What if your success has nothing to do with you? That is the worldview of Bing Chen. And it has shaped two massive revolutions: the YouTube creator economy and the rise of Asian representation in Hollywood.
Bing and I go all the way back to Wharton. We were in the same senior society. After college we’d grab coffee in New York and he’d casually say things like, “I think millions of people will make their full-time living on YouTube.” He was right. He helped build it.
Today he is the CEO and Co-Founder of Gold House. Under his leadership the collective has supported over 600 projects, helped 100 films and shows reach #1 total debuts, and driven billions in revenue.
But none of that is why this conversation blew me away. The real story is Bing’s philosophy.
This is a conversation about generosity, legacy, culture, and what leadership actually looks like when you center it on others.
⏱️ Timestamps
00:00 – Why Bing and I still feel like caffeinated college kids
03:00 – The early YouTube years and the birth of the creator economy
07:00 – Bing’s definition of success and how losing his father changed everything
10:00 – Why real givers never count who owes them
11:30 – Naming the “creator.” The internal battles inside YouTube
15:00 – How Gold House accidentally came to life
16:00 – The strategy behind rallying a global diaspora
17:00 – The three universal human desires (health, love, meaning)
20:00 – The truth behind #GoldOpen and engineering cultural wins
23:00 – Why 100 films and shows reached number one in total debuts
25:00 – How community movements are intentionally built
28:00 – The manifesto of Gold House and why it is built on giving
29:30 – Why they chose the color gold and how brand identity shapes culture
31:00 – Being “the first call” when people win or fall
33:00 – Building a Marvel-scale creative universe about death
36:00 – Why contemplating mortality makes you more generous
41:00 – How to design community experiences that spark real impact
44:30 – Ethics, character checks, and the courage to excommunicate the wrong people
47:00 – The leadership principle Bing wishes he learned earlier
50:00 – How to be “the only one,” not the best one
55:00 – Final reflections on kindness, ambition, and legacy
This episode is a masterclass in impact, community, and leadership.
If you’ve ever wondered how to build something bigger than yourself, Bing is the blueprint.
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Most people meet a quantum physicist and think they have nothing in common.
But Anastasia Marchenkova is built different.
She went from breaking the servers at Georgia Tech to building quantum chips at Rigetti, to investing in deep-tech startups, to teaching introverts how to communicate. And along the way she discovered something surprising.
Being smart is not the hard part. Being human is. In this episode, we talk about how Anastasia rewrote her entire identity. From shy scientist to founder to creator to someone who believes empathy is a core technology.
You will hear:
- The night she accidentally took down Georgia Tech’s internet and got seed funding for it
- Why scientists struggle to admit “I don’t know” and how it kills innovation
- The “misogyny is a skill issue” problem in tech and what confident people do differently
- Why 85 percent of career success comes from people skills, not IQ
- How she taught herself charisma using physics-level study habits
- Why scientists should fire clients faster
- The rule she lives by online: never punch down
- How to handle haters who can’t spell “your”
- The moment she realized asking for help is a superpower
- How boundaries make you kinder, not harsher
- The real cost of being the smartest person in the room
This conversation is part science, part philosophy, and part survival guide for anyone who has ever felt like their intelligence outran their communication skills.
EPISODE TIMESTAMPS
00:00 — The supervillain origin story
03:00 — Breaking Georgia Tech’s servers and starting a company
07:00 — The academic mindset vs the startup mindset
11:30 — Why saying “I don’t know” increases innovation
15:00 — The danger of needing to be the smartest person in the room
17:30 — Why founders should fire faster
20:00 — People skills as a competitive advantage
27:00 — Misogyny as a skill issue
30:00 — Handling online hate and setting boundaries
35:00 — The psychology of communication in deep tech
40:00 — What scientists can teach founders (and vice versa)
48:00 — The most important question every technical leader should ask
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What happens when you build everything you ever wanted… and still feel empty?
