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Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Choose Recovery Services - Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey
283 episodes
3 days ago
Choose to Be is about healing, growth, and choosing recovery after betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Hosts share insights on emotional healing, authentic relationships, and the journey of rebuilding trust. Learn tools for self-compassion, integrity, and trust-building as you heal from pain and reclaim hope, peace, and connection. Alana Gordon-LMFT, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach Amie Woolsey-Certified Brainspotting Practioner, Martin Warner AT Somatic Interweaves for DBR, PCP, APSATS-CPC, ELI-MP, COR.E, C-DGS ChooseRecoveryServices.com | info@chooserecoveryservices.com
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Choose to Be is about healing, growth, and choosing recovery after betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Hosts share insights on emotional healing, authentic relationships, and the journey of rebuilding trust. Learn tools for self-compassion, integrity, and trust-building as you heal from pain and reclaim hope, peace, and connection. Alana Gordon-LMFT, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach Amie Woolsey-Certified Brainspotting Practioner, Martin Warner AT Somatic Interweaves for DBR, PCP, APSATS-CPC, ELI-MP, COR.E, C-DGS ChooseRecoveryServices.com | info@chooserecoveryservices.com
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Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
When It’s Time to Shift: How to Know You’re Ready for the Next Phase of Healing

If healing feels uncomfortable lately, this episode is for you.

This week Alana talks about the difference between dysregulation and readiness — and how discomfort can be a sign you’re ready to move from survival into growth. This episode offers a compassionate, trauma-informed reframe for betrayal trauma survivors who feel stuck, restless, or unsure of their next step.

You’re not broken. You might just be ready. 

Chapters

  • 01:55 Understanding Discomfort in Healing

  • 05:53 Signs of Being Stuck vs. Being Tender

  • 08:05 Recognizing the Need for Change

  • 13:22 The Role of Talk Therapy and Somatic Work

  • 18:06 Visualizing the Healing Process

  • 21:15 Empowerment and Moving Forward

Register Now!

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services


  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

Show more...
3 days ago
27 minutes 39 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
You Are Not Broken: Healing Betrayal Trauma and Attachment Wounds After Infidelity - with Dr. Laney Knowlton

Betrayal doesn’t just hurt—it changes how you attach, trust, and feel safe.

Dr. Laney Knowlton (LMFT-S, CSAT-S, CPTT-S, CCPS, CST, CCRDS-S, RAE) joins Amie and Alana and explains how betrayal trauma impacts attachment styles, why disorganized attachment is so common after infidelity, and how healing can happen even if your relationship doesn’t survive.

If you’ve ever wondered “Am I broken forever?”—this episode is for you.

Together, we unpack:

  • Why betrayal often creates disorganized attachment

  • How attachment styles shift after trauma

  • The difference between innocent trust and earned trust

  • Why healing is possible—even if your partner never changes

  • How recovery can lead to deeper connection, confidence, and joy

Connect with Dr. Knowlton by visiting her website, checking out her worksheets, or reading her book, Healing From Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors

 Chapters

  • 00:54 Introducing Dr. Laney Knowlton

  • 04:07 Understanding Attachment Styles

  • 09:59 Impact of Betrayal on Attachment

  • 14:06 Navigating Betrayal and Recovery

  • 17:06 Challenges in Seeking Support

  • 22:15 Understanding Normal Responses to Trauma

  • 24:46 Stages of Recovery

  • 25:08 The Role of Healthy Sexuality

  • 37:58 The Path to Self-Connection and Joy

Register Now!

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, and finding joy once again.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

Show more...
1 week ago
44 minutes 24 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
How to Heal By Discovering the Stories We Tell Ourselves - with Bella

The stories we tell ourselves after trauma shape everything—our relationships, boundaries, and sense of worth.

In this episode, Bella shares her raw and transformative recovery journey, revealing how childhood trauma, shame, and survival defenses silently guided her life until everything fell apart. Through therapy, inner child healing, and radical self-honesty, she learned to rewrite the story—and reclaim herself.

A must-listen for anyone seeking healing, post-traumatic growth, or freedom from shame-based narratives.

Chapters

  • 01:44 Bella’s Traumatic Experience

  • 02:49 The Journey to Recovery

  • 04:08 Understanding Childhood Patterns

  • 04:32 Facing Family of Origin Work

  • 09:40 The Turning Point in Therapy

  • 19:07 Living in Reality and Self-Acceptance

  • 22:19 Tools for Healing and Growth

  • 27:26 Gratitude and Love as Recovery Tools

Register Now!

