In this episode, I share about my journey with fawning (and realizing how the survival mechanism that kept me safe was now keeping me stuck). If you've ever felt like you're holding back your true self in your life or business, this episode is for you.
Topics covered:
- Growing up in a high-control religion and its impact on my self-worth
- How the desire to control how others perceive you stifles creative expression
- The subtle ways fawning shows up (and why it’s so difficult to stop)
- The creative pause and my process of reclaiming authentic expression
- How my business coaching work has shifted
- Journaling prompts to release performance and deepen your creative expression
Content Warning: This episode contains brief discussions of child abuse, religious abuse, self-harm, and mental health issues. Please note the timestamp (05:28) to skip this section.
Chapters:
- (00:00) My Journey with Fawning and Self-Suppression
- (02:18) The Disconnect: Shallow Content vs. Rich Stories
- (05:28) Childhood Trauma, Religious Abuse, and Resisting Authority (CW)
- (09:47) How Fawning Affected My Life and Relationships
- (12:39) The Healing Journey: Parts Work, MDMA, and Human Design
- (17:16) Workplace Abuse and the Vicious Cycle of Fawning, Anger, and Shame
- (22:20) Uncovering the Subtle Ways Fawning Showed Up in My Business
- (25:50) Why I Started My Business and The Cost of Staying Safe in Performance
- (27:57) How I Reclaimed My Authentic Expression and Shifted My Direction
- (37:31) Why Your Environment is Crucial for Personal and Business Growth
- (38:11) Questions for Your Own Creative Exploration
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