IntrapersonalHealing #TriggersAndTrust #The4HabitsPod #MrJay #EmotionalRecovery #HealthyRelationships #RelationshipTools #HappilyEvenAfter #FromTearsToTransformation
How do you heal after a toxic relationship?
How to trust again?
In this heartfelt and hope-filled episode, Heather Melville, Certified Relationship & Life Coach, joins Dr. Andrea and Jon Taylor-Cummings to explore how women can rebuild their confidence, self-worth, and joy after years of emotional or physical abuse.
Heather shares her own story — eight years in a toxic relationship that left her doubting her value — and how she turned pain into purpose, now helping women move from heartbreak to healing.
Discover how to spot the red flags, break the cycle of toxic love, and restore your relationship with yourself first.
If you’ve ever lost your voice in a relationship or wondered how to trust again, this episode will meet you where you are and help you find your way back to freedom, confidence, and real love.
⏱️ EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 | How to heal after a toxic relationship
01:25 | Meet Heather Melville – from engineer to relationship coach
03:18 | The passion behind her mission to help others heal
04:50 | When you don’t realise a relationship is toxic
07:10 | The turning point: a solo move to Germany
10:00 | Rebuilding self-trust and the power of decision-making
11:30 | Red flags we ignore — and why
14:20 | Healing the relationship with yourself first
17:40 | “Dream Again” – rediscovering who you are
21:30 | Why women often lose their voice in relationships
25:00 | The journey to self-worth and healthy boundaries
30:00 | The neurological side of toxic attachment
37:10 | How to spot manipulation and reclaim emotional safety
43:00 | Forgiveness, freedom, and finding yourself again
45:30 | Heather’s free tools and coaching for rebuilding trust
✅ NEXT STEPS SECTION
📍 Connect with Heather Melville
– Website: https://www.healthyrelationships.info
– Dream Again worksheet: https://www.healthyrelationships.info/services-4/life-after-toxic-love
– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healthyrelationships.coach
– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558475200026
🎧 Listen to more from The 4 Habits:
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
– Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
– FREE Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
– Course: https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
– Book: https://the4habits.com/book
– Suggest a guest: hello@the4habits.com
#ToxicRelationships #HealingJourney #HealthyBoundaries #SelfWorth #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipAdvice#EmotionalHealing #LifeCoaching #The4HabitsPod #HealthyRelationships
Wish you could say “no” without guilt — and without shutting down the relationship?
In this powerful episode, continuing our theme on handling conflict and anger well (see episodes #104, #105, #106 & #109, in case you missed them), we’re joined by Dr. Jen Fry — conflict literacy expert, TEDx speaker, and author of I Said No: How to Have a Backbone and Boundaries Without Being a Jerk.
Jen helps people navigate emotionally loaded situations — from the workplace to home — without blowing up, backing down, or burning bridges. Whether you’re facing a toxic boss, managing team tension, or trying to speak up without disconnecting from people you care about, this conversation is packed with tools to help you say what needs to be said, in a way that protects both your peace and the relationship.
⏱️ EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 | Welcome & why this topic matters
01:42 | Jen’s book “I Said No” – the real story behind it
04:08 | Conflict as a mirror: what it shows us about ourselves
07:30 | The cost of avoiding hard conversations
10:15 | When someone explodes — or shuts down
14:55 | Power dynamics, emotional safety & silence
19:40 | Scripts for setting boundaries without shame
24:22 | Saying no without being a jerk
28:10 | “You’re too much”: how to respond with clarity
32:50 | Tough talks in leadership and friendship
38:15 | From rupture to repair: handling emotional friction
44:05 | Conflict vs. disconnection — there’s a difference
48:22 | Jen’s final word: courage, clarity & connection
✅ NEXT STEPS
📍 Connect with Dr. Jen Fry
– Website: https://jenfrytalks.com
– Book: https://jenfrytalks.com/book
– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenfrytalks
– Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/jenfrytalks
– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenfrytalks
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jenfrytalks
🎧 Listen to More from The 4 Habits:
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
– Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
– FREE Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
– Course:https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
– Book: https://the4habits.com/book/
– Suggest a guest: hello@the4habits.com
#SayNoWithoutGuilt #ConflictResolution #HealthyBoundaries#WorkplaceRelationships #EmotionalSafety #ToughConversations #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod #JenFry #HealthyRelationships
Wish you handled anger better? You’re not alone – and you’re not broken.
Learn how to transform anger into awareness. Dr. Mitch Abrams shares insights on emotional regulation, trauma, and emotional literacy.
