In this raw, solo episode, Lisa dismantles everything you thought you knew about unconditional love, self-love, and what it takes to be in a healthy relationship without losing yourself in the process. She challenges the narrative that many of us, especially women, were raised with: that being loving means holding it all together, forgiving everything, and sacrificing yourself to make it work. Drawing from her own journey of overgiving, abandoning herself, and ultimately setting boundaries in her current relationship after a major wake-up call, Lisa reveals why unconditional love has a place (with your children) but becomes toxic when applied to adult romantic relationships. She breaks down the difference between compassion for someone’s humanity and tolerating harmful behavior, between loving someone deeply and staying when it costs you who you are. This isn’t about becoming cold or withholding love. It’s about understanding that healthy love, both with yourself and others, requires discernment, reciprocity, and boundaries. It’s about learning to meet yourself with the same compassion you’ve been giving everyone else, and recognizing that the relationship you have with yourself is the blueprint for every relationship you’ll ever have. This episode is for you if you’ve ever: Found yourself overgiving in relationships, always being the one who repairs, carries, and sacrifices Believed that being loving meant forgiving everything without requiring accountability or repair Lost yourself in a relationship because you were so focused on not losing the other person Said yes to things you didn’t want to do, shrinking yourself to be liked or chosen Felt resentful in your relationship but kept telling yourself you just need to be more loving Struggled to set boundaries because you equated boundaries with being cold or withholding Extended endless compassion to others but met yourself with criticism when you fell short Wondered why you can show up with such compassion for everyone else but can’t seem to give it to yourself Built a relationship that looks good on the outside but inside you’ve abandoned who you are Knew you needed to leave a relationship but kept staying because you loved them (even though it was costing you everything) Ready to stop abandoning yourself in the name of love? If you heard yourself in this episode, if you recognized the pattern of overgiving and calling it devotion, if you’ve been mistaking tolerance for love and endurance for commitment, it’s time to get honest about what this is costing you. Because here’s the truth: you can love someone with your whole heart and still feel unseen, unsafe, and disconnected. You can love someone deeply and still completely lose yourself in the process. And the highest form of love has to include you. The Congruency Audit is where we look at the gap between the relationships you’ve built and what you’re actually feeling inside them. We’ll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in overgiving, the wounds driving your need to earn love through sacrifice, and what it’s going to take for you to finally create relationships (including the one with yourself) that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside. In 15 minutes, we’ll pinpoint where you’re abandoning yourself, what’s driving that pattern, and the single biggest shift that will change everything. Because you didn’t come this far to keep losing yourself in every relationship you enter. Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit Leave a Review: If you listen on Apple Podcasts: 1. Scroll down past the episodes to Ratings & Reviews. 2. Tap Write a Review (it’s easy to miss — purple text on a black screen). 3. Sign in with your Apple ID if prompted. 4. Select your star rating, add a title and your review, then tap Send.