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Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
145 episodes
4 hours ago
Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal is a podcast for couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. Whether you’re a betrayed partner trying to make sense of the pain, or the partner who caused harm and wants to repair what was broken, this podcast offers trauma-informed tools, honest conversations, and grounded hope for what healing can look like. Hosted by Hali Roderick, this show explores trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, boundaries, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness or pushing a one-size-fits-all outcome. Healing after betr
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Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal is a podcast for couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. Whether you’re a betrayed partner trying to make sense of the pain, or the partner who caused harm and wants to repair what was broken, this podcast offers trauma-informed tools, honest conversations, and grounded hope for what healing can look like. Hosted by Hali Roderick, this show explores trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, boundaries, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness or pushing a one-size-fits-all outcome. Healing after betr
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Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#139 Renewed Commitment — Doing Whatever It Takes to Mend Betrayal

This episode is one of the early conversations that shaped the heart of this podcast, and we’re bringing it back because its message is just as important today as it was when it first aired. If you’re in the aftermath of betrayal or rebuilding a relationship after broken trust, this episode lays the groundwork for understanding what true repair requires.

In this re-released conversation, we explore what a renewed commitment looks like from the unfaithful partner — not in words or promises, but in consistent action. Healing after betrayal begins when the betraying partner is willing to “do whatever it takes” to rebuild safety, honor the betrayed partner’s pain, and repair the relational bonds shattered by the breach.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Partner Coach

TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

Read Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


Stay Connected with Hali:Download my free:⁠⁠

Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠

Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠

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5 hours ago
32 minutes 49 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#138 Trauma Triage: What Couples Need in the Early Days After Betrayal

This special re-release revisits one of the most important conversations from our early episodes — an episode so foundational that we felt it needed to be heard again. If you or your spouse are in the early stages of betrayal trauma, discovery, or relational crisis, this conversation will give you the grounding, clarity, and practical steps you need to begin healing.

In this re-released episode, we walk through what we call Trauma Triage — the immediate phase after betrayal when emotions are raw, the nervous system is overwhelmed, trust is shattered, and both partners are often flooded with fear, shame, confusion, and grief. This is the stage where calm, grounding support is crucial, but it’s also the time when couples feel least equipped to offer it.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Partner Coach

TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

Read Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!

Stay Connected with Hali:

Download my free:⁠⁠

Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠

Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠


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1 week ago
27 minutes 13 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#137 Looking Back, Looking Forward: A Special Episode About Transition & Growth

This special episode of Choosing to Stay marks a heartfelt transition and an important moment for our community. Hali and Stephanie sit down for one final conversation as co-hosts to reflect on what this podcast has become, how it has supported so many navigating betrayal trauma and relational healing, and what the future now holds.

In this episode, Stephanie gently announces that she is stepping away from hosting as she moves into a new season of life and work. This change flows from clarity, alignment, and care. The friendship is strong, the mission remains, and there is no rupture — only a shift. Stephanie expresses continued belief in the podcast’s purpose and offers her blessing as Hali continues forward.

Together, they revisit the early days of the podcast — how it began without a detailed roadmap, how meaningful and vulnerable conversations naturally emerged, and how listeners’ stories have shaped the heart of the show. Hali expresses deep gratitude for the wisdom, grounding, and compassion Stephanie has brought to every episode. Stephanie shares her favorite moments, lessons learned, and the profound impact of hearing how women and couples have grown along their healing journeys.

Hali then shares what’s ahead: the podcast is continuing. The mission stays the same. New guests, expanded conversations, and a refreshed energy will unfold in the new year.

This episode is a celebration of what has been built, an honoring of Stephanie’s contribution, and an invitation into a new season of growth.