In this powerful episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, Dr. Andrea & Jon sit down with Dr. Mitch Abrams, a clinical and forensic psychologist who has spent 20+ years helping people – from inmates to executives – transform how they understand and regulate anger.
Drawing from his bold book “I’m Not F*ing Angry!!!”, Mitch shares a radically compassionate take on anger management, emotional triggers, and what it really takes to build emotional control under pressure.
Whether you tend to explode or shut down, this episode unpacks:
– How anger can be a healthy response (if handled well)
– What trauma does to our emotional wiring
– How to press pause instead of reacting in regret
– Why most people don’t actually need “anger management” – they need emotional literacy
If you’re ready to build better relationships, lead under stress, or just stop saying things you regret – this one’s for you.
⏱️ EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 | The real story behind “I’m Not F***ing Angry!!!”
04:42 | Why prison taught Mitch more than his PhD
08:31 | Anger isn’t the problem – dysregulation is
11:58 | Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn: what’s your default?
15:36 | Men vs women: how we express anger differently
19:20 | “Emotional sobriety” – what it means and why it matters
24:05 | When high performers overheat: what to do
27:30 | How to press pause before you blow up
30:15 | Using anger as a force for healing
35:22 | Mitch’s personal journey with shame, burnout & rebuilding
39:40 | Final word: regulate, relate, respond
✅ NEXT STEPS
📍 Connect With Dr. Mitch Abrams:
– Book (I’m Not F*ing Angry!!!): https://drmitchabrams.com/books/im-not-fcking-angry/
– Website: https://www.drmitchabrams.com
– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mitchabramspsyd/
– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmitchabrams/
– X: https://x.com/MitchAbramsPsyD
🎧 For More from The 4 Habits:
– Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
– Listen Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
– Check your RQ (Relational Intelligence – FREE Quiz): http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
– Learn The 4 Habits in your own time (Online course):https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
– Get the Book: https://the4habits.com/book/
– Suggest a guest: hello@the4habits.com
#AngerManagement #EmotionalRegulation #WishYouHandledAngerBetter #TraumaHealing #HighPerformers #EmotionalIntelligence #RelationshipsMatter#HealthyRelationships #The4HabitsPod #PersonalGrowth #DrMitchAbrams #ConflictResolution #SelfLeadership
Want to lead with confidence, influence others without control, and build trust at work? Learn how to spot leadership blind spots, develop emotional intelligence, and create psychologically safe teams.
In Episode 108 of The 4 Habits Podcast, Dr. Andrea and Jon Taylor-Cummings speak with Dr. Adeyinka Adewale, Associate Professor of Leadership and Entrepreneurship at Henley Business School. Together they explore how influence, integrity and self-awareness shape the quality of our relationships at work and in life.
You’ll learn how to recognise your own blind spots using the Johari Window model, and why the habit of observation without judgment instantly reduces defensiveness and builds trust. Discover how to “connect before you correct,” reclaim moral courage in the workplace, and lead with authentic influence instead of authority.
Key themes: ethical leadership, emotional intelligence, relationship habits for leaders, trust building, and values-based decision making.
🕒 EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 Why leadership starts with self-awareness and relationships
02:15 Adeyinka’s story – from community projects to global policy
08:49 Leadership is influence, not control
12:34 The Johari Window and blind spots
17:44 Connect before you correct – trust in action
22:58 Integrity at home vs at work
26:51 Doing things right vs doing the right thing
28:16 Courage to go against conformity
32:39 Truth vs euphemisms in work culture
44:15 Observation without evaluation – a game-changer
🔗 NEXT STEPS
For Dr. Andrea & Jon Episodes
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
– Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
– Free Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
– Course:https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
– Book: https://the4habits.com/book/
– Guest suggestions: hello@the4habits.com
Guest Links
– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adeyinkaadewale/
– X (Twitter): https://twitter.com/yinkaadewale
– Book: The Wisdom of 40 Summers – Stories of Grace, Grit & Growth (Amazon)
#LeadershipDevelopment #IntegrityAtWork #EmotionalIntelligence #LeadershipBlindSpots #PsychologicalSafety #HealthyRelationships #TrustBuilding #CoachingSkills #ValuesBasedLeadership #The4HabitsPod #RelationshipHabits
Tired of conflict after divorce? Struggling to co-parent with someone who pushes all your buttons? This episode is your roadmap to co-parenting without conflict.
Family law expert Trina Nudson shares the tools, mindset shifts, and real-world systems that help separated parents stop fighting and start focusing on what matters most: their kids. Based in Kansas, Trina brings over 20 years of experience in family law, mediation, and social work, blending compassion with systems thinking.
