The motivation for this topic comes from Gil and Brenda’s clients. Many of them feel stuck in life, like they feel like they have no options or choices. The Stuarts break down the differences between options and choices, which leads to actions. And that can change your life! Listen for the action steps at the end and then apply them. Contact Gil and Brenda and let them know how the choices you have made have positively impacted your life! hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles  #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast  www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/)

Have you ever wondered what your child is thinking? How can I "get in their head" (especially teenagers!)?Join Gil and Brenda as they introduce a concept that helped them through those years...called Floor Time.Having a safe place to talk for you AND your kids is so important now-a-days. The parents set the tone for Floor Time (which Gil and Brenda will give you pointers) so that the experience is fruitful. This is not a time for judgment or disagreements. It's all about being curious.They will share 7 tips to help you navigate Floor Time so it will be a success for everyone involved!Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #parenting #parent #parentingpodcast #talkingwithteenagers #talkingwithkids #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast 

Wonderful interview with Laura Jenkins, founder of In The Blend. She is encouraging stepfamilies who live in Australia...and beyond!We never know where the conversation will go! We always know we'll have fun!Check out more podcasts from Laura at https://omny.fm/shows/in-the-blendHere are her show notes:Gil and Brenda, a husband and wife duo, share their journey into counseling and coaching for blended families, discussing their personal experiences and the challenges they've faced. They emphasize the importance of the couple relationship and provide insights into the differences in parenting styles and communication within blended families. They also discuss the upcoming Better Marriages Australia Conference and the key themes they address in their presentations.#gilandbrenda #restoredandremarried #intheblend #laurajenkins #stepfamily #stepmom #stepmum #stepdad #stepfamilyaustralia #stepfather #blendedfamily #bonuskids #bonusmom #bonusmum #bonusdad

This is an interview Gil had with Mike Anderson from Blended Family Breakthrough.We hope you feel a little more equipped and encouraged after listening to this great conversation. Here are the notes from Mike's podcast:Hey Stepdads — ever wonder if you're "winning or losing" in your role at home?Most stepdads I meet genuinely want to build trust with their stepkids and influence them toward success in life.  But sometimes it feels like there's a bit too much chaos in the home — or you're not quite on the same page with your wife.The typical challenges of blending families often feel like they get in the way of you making the impact you really want to make.I get that feeling, and so does Gil Stuart, our guest for this episode.  Gil is a dad and stepdad who has experienced the ups and downs of blending 7 kids along with his wife, Brenda.  Gil is a counselor, author, speaker, and down-to-earth guy.If you want to discover new ways to build trust and influence in your home, this episode is for you.You'll Discover:* A healthy mindset around commitment, influence, trustability, and connection* How to create emotional safety and avoid relational damage* Understanding the 'Rock-and-A-Hard-Place' dilemma - and navigating it well* The importance of unity and flexibility* Practical tips for loving well in challenging situations#restoredandremarried #gilandbrenda #blendedfamilybreakthrough #stepdad #stepdads #stepfather #stepfathers #stepmom #stepfamily #blendedfamily

Blended family life doesn't often start with every relationship in harmony. But it's not unusual to develop it along the way. Ron Deal speaks with Gil and Brenda Stuart about how disappointment and confusion eventually morphed into redemption and joy. Celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary with a vow renewal was an amazing experience. Another way to celebrate their family!#tipstoolstingles #gilandbrenda#conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast  www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/)  hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com)  Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/)  YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public)

Brenda, and two other Stepmoms were interviewed by Mike and Kim Anderson from Mike and Kim Coaching (https://www.mikeandkimcoaching.com/). This interview brings 3 perspectives of being a stepmom, but yet there is one common thread. Being a woman in a stepfamily can be a hard road. Whether you join with kids or not, having realistic expectations are part of having a successful formula to help you thrive in your stepfamily.With Tiffany, Stacy and Brenda, you will hear some raw experiences from their own lives and what worked…and what didn’t. We hope you are encouraged.Brenda is now taking new coaching clients. She specializes in working with women and helping them reach their potential. Whether it’s stepfamily challenges, family concerns or just life circumstances she can help you navigate these seasons with thought provoking questions, and compassion. She’ll make you stop and think and realize you had the answer to what you needed all along. Contact her today at hello@gilandbrenda.com.

