In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re dismantling one of the most damaging narratives in modern relationships - that men are always the problem. I’m joined by my second guest, the incredible Janelle Bridge - Psychic, Coach & Counsellor - who supports women ready to remember their power, reclaim their magic, and rise in their radiance. Find her on Insta: @thisisjanellebridge Work with her: https://linktr.ee/thisisjanellebridge Together, we dive deep into the uncomfortable truth...

In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re getting real about what healing inside a relationship actually looks like. For the first time ever, my partner James joins me on the mic (a little unwillingly but we got him there 😉) to share his perspective on how our relationship has evolved - from chaotic, reactive, and insecure… to calm, trusting, and genuinely connected. We’ll dive into: ✨ The emotional chaos that came with early motherhood, COVID, and unhealed fear ✨ How I used to demand ...

In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re going there - the uncomfortable truth about how modern “women’s empowerment” sometimes swings too far. You know the vibe… “I’m the healed one.” “I’ve read the books.” “I know better.” And suddenly, your relationship becomes a power play instead of a partnership. This episode is a loving (but firm) wake-up call about what happens when we pedestal ourselves above our partners - and confuse being woke with being connected. We’ll dive into: ✨ How t...

In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into a truth most people don’t talk about - sometimes, love that feels safe… can also feel terrifying. When you’ve lived in survival mode for so long, chaos feels normal. So when calm enters the room - your body panics. We’ll explore: ✨ Why stability and genuine love can feel threatening to a dysregulated nervous system ✨ How trauma and self-protection convince you that peace = danger ✨ The sneaky ways you sabotage when things are finall...

In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re breaking down one of the sneakiest patterns I see in women - settling. Settling for “fine” relationships. Settling for “okay” sex. Settling for “good enough” lives when deep down… you crave more. We’ll dive into: ✨ Why so many women subconsciously fear wanting more (and the hidden shame that comes with it) ✨ How fear of rejection, judgement, or “being too much” keeps you small and unfulfilled ✨ The way your desires reveal your next level of sel...

Mamas, this one’s for you. We give so much of ourselves to our children, partners, and households that we forget the most important person in the equation: us. But here’s the truth - when you prioritise your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing, everyone around you benefits. Your energy, patience, and presence ripple through your family in ways you can feel and see. In this episode, we explore why mothers are the foundation of the household and how leaning into your own self-care isn’t s...

Most women are settling in their relationships without even realising it. They want connection, intimacy, desire… but often, they’re waiting for their partner to show up first. But what if the truth is… it starts with YOU? In this episode, we dive deep into why you might not feel desired by your partner, and why it’s not always about them. ✨ How your inner beliefs about your body, self-worth, and desirability shape what you receive ✨ Why high standards, dependency, and self-sabotage may actua...

In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into the hidden ways fear of rejection drives your behaviour in relationships - and how it quietly keeps intimacy at arm’s length. We’ll cover: ✨ How judgement and criticism can feel safer than vulnerability (and why you do it without realising) ✨ The sneaky ways withdrawal, shutting down, and people-pleasing are really self-protection in disguise ✨ Why control and perfectionism create distance instead of safety ✨ How jealousy, hypervigi...

In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re riffing on why so many of us get stuck in fear, self-protection, and perfectionism - and how that shows up in your relationships and your life. We’ll cover: ✨ Why your brain is wired to notice the negative and how it keeps you playing small ✨ How self-protection can look like victimhood, perfectionism, or sabotaging joy ✨ The hidden ways fear can keep you stuck in comfort instead of fully alive ✨ How to catch yourself before spiraling and choos...

In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into why feeling the need to control your partner can feel safer than trusting them - and what’s really going on underneath the control. We’ll cover: ✨ How control is often just a nervous system survival strategy, not nastiness ✨ The sneaky ways controlling behaviors show up, even when you think you’re being chill ✨ Why overthinking, molding yourself, or trying to manage your partner keeps you in a false sense of safety ✨ How awareness a...

