It's our annual Christmas episode! Today, I am going to share interviews with previous guests when we talk about "Four Questions," and one of those questions is "What is your favorite Christmas or Holiday Memory?" Those that mentioned Christmas or any other mentions of Christmas within any of the other 3 questions (only a few fit that category) are all included. Most of these interviews are Audio-Only, but I will share information about the speaker on the screen. I intersperse the audio interviews with the newer video interviews. This is the FIRST part. I will share part TWO next Christmas with even more clips of Christmas past - folks discussing their favorite Christmas memories. Enjoy and have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year - more NEW episodes & interviews will continue in January.
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Previous podcast episodes mentioned (in order of appearance; contact info is within the show notes of each episode):
Episode 13 - Faith, Fandom, Cons & Cosplay, Part 2 (interview with Hector Miray)
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
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Matthew Melvin is an author and activist from Massachusetts. He was diagnosed with autism while in high school which not only hindered his education and social interactions, it caused problems finding employment and the impulsivity led him to being incarcerated in the federal prison system in 2017 for nonviolent crimes. While in prison, he was sexually assaulted by another inmate. His first book is entitled: Bullied Behind Bars: A Gay Christian Trump Supporter Goes to Prison. He currently resides in Shelburne, Vermont. and is planning to share his story and his healing journey with us.
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Matthew’s Links:
Links Mentioned:
Champions in Christ Ministry (faith-based weekend retreats)
Other Groups offering Men’s Healing Weekend Retreats
Husband Material Retreats (faith-based)
Marked Men for Christ (faith-based)
Edge Venture (faith-based)
The Crucible Project (faith-based)
MenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA Survivors
The Mankind Project (non-religious)
Previous podcast episodes mentioned:
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries
Dave is a 40-something father of twins who grew up in southern New South Wales, Australia.
He is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, which began at age 7 and continued between ages 11 and 13. After carrying this trauma in silence for over 32 years, he first disclosed it just over two years ago. Since then, Dave has been on a rollercoaster of a healing journey, recently receiving a diagnosis of Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) and learning what that means for his mental, emotional, and relational wellbeing. This journey has involved confronting painful memories, reclaiming his story by returning to his childhood hometown, and rebuilding trust and safety in his life. Part of Dave’s healing has also involved reclaiming back both his mind and physical body - through fitness, healthier eating, and connecting with supportive male communities. For the first time, he has experienced genuine safety and brotherhood through survivor groups, men’s retreats, and close friendships, and he now mentors younger men navigating similar journeys. Alongside his personal healing, Dave has recently stepped into child safety advocacy, collaborating with other survivors of childhood sexual abuse to advise various university research projects focused on safeguarding and abuse prevention within educational environments and community sport. Through sharing his story and contributing to meaningful change, he hopes to give voice, encouragement, and hope to others on their own healing journey.
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
FULL Show Notes:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CKA205Xu_Hm4WcTVapYCV9CheEE8JvQP22HzgZ9rOG0/edit?usp=sharing
John Comerford is a leading advocate for men who have experienced childhood sexual abuse and are living with the long-term effects of trauma. A survivor himself, John endured sexual abuse within the Catholic Education System and suffered in silence for over 40 years before a mental health crisis forced him to confront his past. Today, he has emerged as a powerful voice in men’s mental health, using his lived experience to support, empower, and inspire others. John’s first novel Tarzan Loves Jane was nominated for book of the year , and his co authored book Start Over was an international Amazon best seller.
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
FULL Show Notes:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1oDIO8KjE9uaazku6woRVRp2Qa58so9uaWI6dIOEgc3k/edit?usp=sharing
Glenn Miles PhD, is a Senior Researcher with up! International. He is on the board and the academic research advisor for the Chab Dai Butterfly ten-year Longitudinal Research Project which listens to the survivors of sex trafficking. He does independent research, advocacy, training and evaluation of programs. His current research interests include working with survivors of trafficking to uncover sexual exploitation of boys and young men including through the use of the internet in Thailand, familial sexual exploitation and trafficking of young men in the States, labour exploitation of children in tea plantations in Sri Lanka, child participation and service provision of children in Armenia, He is an active member of the Global Association of Human Trafficking Scholars (GAHTS), and he is also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Glenn’s Links:
up!
