In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most important elements of moving towards freedom in your relationship and that is…a reset from sex.
It’s something that you may have heard many times on the podcast in interviews with alumni of Doing It Together but it’s the first time I’ve addressed it directly.
If you are tired of the mental energy sex is taking up in your life right now, I highly encourage you to listen to this conversation.
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Today on the podcast I recorded a short and sweet solo episode for you but really it’s a love-letter to my former self.
Anxiety (just a different term for “fear”) is telling you something and if you are feeling it around sex, there is something to learn. And I promise you, it’s not that you are broken and that nothing will ever work. I used to believe that too but that thought will only keep you stuck.
Listen and trust yourself and please, please, please get some support for this. It’s not going to change on it’s own.
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Since we’re headed into a time of the year where there may be some extra space as a couple, I thought it would be a good idea to talk about expectations around sex and special occasions.
I know this happens more often with birthdays and vacations but it’s possible that in the lull between Christmas and New Years some pressure could creep in.
In this short episode, we discuss why this happens, the harm it can cause and what to do instead. Plus we talk about what gifts husbands should never get their wives 🙂.
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The idea that men are so simple to please and women are a difficult maze of sensitive knobs and dials, often leaves female pleasure forgotten about.
But what if something else was happening? What if our culture has only taught men and women about men’s bodies and pleasure? What if women’s genitals and orgasms felt impossibly difficult because we are all trying to approach them like men’s?
This is what we discussed on the podcast this week- sharing openly our current challenges with my partner learning my body as well as the common feeling amongst women that we don’t work properly or that we’re broken.
And to make it practical, we also included some basic concepts to understand when approaching the clitoris.
We didn’t hold anything back in this 30 minute episode and I hope you can find a quiet, private moment to join the conversation.
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Janna and her husband discuss the ins and outs of talking about sex as a couple- why so many people struggle with it, their personal challenges with communication, and what they're currently experimenting with to try to improve.
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It’s been a dream of mine to be able to chat with my daughter on the podcast and get her take on some of the concepts we discuss here.
In this episode, we touch on what she is learning in her class about consent and rape culture, her take on what’s happening in teen relationships, and a bit of advice for parents thinking about teaching consent to their own kids.
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Over the last 8 years Janna has specialized in helping women with low libido, she frequently hears them share about how difficult it is to talk with their husbands about personal hygiene.
“My husband always has bad breath.”
“I wish he would shave before coming to bed.”
“Is it too much to ask to wear clean boxers?”
In this episode, Janna and her husband, Dwayne, discuss the trends she's been seeing, the cultural messages that impact this topic, his experience as a pre-teen learning about personal care, his current routine, and advice for talking to your husband about this.
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If you’ve ever felt emotionally disconnected during sex, you’re not alone. Janna and her husband Dwayne talk through the common reasons this can happen (for both men and women), how to recognize when you’re feeling out of sync, how to share that with your partner, and the steps you can take to make those moments feel more connected more often.
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Janna shares a major life update with her listeners and introduces a very special guest.
In early October, she married her new partner, Dwayne. Together, Janna and Dwayne openly and courageously reflect on the past few years — including Janna’s divorce, how they met, and what sparked their connection.
They also give listeners a candid look into their intimate life and explain how the principles of Doing It Together have shaped their relationship from the very beginning.
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Part 2 of Lisa’s story is a must-listen episode. She opens up about how decades of prioritizing her husband’s sexual needs while ignoring her own led to a nervous breakdown that affected her both physically and emotionally.
Lisa believed she was doing the right thing—following the “marriage formula” and giving him what he needed to keep the peace and manage his moods. But deep down, her body was begging for change. She just didn’t have the language or tools to understand what was wrong.
In this episode, Lisa shares how discovering Janna’s podcast and program transformed their marriage—and how she realized her so-called “low libido” was never the real problem.
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In Part 1 of Lisa’s story, she looks back on her youth and the awkward search for answers about sex and sexuality as a now 59-year-old woman.
Her parents spoke in vague, confusing terms and never provided real context, which she found bizarre. The explanations she did receive made her body’s natural changes sound painful and frightening. While there was plenty of playground gossip, there was no real guidance from anyone who actually knew what they were talking about. Magazines like Cosmopolitan painted sex as a kind of theatrical performance, leaving Lisa with a jumble of misinformation that led to years of confusion, fear, and dishonesty.
Tune in next week to hear Part 2 and how Lisa finally found truthful guidance to erase this old and tired narrative.
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Janna answers recent questions she's received about her program for couples, Doing It Together.
