You’re over-giving because you’re terrified no one will see your value. You know you’re doing it. You’re even aware it’s exhausting you. But awareness without understanding why you do it? That just fuels the shame cycle. Emma came to this coaching session with a question about imposter syndrome. Twenty-five years of teaching, consistently getting great results with her clients, and still doubting whether she’s doing enough or good enough. Still uncomfortable asking for money. Still over-giving in every session because maybe, just maybe, if she gives enough, they’ll finally see her value. But here’s what I don’t coach to: I don’t coach to imposter syndrome. I coach to the operating system underneath producing that symptom. Within minutes, we uncovered what was really running the show. Emma watched her mom overwork her entire childhood. Watched her put herself last, neglect her health, tie her worth to productivity, and never value herself. Emma loved her mom. So she learned this is what you do. You work until you’re exhausted. You give until there’s nothing left. You prove your value through doing. And now, decades later, Emma’s middle-aged, looking in the mirror, and seeing her mom staring back at her. In this coaching episode, you’ll hear me guide Emma through: Why she’s been working so hard to get her clients’ acceptance and what part of her is driving that hustle for approval The exact moment she realized she’s been modeling her mom’s pattern of tying worth to productivity without even knowing she picked it up How loving someone who couldn’t value themselves creates an unconscious loyalty to suffering—and why it feels like betrayal to treat yourself better than they treated themselves The practice of emotional neutrality when asking for money so she can witness the discomfort without letting it run her choices Why ”I want more money” and ”I want freedom” are abstract goals that keep high-achievers trapped in chasing their tail instead of actually creating what they want How to stop recreating your parent’s life and become the conscious creator of your own by getting crystal clear on your values and boundaries The tool for parenting the part of you that innocently picked up misinformed stories about your value—so you can take different action even while feeling uncomfortable Ready to explore your own patterns? What pattern are you repeating that you watched growing up? What are you getting from over-giving, from tying your worth to productivity, from staying exhausted, that you won’t admit? Emma came in thinking we’d coach on imposter syndrome. But the real work was uncovering the operating system underneath that was running her life. And I’m willing to bet there’s an operating system running yours too. If you’re done perpetuating the suffering, if you’re ready to stop recreating what you watched and start becoming the conscious creator of your own life, book a free Congruency Audit with my team at lisacarpenter.ca/audit. We’ll identify what’s working, what’s out of sync, and the single biggest opportunity to bring your life, work, and self back into congruence. What pattern are you ready to stop repeating? Connect with Lisa: Website: lisacarpenter.ca Podcast: lisacarpenter.ca/podcast Coaching + Retreats: lisacarpenter.ca/coachingretreat If you listen on Apple Podcasts: 1. Open the Podcasts app on your iPhone or iPad. 2. Tap the Search icon at the bottom. 3. Type Lisa Carpenter in the search bar and select her podcast. 4. Scroll down past the episodes to Ratings & Reviews. 5. Tap Write a Review (it’s easy to miss — purple text on a black screen). 6. Sign in with your Apple ID if prompted. Select your star rating, add a title and your review, then tap Send.