As founder of The Layne Project, Trina has developed powerful conflict resolution tools like BeH2O®, a structured co parenting program, and BeAligned™, an AI-powered communication platform that helps parents manage emotional triggers and stay focused on their children.
You’ll learn:
– Why traditional court battles often deepen division
– How to shift from blame to strategic empathy
– The power of mindset in breaking high-conflict cycles
– Real stories of transformation using tech and trauma-informed support
– How to use co-parenting tools that actually work in high-stress situations
Whether you’re navigating a separation, supporting others through it, or working in family court reform, this episode is full of practical insights for creating calm, protecting childhoods, and fostering healthy relationships—without needing the courtroom.
⏱️ 4. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 Can co-parenting actually be peaceful after a breakup?
02:15 Trina’s “why”: protecting childhoods outside the courtroom
05:51 The real cost of courtroom battles
07:35 Why parents can’t “behave better” without mindset shifts
10:15 Strategic empathy: get curious, not combative
13:40 BeH2O® and BeAligned™ explained
17:55 The story of Philip & Jordan – healing through listening
23:20 AI + compassion = new tools for modern families
28:00 What every judge, lawyer, and parent needs to know
32:05 Trina’s legacy: changing systems, not just stories
🚀 5. NEXT STEPS
For Trina Nudson:
– Website: https://www.thelayneproject.com
– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/trinanudson
For The 4 Habits:
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
– Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
– FREE Relationship Skills Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
– The 4 Habits Book: https://the4habits.com/book/
– Blueprint Course: https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
– Suggest a guest: hello@the4habits.com
#CoParenting #HighConflictParenting #HealthyRelationships#WorkLifeBalance #The4HabitsPod #BeH2O #ParentingAfterDivorce #PeacefulParenting #StrategicEmpathy #FamilyLawReform #MindsetShift
Toxic people draining your energy? Here’s how to set boundaries that stick and finally stop the drama.
In this follow-up to Episode 105 with Megan Hunter, co founder of the High Conflict Institute, we go deeper with her business partner Bill Eddy — the pioneer of the High Conflict Personality Theory.
Where Megan showed us the quick hacks (like BIFF responses and EAR Statements) to calm conflict in the moment, Bill reveals the deeper psychology and introduces step-by-step methods to create lasting change. With decades of experience as a therapist, lawyer, and mediator, he shares practical tools like the CARS Method (Connect, Analyse, Respond, Set Limits) and his new SLICK Solutions framework for setting limits and imposing consequences.
You’ll learn:
– Why some people thrive on conflict — and how to stop feeding it
– Four things you should never do with toxic people
– The BIFF response that instantly diffuses hostile emails
– How to set boundaries that actually hold, without endless arguments
– Real-world stories of leaders, parents, and partners transforming toxic dynamics
If you enjoyed E105 with Megan Hunter, this is the perfect “part two” — giving you the mindset, methods, and confidence to stay calm and thrive with high conflict people at work and at home.
4. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 Welcome back – building on Megan Hunter’s Episode (E105)
02:00 Bill Eddy’s path: therapist, lawyer, mediator
07:20 Why some people are “high conflict” and what that really means
10:30 Court vs mediation: lessons on looking forward, not back
15:20 The 4 traits of high conflict personalities
21:35 The four things NOT to do in conflict
25:40 The CARS Method explained
29:40 The BIFF response for hostile emails and texts
30:55 SLICK Solutions: setting limits and imposing consequences
38:50 How to manage upwards when your boss is the problem
42:00 Should leaders keep or fire toxic high performers?
47:00 Resources: High Conflict Institute, ConflictInfluencer.com, and It’sAll Your Fault podcast
5. NEXT STEPS
For Bill Eddy:
For The 4 Habits:
#HighConflict #ConflictResolution #ToxicPeople #WorkplaceWellbeing #LeadershipTools #HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
Conflict resolution with toxic people at work or home doesn’t have to drain you. Learn the BIFF method (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) and EAR Statements (Empathy, Attention, Respect) — simple hacks to calm conflict and protect yourrelationships.
In this episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings sit down with Megan Hunter, CEO of High Conflict Institute and co-founder with Bill Eddy, to share practical tools for handling high-conflict personalities.
Known as The Conflict Influencer, Megan reveals science-backed methods that help leaders, parents, and partners reduce tension, set boundaries, and keep conversations productive.
We dive into:
– BIFF at Work: how to reply to hostile emails without fueling drama
– EAR Statements that instantly calm toxic behaviour
– Why trying to “hash it out” makes things worse with high-conflict people
– Boundaries that stick without escalating the situation
– What to do if you feel trapped in a high-conflict relationship
Megan’s work has trained thousands across 10 countries, giving hope that even the toughest relationships can be navigated with confidence.
