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Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Janna Denton-Howes: Marriage Coach | Sex Educator | Low Libido Expert
162 episodes
5 days ago
Doing It Together is about empowering women and men to heal from cultural messages so that they can discover true pleasure and connection in their sexual relationship and marriage. This podcast addresses the common dynamic in a heterosexual relationship in which the wife doesn’t want and enjoy sex and the husband does.

Too often, the focus is placed on labels like “low libido” and “low sex drive” without addressing the root issues including physical and emotional safety, shame, porn use, unintentional pressure, lack of emotional awareness, and many others.

I’m Janna Denton-Howes, a Relationship Coach and Sex Educator who has specialized in this one area for the last 7 years, helping thousands of couples create a sex life that both partners can look forward to and genuinely enjoy. I’ve developed Doing It Together (formally known as “Wanting It More”), a unique program offering both men and women the tools, skills, and support to do the work required for a healthy and sustainable intimate life.

If you’re looking for a fresh perspective on how to have a great sex life that is truly nourishing, connecting, and fulfilling without any feelings of obligation, duty, or guilt, this is the podcast for you!
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Doing It Together is about empowering women and men to heal from cultural messages so that they can discover true pleasure and connection in their sexual relationship and marriage. This podcast addresses the common dynamic in a heterosexual relationship in which the wife doesn’t want and enjoy sex and the husband does.

Too often, the focus is placed on labels like “low libido” and “low sex drive” without addressing the root issues including physical and emotional safety, shame, porn use, unintentional pressure, lack of emotional awareness, and many others.

I’m Janna Denton-Howes, a Relationship Coach and Sex Educator who has specialized in this one area for the last 7 years, helping thousands of couples create a sex life that both partners can look forward to and genuinely enjoy. I’ve developed Doing It Together (formally known as “Wanting It More”), a unique program offering both men and women the tools, skills, and support to do the work required for a healthy and sustainable intimate life.

If you’re looking for a fresh perspective on how to have a great sex life that is truly nourishing, connecting, and fulfilling without any feelings of obligation, duty, or guilt, this is the podcast for you!
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Episodes (20/162)
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Does Husband Hygiene Impact a Wife's Libido? | Ep. 170

Over the last 8 years Janna has specialized in helping women with low libido, she frequently hears them share about how difficult it is to talk with their husbands about personal hygiene.


“My husband always has bad breath.”


“I wish he would shave before coming to bed.”


“Is it too much to ask to wear clean boxers?”


In this episode, Janna and her husband, Dwayne, discuss the trends she's been seeing, the cultural messages that impact this topic, his experience as a pre-teen learning about personal care, his current routine, and advice for talking to your husband about this.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, and join the waitlist for the Feb./Mar. 2026 round.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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1 week ago
49 minutes 35 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
How to Stop Feeling Emotionally Disconnected During Sex | Ep. 169

If you’ve ever felt emotionally disconnected during sex, you’re not alone. Janna and her husband Dwayne talk through the common reasons this can happen (for both men and women), how to recognize when you’re feeling out of sync, how to share that with your partner, and the steps you can take to make those moments feel more connected more often.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, and join the waitlist for the Feb./Mar. 2026 round.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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2 weeks ago
37 minutes 46 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
I'm Re-Married!...Which Means I Got Divorced | Ep. 168

Janna shares a major life update with her listeners and introduces a very special guest.


In early October, she married her new partner, Dwayne. Together, Janna and Dwayne openly and courageously reflect on the past few years — including Janna’s divorce, how they met, and what sparked their connection.


They also give listeners a candid look into their intimate life and explain how the principles of Doing It Together have shaped their relationship from the very beginning.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, and join the waitlist for the Feb./Mar. 2026 round.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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3 weeks ago
25 minutes 1 second

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
How Following the “Good Wife” Formula Led to a Nervous Breakdown - with Lisa (Part 2) | Ep. 167

Part 2 of Lisa’s story is a must-listen episode. She opens up about how decades of prioritizing her husband’s sexual needs while ignoring her own led to a nervous breakdown that affected her both physically and emotionally.


Lisa believed she was doing the right thing—following the “marriage formula” and giving him what he needed to keep the peace and manage his moods. But deep down, her body was begging for change. She just didn’t have the language or tools to understand what was wrong. 


In this episode, Lisa shares how discovering Janna’s podcast and program transformed their marriage—and how she realized her so-called “low libido” was never the real problem.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, and join the waitlist for the Feb./Mar. 2026 round.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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1 month ago
1 hour 9 minutes 36 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
How a Lack of Guidance Creates Fear and Confusion Around Sex - with Lisa (Part 1) | Ep. 166

In Part 1 of Lisa’s story, she looks back on her youth and the awkward search for answers about sex and sexuality as a now 59-year-old woman.


