In this heartfelt solo episode of Healed and Chilled, Coach Yana addresses a common comment she hears from parents, grandparents, and guardians: “My kids are so soft. When I was growing up, my parents were so much worse to me, and I only did a little bit of that to my kids. I don’t understand why they’re upset with me.”

Yana gently flips this perspective on its head: First of all, if your children are “softer” than you were, that’s actually proof you did a good job. You shielded and protected them from the kind of burdens you had to carry — and that’s a parenting win.

But here’s the hard truth: just because you didn’t mean to hurt your child’s feelings doesn’t mean you didn’t hurt them. Intent and impact aren’t the same thing. Instead of getting frustrated when they don’t accept certain behaviors, recognize the powerful truth — you’ve created an environment where they don’t have to accept mistreatment. That’s not weakness. That’s safety.

This episode is a reminder that growth in parenting is not about repeating the past — it’s about breaking cycles and making the future brighter.

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