Questions include:
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As the last round of Doing It Together came to a close, Janna and her team hosted one final Zoom call with all the couples. It wasn’t just a goodbye; it was a celebration of the journey they had taken together. At one point, Janna posed a simple but powerful question: “What’s been the most surprising thing you’ve discovered through this experience?”
The answers that followed were nothing short of inspiring. In just eight weeks, these couples had already begun reshaping the way they connected, rebuilt trust, and opened doors to deeper intimacy. It wasn’t always easy—real change rarely is—but seeing their breakthroughs unfold reminded everyone of the heart behind Doing It Together: helping couples create an intimate life that feels safe, meaningful, and satisfying for both partners.
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The doors to Doing It Together are open for the Oct/Nov round!
In this episode, Janna goes over the program details, what couples can expect to learn, and how you can decide if Doing It Together is the right fit for your marriage.
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In Part 2 of Reese’s episode, he opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of trying for children, including multiple rounds of IVF and the strain it placed on intimacy in his marriage. Disconnected from his feelings, he carried a lot of anger and tension, making everything feel heavy and difficult.
After reaching a breaking point, Reese stumbled across Janna’s podcast during a late-night search. For the first time, he heard other men share their struggles with intimacy in marriage, and their stories resonated deeply. He recognized how his screen addiction was impacting his relationship and explains how he’s now working to rebuild a healthier space for his wife, his family, and himself to thrive.
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Reese learned at a young age that secrets stay safe behind locked doors. When he discovered adult images online, what started as curiosity quickly turned into a regular habit—and soon, a strong screen addiction took hold.
Over time, the influence of these images began shaping how he viewed relationships with women. He became fixated on unrealistic performance expectations, while true emotional connection slipped further and further out of reach.
Caught in a cycle of shame and pressure, Reese had no idea what was driving his struggles—until he came across Janna’s work.
Listen to Part 1 of Reese’s story now, and stay tuned for Part 2 next week.
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In Part 2 of David’s story, he opens up about the early days of his marriage and the life event that triggered a sharp decline in their sex life. He remembers feeling lonely but not fully understanding why. Although he and his wife had many conversations about what she was experiencing, her perspective never quite clicked for him.
That changed when she began listening to Janna’s podcast and finally found the words to explain what she was feeling. Once David started listening to other people’s stories, the pieces began to fall into place. He realized he had carried negative patterns into their marriage—patterns that blocked true intimacy and emotional safety. In this episode, David reflects on what he learned, not only as a therapist but also as a husband.
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David, a Mexican American, grew up navigating the influence of two cultures—his Hispanic, Catholic upbringing and the American, white culture around him. He describes his Hispanic roots as warm, physical, and affectionate, yet completely silent when it came to conversations about sex. While his parents assured him he could talk to them about anything, the unspoken rule was clear: sex was a taboo topic.
At just eight years old, David discovered his father’s hidden pornography stash. That early exposure deeply shaped his perceptions of women and his ideas about what relationships should look like. Years later, when he met his wife in college, the hidden pressures and distorted beliefs he carried began to strain their intimacy. It wasn’t until he joined Janna’s program that David finally began to recognize—and untangle—the negative effects of those early experiences.
Tune in next week to hear Part 2 of David's story.
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When Natalie met her husband, they clicked instantly. After marriage, their sex life was good at first, but over time her desire began to fade. Things worsened after having kids—she describes her husband’s advances as “feeling like another need to fill.” He urged her to “fix” her low libido, but deep down, she knew it wasn’t her hormones that needed repairing. Something felt off, though she couldn’t quite pinpoint it—she just knew his advances left her feeling gross and cringy.
Around this time, Natalie discovered Janna’s podcast and immediately recognized what had been missing in her relationship: safety. Through the Doing It Together program, she felt validated and reassured that her instincts had been right all along. As her trust in her intuition grew, she and her husband uncovered behaviours that had been off-base. Now, they’re working together to create a safer, healthier space for both of them.
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In Part 2 of John’s story, he shares how he met his wife online and how quickly their relationship progressed. They moved in together almost immediately, and he describes their sex life early on as “frequent, enjoyable, and exciting.” But over time, the honeymoon phase faded. Their sexual connection began to feel like something they should do, rather than something they wanted to do.
Even though they shared a deep emotional bond, John started questioning whether he was in the right relationship. He made efforts to reignite the spark—planning date nights, giving massages, even trying to schedule intimacy—but the distance between them only grew as he gradually pulled away.
Sensing the shift, his wife suggested they listen to some of Janna’s podcasts together. That led them to join Doing It Together, and for John, it was eye-opening. He began to recognize how deeply cultural conditioning had shaped both of their experiences. He now understands that “fixing” their sex life isn’t just about physical connection—it’s about healing and growing together on multiple levels.
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