Today we’re talking about something that a lot of men won’t admit, but a lot of women quietly suffer through: living with an anxious husband. And yes, I’m going to make fun of us a little.
This video is a tongue-in-cheek “instruction manual” for how to care for the anxious, approval-seeking, reassurance-addicted man. The guy who needs constant validation, panics at every text message pause, reads every word you say like a legal document, and assumes you’re leaving him if you’re quiet for more than 30 seconds.
It’s funny… but it’s also painfully accurate.
The point of this episode isn’t to shame anxious guys. It’s to shine a big bright spotlight on the behaviors that slowly choke the life out of a relationship. And more importantly, to show that these patterns aren’t permanent. You can fix this. You can rebuild your confidence, your identity, and your internal leadership as a man.
If this video hits a little close to home, that’s good. It means you’re ready for change.
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Rejection hits some men harder than others. For a lot of guys, it’s not just discomfort—it feels like danger. One cold look from your wife. One delayed text. One “Can we talk later?” from your boss. Suddenly you’re spiraling, apologizing, chasing, overreacting, or completely shutting down.
This isn’t weakness. It isn’t you being dramatic.
It’s rejection sensitivity—and most men who grew up in chaotic, unpredictable, or emotionally unstable homes are living with it without ever knowing what it’s called.
In this episode, I'll break down:
— Why some men live relationships on “hard mode”
— How your childhood wired your brain to scan for danger
— Why neutral things feel like personal attacks
— Why you over-apologize, over-explain, and overreact
— How rejection sensitivity contributes to sexless marriages
— Why anxious men attract avoidant or narcissistic partners
— And, most importantly, what you can do to rewire this
If you’re neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc.), this is going to make even more sense. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) is something I see constantly in men in my audience and inside The Brotherhood.
You’re not broken. You’re trained.
And you can retrain yourself.
If you want deeper work on this, my book REBUILD and our Brotherhood community are powerful tools to help you break out of this pattern and build confidence, boundaries, and emotional stability.
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A lot of men struggle with the realization that they don’t actually have full control over how life or their marriage turns out.
You can do everything “right”—be faithful, provide, stay fit, treat her well—and still end up rejected, divorced, or alone.
In this episode, I talk about why that happens, and why it’s not a sign that you failed. Life isn’t fair… and that includes relationships. I also share a real message from a man dealing with a sexless, disconnected marriage due to his wife’s ADHD and perimenopause, and we unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface.
If this hits close to home, you’re not alone.
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I recently read a New York Times article claiming that women under socialism had more sex and better orgasms than women in capitalist Western countries. Sounds wild, right?
But when you dig deeper, the real message is actually something I talk about all the time:
Women shut down sexually when their lives are full of stress, chaos, financial pressure, and mental overload.
This has nothing to do with politics — and everything to do with the realities couples face today.
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If you lean anxious in relationships, this one’s for you.
I see it all the time—guys who crave closeness so much that they choke the relationship. You text too much, talk too much, try too hard to keep things “good.” But that desperate energy ends up pushing her away.
I’ll show you what’s really happening under the surface—why your attachment system freaks out when she pulls away, and how to stop feeding that panic. You’ll learn how to regulate yourself, stop chasing reassurance, and build the kind of calm confidence that actually creates attraction.
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Today we’re digging into something wild: how a guy who talks about masculinity, strength, and “doing it right” completely lost his cool when his own story was challenged. That guy is Andrew Wilson.
If you’re rebuilding your life, your identity, or trying to walk the line of integrity after a setback—I promise you: this matters.
We’ll cover:
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Let’s talk about neediness — what it really is, where it comes from, and how to stop letting it ruin your relationships.
Neediness isn’t about “having needs.” It’s about trying to make one specific person fix your emotional state on demand. That’s not love — that’s panic.
I’ll walk you through what’s actually happening inside your nervous system when you feel desperate for someone’s attention or affection… and how to train yourself to stay calm, confident, and grounded instead.
We’ll cover:
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Infidelity doesn’t just destroy trust in the present — it rewrites your past and makes you question everything you thought was real.
In this video, I respond to a man who discovered that his wife cheated years ago… and now her old lover has confessed everything. What happens when your entire marriage suddenly looks like a lie? What do you do when the woman you trusted most betrays you — and your gut told you the truth all along?
If you’ve been through betrayal or are struggling to move forward, you’re not alone. This video will help you understand:
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Most guys in sexless marriages miss the most important piece of the puzzle.
They think if they just get their wife to “want it” again, everything will go back to normal. But what if the truth goes all the way back to the beginning — before the wedding, before the kids — to whether the two of you were even matched in the first place?