🎧 Whether you’re managing difficult colleagues, co-parenting with conflict, or navigating tense family dynamics, this episode gives you the conflict resolution skills you need right now.
⏱️ EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 Welcome & Megan’s story – from justice system to Conflict Influencer
03:00 Why toxic behaviour is really a different operating system
07:00 The brain science: trauma, wiring, and defensiveness
10:00 First clue you’re dealing with high conflict (and not just you)
13:00 EAR Statements: empathy, attention, respect in action
18:00 Calm Before Think: CFO’s story of handling a toxic employee
24:00 BIFF at Work – how to reply to hostile emails without fueling them
30:00 Why apologies backfire and what to say instead
34:00 Hope & limits: when to calm and when to walk away
40:00 Where to get help: High Conflict Institute & ConflictInfluencer.com
46:00 Final thoughts: how everyone can build healthier conflict habits
🚀 NEXT STEPS
🔗 Connect with Megan Hunter:
– High Conflict Institute: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com
– Conflict Influencer: https://www.conflictinfluencer.com
– Podcast: It’s All Your Fault! (available on all major platforms)
– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/meganhunter
🎥 Watch more from The 4 Habits:
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
🎧 Listen on Spotify:
– https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
📘 Take the Free Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
📖 Get the Book: https://the4habits.com/book/
🎓 Join the Course:https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
#HealthyRelationships #ConflictResolution #HighConflict #WorkplaceCulture #The4HabitsPod #BIFFMethod#EmotionalResilience #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #LeadershipSkills
How to stop conflict wrecking your relationships is one of the most searched questions in conflict resolution, marriage communication, and workplace disputes. In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools to handle conflict better, build stronger connections, and transform difficult conversations into opportunities for growth.
Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings sit down with Canadian lawyer, mediator, and author Jacinta Gallant to explore how to stop conflict from destroying connection at work and at home. After walking away from a successful but draining career in divorce litigation, Jacinta discovered Insight Mediation and a new way of approaching disputes.
She explains how moving from “knowing” to “noticing” creates space for curiosity, empathy, and real understanding — whether with a partner, a colleague, or a client. You’ll learn how to disrupt defensive patterns, use the “hope question” to calm tension, and bring curiosity into even the toughest conversations.
If you’ve ever wanted to stop repeating the same arguments, improve workplace communication, or build resilience in long term relationships, this episode is packed with strategies you can use today.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 Welcome and Jacinta’s bio introduction
02:00 Why she left the courtroom to pursue a better way
05:45 Becoming a “learn-it-all” instead of a “know-it-all”
07:15 The first step: noticing defensiveness in yourself
12:30 Disrupting the certainty of “I know” in relationships
16:30 How curiosity transforms long-term marriage patterns
19:40 The neuroscience of curiosity: calming self and others
27:00 From telling to wondering: practical language shifts
33:00 Redefining conflict as defending behaviours, not problems
43:30 Tools for couples: “We need to talk” and interpretation loops
47:30 Going Steady: building connection through discovery
NEXT STEPS
A) Make It Personal – Connect with Jacinta Gallant:
B) Stay Plugged In – Never Miss an Episode:
C) Continue Your Journey – Learn, Grow, Share:
#JacintaGallant #ConflictResolution #InsightMediation #HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
Beat loneliness, build lasting adult friendships, and find your true “2AM friend”! 🌟 In this episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings sit down with Sheridan Voysey — author, broadcaster, and founder of Friendship Lab. Together, they explore why friendships are the overlooked superpower for wellbeing, how to move beyond loneliness, and the simple habits that create deeper, lasting connections.
Sheridan shares the personal wake-up call that inspired his mission, practical steps to cultivate your “2AM crew,” and evidence-based strategies to transform acquaintances into real friends. From check-ins and catch-ups to the four habits of lasting friendship — affection, generosity, vulnerability, and shared experiences — this episode is packed with tools to help you beat loneliness and build the friendships that matter most.
Whether you’re craving closer bonds, rebuilding after drift, or looking for more meaning in your relationships, this conversation will give you hope and a roadmap to friendships that last.
Episode Highlights (Timestamps)
00:00 The loneliness epidemic and why friendship is the antidote
02:30 Romance vs. friendship: the overlooked sibling
05:40 Sheridan’s wake-up call: “Who can you call at 2AM?”