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services


  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.
Show more...
2 weeks ago
33 minutes 21 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
When the Holidays Hurt: Staying Steady Through Triggers, Trauma, and Confusing Emotions

Holidays can be triggering when you’re healing from betrayal or navigating a tender recovery season. Your body remembers the pain, even when your mind wants to enjoy the good moments.

This episode offers grounding tools, emotional validation, and practical strategies to move through the season without shame, self-judgment, or overwhelm. Learn why your reactions make sense and how to support yourself one moment at a time.

Chapters

  • 00:13 Confusing Emotions During the Holidays

  • 02:00 Holding It All Together

  • 04:30 Your Nervous System Is Trying to Protect You

  • 05:55 Validation That You Are Enough

  • 10:21 Slow Down and Believe Your Body

  • 15:05 Your Presence Matters

  • 16:26 Season of Support Webinar Series Information

Register Now!

  • Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.
Show more...
3 weeks ago
18 minutes 45 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Broken to Brave - with Tammy Gustafson

What happens after betrayal turns your life upside down? In this hope-filled episode, Amie and Alana talk with author and expert Tammy Gustafson, LPC, whose new book Broken to Brave maps out the four phases of healing after intimate betrayal.

Together they explore:

  • Why early urgency (“Should I stay or go?”) can derail healing

  • What the nervous system needs after relational trauma

  • Why trust isn't yours to “give back” — it’s his to earn

  • The most common places betrayed partners get stuck

  • How post-traumatic growth reshapes your entire sense of self

Connect with Tammy:

  • Tammy’s website

  • Broken to Brave book

Chapters

02:17 Shock and Overwhelm04:21 Why Slowing Down Matters05:19 Stay or Go? 08:08 The Rumble16:47 Trusting Too Soon20:51 He Broke It - He Has to Fix It21:49 What Betrayed Partners Can Control24:02 Post-Traumatic Growth27:43 Permission to Heal Your Way29:49 Rise, Renew, and Restore Retreat

Register Now!

  • Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.
Show more...
1 month ago
31 minutes 36 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Betrayal Trauma and Divorce: When Is It Time to Consider Divorce?

When betrayal trauma enters a relationship, the question “Should I stay or should I go?” becomes unavoidable—even if it feels terrifying to consider. In this episode, Amie explores trauma-informed ways to evaluate safety, patterns, repair, and whether healing is possible inside the relationship.

You’ll learn why considering divorce is not the same as choosing it, how to assess real change, and how to reclaim agency, clarity, and emotional safety.

Chapters

  • 02:07 The Fear and Stigma of Divorce

  • 04:36 Freedom to Consider Divorce

  • 05:54 Two Realities

  • 10:17 Impact on Children and Personal Well-Being

  • 19:44 Pattern Journaling

  • 21:01 Season of Support: Holiday Webinar Series

  • 25:21 When the Damage is Too Great

  • 27:00 Reclaiming Agency 

  • 39:40 The Cost of Staying vs. Leaving

Register Now!

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

  • Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Jan 27-30, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal.

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.
Show more...
1 month ago
43 minutes 30 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
What Couple Check-ins Are (and Aren’t): A Trauma-Informed Guide

In this episode, Amie and Alana unpack what a couple check-in really is, why so many partners feel confused or re-injured during them, and how to structure check-ins in a way that protects emotional safety.

They discuss readiness, timing, frequency, boundaries, and why the betraying partner must lead the process—not as a checkbox, but as genuine accountability. If your check-ins feel tense, weaponized, or performative, this episode offers clarity and validation.

Chapters

  • 02:49 Understanding Couples Check-ins

  • 03:58 Purpose and Timing of Check-ins

  • 06:06 Navigating Early Stages of Recovery

  • 08:50 Challenges and Misconceptions

  • 18:42 Different Models of Check-ins

  • 22:05 The Pitfalls of Check-ins

  • 23:04 Managing Expectations in Recovery

  • 28:27 Taking Responsibility

  • 35:20 Avoiding Weaponization in Check-ins

Register Now!

  • Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

  • Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Jan 27-30, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal.

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.
Show more...
1 month ago
42 minutes 21 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
This Is Your Body on Trauma: How Nutrition Creates Safety After Betrayal - with Meg Bowman

Trauma lives in the body—sometimes long after the crisis ends. In this episode, nutritionist and trauma specialist Meg Bowman (MS, CNS, LDN, CHES) breaks down how food, stress, safety, and the nervous system are woven together.

You’ll learn why your body might still feel unsafe, how trauma impacts digestion and hunger, and what compassionate nutrition can do to support betrayal trauma recovery. We also explore simple practices to help your body shift out of survival mode.