Her parents spoke in vague, confusing terms and never provided real context, which she found bizarre. The explanations she did receive made her body’s natural changes sound painful and frightening. While there was plenty of playground gossip, there was no real guidance from anyone who actually knew what they were talking about. Magazines like Cosmopolitan painted sex as a kind of theatrical performance, leaving Lisa with a jumble of misinformation that led to years of confusion, fear, and dishonesty.


Tune in next week to hear Part 2 and how Lisa finally found truthful guidance to erase this old and tired narrative.

Learn about the Doing It Together program details, and join the waitlist for the Feb./Mar. 2026 round.


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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1 month ago
37 minutes 20 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
What If I'm Not Attracted To My Husband? Plus More FAQ's | Ep. 165

Janna answers recent questions she's received about her program for couples, Doing It Together.


Questions include:


  • What if I don’t feel physically attracted to my husband?
  • What is your opinion on sleep deprivation and sex drive?
  • How do you rekindle connection if you didn't start with a lot of chemistry in the first place?
  • What happens if my husband has decided he likes something during sex that I DONT?
  • How do I encourage my husband to want help as well? Most of this is blamed on me.

Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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1 month ago
22 minutes 1 second

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Couples Share Their Unexpected Doing It Together Wins | Ep. 164

As the last round of Doing It Together came to a close, Janna and her team hosted one final Zoom call with all the couples. It wasn’t just a goodbye; it was a celebration of the journey they had taken together. At one point, Janna posed a simple but powerful question: “What’s been the most surprising thing you’ve discovered through this experience?”


The answers that followed were nothing short of inspiring. In just eight weeks, these couples had already begun reshaping the way they connected, rebuilt trust, and opened doors to deeper intimacy. It wasn’t always easy—real change rarely is—but seeing their breakthroughs unfold reminded everyone of the heart behind Doing It Together: helping couples create an intimate life that feels safe, meaningful, and satisfying for both partners.

Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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2 months ago
51 minutes 47 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
How to Decide if Doing It Together is the Right Next Step | Ep. 163

The doors to Doing It Together are open for the Oct/Nov round!


In this episode, Janna goes over the program details, what couples can expect to learn, and how you can decide if Doing It Together is the right fit for your marriage.

Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Registration closes Oct. 1


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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2 months ago
26 minutes 33 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
IVF, Intimacy, and the Breaking Point That Changed Everything - with Reese | Ep. 162

In Part 2 of Reese’s episode, he opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of trying for children, including multiple rounds of IVF and the strain it placed on intimacy in his marriage. Disconnected from his feelings, he carried a lot of anger and tension, making everything feel heavy and difficult.


After reaching a breaking point, Reese stumbled across Janna’s podcast during a late-night search. For the first time, he heard other men share their struggles with intimacy in marriage, and their stories resonated deeply. He recognized how his screen addiction was impacting his relationship and explains how he’s now working to rebuild a healthier space for his wife, his family, and himself to thrive.

Janna's FREE classes for men and women are happening Sept. 15 & 16. Register for the women's class here and the men's class here.


Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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2 months ago
38 minutes 38 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Secrets, Screens, and the Struggle for Real Connection - with Reese | Ep. 161

Reese learned at a young age that secrets stay safe behind locked doors. When he discovered adult images online, what started as curiosity quickly turned into a regular habit—and soon, a strong screen addiction took hold.


Over time, the influence of these images began shaping how he viewed relationships with women. He became fixated on unrealistic performance expectations, while true emotional connection slipped further and further out of reach.


Caught in a cycle of shame and pressure, Reese had no idea what was driving his struggles—until he came across Janna’s work.


Listen to Part 1 of Reese’s story now, and stay tuned for Part 2 next week.

Janna's FREE classes for men and women are happening Sept. 15 & 16. Register for the women's class here and the men's class here.


Join the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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2 months ago
31 minutes 39 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
The Wake-Up Call That Changed His Marriage - with David (Part 2) | Ep. 160

In Part 2 of David’s story, he opens up about the early days of his marriage and the life event that triggered a sharp decline in their sex life. He remembers feeling lonely but not fully understanding why. Although he and his wife had many conversations about what she was experiencing, her perspective never quite clicked for him.


That changed when she began listening to Janna’s podcast and finally found the words to explain what she was feeling. Once David started listening to other people’s stories, the pieces began to fall into place. He realized he had carried negative patterns into their marriage—patterns that blocked true intimacy and emotional safety. In this episode, David reflects on what he learned, not only as a therapist but also as a husband.

Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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3 months ago
37 minutes 31 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
How a Psychotherapist Came to Understand His Own Intimacy Struggles - with David | Ep. 159

David, a Mexican American, grew up navigating the influence of two cultures—his Hispanic, Catholic upbringing and the American, white culture around him. He describes his Hispanic roots as warm, physical, and affectionate, yet completely silent when it came to conversations about sex. While his parents assured him he could talk to them about anything, the unspoken rule was clear: sex was a taboo topic.


At just eight years old, David discovered his father’s hidden pornography stash. That early exposure deeply shaped his perceptions of women and his ideas about what relationships should look like. Years later, when he met his wife in college, the hidden pressures and distorted beliefs he carried began to strain their intimacy. It wasn’t until he joined Janna’s program that David finally began to recognize—and untangle—the negative effects of those early experiences.


Tune in next week to hear Part 2 of David's story.

Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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3 months ago
39 minutes 33 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Why Safety Matters More Than Libido - with Natalie | E. 158

When Natalie met her husband, they clicked instantly. After marriage, their sex life was good at first, but over time her desire began to fade. Things worsened after having kids—she describes her husband’s advances as “feeling like another need to fill.” He urged her to “fix” her low libido, but deep down, she knew it wasn’t her hormones that needed repairing. Something felt off, though she couldn’t quite pinpoint it—she just knew his advances left her feeling gross and cringy.


Around this time, Natalie discovered Janna’s podcast and immediately recognized what had been missing in her relationship: safety. Through the Doing It Together program, she felt validated and reassured that her instincts had been right all along. As her trust in her intuition grew, she and her husband uncovered behaviours that had been off-base. Now, they’re working together to create a safer, healthier space for both of them.

Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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3 months ago
46 minutes 59 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
The Real Reason Sex Started to Feel Off - with John (Part 2) | Ep. 157

In Part 2 of John’s story, he shares how he met his wife online and how quickly their relationship progressed. They moved in together almost immediately, and he describes their sex life early on as “frequent, enjoyable, and exciting.” But over time, the honeymoon phase faded. Their sexual connection began to feel like something they should do, rather than something they wanted to do.


Even though they shared a deep emotional bond, John started questioning whether he was in the right relationship. He made efforts to reignite the spark—planning date nights, giving massages, even trying to schedule intimacy—but the distance between them only grew as he gradually pulled away.


Sensing the shift, his wife suggested they listen to some of Janna’s podcasts together. That led them to join Doing It Together, and for John, it was eye-opening. He began to recognize how deeply cultural conditioning had shaped both of their experiences. He now understands that “fixing” their sex life isn’t just about physical connection—it’s about healing and growing together on multiple levels.

Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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3 months ago
34 minutes 9 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Exploring the Backlash of Performance Anxiety - with John | Ep. 156

As a teenager, John felt uneasy about the new sensations of arousal in his changing body. He wasn’t sure how to handle them, which led to persistent discomfort, performance anxiety, and awkward early attempts at intimacy with girls.


During his university years, John moved past some of his self-doubt—but his behavior in relationships took a troubling turn. He describes feeling like he was “trying to make up for lost time,” and admits he didn’t treat his girlfriends with the respect they deserved. Even though it felt awful, he found himself cheating and sabotaging his relationships.


In this episode, Janna and John unpack those complicated feelings and explore what was really driving his actions.


Tune in next week for Part 2 of John’s story.

Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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4 months ago
34 minutes 57 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Healing The Secret Strain in a Picture-Perfect Marriage - with Andrea (Part 2) | Ep. 155

When Andrea met her husband, they shared an instant connection. She describes their early intimacy as “fun, easy, and pressure-free.” But after they got married, things began to shift. Sex became complicated, and Andrea started to wonder if something was wrong with her. She found herself checking the calendar, counting the days, and feeling her anxiety grow.


On the outside, their relationship looked perfect—but behind closed doors, the tension was building. They tried individual counseling, couples therapy, and Andrea read endlessly about low libido in women, searching for answers. But nothing changed… until she found Janna.


For the first time, Andrea was introduced to a different perspective—one where intimacy could look and feel entirely new. Hear what she discovered, and why she calls Janna’s Doing It Together program truly life-changing.

Get Janna's FREE 3-part video series for women, The Real Reason You Don't Want Sex.


Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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4 months ago
33 minutes 48 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Empowered or Objectified? 90's Girl Power Through Teen Eyes - with Andrea | Ep. 154

Andrea, now 37, grew up in the 1990s, shaped by the influence of pop icons like Britney Spears and the Spice Girls. Back then, “girl power” looked like tube tops, perfect hair, and using every ounce of energy to grab—and most importantly, keep—the attention of boys.