For Jesse Pujji, that moment came after bootstrapping Ampush to a multi-eight-figure exit and realizing that money and titles weren’t enough.
So he stepped back, did the inner work, and started Gateway X, a venture studio built around one radical idea: you can scale businesses and stay human.
Jesse and I met as college kids at Wharton 20+ years ago. He was the calm, wise one. Let’s just say I was… not that. That’s why this conversation felt like a full circle moment for me.
In this conversation, Jesse and I talk about what happens behind the curtain of “success” and how fear, ego, and self-awareness shape everything from our leadership style to our happiness.
You’ll hear:
This episode is for for anyone building something big and trying to stay grounded while they do it.⏱️ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 — How Healey and Jesse met at Wharton (and the TA story that started it all)
03:30 — Why Jesse left Wall Street to build a company from scratch
06:00 — The crash after the win: what happens when external success stops working
07:30 — The 5 motivators that drive all human behavior (and how to choose your fuel)
10:00 — When money stopped motivating and what filled the gap
11:50 — “What’s the one thing you can’t not do?” Finding purpose through practice
13:20 — From purpose to play: how to live in your “zone of genius”
18:00 — The decision to leave a $1M job offer and follow intuition
25:30 — “Fear is excitement without breath.” How to reframe fear as energy
27:00 — Aliveness as the compass: how to know you’re on your path
30:00 — Work as a spiritual pursuit (and how to turn frustration into curiosity)
33:00 — Mirrors, ego, and the parts of ourselves we don’t want to see
38:00 — The moment Jesse said “I feel scared” in a meeting (and how it changed the room)
42:00 — Why presence is contagious and awareness builds trust
44:30 — Treating people like adults (and why “loving candor” works better than control)
47:00 — How humility became Jesse’s leadership advantage
50:00 — What he wishes someone told him earlier about money, fear, and fulfillment
52:30 — Where to find Jesse today and what he’s building next
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What happens when authenticity becomes your superpower?
For Goldie Chan, she turned her authentic, vulnerable story into a personal brand everyone wants. She’s the founder of Warm Robots, a Forbes contributor, and the author of Personal Branding for Introverts, a guide to building influence without pretending to be someone you’re not.
Dubbed the “Oprah of LinkedIn,” Goldie built one of the most trusted voices in storytelling and leadership by doing something revolutionary in the age of algorithms: leading with heart.
In this episode, Healey Cypher sits down with Goldie to talk about how stories shape trust, why vulnerability is magnetic, and what it really takes to connect in a world run by metrics.
You’ll hear:
This conversation is equal parts strategy and soul. It’s about turning your humanity into your advantage and proving that empathy, not ego, is the real growth engine.
⏱️ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS
00:00 — The story behind Don’t Be a Jerk (and Adam Grant’s advice)
05:00 — Meet Goldie Chan: from poetry to the “Oprah of LinkedIn”
10:00 — Why storytelling is the most human skill we have left
14:30 — “Broetry,” bad writing, and how to actually hook your reader
19:00 — Vulnerability as a superpower: Goldie’s cancer story
22:00 — The two versions of every story: short vs. long
26:30 — Authenticity → Trust → Performance: the leadership loop
31:00 — The improv rule that transforms conversations
34:00 — How to make one-to-many feel one-to-one
40:00 — Confidence vs. ego — and why both are contagious
47:00 — Storytelling as a muscle: how to keep it strong
55:00 — Goldie’s final lesson: tell the story that resonates
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What happens when life throws you something you can’t control?
For Lucy Aragon, the answer was to keep dancing.
She’s been to 105 countries, built a life around optimism and adventure, and faced her husband’s cancer diagnosis with humor, perspective, and a contagious belief that joy isn’t luck. It’s work.
In this episode, Healey Cypher sits down with Lucy to talk about the art of staying light when life gets heavy. From her solo travels through war zones to the lessons she learned about resilience, confidence, and perspective, Lucy’s story is a reminder that happiness isn’t something you find. It’s something you create.
