This week, Reed sits down with the brilliant Michelle Elman — life coach, author, and unapologetic boundary queen. From dating without shame to grieving the loss of friendships, Michelle is here to challenge the stories we’ve been sold about love, loyalty, and letting go. We dive into her books The Selfish Romantic and Bad Friend, exploring why demanding more in dating is actually powerful, and why friendship breakups cut just as deep (if not deeper) than romantic ones. Michelle unpacks how ghosting erodes trust, why women are trained to soften their needs, and what it really takes to communicate with honesty (even when it hurts). Expect raw stories (including TV dates and friendship “mass exoduses”), laughter through the pain, and practical advice for anyone wondering: how do you heal when the person who knew you best walks away? Curious f**kers, whether you’re redefining dating, nursing a friendship heartbreak, or just craving real talk on boundaries and self-worth, this episode is going to crack you open. Follow Get to know Michelle onine @michelleelman and get to know about her books here Follow us @comecurious Follow Reed @reedamberx Produced by @bxsassy2 Rate & Review If you’ve ever felt seen, soothed, or shaken by our convos — drop us a five star, babe. Want more? Catch the full episode, behind-the-scenes extras, and support the pod on Patreon: 👉 https://www.patreon.com/comecurious Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices