Send us a text What if hearing God was less about chasing a moment and more about walking in a steady conversation? We unpack five reliable ways to discern God’s voice—Scripture, the Spirit’s inner witness, wise community, peace that umpires your choices, and the clarity of open-and-closed doors—so you can move with confidence and courage. We share personal stories of guidance in marriage, ministry, and business, including dreams that redirected calling, impressions that protected timing, an...
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Send us a text What if hearing God was less about chasing a moment and more about walking in a steady conversation? We unpack five reliable ways to discern God’s voice—Scripture, the Spirit’s inner witness, wise community, peace that umpires your choices, and the clarity of open-and-closed doors—so you can move with confidence and courage. We share personal stories of guidance in marriage, ministry, and business, including dreams that redirected calling, impressions that protected timing, an...
Send us a text What if hearing God was less about chasing a moment and more about walking in a steady conversation? We unpack five reliable ways to discern God’s voice—Scripture, the Spirit’s inner witness, wise community, peace that umpires your choices, and the clarity of open-and-closed doors—so you can move with confidence and courage. We share personal stories of guidance in marriage, ministry, and business, including dreams that redirected calling, impressions that protected timing, an...
Send us a text Butterflies don’t build marriages—choices do. We open up about the rush of infatuation, the friction of the fight for power, and the quiet strength of mature love, weaving our 26-year story through the science, the pitfalls, and the simple practices that help couples grow. You’ll hear why dopamine and oxytocin make those early days feel like a dream, how cortisol and stress twist small annoyances into big battles, and what it takes to move from me-versus-you to us-versus-the-pr...
Send us a text Dating doesn’t have to feel like a guessing game. We break down five clear red flags every Christian should watch for and show how trusting God, not the crowd, changes who you choose and how you choose. From spiritual alignment to character under pressure, we pull back the curtain on the patterns that predict a healthy marriage—or a painful one. We start with the heart of it all: if someone pulls you away from God, isolates you from church, or mocks spiritual disciplines, that...
Send us a text We unpack how an eleven-day journey became forty years and why our schedules often repeat the same loop. Four practical keys help us redeem time, seize kairos moments, and align daily choices with what lasts. • the Exodus loop as a mirror for wasted time • screen time, reruns, indecision and hidden drains • numbering our days with humility and clarity • trusting God’s hand over our times and seasons • redeeming kairos opportunities instead of stalling • four keys: audit and al...
Send us a text Has your relationship started to feel more like routine than romance? 😬 You’re not alone — most couples hit seasons where the spark fades and connection feels distant. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. In this episode, Pastors Ken & Tabatha Claytor get real about what causes relationships to lose their spark and share 5 practical ways to bring it back — emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Whether you’ve been married for 2 years or 20, these truths will help you re...
Send us a text Some wounds don’t just hurt—they rearrange your world. We open up about betrayal in its many forms—breakups, family fractures, church hurt, even the quiet feeling that God didn’t show up—and we offer a path forward that’s both honest and hopeful. Without glossing over pain, we lay out five keys for healing: tell the truth about the wound, anchor your identity in God, choose forgiveness even if trust must be rebuilt, set boundaries that protect your heart, and invite God to rede...
Send us a text What if the temperature of your home could rise with one daily habit? After two rocky years at the start of our 26-year marriage, we learned that appreciation—not grand gestures—warms a cold house, heals silent nights, and makes a marriage last. We unpack how keeping a short memory, honoring each other’s roles, and practicing specific, daily gratitude turned us from scorekeepers into best friends. Come for the story of our comeback; stay for the tools you can use tonight to str...
Send us a text Ever find yourself ignoring relationship red flags because your heart is saying "yes" when your gut is screaming "no"? In this revealing episode, Ken and Tabatha Claytor draw from their 26 years of marriage and ministry experience to shine a light on the seven unmistakable signs that someone isn't right for you—regardless of how strong your feelings might be. The Claytors don't hold back as they challenge the casual dating culture with a powerful perspective: "I personally fee...
Send us a text The assassination of Charlie Kirk has sent shockwaves through America, revealing deep divisions not just in politics, but within the church itself. In this raw, unscripted conversation, Ken and Tabatha offer a perspective you might not have considered – one that bridges understanding between drastically different viewpoints. As Ken shares, "Everything changes when it comes to social media." Our digital algorithms create isolated bubbles of understanding where we only see conte...
