Hey parents, have you ever watched your daughter tie herself in knots in order to clear up a misunderstanding or fix messy friend drama? Maybe she’s bending over backwards to repair a friendship that’s gone sideways, rewriting her texts a dozen times before hitting send – or the one thing I hear often – taking the blame for something she didn’t do just to restore a sense of peace and stability. Even though her attempts to control the situation may feel proactive, that approa...

Hey Parents, Have you ever noticed how fast words like… “Don’t ask - I can’t even right now” tumble out of your teenage daughter’s mouth when she’s totally overwhelmed? That’s exactly what happened at the start of a recent session. Before I even finished pouring my glass of water, the newly enrolled client blurted out, “No clue what just...

Has your daughter ever experienced a memory from the past that’s so vivid she can recall it as if it happened yesterday? Maybe it’s a cringe-worthy moment she wishes she could erase or maybe it’s an incredible experience that redefined her. Either way, THAT moment may be playing a crucial role in your daughter’s behavior, development, and relationships without her awareness.I’ve certainly had my fair share of cringe-worthy and redefining moments and today we’re diving headfirst into one ...

Have you seen it yet? That moment when your daughter comes home from school after the long break and looks at you with wary eyes, a furrowed brow and lips that appear to be moving but she’s stumbling over her words and there’s no audible sound.I feel like we’ve all been there. That moment in time where you want to clearly articulate the thoughts swirling around in your head and release the mixed emotions weighing you down, but the sense of overwhelm creates a frustrating mental block and prev...

I’ve never been a fan of new year’s resolutions. Maybe it’s because the conversations I had with my mom were more about reinventing ourselves. And so, I’ve always been a believer that you don’t need to wait until tomorrow, next month or for a big milestone – you can begin again – anytime.Beginning again is simply about tuning in and being honest with yourself. Which, I’ll admit, wasn’t always easy for me. Growing up I was labeled as the ‘shy’ girl. But in reality, my shy demeanor was a byprod...

We all know that comparison is a confidence killer. But ‘what if’ you flip the coin and look at the other side of comparison as a catalyst, a sign, that you’re ready to create more for yourself? Begin again. The cool thing about learning how to flip the coin and begin again is it’s not as hard as your daughter might think it is and here’s why…her experiences – all of them - the messy ones and the amazing ones serve as a personal signpost, to offer guidance for all her adventures in life....

Is it time to calm your daughter's exam anxiety?Hey Parents,Parenting teenagers is no small feat, but being a parent during final exams is akin to stepping into the realm of unsung heroes. I remember thinking that I could write my final psych paper while also listening to Prince’s new album, Purple Rain. I also remember my mom walking into my room, shaking her head, and telling me this approach wasn’t going to work. Unfortunately, my lack of self-awareness at the time left me sitt...

Hey parents, is your daughter’s social life running her or is she running her social life? Teenage girls come to me all the time feeling confused, hurt, and distraught by other people’s behavior. When someone says or does something that’s inconsistent with your perception of them, or different from how you believe they’re supposed to behave, it creates internal conflict. And internal conflict turns around and creates anxiety.As you might imagine, I hear a lot about the daily lives of tee...

Hey parents,Does your daughter’s anxiety come from thinking about her future, or trying to control it?It’s no mystery that uncertainty has the power to ignite the strongest human emotions – anxiety and fear.And if fear and anxiety are the ‘kryptonite’ that are keeping your daughter from establishing the friendships she craves or developing a strong sense of self, stay tuned.This episode is designed to help you empower your teenage daughter so she’s:· ready to ...

Hey Parents,Is your teenage daughter feeling a bit overwhelmed by ‘all the things’ right now?what’s going on around her? how she fits into her world?and how to be okay with missing something?The fear of missing out and the fear of messing up are REAL for teenage girls.And seem to be a hot button issue right now.Thankfully we’re back to in-person learning here in the US, though, like every new beginning, there are some residual pandemic issues that are still being ironed out. One of ...

