Are you afraid to be seen for who you truly are? Do you shrink yourself, avoid opportunities, or feel anxious about standing out? You’re not alone.

In this episode of Building "The You" You Want, Ayanda dives deep into the fear of being seen—where it comes from, how it holds us back, and most importantly, how to rewire your brain so that visibility feels safe.

We’ll explore:

✅ Why our brains fear being seen

✅ How childhood experiences shape our self-perception

✅ Everyday ways this fear manifests (procrastination, perfectionism, people-pleasing)

✅ Simple techniques to shift from fear to confidence

✅ Journal prompts to help you embrace your authenticity

The easiest way to change is to reprogram your mind—and today, we’re starting that process together. Tune in and learn how to step into your light with confidence!

🎧 Listen now and start your journey toward authenticity.

Let’s be real, your dream life has a standard, and if you’re not holding yourself to it, who will? In this episode, we’re talking about accountability: showing up for yourself, keeping your word, and actually doing the things you say you’re going to do. No more excuses. No more empty promises. Just full responsibility and follow-through

We’re breaking it all down in a way that’s real, relatable, and actually helpful. Because once you own your actions, habits, and mindset, everything starts to change.

Key Questions & Hard Truths We’re Discussing:

💭 Are you holding yourself to the same standard that your dream life expects from you?

💭 Do your actions actually match your words?

💭 What excuses are you making, and how can you cut them off today?

⚡ Your lack of accountability is the reason why you have low confidence, no discipline, and don’t trust yourself.

💭 What are some easy ways to build accountability into your daily life?

This episode is all about alignment—making sure your inner world and outer world are in sync. Too often, we let outside opinions, expectations, and fears pull us away from what we truly want. But when you block out the noise and fully trust yourself, you step into your highest alignment—where your thoughts, words, actions, and environment all match the life you truly desire.

🎧 Topics We Cover:

-Setting boundaries that protect your peace and energy

-Holding your standards higher than their opinions

-Taking intentional action to align your life with your true desires

-Trusting yourself and moving with clarity, confidence, and ease

This is your reminder: You don’t need their validation. You need your own alignment. Let’s talk about it.

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In this episode, we’re talking about the many ‘deaths’ we experience in life the loss of old dreams, friendships that fade, relationships that end, and the versions of ourselves we outgrow. How do we mourn these losses without being consumed by regret, anger, or resentment? How do we honor what was while embracing what’s next? Let's talk about it

Are you proud of yourself? Like, really proud? We spend so much time chasing goals and waiting for external validation that we forget to celebrate how far we’ve come. In this episode, we’re diving into the power of self-empowerment, self-validation, and truly owning your wins.

You don’t need permission to be proud of yourself. You don’t need applause to know you’re doing great. You are your own biggest fan.

💡 Key Takeaways:
✔️ Why clapping for yourself is a game-changer
✔️ Growth isn’t always visible—why you’re doing better than you think
✔️ Becoming the person your younger self dreamed of
✔️ Hype yourself the way you hype your friends

Let’s start celebrating our own journey. Drop a comment: What’s one thing you’re proud of today? 🏆

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Feeling stuck? Like life’s just happening to you instead of for you? In this episode, we’re diving into how to actually get your spark back—without the whole “reinvent yourself” speech. We’re talking real, tangible ways to bring joy back into your daily routine. From “yay me” moments to scheduling little glimmers of happiness, this is your sign to stop surviving and start thriving. Let’s bring back the vibes💫✨

Success isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. In this episode, we’re breaking down what success actually looks like for YOU—not society, not your parents, not social media. Are you chasing a goal that truly fulfills you, or just one that looks good on paper? Let’s redefine success and make sure the destination is one that actually makes you happy.

Your standards shape your life—period. The way you define yourself, the values you uphold, and the people you surround yourself with all play a role in your growth and success. In this episode, we’re getting real about setting personal standards, standing on business when it comes to who you are, and making sure your actions align with the person you want to be known as.

We’ll also dive into the power of your environment—how the people around you can either elevate or diminish your standards, and why “birds of a feather flock together” isn’t just a saying, it’s real life. If you’re ready to level up and create a life that reflects your highest self, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we’re diving into the 5 C’s: Clarity, Consistency, Compassion, Confidence, and Communication. These are the pillars that I’ve come to realize are essential for building the best version of yourself.

We’ll explore what each of these pillars means, the questions you need to ask yourself to unlock them, and how they work together to create a solid foundation for growth. From getting honest about your goals to being kinder to yourself, building inner trust, and aligning your actions with your purpose, it all starts with you.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of how to move forward, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about how these 5 C’s can help you get clear, build confidence, and stay consistent in creating the life you want.

It’s time to step into your true self

In this episode, we’re getting real about shame—what it is, how it sneaks into our lives, and the heavy toll it takes on our self-worth. I’ll share a personal story about how shame turned into self-bullying, leaving me stuck in a cycle of fear and self-doubt that kept me from going after my goals.

We’ll talk about how shame can paralyze us, make us feel unworthy, and hold us back from being our best selves. But we’re also going to dig into how to recognize shame for what it is, call it out, and start moving forward with self-compassion and confidence.

This isn’t just a conversation about shame—it’s about freeing ourselves from it and taking back our power. Let’s unpack it together.

This episode is all about starting the journey to discovering who you truly are by embracing vulnerability. We’ll dive into how opening up and being honest with ourselves can help us grow, communicate more clearly, and build the confidence to express who we are. This isn’t me teaching you—it’s us learning together, step by step, to articulate our thoughts, navigate challenges, and become more authentic versions of ourselves. Vulnerability isn’t a weakness; it’s the foundation of finding your voice, and we’re going to explore that together.