In this Dad Diary, I share the story of an eight month gap when I could not see my son after he moved to the UK, and what it took to keep our bond alive from across an ocean. From daily Skype calls and a child friendly “life story” book, to an emotional reunion on his new doorstep, I explore how secure attachment can survive distance when a dad keeps showing up. I also reflect on the recent sudden death of a former guest and friend, and what middle aged dads need to know about heart health, stress and the “fitness paradox.

In this Dad Diary, I share reflections on parenting across borders through the lens of separation — from navigating international legal systems and staying centred on your child, to balancing discipline at home and across distance. I explore how to stay present and connected when you can’t always be there, using real experiences from holidays, daily routines, and quiet FaceTime moments that hold more meaning than words.

In this Dad Diary, I share reflections on parenting across borders — from FaceTime rituals and letter writing to counselling insights about how children navigate loyalty between parents. Through personal stories and professional advice, I explore what it means to keep love at the centre when separation, distance, or conflict threaten to pull families apart.

In this Dad Diary, I share some recent moments from family life — from creek adventures and slow weekends at home to advocating for my eldest son at his school overseas. These small, grounding connections set the stage for today’s story: how a simple case of pink eye spiralled into anxiety and ritualistic fears for our six-year-old. What began as a passing illness became a deep dive into co-regulation, burnout, and the art of helping a child feel safe again.

In this Dad Diary, I dive into the transitions that define fatherhood — from co-parenting handovers and long-distance goodbyes to the small but meaningful daycare drop-offs. These moments have taught me that showing up as a dad isn’t about control or perfection; it’s about rhythm, presence, and trust. I also share why my recent reconnection with Reunite International — an organization supporting parents through international custody and relocation challenges — came at the perfect time, and how their mission reminded me of the power of support and shared experience.

In this first Dad Diary of Season 3, I open up about the big and small goodbyes that shape modern fatherhood. From the heartbreak of saying goodbye to my 12-year-old son as he flew solo back to the UK, to the daily daycare drop-offs with my youngest, I share how both moments call me to be the father the moment demands — present, steady, and responsive.

After nearly two years away, Blue returns to wrap Season 2 with honesty and heart. From the birth of his third son to parenting across continents, this finale reveals what’s next for Dad Without Borders — and introduces Dad Diaries, a raw and personal limited series launching this September.

Fatherhood is a transformation - one that can shake your identity, your relationships, and your sense of self. In this episode, guest David Stegman, Executive Coach and ManKind Project facilitator and one of the creators of the Rad Dad Collective, dives deep into the challenges men face as they step into fatherhood and leadership. He shares insights from men’s circles, coaching, and mentorship, revealing how a strong support system can help fathers navigate identity shifts, relationship struggles, and personal growth. We explore the archetypes of the father, warrior, and lover, and how they shape the way men show up for their families. David introduces the Leadership Keyboard, a concept that helps dads expand their leadership styles—whether that means being assertive, playful, or protective in the right moments. He also opens up about his own struggles, near separation, and the life-changing advice that helped him “hold onto the rope” during the hardest moments of fatherhood. Whether you’re a dad facing challenges or a man looking to grow in leadership and relationships, this episode will leave you with practical insights and a renewed sense of direction. David, a seasoned coach and advocate for men’s circles, shares his insights on: The Leadership Journey – Expanding your emotional range and leadership style to show up for your kids and partner. The Fatherhood Archetypes – Understanding your inner warrior, lover, and father, and how they influence your parenting. Adapting to Life’s Changes – Navigating the shifts in identity, relationships, and priorities that come with fatherhood. Overcoming Struggles Together – Building support through men’s circles and finding strength in community. Real Talk for Dads – Practical tools and advice for overcoming fatherhood challenges and growing stronger as a man and father. Discover the archetypes that shape your journey as a father, and unlock your full potential as a leader!