Hey parents,Have you ever heard the saying … ‘what you resist persists’?I mean, could it really be true that, in your daughter’s attempt to push away all those unwanted things, she only attracts more unwanted things?The father of analytical psychology, Carl Jung, suggests that in your attempt to ‘resist’ certain situations, by focusing on what you don’t want, you actually cause those unwanted things to persist, or even grow.Welcome back the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast where I want to ...

Hey parents,I have a question for you … what throws your teenage daughter off more - her big emotions OR the after-effects that follow her reaction to her big emotions? Welcome back to the cultivating resilient teens podcast.If you’re listening today, you probably recognize the value in understanding, and learning how to manage emotions capable of rocking your household and social circles.So, today’s episode is offering you a ‘What to do When’ Guide that’s designed to help you and your d...

Hey parents,I’m interrupting the regularly scheduled podcast to bring up a concerning issue I experienced, the clients enrolled in my 90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Coaching Program are talking about, and maybe it’s coming up for your daughter, too.As we’re moving through the covid pandemic - a time that challenged us collectively and impacted each of us a little differently – there appears to be a heightened sense of awareness that’s positive in some ways and a bit damaging, in others.What...

Hey parents, How much do your daughter’s friendships influence HER attitude, mood and motivation?As a parent and teen coach I hear a lot of stories about how other people’s actions and reactions seem to affect my client’s well-being.Of course, it’s natural for connection seeking teens to be influenced by their environment, especially their social scenarios.The hard part is, humans, not just teenage girls, are naturally fickle.So, if your daughter is always acting or reacting to what’s ha...

Hey parents, I wanted to share a personal conversation I had with a dear friend I’ve known for over 30 years because she raised a great question that’s relatable to anyone raising teens. My girlfriend and I met when we were in the thick of our teenage years and now, we’re both raising teens, so we naturally we found ourselves talking about all the social complexities teens experience, particularly when it comes to concept of defining your daughter’s ideal “tribe.”I’m so gratef...

Hey Parents, does your teenage daughter doubt herself or feel like there’s something fundamentally wrong with her when things don’t work out?It’s so easy to weave the “Ugh, what’s wrong with ME?” narrative into an emotionally triggering situation.The Good NewsThe good news is, there’s an effective way for your daughter to deactivate doubt, get stronger and feel more self-confident. Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast where you can find the full show notes at cultivati...

Hey Parents,Does your teenage daughter have a plan to stay confident and mentally clear when she’s emotionally triggered?After making a very long list on a giant piece of paper, the teenage girls in my social media group just sat back with that deer-in-headlights look.I think they were more stunned than I was at the list they’d created.The task was to identify all the all the “parts” of social media they deal with on a daily basis.What confuses them.What makes them feel bad.And, what’s fun, t...

Hey Parents,Have you ever asked your daughter how she’s doing and heard something like … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand!”As you’re working through the ‘letting go’ and ‘losing control’ part of raising a teenager (two of the toughest parts if you ask me), getting a non-answer when you’re trying to connect is tough because:it feels like it widens the divideand pulls heavily on your heartstringsAs a parent of teens, I get it.Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast, i...

Hey Parents,Is your teenage daughter “freaking out” about what’s next?You’re probably noticing that spring fever is in the air, which undoubtedly signals one thing - transitions are on the horizon. Whether it’s her transition into middle school, high school, college or beyond, you’re likely seeing any number of behavioral changes in your daughter.Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast, where you can always find the full Show Notes and resources for every podcast episode ...

Hey Parents, What’s your daughter most important asset?Welcome back the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.Today we’re diving in a little deeper to an issue we touched on in last week’s podcast, Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence.Because, interestingly, even though your daughter may think she’s the only feeling one insecure or being left out, I promise you that no one is immune to those tricky thought errors we talked about last week.Thought ...