09:57 The birth of Friendship Lab and its mission
13:15 Check-ins, catch-ups, and meet-ups: 3 habits to build deeper bonds
16:30 The 4 keys to real friendship: affection, generosity,vulnerability, shared experiences
21:44 How Gen Z and adults alike can start and sustain friendships
29:30 Overcoming shyness and awkward first meetings
34:25 Can men and women really be just friends?
42:00 Why senior leaders are the loneliest at work — and how to fix it
46:30 Friendships don’t break, they drift: how to stop theslide
NEXT STEPS
A) Make It Personal – Connect with Sheridan Voysey:
B) Stay Plugged In – Never Miss an Episode:
C) Continue Your Journey – Learn, Grow, Share:
#2AMFriend #BeatLoneliness #MakeGreatFriends #HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
Leadership isn’t luck – it’s intentional.
In this powerful episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings sit down with Bianca D’Alessio – top-ranked NYC real estate broker, star of HBO Max’s Selling the Hamptons, and author of Mastering Intentions: 10 Practices to Amplify Your Power and Lead with Lasting Impact.Bianca manages a $10B real estate portfolio, leads one of the highest-performing sales teams in the U.S., and has become a trusted voice on leadership, resilience, and intentional growth. But her story didn’t start at the top – she opens up about earning just $11,000 in her first year, navigating failed partnerships, embracing vulnerability, and building deep trust along the way.This episode explores what it really takes to lead with purpose, why “teamship” beats competition, and how intentional practices can transform both careers and relationships. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, a team leader, or someone striving to grow in influence, Bianca’s lessons on leadership, trust, and collaboration will inspire you to lead with clarity, courage, and lasting impact.
We explore:
Whether you’re leading a team, growing your career, ornavigating life transitions, this episode shows why intentionality is thedifference between fleeting wins and sustainable success.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 Why intentionality matters now
03:20 Childhood lessons and early resilience
05:50 From $11K first year to $10B portfolio
07:40 Saying yes to HBO’s Selling the Hamptons
09:44 Lessons from failed partnerships and red flags
12:00 “Teamship”: collaboration over competition
14:35 Building trust and loyalty in high-pressure markets
18:10 Daily practices for aligning with long-term vision
22:45 Leadership advice for the next generation
27:00 How Mastering Intentions is reshapingleadership
NEXT STEPS
A) Make It Personal – Connect with Bianca D’Alessio:
B) Stay Plugged In – Never Miss an Episode:
C) Continue Your Journey – Learn, Grow, Share:
#BiancaDAlessio #SellingTheHamptons #LeadershipLessons#NYCRealEstate #MasteringIntentions #HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
Surviving divorce isn’t easy — especially in the spotlight. In this episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, Dr. Andrea & Jon sit down with Stacy D. Phillips, one of America’s top family law attorneys who has guided celebrities, athletes, executives, and public figures through high-profile divorces and custody battles for over four decades.
Stacy reveals the hidden lessons from high-stakes cases that apply to all of us:
This is a rare behind-the-scenes look at divorce, resilience, and the power of treating people with dignity through the hardest chapters of life.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 | Divorce in the spotlight – emotional toll of public scrutiny
02:30 | Stacy’s journey into family law and high-profile cases
06:10 | Celebrities vs. everyone else: surprising similarities
07:30 | When lawyers save marriages instead of ending them
10:20 | Gender, power, and control in divorce dynamics
13:40 | Why money, health, and children often drive couples apart
18:00 | Avoiding repeated mistakes after separation
22:00 | The role of values in long-term compatibility
27:10 | Co-parenting challenges and resilience after breakup
33:00 | Stacy’s advice to the next generation about love and family
NEXT STEPS
Connect with Stacy D. Phillips:
Explore more from The 4 Habits:
#DivorceSupport #CelebrityDivorce #Resilience #CoParenting #ControlAndCompassion #HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
Celebrating 100 episodes of The 4 Habits Podcast! 🎉 Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings share 100 lessons on building healthy relationships at home, work, and life – plus surprises, standout moments, and advice for aspiring podcasters.
In this special reflection episode, hosted by our “Podfather” Tolu Adebekun, we cover:
🙏 Thank you for being part of this journey — here’s to the next 100!
⏱ Chapters
[00:00] Welcome & milestone moment – Andrea opens, Jon reflects, and Tolu takes over as host.
[01:23] What’s surprised you most? – From unexpected wisdom to 78% male listeners!
[06:02] What’s the podcast all about? – The three pillars: Harmony at Home, Thrive at Work, Win at Life.
[08:40] How has the journey shaped you? – Market research in action, insights beyond our expertise,clarity through guest stories.
[22:36] Standout moments: Harmony at Home – Which guests made us rethink our own habits at home.