In this episode, I break down one of the biggest overlooked truths about dead bedrooms. We’ll talk about:
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In this episode, I dive into one of the hardest truths many men face after becoming fathers: the woman you married may not be the same woman after the baby arrives.
For a lot of men—especially the more sensitive or anxiously attached ones—this change feels like emotional whiplash. The affection disappears, the intimacy vanishes, and suddenly you feel like a stranger in your own home. I read and discuss a real Reddit post from a man who experienced this after 20 years of marriage... and what his story reveals about millions of couples worldwide.
We’ll talk about:
This is a brutally honest but deeply empathetic look at one of the most misunderstood transitions in modern marriage.
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In this special episode, I read the introduction to my latest book, REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man. This book is the culmination of over a decade of working with men—through coaching, the Brotherhood community, and my other books. REBUILD is for every man who’s been knocked down by life—divorce, heartbreak, failure—and is ready to rise again stronger, wiser, and more grounded.
If you’ve ever felt lost or unsure of your next step, this episode is the perfect place to start.
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Some men can’t stop trying to “save” broken women. They think it’s love. They think it’s noble. But it’s an addiction — a way of escaping their own pain. In this episode, I read a powerful letter from a man trapped in the “White Knight” pattern and delivers some tough love on how rescuing others can destroy you, your marriage, and your peace of mind.
If you’ve ever tried to fix someone who didn’t want to be fixed, or confused pity for love, this one’s going to hit home.
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A lot of men direct all their anger toward the other guy — the affair partner — when they find out their wife cheated. I get it. It feels easier to hate the outsider than to face what your wife actually did. But at some point, we need to be honest about where the real responsibility lies.
In this episode, I respond to a man who wrote in saying he’s still furious at his wife’s affair partner, years after the infidelity ended. We talk about why misplaced anger keeps men stuck, why some “nice guys” absolve their wives of all wrongdoing, and what it really takes to let go and move forward.
We also get into his second question: why his wife, who cheated and moved out, still hasn’t followed through with the divorce. Spoiler — she doesn’t get to decide your future.
If you’ve ever struggled with letting go after betrayal, this one’s for you.
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In today’s Dear DSO episode, I read a letter from a guy I’ll call John. He’s reached the end of his rope. His wife drinks heavily, refuses therapy, hasn’t been intimate with him in years, and contributes nothing to the family or household. Meanwhile, John’s doing it all — cooking, cleaning, parenting, working full-time — and he’s still trying to “make it work.”
If you’ve ever found yourself trapped in a relationship like this, wondering what’s wrong with you for staying… this one’s going to hit home. I talk about why so many men hang on to something that’s clearly dead, the psychological trap that keeps them stuck, and why the real work isn’t about fixing her — it’s about fixing yourself.
I also share what I told John privately about the importance of therapy, male friendships, and finding a group of men who will call you out and help you rebuild your life.
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In this episode, I share a powerful story from a listener who has lived through 17 years of marital chaos. On paper, he’s a hardworking, successful man—a career in medicine, a thriving real estate business, and five kids. But behind the scenes, his marriage has been a war zone: false accusations, secret fertility treatments, volatility, and finally his wife moving three hours away with the children.
In the middle of all this, he admits he lost himself—turning to affairs and even escorting—becoming a man he barely recognizes. Now, with his teenage daughter reaching out about her mother’s abuse, he’s finally facing the truth and taking steps to fight for custody.
This is a raw reminder that living in dysfunction doesn’t make you stronger—it makes you weaker. If you’re in chaos, you need to draw the line before you lose everything, including yourself.
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In this episode, I respond to a listener email from a man who caught his wife sneaking around with ‘just a friend.’ Even when confronted, she flips it on him and calls him insecure. Why do cheaters deny and gaslight instead of owning up? I break it all down—and talk about what men need to do in this situation.
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In this episode, I respond to a listener email from a man whose wife left him after 33 years of marriage. She had an affair, moved 2,000 miles away, and says she’s finally living for herself. Is this midlife crisis? Perimenopause? Or just long-simmering resentment finally boiling over? I break it all down—and more importantly, talk about what men can do when blindsided like this.
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A man wrote in after 30+ years of marriage. Three kids, a successful career, a busy and interesting life—he’s fit, adventurous, and still chasing growth at 61 years old.
The problem? His wife has completely checked out sexually. No intimacy, no affection, not even a kiss on the cheek. Even hormone therapy hasn’t changed anything. He loves her, doesn’t want divorce, but he’s dying inside.
I got a “Dear DSO” email from a guy who, on paper, checks every single box: tall, fit, wealthy, educated, successful, funny, a family man… and yet, his wife treats sex like a chore. She’s overweight, disengaged, and more interested in romance novels than her husband.
His question: If you’re not a porn star, is this just the life you have to accept?