Ready to swap “new year, new me” for something that actually works? We break down ten real, repeatable resolutions for divorced dads who want to date with confidence, class, and a sense of humor. It starts with the pictures—no fish, no trucks, no bathroom mirrors—and moves into owning your height, improving your posture, and dressing like a man who respects himself. Shoes and watches matter more than you think, and a couple of thoughtful accessories can turn a hello into a conversation. We a...
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Ready to swap “new year, new me” for something that actually works? We break down ten real, repeatable resolutions for divorced dads who want to date with confidence, class, and a sense of humor. It starts with the pictures—no fish, no trucks, no bathroom mirrors—and moves into owning your height, improving your posture, and dressing like a man who respects himself. Shoes and watches matter more than you think, and a couple of thoughtful accessories can turn a hello into a conversation. We a...
Ready to swap “new year, new me” for something that actually works? We break down ten real, repeatable resolutions for divorced dads who want to date with confidence, class, and a sense of humor. It starts with the pictures—no fish, no trucks, no bathroom mirrors—and moves into owning your height, improving your posture, and dressing like a man who respects himself. Shoes and watches matter more than you think, and a couple of thoughtful accessories can turn a hello into a conversation. We a...
Dating apps can feel like a hall of mirrors—sarcasm, “no drama,” tacos and margs, and endless wanderlust. We decided to have some holiday fun and dig beneath the clichés to find the real signals, the hidden landmines, and the easy wins for divorced dads getting back out there. Jude brings the snark; Dallas brings the strategy. Together we translate what she might be saying and show you how to respond with concrete, playful messages that actually get replies. We start with the big offenders—“...
The Brady Bunch made blending look easy; real life demands better tools. We dive straight into the third rail of post-divorce dating: should single dads date single moms, and how do you do it without drowning in scheduling chaos, ex drama, and mismatched parenting styles? We start with time, because chemistry means little if you can’t meet. You’ll hear simple scripts to express desire as a positive invitation—not a demand—and how to read the difference between “I want to” and “I will.” We un...
Dating after divorce can feel like the Wild West—especially when emotions run high and the old rules no longer apply. We dig into one of the most misunderstood dynamics in modern relationships: the difference between emoting and communicating, and why confusing the two keeps couples locked in loops. With Jude Samval of The Divorce Advocate and Dallas Bluth of Black Box Dating, we unpack how men’s instinct to fix isn’t a lack of feeling, it’s a distinctly male emotional response forged by biol...
The first date “Who pays?” moment can tank chemistry or lift the whole night—and after divorce, the stakes feel even higher. We dig into the chivalry paradox: honoring equality while still creating romance, leading without controlling, and paying without turning the bill into a negotiation. Our goal is simple: help you build experiences that feel generous, safe, and fun, not transactional. We start by rewriting the playbook around compliments and presence. Instead of focusing on looks, notic...
Swiping promises abundance; real life delivers clarity. We’re talking about how divorced dads can ditch the dependency on apps and create warm, natural conversations anywhere—grocery lines, coffee shops, hardware stores—that actually lead to dates. The secret isn’t a magic line. It’s state, presence, and a clear invitation delivered with respect. We start by breaking down why in-person beats online: you and she both get a true read on energy, voice, humor, and ease within seconds. Then we fl...
Most men try to plan their way to great sex and end up killing the spark. We take a different route: build trust with clear statements, create a protected space for intimacy, and then let go of the plan so real desire can surprise you both. We start by resetting the premise. Sex after divorce isn’t a sprint; it’s a craft. Jude Sandvall and Dallas Bluth unpack why safety and mutual benefit are the foundation—especially when kids, schedules, and past relationships are in the picture. You’ll he...
If touch has felt confusing after divorce—too fast, too formal, or just plain awkward—this conversation gives you a clear path from grounded presence to real chemistry. Jude and Dallas unpack the missing link many men never learned: how to make physical contact a normal, human bridge to connection long before it turns romantic. You’ll hear why American men often oversexualize touch, how to rebuild it as a confident, everyday skill, and how that foundation makes dates feel safer, smoother, and...
Dating after divorce can feel like rebuilding a house on old foundations—and that’s exactly why we argue for a full scrape and rebuild. We get real about the question every single dad faces on the apps: her kids, my kids, or no kids? Instead of chasing a replacement for your ex, we lay out a simple, practical framework for designing the next chapter with intention—starting with clear values, vivid invitations, and slow, steady timelines that protect your kids and your peace. We walk through ...