In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into why overthinking feels like it’s keeping you safe - and what’s really going on underneath the spirals. We’ll cover: ✨ Why your brain mistakes thoughts and worst-case scenarios as “protection” ✨ How catastrophising tricks you into believing you’re prepared, when really it’s sabotaging intimacy ✨ The hidden link between fear, self-protection, and staying stuck in your head ✨ A simple way to start interrupting the overthinking cycle an...

In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into why those hard conversations with your partner feel so damn scary - and what’s really going on underneath the avoidance. We’ll cover: ✨ Why avoiding the “uncomfortable talk” doesn’t make the tension go away (it actually creates more distance) ✨ How unspoken energy lingers in your relationship, even if you’ve swept it under the rug ✨ The right way (and wrong way) to approach your partner when something’s bothering you ✨ The power of ...

Welcome to this deeply vulnerable episode of F*ck the Rules of Love. This one wasn’t planned - I hit record straight from bed, croaky-voiced, period due and all kinds of tender. And honestly? That’s exactly why it matters. In this episode, I open up about: ✨ How old wounds and betrayals can creep back into present-day love (sometimes in the form of dreams that shake you awake) ✨ Why my biggest fear isn’t actually being cheated on - it’s not backing myself if it happens again ✨ The way teenage...

Welcome back to Fuck the Rules of Love! 🎙️ In this episode, we’re unpacking Rule #6: The Ice Queen Always Wins. If you’ve ever found yourself shutting down, blaming your partner, or creating distance instead of connection, you might know this archetype all too well. The Ice Queen shows up when we’re in deep self-protection mode - longing for love but terrified to let it in. We’ll explore: ✨ What the Ice Queen really is (and why so many women secretly identify with her) ✨ How blame, contro...

Welcome back to Fuck the Rules of Love! 🎙️ In this episode, we’re tackling Rule #5: No one is coming to save you. This might sting a little, but it’s one of the most powerful truths when it comes to relationships and personal growth. We’ll dive into: ✨ Why waiting for your partner to “rescue” you keeps you stuck in self-protection ✨ How unrealistic expectations sabotage intimacy and connection ✨ The sneaky ways we project our wounds onto our partner (and miss the love that’s actually there...

Welcome back to Fuck the Rules of Love! 🎙️ In this episode, we’re breaking down Rule #4: Sex is the secret to a happy marriage. Spoiler alert - it’s not that simple. We’ll cover: ✨ Why there’s no “gold standard” for how often couples should be having sex ✨ The difference between going through the motions vs. deep, connected intimacy ✨ How self-protection, exhaustion, and seasons of life impact sex in long-term relationships ✨ Why comparison to friends, family, or society sabotages your conn...

Welcome to Episode 3 of Fuck the Rules of Love! 💫 This week, we’re unpacking Rule #3: I shouldn’t have to ask - that unspoken expectation that your partner should just know what you need, when you need it. Spoiler: he can’t read your mind, and expecting him to will only leave you frustrated. In this episode, you’ll discover: ✨ Why comparing real life to romance novels, fairy tales, and movies sets unrealistic expectations for love ✨ How unspoken expectations can create resentment and disconne...

“I have to be perfect.” This is one of the most common - and most damaging - rules I see running the show in women’s lives and relationships. In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, I break down why perfectionism is actually a self-protective mechanism, how it sets you up to feel inadequate, and why it creates walls instead of connection. We’ll talk about: ✨ Why striving to “do it all perfectly” only leads to failure and self-criticism ✨ How perfectionism shows up as projection in your rel...

Welcome to the very first episode of Fuck the Rules of Love! 🎉 In this episode, I’m kicking things off by breaking down Rule #1: Follow the Rules - and why it’s been silently running your relationships, keeping you stuck, and stopping you from experiencing real connection. We’ll cover: ✨ How the “rules” we pick up from childhood and life can secretly sabotage love ✨ Why self-protective mechanisms, fear, and perfectionism get in the way of intimacy ✨ The first step to change: self-awareness an...