Chab Dai
Glenn’s autoibiography, Embracing (Cwtch-ing) Me, God and Others (Amazon)
Links Mentioned:
Perry Power
International Human Trafficking & Social Justice Conference (IHTSJ)
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) - Wikipedia article
EMDR - Wikipedia article
Ena Lucia Mariaca Pacheco, Researcher on Sexual Exploitation of Males (Linktree)
Previous podcast episodes mentioned:
Free PDF on ACEs includes the test and what the results mean
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries
Ken Freire is a coach, entrepreneur, and host of the Shame(less) Podcast, where he helps Christian men overcome shame and addiction by pointing them back to Christ and their God-given purpose. After surviving childhood abuse and battling addiction, Ken now equips others kill shame, stand strong, and be on mission. He also leads Solo:Scaled were he helps coaches scale their business without burnout or headcount.
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Ken’s Links:
Links Mentioned:
Prosperity Theology (aka Proesperity Gospel; Wikipedia)
Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries
#MSAD #MSAD2025 #MaleSurvivorAwarenessDay #MaleSurvivorAwarenessDay2025 #MenToo #1in6
In today's special episode, to honor Male Survivor Awareness Day 2025, which is recognized in the US on October 25 each year, I wanted to replay the Video Recording I did to honor the first Male Survivor Awareness Day in 2022 of a live event I hosted within the Husband Material Community which was recorded and resulted in a Husband Material Podcast episode. The Audio from the episode was used on *This* podcast for episodes 5, 6 & 7. This time I am making 1 long (almost 2 hour!) video of the event. The event was the result of efforts by myself, Drew Boa, Dr. Doug Carpenter, with many contributions from Survivors within the Husband Material Community who submitted poetry and other items to be shared, some live, some previously recorded and some read by others. There was also a time for Questions and Answers by the live Zoom audience. The goal for this event (and the “Day” in total) was to help non-survivors understand and work with survivors to help support them on their healing journeys..
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
FULL Show Notes:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yvsTf84TxY-oIJoRMVyM6XPWNQeB8BHoq98OgBGzREk/edit?usp=sharing
Scott was born and raised in Central Wisconsin. Last year he and his wife, Dorothy, celebrated 40 years of marriage. While they lived 12 years as missionaries overseas, they now have moved back home to be near extended family. It's been only since 2020 that he started to dig deeper into his past trauma, including childhood sexual abuse, that had buried. Much of it was forgotten and some was just pushed aside with the “help” of spiritual bypass.
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Links Mentioned:
What Is Spiritual Bypass? (with Dr. Craig Cashwell) (Spotify | Youtube)
How To Transform Your Triggers: The F.L.O.S.S. Method - Part 1 (Spotify | Youtube)
How To Transform Your Triggers: The F.L.O.S.S. Method - Part 2 (Spotify | Youtube)
Interview with Mary Knight on the “False Memory Syndrome Foundation” and how they battle against the truth of survivors of childhood sex trafficking:”Mary Knight - Am I Crazy? The False Memory Syndrome Foundation's War on Survivor Disclosures” (The Imagination Podcast)
Eight Threat Responses (Fight, Flight, Freeze, etc.; graphic via Facebook)
MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & more
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries
I wanted to update my listeners on the Erik & Kyle Menéndez case that I mentioned in Episodes 47, 63, 68, & 75
In addition, I wanted to update my listeners on the controversy on the mutiple Sexual Assault victims who were part of Ohio State University Atheltics and Sexually Assaulted by the Team Physician.
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
FULL Show Notes:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bp_ZzGcOAcvb8oKQHPKgzKk_m96U_lZoJcD0T5B_eWY/edit?usp=sharing
This is a pre-recorded presentation I shared at the International Human Trafficking & Social Justice Conference [https://www.traffickingconference.com/] September 17-19, 2025. My presentation is entitled "Family-Controlled Sex Trafficking of Young Boys: One Survivor’s Healing Journey" talking about my experience of being sex trafficked as a child.
This is my story of being a victim of Family-Controlled Sex Trafficking at the hands of my father in the early 1970s in my home state of Oregon. I also discuss my Healing Journey which has led me to my involvement with Husband Material, Life Coaching and Anti-Trafficking advocacy..
