Lesson 36: Stop "should-ing" on yourself. Want or need.
Commitment: From this moment on, I joyfully promise to never give up on my goals and dreams. I choose to remember always that the whole world is mine to explore, and I need never be alone in figuring it out and making it just right. That I was born worthy and loveable without condition and whatever brought me to this place is just the journey to my present and future self and not the sum total of who I am or who I will become.
ACIM: lesson 35: my mind is part of god’s and I am very holy. If you envision yourself as a sacred and godlike being you will never feel separate and alone and will question those thoughts that keep us separate.
How to stop “Should-ing on yourself”
1) Identify when you say the word should in your vocabulary. Remember to look for other similar words. “ought to, have to etc.”
2) Decide why you want to do this action? See if it is truly your voice or the voice of family or society etc. Is this voice your own critical voice?
3) Identify the feeling that comes with it, guilt, shame, you will notice what kind of actions are propelled with those emotions. Notice prior results which didn’t get you to your “should” goals and identify what feeling were propelling these actions. Acting based on negative feelings usually produce the opposite results or a short-term result accompanies with a lot of resentment, burnout and buffering behavior.
4) See if you can find a compelling reason that speaks to you about why you “should” be doing this habit or action. Find a more motivating feeling to propel you into this action like, determination, confidents, curiosity and fascination.
5) Find some help to gain clarity, hire a coach, do some meditation or tapping, journal etc.
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