You’ll hear:
- How travel rewires your empathy and your brain
- Why “the rules were invented by people way stupider than you”
- The moment in Yemen that changed how she sees courage
- How humor became her greatest survival tool
- Why optimism is a health advantage, not a personality trait
- The 50 Cent quote that helped her beat anxiety and depression
- What lighting poop on fire taught her about leadership and joy
This conversation is equal parts philosophy and laughter. It’s about choosing perspective over panic, humor over fear, and joy as a daily act of rebellion.
⏱️ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS
00:00 — How Healey and Lucy met (and why she lights up every room)
04:00 — Travel as a teacher: empathy, perspective, and the Yemen story
10:00 — “The rules were invented by people way stupider than you”
15:30 — Disneyland, the 8-year-old, and the moment Lucy realized most rules are fake
24:30 — Facing cancer with confidence, humor, and perspective
31:00 — Why optimism isn’t denial
35:45 — How comparison became the thief of modern joy
39:00 — Travel, gratitude, and the psychology of happiness
45:20 — “Depression is a luxury” from 50 Cent
49:00 — Anxiety, control, and the mental rewiring that joy requires
55:00 — The loneliness epidemic and how to fight it with connection
01:05:00 — The art of humor (even when life is serious)
01:10:00 — Lighting poop on fire (yes, really) and parenting through joy
01:17:00 — Why intention matters more than perfection
01:22:00 — Lucy’s final lesson: You can just be happy, without being rich or successful
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What does it take to build a real community in a world that rewards hustle over humanity?
Espree Devora has spent over a decade answering that question.
She’s the founder of We Are LA Tech and host of Women in Tech, where she’s spent thousands of hours connecting entrepreneurs, creators, and founders (and learning the hard way what it means to lead with empathy).
In this episode, Healey Cypher sits down with Espree to explore the science and soul of connection. From raising venture capital with no introduction to Sequoia, to learning the power of boundaries, breathwork, and burnout recovery, Espree shares how to build communities that last, starting with yourself.
You’ll hear:
- Why community is a human survival tool, not a marketing strategy
- The simple mindset shift that made Espree fall in love with herself
- How to set boundaries without shutting people out
- Why “curious compassion” can fix almost any conflict
- The real reason most founders burn out
- What Tony Hsieh taught her about culture and core values
- How to build belonging without losing yourself in the process
This conversation is equal parts tactical and deeply human. It’s about self-worth, leadership, and why the most successful communities are built on something simple but radical: love.
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What happens when you build a $400 million startup and then lose it all?
For James Beshara, the answer wasn’t another company. It was a complete rewiring of how to live.
In this episode, Healey Cypher sits down with the founder of Tilt (acquired by Airbnb) and Magic Mind to talk about the unseen side of ambition: the waves you catch, the ones you miss, and the peace that comes when you stop fighting the current.
James shares how public failure became the best thing that ever happened to him, why stillness is the ultimate competitive advantage, and how a decade of studying philosophy (Advaita Vedanta) reshaped his definition of success.
You’ll hear:
- How to build mental wealth the same way you build physical health
- Why “we don’t see the world as it is; we see it as we are”
- The founder trap of external validation and how to escape it
- The 90-minute morning ritual that keeps him calm in chaos
- Why work without attachment is a form of worship
- The story behind my $100 million mistake and what it taught him about ego
- The simple, radical truth that changed his life: “It’s not out there.”
This conversation is a rare blend of practicality and philosophy. It’s about ambition without anxiety, growth without ego, and finding meaning in the middle of the mess.
🎧 Listen now to this episode of “Don’t Be a Jerk” on your favorite podcast platform.
What if telling the truth faster could make your company more profitable, your culture stronger, and your life easier?
Robert Yuen, CEO of Monograph, believes it can. He has built an entire business around it.
In this episode of Don’t Be a Jerk, Healey sits down with Robert to unpack what radical transparency really looks like in practice. They discuss everything from open dashboards and revenue lines visible to every employee, to investor meetings where Robert leads with the hard stuff first.