Tips, Tools, and Tingles for Your Relationship!Encouragement for Dads in a Stepfamily! Gil was interviewed by Ron Deal, from Family Life Blended. This was a great conversation about how important the Dad is in the stepfamily…and how it can be challenging. Gil doesn’t pull any punches and is pretty raw and honest with Ron. This 8-part video series, filmed on location brings the realities of what it means to be a Stepdad. Topics include: “You’re Not My Dad,” “Between a Rock and a Hard Place” (that would be between your wife and your kids) “Too Much too soon,” “Emotional Safety” (guns are involved), “Reverse Betrayal” (when you feel guilty that you are bonding more with your stepkids rather than your own), “allow Kids to Love,” (don’t put them the middle), and of course the intro.You can purchase this video series on the Stepfamily Network (https://www.stepfamilynetwork.com/course-unsungheroes) website for $48 or $5 once a month. You’ll receive free videos from Gil to encourage you along your journey too!Check out more about UnSung Hereos on our site GilandBrenda (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) #unsungheroes #stepdad #stepfather #bonusdad #stepdadhelp #stepfatherhelp #alwaysforward #stepmom #restoredandremarried #stepfamily #blendedfamily #stepfamilynetwork #gilandbrenda #dadhelp #fatherhelp #stepdadconversations #stepdadvideo Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/)  YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public)

There are 2 things that we share intimately with our spouse: Sex and Money.With financial intimacy, it’s not about the money. Gil and Brenda dive into the deep end on this issue.It’s about experiences, and what it means to you. It’s important that you talk about this with your spouse so you both have a realistic view of how money is “felt” in your family. Even if you’ve been married a while, it’s always good to check in with each other, especially as you enter a new season.A realistic conversation about spending habits can be hard. Have it be a heart conversation. Get on the same page so you are working together for your goals. Best question to ask as you make financial decisions: What’s best for “us?” Action Steps1. Have a conversation about these 4 areas and what money means to you. How would you rate    these?         Security         Leisure/enjoyment         Control/Influence         Status/Alignment2. Meet with a financial advisor3. Check out Dave Ramsey (https://www.ramseysolutions.com/) materials 4. Smart StepFamily Guide to Financial Planning (https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Stepfamily-Guide-Financial-Planning/dp/0764233351/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1S9W7T5EUCWDR&keywords=smart+stepfamily+guide+to+finance&qid=1642813398&sprefix=smart+stepfamily+guide+to+finances%2Caps%2C2787&sr=8-1) 5. Email us for the Prepare Enrich Financial worksheet (6 pages)Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles  #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast  www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/)  hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com)  Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/)  YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public) 

Can you keep up with your inner voice? How often is it positive? How often is it negative? Is it toward yourself or whoever you are talking with? Gil and Brenda have a lively conversation… (maybe their inner voices are the ones that are speaking!) about this age-old challenge.How often are we so caught up in listening to our inner voice, we totally miss the person right in front of us? We are all guilty of that at some level. And that will affect our relationships. Between neuro pathways in your brain, our ability to get sucked into the inner voice, and the lack of self-regulation…well that is a recipe for disaster! Today’s conversation will bring you insight and awareness of what’s really going on, and how you can improve your self-talk. Action steps:1. Be aware of your inner voice. Slow Down. Ask yourself out loud, is this true of myself? Is this true of the other person? The key is to PAUSE2. Take a risk. At that moment when you are aware of your inner voice, be vulnerable and share it with whoever you’re talking with. Let them know…here’s what’s going on in my head. My emotions could run away with that. But although I am feeling this way, my judgment may be incorrect it’s not honoring to you. This is a step of being an advocate to you and our relationship, to listen and not stay in my head. But go to YOUR heart and hear your emotions, feelings, and perspective without judgment.Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles  #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast  www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/)  hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com)  Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/)  YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public)

Can you keep up with your inner voice? How often is it positive? How often is it negative? Is it toward yourself or whoever you are talking with? Gil and Brenda have a lively conversation… (maybe their inner voices are the ones that are speaking!) about this age-old challenge.How often are we so caught up in listening to our inner voice, we totally miss the person right in front of us? We are all guilty of this at some level. And that will affect our relationships. Between neuro pathways in your brain, our ability to get sucked into the inner voice, and the lack of self-regulation…well that is a recipe for disaster!Today’s conversation will bring you insight and awareness of what’s really going on, and how you can improve your self-talk. Action steps:1. Be aware of your inner voice. Slow Down. Ask yourself out loud, is this true of myself? Is this true of the other person? The key is to PAUSE2. Take a risk. At that moment when you are aware of your inner voice, be vulnerable and share it with whoever you’re talking with. Let them know:"Here’s what’s going on in my head. My emotions could run away with that. But although I am feeling this way, my judgment may be incorrect it’s not honoring to you. This is a step of being an advocate to you and our relationship, to listen and not stay in my head. But go to YOUR heart and hear your emotions, feelings, and perspective without judgment."Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/)  YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public)