Perfect for anyone navigating relational trauma, burnout, chronic stress, or dysregulation.

Connect with Meg:

  • This Is Your Body on Trauma book

  • Website

Chapters

  • 00:16 Introducing Meg Bowman

  • 01:47 Holistic Healing and Trauma

  • 02:44 Nutrition and Trauma Recovery

  • 04:09 Practical Tips for Nutrition and Safety

  • 08:08 Challenges and Self-Compassion

  • 11:59 Polyvagal Theory

  • 27:44 Holiday Nutrition and Emotional Triggers

Register Now!

  • Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.


  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

  • Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Jan 27-30, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

  • Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

Show more...
1 month ago
36 minutes 1 second

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
What Emotional Regulation Really Means (and What It Doesn't)

What if “calm” isn’t emotional regulation — but a trauma response? In this compassionate teaching episode, Amie Woolsey clarifies what emotional regulation really is (and isn’t). Discover how to recognize suppression, spiritual bypassing, and fawning patterns — and learn how to come back to safety in your body without pretending to be “okay.”

Perfect for anyone healing from betrayal trauma, addiction dynamics, or relational wounds.

👉 Explore more healing tools at www.chooserecoveryservices.com

Referenced in this episode:

  • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents - by Lindsay C. Gibson

  • Feelings Wheel

Chapters

  • 00:53 Clarifying Misconceptions About Emotional Regulation

  • 02:15 What Emotional Regulation Is Not

  • 05:34 Understanding True Emotional Regulation

  • 16:28 Challenges in Practicing Emotional Regulation

  • 27:10 Tools for Emotional Regulation

Register Now!

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

  • Revive and Thrive Somatic  Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Jan 27-30, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services


  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

Show more...
1 month ago
35 minutes 1 second

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Listening to Your Body

Your body has been holding the truth all along—through chronic pain, gut instincts, and nervous system activation that won't settle. Learn why listening to your body is essential for healing from betrayal trauma, even when you're still waiting for full disclosure or struggling with hypervigilance. 

Discover how to find closure without confession, reconnect with your body's wisdom, and move from seeking external proof to reclaiming your internal knowing.

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • How trauma shows up as chronic illness and what your body is trying to tell you

  • Why healing from betrayal doesn't depend on your partner's honesty

  • 5 somatic practices to rebuild trust with yourself and calm your nervous system

Referenced in this episode:

  • The Elements of Abuse podcast series with Kim Day and Amie - Part 1: The Power of Awareness, Part 2: The Power of Accepting Reality, Part 3: The Power to Act

Chapters

  • 01:36 Listening to Your Body

  • 02:47 Chronic Pain

  • 05:30 Disconnecting From the Body

  • 07:12 Consequences of Ignoring the Body

  • 11:09 Somatic Work and Healing

  • 21:45 Practical Steps for Body Awareness

Register Now!

  • Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica: Ready to experience the deep somatic healing discussed in this episode? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

Book a Brainspotting session with Amie.

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy.

Show more...
2 months ago
28 minutes 54 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Destructive Trickle Disclosures

*Get our FREE eBook⁠ “Is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure Right For Me?”⁠⁠ delivered straight to your inbox.⁠ Sign up here!⁠*

When your partner reveals information bit by bit instead of all at once, it's called trickle disclosure, and it's retraumatizing your body with every new revelation. 

This episode validates the exhausting cycle of partial truths and discoveries, explains why your nervous system can't stabilize in this chaos, and empowers you with concrete steps to protect yourself. You deserve full truth, not scattered pieces that keep you waiting for the other shoe to drop.

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • The difference between discovery and disclosure—and why it matters

  • How trickle disclosures keep your nervous system stuck in threat mode

  • Practical boundaries you can set to protect yourself and require full truth

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services


  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  • Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.
Show more...
2 months ago
36 minutes 49 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Is This Real Recovery? Part 3

Questions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to podcast@chooserecoveryservices.com. 

Can you name your emotions beyond happy, sad, and mad? In this final episode of our real recovery series, we dive into the emotional work that transforms recovery from performance into real transformation. 

If you've been doing all the "right things" but still feel disconnected, this episode reveals what's missing—and how emotional intelligence, empathy, and authenticity create the safety and trust that behavioral change alone can't build.

Listen to Part 1 and Part 2.

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • How to develop emotional awareness and regulate your nervous system

  • Why defensiveness blocks healing and how to move through it

  • The difference between performing recovery and becoming recovered

Mentioned in this episode:

  • Feelings Wheel

  • How We Feel app

  • Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett

Register Now!