Together, Healey and Robert explore:
- Why transparency is the ultimate trust accelerant and the only sustainable culture strategy
- How to communicate bad news without breaking morale
- When to hold back information and how to do it without eroding trust
- Why asking for help early saves startups from silent collapse
- How Monograph uses visual dashboards, revenue transparency, and consistent cadences to eliminate surprises
- The money conversation script architects and founders should use to make pricing fair, firm, and drama-free
- How transparency with investors flips power dynamics and attracts the right partners faster
- The surprising reason radical honesty is also a form of self-care
Robert’s leadership philosophy is simple but bold: “Transparency might backfire sometimes, but it always nets positive.”
This episode is part tactical playbook, part therapy session for founders who are tired of carrying everything alone. If you have ever wondered how to build a company that runs on trust rather than politics, this conversation is your blueprint.
Listen and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts!
Empathy is one of the most powerful tools we have for survival, leadership, and connection.
In this episode of Don’t Be a Jerk, Healey Cypher sits down with Jamil Zaki — Stanford psychology professor, empathy researcher, and author of The War for Kindness — to explore why empathy is under siege and how we can build it back, stronger than ever.
Jamil shares:
This is empathy with receipts: science, data, and tactical frameworks you can use today. Whether you’re running a company, managing a team, or just trying to argue better with your spouse, this episode is for you.
When you think about “service,” you might picture a volunteer day with matching T-shirts or a line on a résumé. But for Shakirah Simley, service is deeper. It’s generational. It’s survival. And it’s the force that has guided her life and leadership.
Shakirah grew up in Harlem and the South Bronx, raised by a family of Black women leaders, social workers, and activists. Today, she’s the Executive Director of the Booker T. Washington Community Service Center in San Francisco, where she’s quintupled the budget, quadrupled the staff, and transformed the center into a thriving hub of housing, education, food justice, and wellness.
In this conversation, Shakirah and Healey explore:
- Why research shows service makes us healthier, happier, and even live longer
- The difference between “resume service” and service that truly transforms communities
- Why low-income and marginalized communities are often the most generous
- How to prevent burnout when your job is helping others
- Shakirah’s framework for service: time, treasure, and talent
- The connection between service, empathy, and stronger democracies
- Why humility isn’t optional if you want to lead with impact
This conversation is about building trust, resilience, and joy through the act of giving back.
If you’ve ever thought “I’m too busy to volunteer” or wondered how to make service a real part of your life, this episode will change how you think.
When I first met Young Han, he wasn’t coming on my podcast. He was stepping in as a fractional CFO to help me lead through one of the hardest stretches of my career.
Within 15 minutes of our first meeting, he scrapped his entire plan and said: “We’re meeting three nights a week at 7pm until we get through this.” And then he did. Night after night, Young sat down with me and helped me push through. That’s who he is.
Today, Young is a serial founder, fractional COO/CFO, coach, and host of The Girl Dad Show. He’s on a mission to build 20 businesses to $1M ARR each. But more importantly, he’s built an operating system for human connection.
In this episode we cover:
- Why Starbucks taught him that relationships can outweigh even product quality
- His 4-step framework for building trust instantly
- The Rule of 100 and how it increases your surface area for luck
- Why the future belongs to the emotionally fluent, not just the technically brilliant
- Why diversity is a competitive advantage
- How to prepare for interactions without being transactional
Young’s story is part playbook, part inspiration, and all high-energy. If you want to learn how to scale not just your business but your relationships, this one’s for you.
Full episode is live now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube.
Aaron Schwartz has built and scaled companies you know — Modify Watches, Passport, Loop Returns — and now Orita.ai, helping 100+ brands land in inboxes instead of spam. But ask anyone who’s worked with him, and they’ll tell you his real superpower isn’t just building businesses. It’s building people.
In this conversation, we dig into:
- Why sharing problems faster leads to better solutions (and stronger relationships).