Send us a text Have you ever found yourself loving your spouse but not particularly liking them in certain moments? That light switch they never flip off, those socks perpetually abandoned on the floor, or the crumbs consistently left on the counter – these small irritations can feel surprisingly monumental in marriage. In this heartfelt and humor-filled conversation, we unpack the critical distinction between love and like in marriage. After 26 years together, we've learned that those "litt...
Send us a text Marriage can be beautiful, but it can also be incredibly challenging. In our case, the first two years were some of the hardest. What transformed our struggling relationship into a thriving partnership wasn't better communication or date nights—it was supernatural power. Many believers are missing a crucial element in their spiritual lives and marriages: the baptism of the Holy Spirit. This isn't just theological jargon—it's a real, transformative experience that Jesus promise...
Send us a text Have you ever felt like your marriage was under attack? You might be right—but the attacker isn't your spouse. When Ken and Tabatha Claytor stood at the altar 26 years ago, they had no idea their marriage would nearly end within two years. What saved them wasn't marriage counseling or communication techniques (though those helped). It was recognizing the spiritual warfare targeting their relationship. "Marriage is God's idea, and it's the one relationship that shows the world...
Send us a text What if the secret to a thriving marriage isn't found in solving every problem, but in choosing which problems actually matter? Drawing from 24 years of marriage experience, we reveal why "not sweating the small stuff" might be the relationship superpower you've been overlooking. Remember your wedding day? The birth of your children? The special celebrations? Of course you do. But do you remember every dirty dish, unmade bed, or forgotten errand that triggered an argument? Pro...
Send us a text Have you ever faced a moment when everything you were working toward seemed to hit a wall? That intersection of disappointment and decision is exactly what we're diving into today as we explore the powerful concepts of pivoting and rebounding. Life rarely follows a straight line. Dreams get derailed, plans fall apart, and sometimes what seemed like the perfect path suddenly becomes impassable. But what if these moments aren't failures but invitations to something better? Drawi...
Send us a text Marriages don't break overnight, and they aren't restored in a day either. In this raw and revealing conversation, Ken and Tabatha share the five transformative keys that saved their once-broken relationship and built the foundation for their marriage journey. "Locate where you are" begins their practical framework—because you can't navigate to Macy's without first finding the "You Are Here" dot on the mall directory. This honest self-assessment creates the starting point for ...
Send us a text The secret weapon sitting on your shelf might be collecting dust. When was the last time you actually opened your Bible and studied it with purpose? In this powerful conversation, Ken and Tabatha tackle one of the most fundamental yet overlooked aspects of Christian life - how to develop a meaningful relationship with Scripture. Christians often struggle with Bible study, feeling intimidated by ancient text or unsure how to extract relevant meaning for today's challenges. Both...
Send us a text The way you talk to yourself matters more than you might realize. Have you ever caught yourself saying things to your own reflection that you'd never dream of saying to someone else? In this deeply personal episode, we explore the transformative power of extending "Grace to Self" and how this simple practice can revolutionize your mental, spiritual, and even physical wellbeing. Through vulnerable storytelling, we share the moment when a divine interruption challenged years of ...
Send us a text We explore God's design for intimacy within marriage and share eight essential principles for newlyweds navigating sexual expectations versus reality after the wedding day. • Understanding God's purpose for sex: procreation, enjoyment, and intimacy between husband and wife • Recognizing that great intimacy takes time, communication, and patience to develop • Being patient with the journey rather than expecting instant perfection • Communicating clearly and often about desires,...
Send us a text Struggling with dating in today's confusing landscape? Ken and Tabatha draw from their marriage to deliver straight-talking wisdom about what actually works in relationships. "You got to be friends first," Ken emphasizes, highlighting how many couples rush into relationships without genuinely liking each other. This foundation of friendship—actually enjoying each other's company—creates the energy that sustains love through challenging seasons. The hosts don't shy away ...
Send us a text What happens when the unthinkable creeps into your relationship? The answers might surprise you. After counseling countless couples through the aftermath of infidelity, we've discovered that affairs rarely "just happen" – they're the result of small compromises that accumulate over time. Drawing from both personal and professional experience, we reveal how good people can make devastating choices when they fail to establish proper boundaries. Our own marriage has weathered sig...
Send us a text What if hearing God was less about chasing a moment and more about walking in a steady conversation? We unpack five reliable ways to discern God’s voice—Scripture, the Spirit’s inner witness, wise community, peace that umpires your choices, and the clarity of open-and-closed doors—so you can move with confidence and courage. We share personal stories of guidance in marriage, ministry, and business, including dreams that redirected calling, impressions that protected timing, an...