If you are a woman experiencing betrayal trauma, you can find Hali on her new podcast Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

Read Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


Stay Connected with Hali:

Download my free:⁠⁠

Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠

⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠


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2 weeks ago
13 minutes 24 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#136 Emotional Recovery in Relationship Repair

Stopping destructive behaviors is only the beginning. In recovery after betrayal, many partners achieve behavioral sobriety but struggle with emotional sobriety—the ability to regulate, integrate, and share emotions in real time. In this episode, we’ll break down the psychology of emotional sobriety, how compartmentalization keeps couples stuck, and what moving toward integration looks like for both the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery.Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio


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3 weeks ago
20 minutes 29 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#135 Healing Is the Gift You Give to Yourself (and Everyone You Love)

In this episode, we share a core truth of couples' recovery: healing starts with honoring yourself — and that personal work naturally becomes a gift to your partner, your children, and future generations. Healing isn’t about fixing each other; it’s about becoming grounded, regulated, and emotionally responsible.We talk about how individual healing lowers reactivity, strengthens emotional tolerance, and creates stability at home. Children benefit when parents model accountability, honesty, repair, and regulation — even without knowing the details.We also explore how relationships shift when each partner focuses on their own growth instead of waiting for the other to change. Listeners will hear simple ways to practice daily healing and begin creating a legacy of emotional safety, honesty, and courage.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


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3 weeks ago
23 minutes 26 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#134 Supporting Children Through the Holidays After Betrayal

In this episode, Hali welcomes her daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, BCC, MFT-I to talk about how to help children feel secure, loved, and grounded during the holidays when the family system is healing from betrayal. Kids pick up on tension, silence, and emotional shifts more than words - but they don’t need perfection, they need presence. This conversation explores how to offer age-appropriate honesty, create simple rituals of connection, and bring stability into a season that might feel uncertain or different this year.


Thank you for tuning in!





We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

Read Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


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1 month ago
31 minutes 27 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#133 Meeting Your Betrayed Spouse in the Mess: Empathy, Patience, and Presence Through the Holidays

In this honest and compassionate episode, Hali and Stephanie speak directly to those who have betrayed trust and are navigating the deep discomfort of the holiday season.

When you’re the one who caused harm, it’s natural to want to “fix” things — to bring joy back, to create happy moments, to prove your love and remorse. But often, that well-intentioned positivity can feel like bypass to your partner — like you’re skipping past their pain to ease your own guilt.

This conversation helps you understand what empathy looks like in action — how to stay grounded, offer comfort without pressure, and walk through the season with humility, patience, and presence.

You’ll learn how to avoid common pitfalls like overcompensating, defensiveness, or forced cheer, and instead practice the kind of empathy that fosters real safety and trust over time.Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

Read Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


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1 month ago
18 minutes 15 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#132 When the Season Doesn’t Feel Merry: Honoring Grief, Creating Boundaries, and Finding Grace

In this heartfelt episode, When the Season Doesn’t Feel Merry: Honoring Grief, Creating Boundaries, and Finding Grace, Hali and Stephanie talk about how to navigate the holidays when your heart is still healing from betrayal. The season that’s “supposed to be” full of joy and family connection can feel heavy and disorienting after trust has been broken. Together they explore how to name and honor the layers of grief that surface this time of year, release the pressure to perform or pretend, and give yourself permission to do things differently. You’ll hear honest reflections about how grief can show up for both partners — from sadness and guilt to numbness or overwhelm — and how authenticity can become the first step toward peace.

They also share practical ways to protect your healing through boundaries, compassion, and grace. From creating a “holiday boundary check-in” to pausing for moments of shared breath and acknowledgment, this conversation offers tools to help couples stay grounded and connected through the discomfort. Whether you choose quiet simplicity or small new traditions, this episode is an invitation to honor your reality and care for your nervous system

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio


Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie’s Bio

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1 month ago
24 minutes 13 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
***BONUS EPISODE*** Rooted & Rising: A New Space for Women Healing After Betrayal

In this special episode, Hali shares from the heart about her next chapter — the creation of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, a new podcast and healing community for women walking the path of recovery after infidelity and betrayal.

While Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal will continue to support couples doing the brave work of relational healing, Rooted & Rising offers a sacred space just for women to reconnect with their truth, rebuild self-trust, and rise into their next chapter with clarity, courage, and community.

If you’ve ever thought, “I wish there was a space just for me — where I could feel seen, understood, and supported,” this episode is your invitation.