Brenda interviews Gil about why this video series was created and how! Stepmoms will gain a HUGE insight about their guys.We think there is a lot that Dads who ARE NOT in a stepfamily can learn too!Unsung Heroes (UH) is intended to encourage and inspire men who are dads in stepfamilies.  Disrespected by step kids? On the receiving end of frustrations from your wife over loyalty to your own kids? Not sure how to manage emotional outbursts in your stepfamily? The UH video series is for you! We suggest you share the series with your wife. She may not have a clue what you are dealing with. You may be uncertain about how to bring it up without having a fight! Let us help you! UH videos are short and to the point (no longer than 20 minutes.) We identify common problems and offer solutions. Practical feedback is shared by a veteran stepdad who is still learning yet willing to share his experience. A panel of stepdads were interviewed to provide a wider perspective. Each episode has been filmed out and about – not in a “green screen” environment… that would be fake and boring! We are offering a 20% discount on our site right now, the final price is $48 for the downloadable videos and accompanying "bullet point summary." Normally it will be $59.99. Thank you for helping us promote this great resource! We have partnered with www.stepfamilynetwork.com to host the videos series. You can also get the info by going to our site at www.gilandbrenda.com/restored-remarried. Please join our Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100073466857391 as this will be the place where conversations and encouragement will happen!Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles  #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast  www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/)  hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com)  Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  

We know, you’ve probably read/listened to this topic before. But Gil and Brenda get pretty raw and keep it real when discussing this one. This marriage killer is pretty common and with these action steps provided, you can steer clear of this.When in conflict, do not use these words: “Me/ You/ I. We use this verbiage without even realizing how much it will help defenses go up. Studies show too, that your mind is closed to exploring new ideas and solutions.Use We/ Us/ Our. How can WE fix this? What is best for OUR relationship? Just this little change will make all the difference! Your mind is open to new strategies and a collaborative solution. Keep your “us” strong and protected!ACTION STEPS:1. When you begin to hear My, Me, I, and You…stop. Pause. Switch gears and move to Us, We and Our.2. Pride? Do you “got it?” The opposite of pride is humility. Have a discussion with your spouse about the differences in our life when we choose one over the other.3. Do you have an Eeyore (from Winnie the Pooh) complex? Do you (or your spouse) always have a negative lens you look through? That is not good for your health, and it is not good for the emotional health of those around you. Life is too short to live this way. Seeking professional help may be an option for you to explore.4. And, discuss the #1 Marriage Killer which was shared in this podcast#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com)  Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/) YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public)

 Drift and Apathy can wreak havoc in a relationship.How you watch TV may directly impact this! Gil and Brenda share 12 ways (you can come up with more) how couples can have “touchpoints” in their relationship. It’s in the things that we do every day. We miss the opportunity to connect…which launches us right toward the killers in marriage. Believe it or not, even sharing a laugh can be a touchpoint…a connection. It’s in the sinews (the little touchpoints) that muscles (your marriage) get stronger. We don’t need to make this more complicated!It’s the little things that make a marriage and it’s the little things that destroy it.ACTION STEPS: 1. Listen to this podcast together.2. Which ideas did you resonate with?3. What kind of touchpoints could you add?4. Be intentional and do them!  #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube  Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/) YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public)  

Gil and Brenda share a concept they have been sharing in their presentations for years. “Rocks in the Bucket” helps give your kids a voice. When done correctly, you empower your children to tell you the truth of how they are feeling. The system is built on you honoring them as they try to honor you with something hard to say. It’s a win/win. We all carry around an invisible bucket; it represents our well being. Family members, friends, coworkers can all put rocks in our buckets….and we can put rocks in their buckets! This is an easy way to share this with someone when rocks start flying! ACTION STEPS: 1. Find a metal bucket and 3 rocks. 2. Demonstrate (as we did) how this works. 3. Ask them what they think? Talk about examples where they have felt rocks in their bucket.   Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com hello@gilandbrenda.com Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube   Twitter Instagram Facebook YouTube  