[29:51] Standout moments: Thrive at Work – How leaders are reframing love, listening, and leadership.
[33:05] Standout moments: Winat Life – Self-care, purpose, and dignity in everyday relationships.
[37:36] What’s next for the podcast? – Compassionate leadership, relationship-centred business, evenreal estate.
[42:07] Advice for aspiring podcasters – Know your WHY, build consistency, focus on value.
[43:55] Closing thanks – To Tolu, to our listeners, and to everyone who has been part of this milestone.
📢 Next Steps
As promised, here are the links to various episodes mentioned:
Harmony @ Home
Thrive @ Work
Win @ Life
Want to go deeper:
#HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod #PodcastMilestone #LeadershipDevelopment #SelfCare #LoveAtWork
Discover the small daily habit that can transform your relationships at work and at home. In this inspiring conversation, The 4 Habits Podcast hosts Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings sit down with award-winning international speaker, best-selling author and career strategist Tom O’Neil to explore why trust is the foundation of all great relationships — and how to build it one day at a time.
Drawing on his 1% Principle and three decades of experience in HR, recruitment and career consulting, Tom shares how tiny, consistent actions can strengthen trust, boost career success, and protect the personal connections that matter most. From avoiding the “career crash” to finding post-COVID balance, you’ll get practical strategies to grow trust without sacrificing results.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (Timestamps)
00:00 – Welcome & introduction to Tom O’Neil
02:37 – Why trust is the foundation of all relationships
05:38 – The hidden costs of career success without balance
08:52 – How The 1% Principle can change your life andrelationships
12:24 – Post-COVID shifts in work-life expectations
15:50 – Negotiating flexibility without losing performance
19:10 – Avoiding the “career crash” by prioritising theright things
24:45 – Why only 5–10% of people have written life goals —and how to join them
28:32 – Lessons from working with global leaders on careerand personal growth
33:15 – Final thoughts on keeping connection alive over thelong term
✅ NEXT STEPS
A) Make It Personal – Connect with Tom O’Neil:
– Website: https://www.tomoneil.com
– Careers Consultancy: https://www.cv.co.nz
– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tomoneil
– The 1% Principle (HarperCollins):https://www.harpercollins.com/products/the-1-principle-tom-oneil
B) Stay Plugged In – Never Miss an Episode:
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
– Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
C) Continue Your Journey – Learn, Grow, Share:
– Free Relationship Skills Quiz:http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
– Online Self-Paced Course:https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
– Get the Book: https://the4habits.com/book/
#TomONeil #BuildTrust #1PercentPrinciple #CareerSuccess#LifeBalance #HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
Divorce recovery, co-parenting tips, and emotional resilience after separation — this raw and powerful episode with Certified Divorce Coach Brenda Bridges is for anyone asking: “How do I get through this without wrecking the kids, my finances, or myself?”
When Brenda heard the words “I want a divorce,” everything unravelled. $120,000 later, with no co-parenting relationship and deep emotional fallout, she realised: There has to be a better way.
In this honest and deeply practical conversation, Brenda shares:
Whether you’re navigating divorce, supporting someone who is, or simply want to handle conflict better, this episode offers hope, strategy, and transformation.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 – The emotional punch of “Oh S#*! I’m getting divorced”
04:10 – Brenda’s $120,000 divorce: what went wrong
07:45 – Why logic-based advice fails emotionally-driven decisions
12:20 – How not being prepared broke her co-parenting future
15:00 – A tool for post-divorce decisions: The Values-Based Compass
18:45 – How children absorb the conflict we try to hide
22:10 – The moment Brenda decided: “There has to be a better way”
26:30 – Real client story: from betrayal to a breakthrough
31:15 – What professionals juggling custody and careers need to hear
36:00 – The legacy Brenda wants to leave in every family law court
✅ NEXT STEPS
A) Make It Personal – Connect with Brenda Bridges:
– Website: https://www.bridgingdivorcesolutions.com
– LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendabbridges/
– Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BridgingDivorceSolutions
– Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bridgingdivorcesolutions/
– Podcast: https://www.bridgingdivorcesolutions.com/podcast
B) Stay Plugged In – Never Miss an Episode:
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
– Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
C) Continue Your Journey – Learn, Grow, Share:
– Free Relationship Skills Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
– Online Self-Paced Course:https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
– Get the Book: https://the4habits.com/book
#DivorceSupport #CoParentingTips #EmotionalResilience #RelationshipAdvice #WorkLifeBalance#HealthyRelationships #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
Resolve conflict fast with four powerful questions that upgrade your communication skills, handle difficult conversations and lift emotional intelligence at work and home.