  • The vision and heart behind Rooted & Rising After Betrayal

  • Why individual healing is important for relational repair

  • The meaning behind being Rooted (in truth) and Rising (into empowerment)

  • How community and connection accelerate healing

  • Ways to stay connected through new resources and groups


    In This Episode🔗 Resources Mentioned

🎙️ Rooted & Rising After Betrayal Podcast

A brand-new podcast by Hali Roderick for women healing after betrayal — featuring short, heartfelt episodes, somatic tools, and empowering conversations.

👉 Follow Along HERE

📘 Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal Guide

A free resource to help you begin rebuilding safety, clarity, and self-trust after the devastation of betrayal.

👉 Download your copy HERE

🧘‍♀️ Mini Guide to Mindful Healing.

Quick, simple mindfulness and grounding practices to help regulate your body and calm your nervous system during moments of overwhelm.

👉 Get started HERE

 Help Her Heal Men’s Group

A safe space for men ready to rebuild trust, empathy, and emotional connection after betrayal.

👉 Register HERE.


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1 month ago
7 minutes 55 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#131 When Healing Feels Exhausting

Healing after betrayal is some of the hardest emotional work a person can face — and it is exhausting. Recovery requires constant emotional energy, rebuilding trust, courage, and change over time. That level of effort wears on everyone involved.

In this episode, we acknowledge how draining the process can feel for both the betrayed partner and the partner in recovery, and how that exhaustion can affect the relationship. You’ll learn why fatigue is a normal part of healing, how to recognize when you’re shutting down, and what small practices can help each partner stay engaged without burning out.

This conversation offers validation, understanding, and practical support for anyone navigating the long road back from relational trauma.

You’re not weak. You’re not failing. You’re healing — and healing takes energy.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


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1 month ago
21 minutes 34 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#130 Honesty After Betrayal: Breaking the Cycle of Lying and Rebuilding Trust

Lying often begins as self-protection—but in the aftermath of betrayal, it becomes one of the biggest barriers to rebuilding connection. In this solo episode, Hali explores why lying becomes a habit, how it deepens disconnection, and what it takes to courageously choose honesty as part of the healing journey. Whether you’re the partner in recovery or the betrayed partner navigating trust issues, this conversation is about more than just telling the truth—it’s about reclaiming integrity, safety, and authentic connection. “Honesty isn’t just about facts. It’s about aligning your inner and outer world—and that’s where real healing begins.”

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Why lying becomes a default pattern in betrayal
  • The hidden fears that fuel dishonesty (rejection, shame, loss of control)
  • How dishonesty creates a cycle of disconnection and mistrust
  • Practical steps to build honesty like a muscle—even in low-stakes moments
  • How to repair trust through accountability and consistent truth-telling
  • Why support systems matter in sustaining honesty and recovery
  • Lying often starts as a survival skill—but it can’t coexist with real intimacy.
  • Honesty is a practice, not a one-time choice.
  • Rebuilding trust requires truth, accountability, and self-regulation.
  • Both partners need safe spaces to process pain and grow.

Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit — November 6–9, 2025 | Mesa, AZ

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns—even after trying therapy, groups, or self-help—you’re not alone. Healing after betrayal, trauma, or chronic stress isn’t just a “mind thing.” It lives in the brain, body, and nervous system.

That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, a 4-day immersive experience designed to help men reset and reclaim their strength from the inside out.

If you’re ready to reset, reconnect, and rise, this may be the missing piece you’ve been looking for.

📅 Dates: November 6–9, 2025
📍 Location: Mesa, Arizona
✉️ To learn more or schedule a consultation:

  • Email Hali at: haliroderickcoaching@gmail.com

  • Or Dr. Jeff Roderick at: proactivebrainhealth@gmail.com

👉 Learn more and register here

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

Read Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


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2 months ago
19 minutes 49 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#129- Can We Dream Again? Finding New Hopes After Betrayal

After betrayal, the future can feel like it’s been stolen. For the betrayed partner, dreams may feel shattered or unsafe to hold. For the one seeking recovery, hope for the future may be tangled with guilt, fear, or the pressure to “make things right.”

In this episode, we’ll talk about what it means to truly process grief, why timing matters, and how both partners can begin to cautiously, safely, and authentically dream again.