- The inner circle of advisors that Aaron has relied on for years, and how you can build one too.
- His personal framework for paying it forward without burning out.
- Why he only advises founders he’d be willing to work for himself.
- The surprising ROI of generosity (including the story of how a casual meeting in Bryant Park turned into co-founding Orita).
- How to be authentic without oversharing, and the boundaries that protect trust.
- Balancing the weight of being a founder with the realities of family, guilt, and joy.
- The books Aaron rereads to stay focused and grounded when life gets loud.
This one’s about generosity, luck, boundaries, and the human side of building. I walked away with a new perspective on who I help, how I help, and what I say yes to. And I think you will too.
Full episode is live now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube.
This one’s different. No guests, no interviews. Just me, your questions, and a few stories from the trenches.
Over the last few weeks of Don’t Be a Jerk, I’ve had incredible conversations with founders, VCs, coaches, and comedians. But behind the scenes, I’ve also been getting a flood of DMs, texts, and Slack messages with questions about leadership, empathy, and what it actually means to “not be a jerk” at work.
So in this special solo episode, I sit down to answer them. We get into:
- Why I started this podcast in the first place
- How to be conflict-seeking without being an asshole
- The #1 mistake early leaders make that kills credibility
- How to repair when you realize you were the jerk
- The difference between expectations and agreements
- How to fire someone without being cruel
- The art of debriefs and BLUFs (bottom line up front)
- Two things you can do tomorrow to become a better person
- How to rebuild trust once it’s been broken
This episode is part playbook, part confession, part experiment, but at the core it’s about the same idea that launched this whole show: kindness in leadership isn’t weakness. It’s strategy.
If you’ve got more questions you want me to tackle in a future solo episode, drop them in the comments, DM me, or send a carrier pigeon. You never know, maybe your question makes the next one.
Born legally blind in rural India, Sam Maddula’s life changed forever thanks to a single act of kindness: a corneal transplant that restored his sight.
That early gift shaped everything that came after, including his philosophy as founder of Bank’s Apothecary Specialty Pharmacy, a company he scaled to $300M in annual revenue before selling at an industry-leading valuation.
In this episode of Don’t Be a Jerk, Sam shares the radical leadership principles that fueled his success, from paying employees 2–3x the market rate to designing company outings where work talk is banned. His approach flips traditional corporate logic on its head — and proves that taking care of your people isn’t just “nice,” it’s the smartest business strategy there is.
We cover:
- The incredible origin story that shaped Sam’s people-first leadership style.
- Why paying 2–3x market rate can *increase* profitability.
- How to build “unreasonable loyalty” in your team.
- The tactic Sam uses to make offshore employees feel true ownership in the company.
- Why culture eats strategy for breakfast and how to make sure yours is strong.
- What private equity can learn from people-first companies.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you can “do good” and still scale big, Sam’s story is proof that you can. And that it might even be the fastest way to win.
Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube.
Most people dread negotiations, whether it’s salary discussions, sales deals, or even personal conflicts. But what if negotiating didn’t have to feel stressful, combative, or uncomfortable? What if you could negotiate like an elite expert without ever feeling like a jerk?
In this episode of Don’t Be a Jerk, Healey sits down with Derek Blazensky and Todd Camp, negotiation advisors who’ve coached executives from some of the largest companies in the world, helping them navigate billion-dollar deals with ease and empathy.
Here’s just a taste of the practical negotiation tactics and strategies you’ll walk away with:
- The Four Reasons People Say No: Learn exactly why someone rejects your idea or offer (hint: it’s never personal), and discover how to address each issue to get to “yes.”
- How to Ask Better Questions: Small adjustments to your phrasing can immediately disarm defensiveness and make tough conversations collaborative instead of combative.
- Why Saying “No” Is Essential (and Powerful): Derek and Todd break down why the most successful negotiators actively embrace hearing and saying “no” — turning rejection into opportunity.