Leadership coach Chuck Wisner shares how the Desire, Concern, Power and Standard questions transform tense meetings into honest collaboration. We unpack the four conversation types, see why mixing facts and feelings sparks arguments, and hear real stories of teams moving from tension to trust.
We explore:
• The architecture-firm crisis that pushed Chuck to study language
• Why facts, feelings and opinions need different rules
• Storytelling to Commitment: the four-step journey to results
• The “drive-by PowerPoint” saga and our habit of saying yes
• Swapping 100 percent perfection for an 80 percent gold standard
Whether you lead a team, raise kids or just want better relationships, these questions give you a repeatable way to calm conflict and build trust.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (Timestamps)
00:00 Welcome: why conscious conversations matter
02:25 Architecture-firm meltdown becomes a wake-up call
04:50 Facts, feelings, opinions: get the mix right
09:45 Four conversation types with real examples
14:40 Commitment talks: sloppy promises kill trust
16:34 “Addicted to yes”: the PowerPoint mis-commitment
25:46 Four self-questions that open any clenched fist
32:23 Eighty beats one hundred: a GP’s eureka moment
38:10 Why leaders should speak last to invite candour
44:55 Chuck’s vision of a conversation-literate culture
NEXT STEPS
A) Make It Personal – Connect with Chuck Wisner
• Website: https://chuckwisner.com
• Book: The Art of Conscious Conversations | https://a.co/d/dZcfzSj
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chuckwisner/
B) Stay Plugged In – Never Miss an Episode
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
• Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
C) Continue Your Journey – Learn, Grow, Share
• Free Relationship Skills Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
• Online Self-Paced Course:https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
• Get the Book: https://the4habits.com/book/
#HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod #ConflictResolution #CommunicationSkills #DifficultConversations #EmotionalIntelligence #ConsciousConversations
Escape domestic abuse, rebuild your confidence, and find your voice. Felicity Okolo shares her survivor story and path to healing in this powerful episode of The 4 Habits Podcast.
Felicity Okolo – domestic abuse survivor, speaker, and founder of Speak & Sell™ – shares how she escaped violence, rebuilt her life, and now empowers others to heal and lead. From overcoming fear to regaining financial and emotional independence, this episode offers a message of hope and practical tools for anyone affected by abuse.
We explore:
• Why people stay stuck in abusive relationships
• How to rebuild self-worth and financial freedom
• Why speaking up is the first step to healing
Whether you're a survivor, supporter, or simply looking for strength, this conversation is a must-listen.
4. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 – Meet Felicity: voice coach, survivor, advocate
02:15 – The real reason she created Speak & Sell™
05:10 – Her journey through (and out of) domestic abuse
09:03 – The silent fear that keeps people stuck
13:40 – How your voice becomes your turning point
17:55 – Building financial independence after trauma
23:17 – The emotional cost of staying silent
26:08 – Felicity’s confidence-anchoring habit
30:10 – What to do if you feel voiceless right now
33:45 – Her message for those still in the storm
🚀 NEXT STEPS
A) Make It Personal – Connect with Felicity Okolo:
• Website: https://felicityokolo.com
• Book: It Is My Life And I’m In Charge –https://amzn.eu/d/c96kWSS
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/felicityokolo
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/felicityokolo
• National Domestic Violence Line (UK): 0808 200 0247
B) Stay Plugged In – Never Miss an Episode:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
C) Continue Your Journey – Learn, Grow, Share:
Free Relationship Skills Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
Online Self-Paced Course: https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
Get the Book: https://the4habits.com/book/
#EscapeDomesticAbuse #FindYourVoice #FelicityOkolo#SpeakAndSell #TraumaRecovery #ConfidenceAfterAbuse #HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
Is home really a safe place? For millions, it’s not. In this powerful episode, TEDx speaker and Osso Safe founder Sabrina Osso shares how we can make safety the norm — at home, work, and school.
In this episode…
Sabrina Osso brings truth and hope to a difficult topic: home violence. From her personal story to her groundbreaking work in real estate and education, Sabrina is redefining safety where it matters most. We explore how trauma impacts relationships, why landlords and leaders must act, and what tools families and kids can use to stay safe.
Whether you’re a parent, manager, educator or survivor — this conversation will stay with you.