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  •  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

Show more...
2 months ago
56 minutes 19 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Is This Real Recovery? Part 2

When recovery feels like an endless checklist, how do you know if real change is happening? This week Amie and Alana break down the concrete, visible behaviors that build the foundation of safety and trust after betrayal–from radical transparency to making amends. 

Discover why doing all the “right things” might still leave you feeling disconnected, and what’s missing when actions don’t lead to healing.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The difference between active and passive truth-telling 

  • How to spot performative recovery versus genuine change

  • Why physical behaviors are only half of the recovery equation

Listen to part one here!

Register Now!

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.


More from Choose Recovery Services


  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  •  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.
Show more...
2 months ago
35 minutes 14 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Is This Real Recovery? Part 1

Are you questioning if your partner's recovery is genuine or performative? In this episode, Amie and Alana delve into the concept of weaponized recovery, helping you understand when recovery efforts may be used manipulatively rather than authentically. 

Learn to identify signs of true recovery, the importance of somatic work, and how to maintain your own mental and emotional safety. 

Listen to learn:

  • What confusion is teaching you

  • How playing the victim and seeking validation can shift responsibility where it doesn’t belong - onto betrayed partners

  • The importance of integrity in healing

Secure Your Spot!

  • Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.


Register Now!

  • Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Register here to get the webinar link. View past webinars here. 


Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services


  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  •  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

Show more...
3 months ago
40 minutes 20 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
The Power of Breathwork - with Kurtis Lee Thomas

Have you heard about breathwork but aren’t quite sure what it is or how to begin? This week we are excited to welcome Kurtis Lee Thomas to the podcast. Kurtis is the founder of Breathwork Detox Modality and was named 2024 Entrepreneur of the Year by Best Holistic Life Magazine. 

Learn how Kurtis’s journey led him to discover the healing power of breathwork and practical tips you can apply. If you’re searching for healing and clarity, breathwork may be just the tool for you.

*Listeners can get 50% off one of Kurtis's online virtual events with code Podcast50

Listen to learn:

  • How trauma can create unexplained medical conditions

  • Why we unconsciously hold onto stress and pain

  • How breathwork detox can deliver instant results

Connect with Kurtis - Breathwork Detox, Instagram @manfromthestars, LinkedIn

Secure Your Spot!

  • Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  •  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

Show more...
3 months ago
28 minutes 14 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
You're Not Overreacting: Gaslighting, Betrayal, and the Right to Feel Safe

Have you ever felt dismissed or minimized in your relationship? Have you been made to feel as though your concerns are crazy or unimportant? If so, keep listening! This week Amie continues the conversation around gaslighting in relationships. 

Listen in as she relates a powerful analogy between a neighborhood dispute and gaslighting tactics often seen in toxic relationships. Through this example she unpacks methods of gaslighting and empowers betrayed partners to trust their instincts and set healthy boundaries.

Listen to learn:

  • Different forms of gaslighting

  • The impact gaslighting has on your sense of safety

  • How to reclaim your truth and healing

Listen to last week’s episode: Gaslighting (DARVO)

Resources from Sarah Morales about gaslighting can be found at her website.

Secure Your Spot!

  • Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  •  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

Show more...
3 months ago
19 minutes 32 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
What is Gaslighting and the DARVO Pattern?

Join us this week for a replay of one of our most popular episodes! 

When your partner turns your therapy progress into ammunition against you and conversations become twisted battles where you end up apologizing for things you never did wrong, you might be experiencing a calculated pattern of emotional abuse. 

This eye-opening episode breaks down the DARVO technique (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) and reveals how gaslighting operates within relationships affected by addiction. Amie and Alanna provide concrete tools to help you distinguish between your reality and the false narrative being imposed on you, while offering hope for reclaiming your power and truth.

What You'll Learn:

  • How to recognize DARVO patterns and gaslighting tactics

  • The difference between addiction-based vs. deep-rooted abusive behaviors

  • Practical tools for disengaging and reclaiming your reality

Referenced in this episode: 

  • Am I in an Abusive Relationship? - Self-paced course

  • The Elements of Abuse podcast series with Kim Day and Amie - Part 1: The Power of Awareness, Part 2: The Power of Accepting Reality, Part 3: The Power to Act

Secure Your Spot!

  • Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services


  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  •  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Triggers can come out of nowhere. Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

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3 months ago
54 minutes 19 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Trusting Yourself First: Healing After Betrayal Trauma

Join us this week for a replay of one of our most popular episodes! 

How can you trust yourself again after betrayal? Being betrayed by a partner is traumatizing physiologically, emotionally, and mentally. When you’ve had this kind of blow in your life, it affects your sense of self, sense of safety, and self identity. This makes trusting yourself difficult. 