This is part 2 of an interview with Gil Stuart. There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 in part 1 and the remaining 3 in part 2. 1. What is a relational safety zone? 2. It’s ok to love your mom. 3. A rock and a hard spot; You between your wife and your kids. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit from this too. Gil shares feelings and thoughts that many men wish they could tell their wives. ACTION STEPS: Guys: Have an honest conversation with your wife about these topics. Which do you resonate with more…and why? Gals: Be quiet and listen. Do not interrupt… and listen. Do not be judgmental. Be loving. You are holding your husband’s heart. Be gentle. Put on the glasses of curiosity.   Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter Instagram Facebook YouTube

There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 are in this Part 1. 1. How to contend with the infamous “you’re not my dad!” 2. What is reverse betrayal? 3. Stepdads who demand too much too soon. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit from this too. Gil shares feelings and thoughts that many men wish they could tell their wives. ACTION STEPS: Guys: Have an honest conversation with your wife about these topics. Which do you resonate with…and why? Gals: Be quiet and listen. Do not interrupt… and listen. Do not be judgmental. Be loving. You are holding your husband’s heart. Be gentle. Put on the glasses of curiosity.   Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube   Twitter Instagram Facebook YouTube

  A heart with a hard husk views the world with a negative sentiment. Gil and Brenda talk about breaking down the husk and how it affects our relationships: marriage, friends, coworkers, etc. Positive or Negative: What lens do we look at our spouse through? If it’s been negative, how do we change it? How does that soften our own heart when we do that? Be aware. Be intentional. What do you think? We’d like to hear from you! hello@gilandbrenda.com Action Steps: 1. Look for ways your spouse/friend/whoever does or says something positive 2. When having a bad day, ask them for a word of encouragement (put pride a side) 3. Reciprocate and exchange encouraging words/acts. Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers   #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com hello@gilandbrenda.com          

This is the fourth podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability.  Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! “Being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner to know you fully: your thoughts, feelings, challenges, weaknesses. It can be scary to show those sides to our partners out of fear of being judged." ... "This is how true intimacy is achieved. We are known, accepted, supported and loved.” This is an important topic for Gil and Brenda. Although vulnerability often is interpreted as being weak, quite the opposite is true. It takes courage to be vulnerable. Couples who are vulnerable have a deeper level of intimacy and have a feeling of peace, confidence and safety in their relationship. Learn some new ways to be vulnerable in your relationship! Action steps 1. If you got burned by being vulnerable, what would it take to try again? 2. By sharing your thoughts, feelings, challenges, and weaknesses how will that strengthen your relationship? 3. If vulnerability takes courage, what is one simple step you can take to me courageous for the sake of your relationship?     Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter Instagram Facebook YouTube

  This is the third podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Because of your family of origin, past relationships, or just life, your level of trust can be deflated. Violation of trust can lead to pain and confusion. Gil and Brenda talk about the importance of trust in a relationship. If damaged, how do you repair it? What are the two outcomes of trustworthiness? Couples who have high trust in their relationship can make choices, are valued and feel loved. Action Steps 1.How can you create a high trust environment in your relationship? 2. Ask for what you want (without demanding) being assertive and humble. 3. If trust has been violated have a conversation about the roots of that violation. Is the past affecting the present? Gently ask, why they don’t feel safe. (put on the glasses of curiosity, not judgement, blame or defense…listen!)   Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers   #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter Instagram Facebook YouTube    

This is the second podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Connection vs Disconnection. This happens all the time in our relationships. Sometimes we don’t even notice. We all want connection but how do we get it? Gil and Brenda share the depths of what dis-connection looks like and what a couple does when they are experiencing connection. Being approachable, available and accessible is the foundation of a good connection. Get ready to use your hands as Gil demonstrates this subject in a way you’ll never forget! Action steps: 1. Make a list: How do you feel when you are disconnected from your spouse? 2. Make a list: How do you feel when you are connected with your spouse? 3. Have this conversation with your spouse: (reminder: put on the glasses of curiosity. Do not go into judgement, blame or shame. You are honestly asking so you BOTH can improve your relationship!) How can I be more connected, what do I need to change/adjust?   Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers   #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp #friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter Instagram Facebook YouTube