New relationships don’t need a contract; they need direction. We dig into the messy, exciting space after a few dates where interest is real, logistics are heavy, and you’re wondering how to move from casual to committed without killing the spark. As divorced dads, we know the stakes are higher—kids, calendars, and hard-won lessons—so we break down a practical way to lead with clarity while keeping things warm and inviting. We start by flipping the usual script: before negotiating with someo...
Ever get a “let me check my schedule” that drifts into silence? We unpack why availability feels confusing, how to read it without taking it personally, and what to do instead of pushing for a plan. Our focus: inviting, not burdening. You’ll learn how to craft vivid, low‑pressure invitations, keep your energy consistent after the first spark, and swap the effort mindset for a cleaner metric—response. If the invitation is clear, authentic, and playful, the yes becomes obvious. If it isn’t, you...
Ever stare at a profile and think, What does any of this actually mean? We go straight at the modern maze of dating after divorce—where “active,” “preferably no kids,” and political banners can make or break a match before you’ve said hello. As two dads who’ve lived the post-divorce reboot, we break down how to read between the lines, when to move on, and how to show up with humor and direction instead of treating dates like job interviews. We tackle the illusion of abundance on apps and why...
Red flags are easy to spot. What’s harder—and far more useful—is training your eye for the green flags that tell you a relationship can actually work. We dive into the signals that matter most for dads dating after divorce: respect for fatherhood, emotional maturity, and consistency that builds trust instead of anxiety. You’ll hear how to test for these qualities without games, just clear beliefs, grounded vulnerability, and specific requests that lead to real change. We unpack why a woman’s...
The dating world doesn't come with a rulebook, especially for those navigating it after divorce. In this candid conversation, Jude and Dallas tackle the recent controversy surrounding the Golden Bachelor's age preferences and what it reveals about the complex world of dating in midlife. When 66-year-old Mel Owens stated he preferred to date women between 45-60, the backlash was immediate. But does having age preferences make someone shallow, or is it simply an honest acknowledgment of compat...
Ever noticed how some women seem more attached to their furry companions than their human partners? That's exactly what we're diving into today – with both humor and psychological insight. The rise of "dog mom" culture represents more than just cute Instagram posts. For many women, dogs fulfill emotional needs that past relationships failed to satisfy: unconditional love without complex demands, loyalty without question, and comfort without judgment. When a woman chooses her dog's company ov...
Looking sharp isn't just about vanity—it's a strategic move that impacts every area of your post-divorce life. In this revealing episode, we unpack why men's style matters more than most divorced dads realize, and how your appearance silently communicates volumes about your character before you say a word. When your self-worth takes a hit after divorce, upgrading your style provides a powerful, accessible way to begin rebuilding confidence from the outside in. As co-host Jude candidly shares...
What happens when Hollywood tries to depict modern dating? In this eye-opening episode, we dissect "The Materialist" movie starring Dakota Johnson, Pedro Pascal, and Chris Evans to reveal the gap between cinematic romance and the authentic relationship dynamics divorced dads navigate daily. The film portrays a matchmaker torn between a wealthy "unicorn" and her struggling actor ex-boyfriend—a classic Hollywood polarization that misses the nuanced middle ground where real relationships thrive...
The world watched as Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner's divorce unfolded across international headlines, with Turner declaring she'd "never return to the US" and Jonas filing to keep his daughters stateside. But beneath this celebrity spectacle lies a powerful lesson for every divorced dad trying to navigate the complex world of dating and co-parenting. This episode dives deep into the art of the invitation—a revolutionary approach to dating that transforms how divorced dads connect with potentia...
Jude Sandvall and Dallas Bluth delve into the fundamental importance of identifying personal values and beliefs before re-entering the dating world after divorce. They explore how unexamined expectations can derail relationships and provide practical tools for building self-awareness.
Whether you are contemplating dating or assessing the end of your marriage it is critical to know and understand that these 5 elements must be present in your relationship.
Ready to swap “new year, new me” for something that actually works? We break down ten real, repeatable resolutions for divorced dads who want to date with confidence, class, and a sense of humor. It starts with the pictures—no fish, no trucks, no bathroom mirrors—and moves into owning your height, improving your posture, and dressing like a man who respects himself. Shoes and watches matter more than you think, and a couple of thoughtful accessories can turn a hello into a conversation. We a...