This is a very natural response when you’ve experienced betrayal, but learning to trust yourself again is the first key to healing. Join Amie Woolsey in this episode as she shares:

  • The power of thought dumping

  • Tools to begin to regain trust in yourself

  • What it will look and feel like when you start trusting yourself again

Secure Your Spot!

  • Worthy By Design Women’s Retreat - This four-day retreat is for women ready to reconnect with their authentic selves and step into their unique design. Experience Human Design exploration, somatic healing, breathwork, sound baths, and sisterhood in the stunning Utah mountains. This is not just for women who have been betrayed, but perfect for ALL women seeking renewal, clarity, and joy. Retreat is September 14th-17th in Mapleton, UT. 

  • Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity⁠⁠ is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. 

  • Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join us October 14-17, 2025, and leave with strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.

  • Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Register Now!

  • Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery. Register here to get the webinar link. View past webinars here: 

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

  • Intimacy Within ⁠- Creating healthy intimacy with your partner begins with creating healthy intimacy within. Amie’s self-paced course and guidebook will walk you through the seven levels of intimacy. Learn how to embrace authenticity and vulnerability even in the face of potential rejection.

⁠⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. 

  •  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal.

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

  • Trauma Trigger Kit - Keep a Trauma Trigger Kit on hand to help you use your five senses to stay grounded and connected to yourself.

Show more...
4 months ago
29 minutes 8 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Five Steps to Loving Yourself After Betrayal

How do you find your way back to loving yourself when betrayal has left you feeling broken and unworthy? Discover five transformative practices to rebuild your relationship with yourself, from alignment and boundaries to celebration and vitality. These aren't quick fixes, but foundational shifts that teach your nervous system you matter.

What you’ll learn:

  • How to realign with your values instead of living from fear and survival mode

  • Why boundaries are acts of self-love that rewire your nervous system

  • The difference between toxic and healing self-care that helps you enjoy your own company

Secure Your Spot!

  • Worthy By Design Women’s Retreat - This four-day retreat is for women ready to reconnect with their authentic selves and step into their unique design. Experience Human Design exploration, somatic healing, breathwork, sound baths, and sisterhood in the stunning Utah mountains. This is not just for women who have been betrayed, but perfect for ALL women seeking renewal, clarity, and joy. Retreat is September 14th-17th in Mapleton, UT. 

  • Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity⁠⁠ is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. 

  • Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Register Now!

  • Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Register here to get the webinar link. View past webinars here: 

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

⁠⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. 

  •  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - For men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment. 

Show more...
4 months ago
42 minutes 46 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Why Do We Get So Emotionally Dysregulated After Betrayal?

Do you feel like you’ve gone from calm and collected to emotionally unstable since experiencing betrayal? You’re not broken; your brain is just trying to protect you. This week Alana breaks down the science behind why betrayal throws your nervous system into overdrive and shrinks your window of tolerance.

Listen to learn:

  • How betrayal activates your brain’s alarm system

  • Why your window of tolerance shrinks after betrayal

  • The science behind attachment injury

Past episodes about triggers:

  • How Long Will These Triggers Last?

  • From Triggered to Grounded

Secure Your Spot!

  • Worthy By Design Women’s Retreat - This four-day retreat is for women ready to reconnect with their authentic selves and step into their unique design. Experience Human Design exploration, somatic healing, breathwork, sound baths, and sisterhood in the stunning Utah mountains. This is not just for women who have been betrayed, but perfect for ALL women seeking renewal, clarity, and joy. Retreat is September 14th-17th in Mapleton, UT. 

  • Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity⁠⁠ is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. 

  • Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.

  • We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.


Register Now!

  • Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Register here to get the webinar link. View past webinars here: 

  • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.

⁠⁠Watch us⁠ on YouTube.

Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services

⁠Schedule⁠ a consultation.

Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.

More from Choose Recovery Services

  • Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.

  • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  •  Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives. Foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

  • Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

  • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

  • Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - We help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  • Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first.

  • Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Show more...
4 months ago
31 minutes 12 seconds

Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Choose to Be is about healing, growth, and choosing recovery after betrayal trauma, sexual addiction, and infidelity. Hosts share insights on emotional healing, authentic relationships, and the journey of rebuilding trust. Learn tools for self-compassion, integrity, and trust-building as you heal from pain and reclaim hope, peace, and connection. Alana Gordon-LMFT, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach Amie Woolsey-Certified Brainspotting Practioner, Martin Warner AT Somatic Interweaves for DBR, PCP, APSATS-CPC, ELI-MP, COR.E, C-DGS ChooseRecoveryServices.com | info@chooserecoveryservices.com