We look back on the moments and trends that shaped 2025, highlighting what mattered most and what caught us completely off guard. From unexpected shifts to key lessons learned, this episode reflects on the year that was and what it may signal for what’s ahead. Support the show Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/ Follow DWHYA on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dwhyapodcast?_t=ZT-8vh1MWRkekg&_r=1. Follow P...

What exactly are expectations, and why do they hold so much power over how we experience life? In this episode, we explore the connection between our expectations and the way we perceive outcomes. We unpack the difference between healthy standards and rigid expectations, and discuss how shifting from a mindset of control to one of curiosity can transform the way we navigate challenges, relationships, and personal growth. This is a conversation about perspective, flexibility, and finding freed...

What exactly are expectations, and why do they hold so much power over how we experience life? In this episode, we explore the connection between our expectations and the way we perceive outcomes. We unpack the difference between healthy standards and rigid expectations, and discuss how shifting from a mindset of control to one of curiosity can transform the way we navigate challenges, relationships, and personal growth. This is a conversation about perspective, flexibility, and finding freed...

Of all the topics we could explore, this one feels both necessary and overdue. Sexual trauma touches so many lives, directly or indirectly and it’s time we create space to talk about it with honesty and care. In this episode, we unpack what sexual trauma is, how it shapes our relationships, our sense of safety, intimacy, and sexual expression, and how healing practices can help survivors reclaim safety, connection, and even pleasure in their bodies. This is a conversation about awareness, com...

We all carry wounds, many reaching back to childhood. Left unhealed, these wounds often follow us into adulthood, shaping how we think, feel, and relate to others. In this episode, we explore how to recognize the wounds of our inner child and uncover practical steps to begin the healing journey. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/support Support the show Host: Paula Bamgbose-Mar...

In this episode, we dive deep into why accountability feels so hard and why it matters now more than ever. Together with our guest, Ibrahim Popoola, we unpack what accountability truly means, why many of us resist it, and how a lack of it can quietly damage our relationships. Tune in for eye-opening insights and practical takeaways you won’t want to miss. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛 https://www.buzzsprout....

Attachment styles are everywhere in the conversation right now, but what do they mean, and why have they become such a buzzword? In this episode, we break down the different attachment styles, how to recognize them, and the powerful role they play in shaping our relationships. We also dive into practical ways to cultivate secure attachment both within ourselves and with the people we care about most. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and kee...

Being a millennial isn’t easy, especially in today’s fast-paced, ever-changing world. In this much-anticipated episode, we explore the deeper roots of why millennials are often called the anxious generation. Joined by our inspiring guest host, Faith Onyesom of Good Faith Yoga, we unpack the ways stress and emotional exhaustion show up in millennial bodies and share simple, powerful practices to feel more grounded and connected. If you’ve been looking for clarity, calm, and a little encouragem...

In this exciting (and slightly jaw-dropping) episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it’s really like to date as a therapist. From the struggle of turning off our “therapist brain,” to the expectations we bring with us into relationships, to debunking the biggest myths about dating a therapist—we’re getting into all of it. Plus, you might hear a few firsthand stories from people who’ve dated us. Trust us… You don’t want to miss this one. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support ...

In this powerful episode, we’re joined by the one and only Dustin Barnes, Founder and Lead Clinical Social Worker of Dustin Barnes Therapy. Together, we unpack common controlling behaviors that often appear in our relationship dynamics—sometimes subtly, sometimes overtly. We dive into how to identify early warning signs, understand the impact of these behaviors, and explore practical ways to manage and shift our patterns if we recognize them within ourselves. It’s an honest and necessary conv...

Sometimes, relationships shift, and growing apart can be one of the hardest changes to face. In this episode, we explore the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that a relationship may have run its course. We also dive into how to hold space for someone’s evolution while still honoring your own boundaries and emotional well-being. It’s about change, acceptance, and learning when to release with love. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the con...

In this exciting episode, we welcome our first guest to the Do We Have Your Attention? space—the incredible Funmto Ogunbanwo, founder and lead Clinical Mental Health Therapist at Ibi Ayo Therapy and Wellness Limited. Together, we unpack some of the most common myths about therapy, explore why people often avoid seeking support and share practical steps for navigating therapy—whether for yourself or when supporting a loved one. It’s an honest, empowering conversation about mental wellness, com...

In this episode, we're unpacking the ever-elusive concept of closure, especially in the context of relationships. Do we need it to move on, or is it overrated? We explore the different ways people seek and experience closure, challenge common beliefs around it, and reflect on whether healing always requires a final conversation. Tune in as we dive into the gray area between letting go and needing answers. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep...

Why do communication clashes between generations seem so recurring—and so hard to resolve? In this episode, we dig into the root causes of generational conflict and the biggest barriers to meaningful connections across age groups. From unspoken expectations to shifting cultural norms, we explore what’s getting in the way—and how we can begin to bridge the communication gap with empathy, curiosity, and intention. Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwhyapodcast/ Follow...

Why is it so hard to show ourselves the same grace, kindness, and respect we freely give to others? In this episode, we explore the deep-rooted reasons behind our struggle with self-compassion. We unpack how our upbringing and early conditioning shape the way we prioritize our wellness—and often, how they hinder our ability to treat ourselves with care. Tune in as we reflect on what it really means to extend compassion inward and begin rewriting those internal narratives. Follow DWHYA...

Welcome back to Do We Have Your Attention? for the premiere of Season 2! In this episode, we're diving into a topic that hits close to home: why do we often prioritize being right over being happy? We explore what happiness truly means, how ego can cloud our decision-making, and the inner tug-of-war between holding firm to our boundaries and learning when to let go. Tune in as we unpack the balance between self-protection and emotional freedom. Follow DWHYA on Instagram: https://www.instagr...

In this episode, we discuss the impact of existential burnout and the factors contributing to someone feeling existential burnout. From careers, relationships, and even ourselves, we identify helpful strategies that can be considered when navigating our lives better Support the show Social Media: Instagram: @DWHYAPodcast Twitter: @DWHYAPodcast Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola

In this episode, we explore the true meaning of unresolved trauma while attempting to understand how it affects our mental health and emotional well-being. From our personal to professional experiences, we identify coping mechanisms and tools for managing unresolved trauma. 🎙️ Love the DWHYA podcast? Show your support by subscribing! It helps us grow and keep the conversations going. 💛 https://www.buzzsprout.com/2324256/support Support the show Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins &...

In this episode, we examine the habit of people-pleasing and its common root causes. We also discuss the short-term and long-term consequences of prioritizing others over one’s well-being. Support the show Social Media: Instagram: @DWHYAPodcast Twitter: @DWHYAPodcast Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola

In this episode, we discuss “parental trauma” from understanding how it manifests to identifying common behavioral patterns we might inherit from parents who have unresolved trauma. Our goal is to highlight ways in which we can approach conversations with our parents to encourage healing Support the show Social Media: Instagram: @DWHYAPodcast Twitter: @DWHYAPodcast Host: Paula Bamgbose-Martins & Aisha Popoola