⏱️ 4. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 – “There’s no shame in safety”: Meet Sabrina Osso
04:15 – Growing up in fear: when home isn’t safe
08:42 – Why safety is everyone’s business—not just law enforcement
13:10 – The link between home violence and workplace performance
17:22 – Osso Safe: What it is and how it works
21:45 – Her bold pitch to landlords and property owners
26:30 – How Sabrina uses real estate to drive change
29:18 – The power of speaking out: overcoming shame and silence
34:12 – Teaching safety through books: “Home Safe Home” for kids
38:00 – What every leader should ask about safety in their teams
41:55 – The surprising advice Sabrina gives children about relationships
45:10 – Her dream for a future of safe, respectful homes
🚀 NEXT STEPS
A) Make It Personal – Connect with Sabrina Osso:
B) Stay Plugged In – Never Miss an Episode:
C) Continue Your Journey – Learn, Grow, Share:
#HomeSafety #TraumaHealing #DomesticViolenceAwareness#OssoSafe #FeelSafe #Advocacy #RealEstateSafety #HealthyRelationships#WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
Feeling stuck, unseen, or “not enough”? It might be time to rewrite your story.
In this powerful episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, high performance coach Kimberly Spencer (founder of CrownYourself.com) reveals how to break free from the limiting narratives keeping you small—and how to reclaim your identity, purpose, and power.
Through her trauma-informed, body-based approach, Kimberly shows how to go from high-achieving burnout to aligned, intentional living. Whether you’re dealing with self doubt, chasing external validation, or leading through emotional exhaustion—this conversation offers deep mindset tools to help you lead from sovereignty, not struggle.
🔥 We cover:
- Why high performers still feel “not enough”
- How trauma affects identity + performance
- The difference between control and sovereignty
- How to shift your mindset with somatic tools
- What habits drive authentic, empowered leadership
👑 You’ll walk away with:- A renewed sense of personal agency
- Practical tools for emotional resilience
- Permission to finally crown yourself
💬 QUESTION FOR YOU:
What’s one limiting story you’re ready to let go of? Drop it in the comments 👇
⏱️ HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS
00:00 | Crowning yourself—what it really means
04:14 | Why high-achievers still feel “not enough”
08:47 | Breaking free from a self-limiting identity
13:22 | How trauma shows up in high performers
18:36 | The cost of control vs. the power of sovereignty
21:55 | A somatic tool to shift state in real time
27:40 | Identity-based change: rewriting the script
33:18 | Emotional agility as a leadership edge
39:12 | Kimberly’s hopes for her son—and her legacy
NEXT STEPS
GUEST LINKS:
🌐 Website: https://crownyourself.com
📘 Book: https://www.communicationqueens.com/book
📸 Instagram:@crownyourselfnow | @kimberly.spencer
🎥 YouTube: Crown Yourself TV
👥 LinkedIn: Kimberly Spencer
🎙️ Ambassador Program: Join Here
THE 4 HABITS RESOURCES:
🔗 Take the Quiz: the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
📘 Get the Book: the4habits.com/book
🎓 Relationship Course: learn.the4habits.com
📺 Watch on YouTube: @The4Habits
🎧 Listen on Spotify: The 4 Habits Podcast
#RewriteYourStory #TraumaInformedLeadership #SelfLeadership #HighPerformanceCoach #HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod
💥 Angry but unsure what to do with it?
This week, we dive deep with psychotherapist and podcasthost Bronwyn Schweigerdt to flip the script on one of the mostmisunderstood emotions – anger.
You’ll learn:
Whether you’re a high-functioning professional, a parent, orjust tired of feeling disconnected, this episode could shift your entire emotional landscape.
⏱️ HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)
00:00 – Why anger isn’t the problem
02:01 – Bronwyn’s personal crash and emotional awakening
05:15 – The hidden link between anger and depression
08:51 – How suppressing rage makes us sick
11:20 – Inner child wounds and the fear of being “too much”
13:35 – “That argument with my daughter cracked it open”
16:45 – From reactivity to clarity: how anger gives us truth
19:10 – The Integration Exercise: talking to your inner child
24:00 – Healing starts with honouring your feelings
🔗 NEXT STEPS
A) Make It Personal – Connect with Bronwyn
– Podcast: https://angryattherightthings.podbean.com/
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bronwynschweigerdt1382
– LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/bronwyn-schweigerdt-3124857/
B) Stay Plugged In
– YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@The4Habits
– Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/0fWvVbnNNhh9jodRYGG1O1
C) Continue Your Journey
– FREE Quiz: http://the4habitsquiz.scoreapp.com
– Self-Paced Course:https://learn.the4habits.com/courses/rq-blueprint-for-healthy-relationships
– Get the Book: https://the4habits.com/book/
💬 Like, comment, and share – relationships are built on purpose, not by accident.
#EmotionalHealing #RadicalValidation #SuppressedAnger#InnerChildWork #TherapyTools #HealthyRelationships #WorkLifeBalance #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #The4HabitsPod