As a teenager, Andrea poured her focus into chasing male approval. But when the attention finally came, and kissing or more was expected to maintain it, the magic disappeared. The chase felt exhausting, and the physical side of things felt more like a performance than pleasure. Deep down, she wasn’t enjoying any of it. Confused and disappointed, Andrea started to wonder if something was wrong with her.


Tune in next week for Part 2 of Andrea’s story—where things start to shift.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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4 months ago
35 minutes 10 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
A 20-Year Journey Through Painful Intimacy - with Shannon (Part 2) | Ep. 153

In Part 2 of her episode, Shannon opens up about the next chapter of her story. After meeting her husband, she eagerly took the lead in their relationship—from their first kiss to exploring intimacy together. Remaining a virgin until marriage was deeply important to her, so they waited until their wedding night to have intercourse.


But the moment she had waited for her entire life turned out to be excruciatingly painful—and the pain didn’t go away. For two years, Shannon silently endured, until she was finally diagnosed with vulvodynia, a chronic condition causing pain around the vulva. What was supposed to be a joyful part of marriage became a painful obligation. She was overwhelmed with guilt and shame, feeling as though she had failed as a wife.


Eventually, she found an incredible pelvic floor specialist who helped relieve much of the physical pain—but the emotional and sexual disconnection lingered. Despite her efforts, she still didn’t feel desire. Over the next 20 years, they struggled. A sex therapist left Shannon feeling blamed and broken. They even tried visiting sex clubs, hoping that new experiences might reignite her interest. Nothing worked, and Shannon sank into depression.


Then she found Janna.


For the first time, Shannon felt truly seen, heard, and understood. With Janna’s support, her relationship has completely transformed. Now, Shannon looks forward to the next 20 years with her husband—hopeful, empowered, and finally at peace.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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4 months ago
48 minutes 25 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
From Purity Promises to Parenting With Truth - with Shannon (Part 1) | Ep. 152

Shannon grew up in a conservative Christian household during the 1990s, at the height of the purity culture movement. At just 14 years old, she signed a contract pledging to remain a virgin until marriage.


Now, Shannon shares what she was taught during that time, how she navigated the strict “rules” meant to preserve her so-called purity, and how those experiences have shaped the way she now talks to her 10-year-old daughter—especially in light of what she’s learned from Janna.

Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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5 months ago
33 minutes 14 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Why You Don’t Know What You Like And How To Figure It Out - With Jess | Ep.151

Jess and her husband went through a slow but steady decline in intimacy, eventually reaching a point where they hadn't had sex for years. While her husband assumed she had no interest, Jess thought about it constantly—carrying deep feelings of shame and guilt. They never spoke about it, and Jess felt completely stuck, unsure of how to move forward.


Then Jess discovered Janna’s podcast. She listened quietly for over a year before she ever mentioned it to her husband. She was drawn to Janna’s Wanting It More Foundations course for women, hoping to better understand why she had grown to dislike sex—and to begin figuring out what she might actually enjoy.


The course gave her the words and insights she had been missing. For the first time, Jess realized she had no real understanding of what felt good to her—she had always been focused on other people’s needs and feelings instead of her own. With this new awareness, she was finally able to have an open, honest conversation with her husband.


Together, they decided to take the Doing It Together course. Now, they’re learning how Jess can reconnect with herself and how her husband can support her in that journey.



Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is on sale for $100 off until June 17. Learn more and join here.


Join the waitlist for the Oct./Nov. 2025 round of Doing It Together here.


Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.


Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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5 months ago
1 hour 2 minutes 20 seconds

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Doing It Together is about empowering women and men to heal from cultural messages so that they can discover true pleasure and connection in their sexual relationship and marriage. This podcast addresses the common dynamic in a heterosexual relationship in which the wife doesn’t want and enjoy sex and the husband does.

Too often, the focus is placed on labels like “low libido” and “low sex drive” without addressing the root issues including physical and emotional safety, shame, porn use, unintentional pressure, lack of emotional awareness, and many others.

I’m Janna Denton-Howes, a Relationship Coach and Sex Educator who has specialized in this one area for the last 7 years, helping thousands of couples create a sex life that both partners can look forward to and genuinely enjoy. I’ve developed Doing It Together (formally known as “Wanting It More”), a unique program offering both men and women the tools, skills, and support to do the work required for a healthy and sustainable intimate life.

If you’re looking for a fresh perspective on how to have a great sex life that is truly nourishing, connecting, and fulfilling without any feelings of obligation, duty, or guilt, this is the podcast for you!