You’ll discover:

  • Why trauma makes future-thinking feel dangerous.

  • How the betrayed partner and the one seeking recovery experience hopes differently.

  • Signs you may be ready to imagine new possibilities.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

We look forward to journeying with you!


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2 months ago
29 minutes 39 seconds

Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
#128- Acceptance vs. Resignation When Choosing to Stay

When couples stay together after betrayal, there’s a difference between acceptance and resignation. Acceptance leads to hope and healing; resignation leads to disconnection and despair. In this episode

  • What acceptance vs. resignation really looks like
  • How it shows up for both the betrayed and betraying partner
  • Key questions to help you discern where you are
  • Practical steps to move from resignation into true acceptance

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

Read Hali’s Bio

Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C Read Stephanie’s Bio


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    2 months ago
    30 minutes 14 seconds

    Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
    #127- When Choosing To Stay is Healthy vs Unhealthy

    Betrayal cuts deep, leaving both partners facing painful choices about the future of their relationship. For some, staying is the beginning of an authentic rebuilding process; for others, it becomes a form of self-betrayal. In this episode, we unpack the why and the how of staying after betrayal.

    We approach this conversation from both perspectives: the betrayed partner and the one who has betrayed. Together, we’ll explore what makes staying a healthy path toward healing—and when it becomes unhealthy, unsafe, or unwise.

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    2 months ago
    28 minutes 10 seconds

    Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
    #126 Small Ways To Rebuild Trust

    Trust after betrayal doesn’t return with one big moment. It’s not only rebuilt through formal disclosures, powerful apologies, or recovery milestones—it’s the hundreds of small choices made day after day.

    In this episode, we talk about the power of micro-trust: those tiny interactions that slowly teach a partner’s heart and nervous system, “Maybe I can breathe again. Maybe I can risk hope.”

    You’ll learn:

    • What micro-trust is and why it matters in healing after betrayal.

    • Everyday examples of micro-trust builders that make a real difference.

    • Common hurdles couples face when practicing micro-trust.

    • Simple, steady ways to keep showing up, even when it feels overwhelming.

    Rebuilding trust is not about rushing or fixing it all at once. It’s about steady, consistent deposits that eventually create a foundation strong enough to hold safety, hope, and repair.Thank you for tuning in!

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio


    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

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    3 months ago
    22 minutes 36 seconds

    Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
    #125 An Invitation for Men: Step Into Whole Body Healing

    In this episode of the Choosing to Stay Podcast, I’m opening up about something personal: my dad’s journey with Lewy Body Dementia and how it sparked my own concerns about brain health. As I walked through my own healing from emotional trauma, I began to realize something powerful—trauma isn’t just about thoughts or mindset. It lives in the brain and the body, shaping the way we show up in life and relationships.Most of the men I work with are carrying the weight of early adverse childhood experiences, and those wounds often fuel the destructive patterns that cause so much pain. If you’ve been working hard in therapy, recovery programs, or support groups but still feel stuck, it’s not because you’re failing. Trauma and addiction don’t just live in your thoughts—they live in your nervous system, your cells, and the physical patterns of stress in your body. Healing requires a whole-person approach.That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, happening November 6–9 in Mesa, Arizona. This 4-day immersive experience goes beyond talk therapy and gives men direct access to healing at the root level—brain, body, and spirit. Together with my husband, Dr. Jeff Roderick, a functional health chiropractor, and my daughter, Morgan Ellsworth, an LMFT intern and brainspotting practitioner, we’ll be guiding participants through science-backed brain therapies, somatic healing, and hands-on restoration. You’ll walk away with practical skills, renewed confidence, and a roadmap for continued growth.If you’re ready to reset and reclaim your strength, this summit may be the missing piece. Join us for a transformational experience of healing, clarity, and brotherhood. Learn more HERE. To schedule a consultation to see if this summit is a good fit for you, please reach out to me at: haliroderickcoaching@gmail.com or Dr. Jeff Roderick at : proactivebrainhealth@gmail.com. 

