I was inspired by an interview that I saw with Denzel Washington and Spike Lee and was enamored by how Denzel stood on business about not needing validation from anything or anyone.
I found the perfect song to fit the conversation because there's a song for everything. Here's one about letting go of the bullshi* and setting boundaries.
If you enjoyed this, come again and bring a friend!
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"Don't nobody want no broke heart, don't nobody want no two-time loser... (oh nooo...wooh!)"
Let's talk about letting go and letting things flow....
(had my music up too loud, I was hype, please excuse the quality when the music plays)
Have you ever hit rock bottom so hard you had no hope of ever getting back up? Have enough courage to love one more time...and one more time again.
-Maya Angelou
Brandy said, "I'm calling you now just to make it through, won't you hear my plea?"
If you have a loved one in an abusive relationship, please do your best to be kind and supportive.
If you or a loved one is in danger, please get to a safe location and call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE
Visit byayanaellis.com or Amazon for a copy of my 10th release, Full Circle - A Renewed History. My story of triumph and survival after leaving an abusive relationship.
I love this song and fell in love with it even more when I learned that Candi Staton made composed it after leaving an abusive relationship.
Full Circle a Renewed History available on Amazon and Byayanaellis.com
Come again and bring a friend!
Say man...I get it, I do. But there has to some SOMETHING in your life that you are thankful for and feel blessed to have. Try focusing more on those things and nothing else.
Don't let life whoop your azz.
Leave a comment with what you feel most blessed about!!
When you're in an abusive relationship, even when it's all said and done, set yourself free and tell YOUR STORY. Don't let it fester or sit in your nervous system. AIR IT OUT!
Full Circle - A Renewed History
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This is my favorite motivational feel-good song. Because when the people around me are being azzholes, I've got myself...to remind me of love!
Make sure you remind yourself that you are worthy of love YOU ARE LOVE!!!!!
Is it possible for a man and woman to have a solid FRIENDSHIP, if they were once in a sexual relationship?
For those of you that have a loved one in an abusive relationship, never, ever stop pouring into her. I know it's hard, I know her actions may make it seem as if it's all falling on deaf ears, but I promise you...she hears you.
The only people that are pissed that you set boundaries are the ones that benefit from taking advantage of you when you didn't have any.
PROTECT YA NECK!
Is it hard for you to set boundaries?
Let's kick the month off right, discussing a topic so near and dear to my heart.
This month every Wednesday a song and conversation with yaya will be centered around the topic of Domestic Violence. This is an intro topic/episode, but let's discuss holding your loved one accountable when h/she is the abuser...
I wrote a book about it.... Full Circle, A Renewed History. Available on my website www.byayanaellis.com or Amazon.
Woman to Woman, Shirley was doing way too much!
The clothes on his back.
The car he drives.
Leave your comments below.
You can be addicted to a certain kind of sadness. You deserve so much better than what has happened to you and you know it, so what are you going to do about it because newsflash:
NOBODY'S COMING TO SAVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think Mary J. Blige said it so perfectly. Every lyric to this song is everything that needs to be said when it comes down to your life and how you show up in the world.
When you're feeling down, you should never fake it!
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Say man... I know there are some things that are beyond our control and I'm praying for you all, praying for myself too.
But outside of those things we all know that life got hands!
BUT FIGHT BACK!!!!!!!!
Abeg!
Now go have the day you deserve.
Fucc You vs Forgiveness:
Dare I say that I've reached a point in my life where I'm 90% sure that forgiving people is overrated. Folks know what they be doin!
Love after Domestic Violence is no easy fete.
Lets talk about this like adults.
Reconciliation after being abandoned by a friend or loved one after you leave your abusive relationship. Should you or would you forgive them?
Let's talk like adults.
Full Circle-A Renewed History available on Byayanaellis.com and Amazon.
The Cassie and Diddy case as it's been dubbed has of course brought up some thoughts about the backlash women get when they decide to tell their side of the story and why they stay silent for so long.
Full Circle - A Renewed History available on byayanaellis.com and Amazon