In this episode of Staying Connected: Fatherhood After Separation, we dive deep into the challenges and opportunities fathers face in maintaining a strong bond with their children after divorce, separation, or limited parenting time. No matter your circumstances, you can build a powerful connection with your child. So, whether you have limited time, live far away, or are adjusting to co-parenting, this episode offers hope and practical ways to make every moment count. ❤️ Parenting norms are shifting, but traditional stereotypes still paint fathers as mere providers and protectors. In reality, modern dads are stepping into both nurturing and leadership roles, proving that emotional intelligence, empathy, and presence are just as important as financial stability. Drawing from my own journey of co-parenting across borders, I share practical strategies for staying connected, from adjusting expectations to embracing shared activities that strengthen attachment. Whether you're a single dad navigating separation, a co-parent trying to redefine your role, or even a mother looking to understand the father’s perspective, this episode is for you. Key Topics Covered: ✅ Redefining Fatherhood: Moving beyond the outdated "breadwinner" model to embrace a holistic parenting approach. ✅ The Power of Shared Activities: How playing, learning, and adventuring together builds deep, lasting bonds. ✅ The Science of Connection: Exploring how dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins strengthen the parent-child relationship. ✅ The Role of Nature: Why spending time outdoors (hiking, canoeing, biking, or simply throwing stones on a beach) can create powerful emotional anchors. ✅ Navigating Emotional Challenges: How fathers can show up authentically and consistently, even when facing court battles, distance, or personal struggles. ✅ Resilience & Adaptability: Embracing both traditional strength and nurturing care without sacrificing masculinity. Why This Episode Matters: 💡 Fatherhood is evolving, and men are stepping into deeper, more emotionally present roles in their children's lives. 💡 Small moments matter. From baking and watching shows together to skateboarding and camping, it’s about being present and engaged. 💡 Dads have permission to nurture. Leaning into both masculine and feminine traits is a strength, not a weakness.

In this episode, I open up about navigating fear, fatherhood, and maintaining a deep connection with my son despite the challenges of an international blended family. After my first wife was granted full custody and relocated overseas with our child, I had to redefine my role as a father - challenging the traditional archetype of being a provider and protector when my child was an ocean away. I share my personal journey of overcoming fear - fear of the unknown, financial instability, losing my connection with my son, and the stigma of failure. Through trial, error, professional guidance, and leaning into love over fear, I’ve learned what truly matters in co-parenting and long-distance fatherhood. This episode is for any parent - especially fathers - facing separation, uncertainty, or the struggle of maintaining a strong bond with their children. You are not alone. Join the conversation! DM me on Instagram @DadWithoutBorders or email me at dadwithoutborders@gmail.com to share your story.

This is part 2 of a conversation with fellow dad Jasper as we build support for each other through our friendship. Topics we touch on: Staying engaged with your child's school timetable activities and teachers Advocating for therapy for the kids Honesty and openness with our kids Being a safe and trusted space for your kid The importance of being present Meditating with kids Importance of nature for connecting with children and as a family Renovations vs quality time with family Focusing on how our children feel in their home Investing time in our partners and meeting their needs Understanding our partners love language The importance of personal growth

Navigating Fatherhood with Heart and Grit In this raw and honest episode, your host Blue sits down with Jasper, a local dad and close friend, for a deep dive into the realities of modern fatherhood. This episode marks the first part of an ongoing conversation about the ups and downs of being a dedicated and present father. Together, they explore the challenges that many dads face, from dealing with anxiety around being “worthy” as a parent, to the importance of seeking professional help through counselling. Jasper shares his personal journey, and the two discuss how our children often become our teachers, offering valuable insights into our own emotional growth. A key theme of the episode is the struggle with anger, and the impact it can have on our relationships with our children. They also touch on the responsibility we have as fathers to not burden our children with our emotions, and how to maintain a healthy emotional environment in the family. This episode is a must-listen for any dad—or parent—navigating the complexities of fatherhood. Whether you’re dealing with separation, blended families, or simply looking to grow in your parenting journey, this conversation will offer perspective, support, and practical advice. Stay tuned for future episodes as Blue continues to share his personal experiences, offer solo reflections, and invite professionals to weigh in on the important topics shaping fatherhood today.

In this episode, I aim to reintroduce myself as the host and a father who has embarked on a tumultuous journey through separation and divorce from the mother of my first child. Throughout this turbulent period, I encountered immense challenges within the court system, grappled with a sense of isolation and lack of support within the community, and felt unfairly represented in society as a father. The absence of relatable role models further exacerbated my struggles, leaving me feeling adrift in a sea of societal expectations and stereotypes that did not align with my experiences and values. The challenges I have faced and ultimately losing custody of my first child, who then moved overseas with his mother - has been actually been a gift, allowing me to discover a deeper side of myself and develop a more mindful and creative approach to parenting as a father with an international blended family, and a long distance relationship with my eldest son. Despite the separation and distance my role and presence is integral to his well being. I just find ways of showing up in his home, his school and everyday life. So stay positive, listen and know that there is another way.

This is a chance to share some recent "wins" as a long-distance parent and offer some hot tips to anyone that might need some advice in navigating long-distance relationships with their kids. It is not easy to be away from your kids, even for a week. I have to deal with many months separated from my oldest son who lives in the UK, and making him feel like a part of my family here in Canada is not an easy task. But my three young sons are incredibly close and this it the result of thoughtful, creative parenting. I hope this short episode provides some hope for other dads that might be struggling.