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    3 months ago
    18 minutes 44 seconds

    Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
    #124 Breaking Shame, Building Connection: Chandler Rogers on Recovery & The Relay App

    Chandler Rogers is the CEO and founder of Relay, an app designed to help people overcome pornography and sexual addiction through community and shame-free accountability. Inspired by his own recovery journey, Chandler created Relay to provide structure, daily tools, and connection for thousands navigating healing. He lives in Orem, Utah with his wife, their 18-month-old son, and another little one on the way.

    🌐 Learn more: www.joinrelay.app

    💡 Listener Offer: Use code CHOOSE20 for 20% off your first subscription.

    In this episode of The Choosing to Stay Podcast, we sit down with Chandler Rogers, founder of the Relay App. Chandler shares his personal recovery story, the power of community in healing, and what he’s learned from guiding thousands through recovery. Together, we explore why connection is the opposite of addiction, the role of self-care, and the key differences between those who grow and those who stay stuck.

    Thank you for tuning in!

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    3 months ago
    43 minutes 1 second

    Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
    #123 Disorganized Attachment – The Push-Pull Chaos



    Do you ever find yourself craving closeness one moment and pulling away the next? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into disorganized attachment — a pattern of connection rooted in the paradox of both desiring and fearing intimacy.

    You’ll learn:

    • What disorganized attachment is and how it develops

    • The emotional, behavioral, and physiological signs to look for

    • Why betrayal trauma can activate this attachment style in adult relationships

    • The nervous system loop that drives the push–pull dynamic

    • Practical tools to build secure self-attachment first — and then healthier, safer relational attachment

    We’ll explore simple yet powerful ways to:

    • Name and interrupt old patterns in the moment

    • Regulate your body before responding

    • Offer yourself the safety and comfort you long for from others

    • Communicate needs clearly instead of testing

    • Repair after conflict and slowly rebuild trust in vulnerability

    Whether you’ve experienced betrayal trauma, childhood relational wounds, or simply want to understand your own patterns more deeply, this conversation will help you start moving from fear and confusion toward connection and security.

    Thank you for tuning in!

    Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UT

    Are you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.

    Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at info@chooserecoveryservices.com for more information. 

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio


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    3 months ago
    35 minutes 11 seconds

    Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
    #122 Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to Withdraw

     Avoidant Attachment – The Pull to Withdraw

    In this episode, we explore the core traits, beliefs, and relationship patterns of dismissive/avoidant attachment — a style often rooted in early experiences where emotional needs were minimized or dismissed. You’ll learn how these protective strategies form, the impact they can have on intimacy, and practical steps to move toward secure, balanced connection without losing your independence.

    Whether you recognize these patterns in yourself or in someone you love, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and tools for change.

    In this episode, we mention the How We Feel app that you might want to consider if you are working on emotional awareness. 

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • The childhood experiences that often shape dismissive/avoidant attachment

    • How core beliefs like “I can only count on myself” influence adult relationships

    • Common behavioral signs, from emotional suppression to conflict avoidance

    • The hidden anxiety behind emotional distance

    • Practical strategies to build emotional tolerance and safety in relationships

    • How to balance independence with authentic vulnerability

    • Tools to repair connection after withdrawing


    Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UT

    Are you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.

    Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at info@chooserecoveryservices.com for more information. 

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!



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    3 months ago
    31 minutes 32 seconds

    Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
    #121 When fear of abandonment meets betrayal: How Anxious Attachment amplifies the pain

    In this episode unpack anxious attachment — how inconsistent caregiving can lead to fear of rejection, hypervigilance, and dependency in relationships. Discussing how betrayal may amplify these patterns, what it looks like in adult relationships, and practical steps for moving toward secure connection.

    Thank you for tuning in!

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie Hamby Certified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


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    4 months ago
    25 minutes 10 seconds

    Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal
    Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal is a podcast for couples navigating the aftermath of infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. Whether you’re a betrayed partner trying to make sense of the pain, or the partner who caused harm and wants to repair what was broken, this podcast offers trauma-informed tools, honest conversations, and grounded hope for what healing can look like. Hosted by Hali Roderick, this show explores trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, boundaries, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness or pushing a one-size-fits-all outcome. Healing after betr