- Advanced Negotiation Mindset: Discover how to stay calm, confident, and clear-headed even in tense situations, transforming challenging conversations into win-win outcomes.
If you’ve ever struggled with negotiations, felt stuck after a rejection, or simply want to become a more confident, empathetic negotiator, this episode is your tactical playbook.
Tune in to the episode now wherever you get your podcasts (Spotify, Apple, YouTube, and more).
What do rage rooms, co-founder breakups, and high-stakes feedback have in common?
They're all windows into how our brains process stress, and how most leaders are flying blind without even realizing it.
In this episode, Healey Cypher sits down with Dr. Faith Cohen, one of the top executive coaches in the world, to explore the neuroscience behind great leadership. Dr. Cohen has coached leaders at companies like Harry’s, Athletic Greens, Warby Parker, and IVP, helping them navigate stress, scale companies, and build emotionally intelligent teams.
Together, they unpack:
- Why 65% of startups fail due to co-founder dysfunction
- How to give feedback without triggering fight-or-flight
- What displaced aggression looks like in the workplace
- The surprising power of self-compassion as a leadership advantage
- The CUBE framework for handling difficult conversations
- Why creating a sense of psychological safety isn’t just ethical—it’s smart business
This is part science, part story, and all real talk for anyone building or leading something ambitious🎧 Listen to this episode if you:- Lead a team under pressure
- Struggle with giving hard feedback
- Want to build a more emotionally intelligent culture
- Believe leadership starts with how you treat yourself
Full episode is live wherever you get your podcasts!
Ever wondered how comedians manage to laugh their way through heartbreak, anxiety, or even funerals?
In Episode #3 of Don’t Be a Jerk, comedian Ben Gleib (Netflix, Comedy Central, host of “Idiotest”) shares how humor has been his ultimate self-therapy, saving him from life’s most painful moments and turning struggles into strength.
Ben reveals the surprising power behind self-deprecation, why being authentically flawed makes you a better public speaker, and how comedy helped him handle being bullied as a kid. He even hilariously breaks down Barack Obama’s public speaking, proving nobody, not even the greatest orators, nails it every time.
In this conversation, Ben also discusses:
Recorded after Healey and Ben hit it off at a recent conference, this episode feels less like an interview and more like two friends jamming about life, love, and the comedic absurdity of it all. If you’ve ever felt nervous about speaking up, overwhelmed by tough situations, or just need proof that laughing at yourself can heal pretty much anything — this one’s for you.
Tune in now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, or wherever you listen.
In this episode of Don’t Be a Jerk, host Healey Cypher sits down with Adam Greenfeld, co-founder of Frij and former co-founder of Thesis, to explore how his greatest obstacle wasn’t building companies… it was his relentless inner critic.
Known for transforming brands into thriving businesses, Adam opens up about his battle with self-doubt and perfectionism, revealing powerful insights and practical tools for founders and leaders to cultivate true self-compassion, clarity, and success.
In this honest and eye-opening conversation, you’ll discover:
If you’re tired of the endless hustle, internal negativity, and chasing false definitions of success, Adam’s story is your invitation to step into a kinder, more intentional way of leading and living.
Join Healey and Adam for this vulnerable yet empowering episode—and learn how silencing your inner critic can be your greatest competitive advantage, both professionally and personally.
Listen and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts!
In the very first episode of Don’t Be a Jerk, host Healey Cypher sits down with legendary investor Jules Maltz, the VC behind investments in iconic companies like Slack, Dropbox, Grammarly, Zendesk, and more.
Jules breaks every stereotype of the typical cutthroat investor. Known for his kindness and humility, Jules reveals why authenticity, vulnerability, and imperfection are strategic superpowers.
In this honest and insightful conversation, you’ll discover:
If you’re tired of superficial bravado and looking for a radically honest, thoughtful take on leadership, venture capital, and building real trust, this episode is a must-listen.
Join Jules and Healey as they redefine success and reveal why kindness, humility, and authenticity might just be the most powerful competitive advantages you can have, both in business and in life.