This week I share my recent experience with EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) - dealing with the trauma of a child custody trial - as an effective way to deal with any residue impact on the mind and body. It was a really interesting and productive experience for me and I want to encourage other Dads to consider seeking therapy in some form if they have not already done so. As part of the parenting journey, we need to own our own shit and confront our demons to become the best parents we can be - in my opinion. Kids are our best teachers, so it's a great opportunity for personal development. This leads to a reflection on parenting from a distance with a child overseas, and actually how it's possible to be as connected as any day-to-day parent, if not more so. I then touch on current challenges with our three-year-old boy that anyone with young kids might be able to relate to - and how we are dealing with it.

A great conversation about how to show up as a parent with the author of Parenting for a Peaceful Home. Drew Tupper is an Author, life coach, husband, and father of two. He has dedicated his life to seeking truth and creating purpose. He practices these intentions by examining and analyzing questions such as: Why are we here? How should we live? What matters? And how can we BE so that our lives are an outward projection of our being? He has overcome struggle and knows what it feels like to feel stuck, angry, and lost. His life is a testament to the adage that growth is not always a straightforward path, but that it is always a worthwhile pursuit. In his words, he “found liberation in loving himself unconditionally,” which “allows him to create his life, rather than react.” Now, this is what he helps his clients do. Do you have to try really hard to be successful? Or do you need to tune into your self and act from a place of calm, so you can co regulate with your kids. Energy is everything when you are parenting. If you want to find a way to calm your child, this is a good episode for you. Do you ever had a bad reaction to your child crying? Like me, have you been obsessed by nap times and do you know how to regulate yourself so you don't freak out? We also talk about acceptance and forgiving yourself. Consider the impact of your tone with your kids. How were we impacted by our upbringing. What happens to adults that were raised with a negative tone? What kind of tone do we need to have? The key takeaway could be that we all need to 'do the work' and seek professional guidance as we navigate parenting. Or maybe just subscribe and listen to all these episodes.

I was in a counselling session yesterday with Catherine Williams, a registered social worker. A friend of the show and someone who has been a great source of inspiration and support over the years. One of the topics that was discussed was the fact that it is important that kids don't feel responsible for their parent's emotions. This had me reflecting on some of the situation I have been in as a parent, when I am being triggered or I voice my frustrations. It was a great reminder for me to watch my language and actions around my three children to make sure I am taking ownership of how I feel and not putting expectations on them to show up in a certain was to appease me. I also share a brief update of how things are going for our family with a new baby, and the relationship of the siblings.

This is an insightful conversation with Emily, a screentime aka tech intentional consultant. Screentime is a challenge for most of us in the modern world. As parents we can't avoid the additional challenges that this brings. How much screen time is too much? At what age is it okay for our kids to have a social media account? And what about phones? How does screentime impact their behaviour? "Being tech-intentional™ means only using screen-based technology that enhances, nurtures, and supports yourself, your child, or your family in a way that aligns with your values, and resisting screen use that interferes with healthy mental, physical, cognitive, and emotional development." Emily Cherkin, The Screentime Consultant The issue of screen access and the desire for kids to have their own devices is a battlefield in many homes and added stress for parents. Emily has some great advice to offer and if you have young kids, now is a great time to start thinking about solutions and building a framework around screentime and access to the internet. It also helps that both parents are on the same team - so this podcast episode is for both parents!

We have a new baby boy! Dad Without Borders is back after a summer break enjoying family time as we transition into life with a new baby and juggling the needs of three sons aged 0, 3 and 9. I have lots more to say about this, but in this episode I focus on sharing my experience of welcoming our baby boy into the world.

So the baby is now several days over due. We are waiting patiently for labour to start. We are all feeling calm but are we ready? I am sharing some post labour thoughts as we get ready for the big event. Is it time to head to the hospital? Will the mid wife make it on time? Is it time to leave the home and head to the hospital. We are an hour drive from the hospital and the mid wife is even further away. Do we pull the trigger and leave our toddler with family and friends? As we prepare ourselves for a huge family shift, I am looking forward to sharing the adventures of a new born and an international blended family. As if life was not already complicated enough but I am really looking forward to the next phase of our family. Please enjoy! Please enjoy! LIKE, SHARE and FOLLOW these pages: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwithoutborders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dad-Without-Borders-104442641427419 Website: https://dad-without-borders-e10084dc.simplecast.com/