When you try to protect your partner from their shitty feelings, you're communicating that you don't trust them -- you don't trust their judgement, their ability get through the shit they're going through.

DO YOU TRUST THEM? If not, looks like you have some work to do there, and the rest of the work (all that shittiness) is not your responsibility. You've got to let them go through it. They'll find out from this experience that they are super resilient and you just stay by their side through it all.

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