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
FULL Show Notes: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1RjbQngABXu0LuqTr7w44sqbsBXZVAD5CiDFViQC31lg/edit?usp=sharing
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Links Mentioned - Menéndez:
Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):
Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case Update
Episode 63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interview
Episode 68 - Update on Leaving Neverland II, the Menéndez case & my own Healing Journey
New Article: “Menendez Brothers Resentenced to Life With Parole, Paving Way for Freedom”. (from May 2025; NY Times)
Article with a good explanation of the current state of the Menéndez case. (from April 2025; BBC)
CourtTV Video Archive: CA v. MENENDEZ (1993) (121 parts)
Peacock Documentary Series (2023): Menendez + Menudo: Boys Betrayed
Netflix Docudrama Series (2024): Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story
Netflix Documentary (2024): The Menendez Brothers
LA Times Article (05/2023): Ex-Menudo star accuses boy band founder of sexual assault. Now the LAPD is investigating
Real Crime Profile Podcast (discussing the case and how it relates to all CSA cases; Spotify): Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 l Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6
Deadline.com articles:
Los Angeles District Attorney Gascón’s Press Conference on the Menendez Sentencing Reconsideration (from Oct., 2024; links to YouTube)
Links Mentioned - The Take It Down Act:
“President Trump signs Take It Down Act, addressing nonconsensual deepfakes. What is it?” (from May 2025; Associated Press)
Links Mentioned - Michael Tait/Newsboys:
“K-LOVE pulls Newsboys, DC Talk amid sexual misconduct allegations against Michael Tait” (from June 2025; The Christian Post)
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give
Scott McKellar is a 54 year old man from Australia. He is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and bullying. He currently works as an Uber Eats driver and does volunteer work with men dealing with mental health issues.
If you want to see the VIDEO 🎥 version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Sean’s Contact Information and recommended links
Telling My Story: The Healing Journey (2022) (20 stories of recovery from a group of men who have shared their stories and begun their healing journey, including Scott - under the name “Lance McKellar”)
Back on Track 2011 (Youtube; interviews of several Australian Male CSA Survivors, Scott is in the background of many group scenes but not interviewed)
GROW (a community-based organisation that has helped thousands of Australians with their recovery from mental ill-health through a unique program of mutual support and personal development.)
ParkRun (free, weekly, international running events)
The Men’s Table: Men Serving Men (Australia - a safe place to share and be heard in a confidential and non-judgemental environment, creating a greater sense of belonging, camaraderie and connection.)
The Mental Health Foundation Australia (MHFA) (the oldest community-based non-government mental health organisation in Australia, serving the community since 1930)
Other Links Mentioned:
Millstone:
“But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.” Matthew 18:6 (NLT)
“But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone hung around your neck.” Mark 9:42 (NLT)
“It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin.” Luke 17:2 (NLT)
Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew (links to Amazon)
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give
Sean Wheeler is a survivor of pre-teen sex trafficking for almost five years. During that time he was used in child sexual abuse material. While his family moved away from that area, other abusers would find him until age 19 when he determined to no longer be used. In 2018 Sean founded Starfish Ministries in Colorado to provide a voice for boys in the public arena. He works directly with several other organizations and has been involved in lobbying Congress for pending legislation approval. He provides HT 101 and above trauma-informed training. Sean is also ordained and works in the prison ministry, even with convicted sex offenders. He has been interviewed on 100 Huntley Street in Toronto and the 700 Club. His story has been told in Psychology Today and other publications. Today over 6 million people world wide have heard his story.
If you want to see the VIDEO version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Sean’s Contact Information
Youtube (includes full video of several of his past interviews, including The 700 Club)
Email: sfhelp@zoho.com
Links Mentioned:
100 Huntley Street (Wikipedia)
The 700 Club (Wikipedia)
Reassessing Male Sex Trafficking Statistics: A survivor tells why men don’t report what happened - Psychology Today (interview with Sean Wheeler)
Transcript: US Senate Judiciary Committee Hearing on "Big Tech and the Online Child Sexual Exploitation Crisis" (Jan 31, 2024; TechPolicy.press)
Other Helpful Links:
Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):
“Child Sexual Abuse Material” vs “Child Pornography” - (US Dept of Justice)
“The one unforgivable sin” (Wikipedia)
Demonic Opression vs. Demonic Possession (GotAnswers.org)
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give
Today's topic is the overuse and misuse of prescription medications on CSA survivors and victims. Today’s panel includes 2 former podcast guests: Michael Skinner & Robert Maniscalco
If you want to see the VIDEO version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
More about the panelists:
Previous podcast interviews with Luke, Richard & Cranford (links to Spotify; contact info is within the show notes of each episode):
Previous podcast episodes mentioned:
Free PDF on ACEs includes the test and what the results mean
Other Links Mentioned:
“Misdiagnosed and Over-Medicated” by Emily Larson - CPTSD Foundation
Oprah's "200 Men Come Forward" television event is available to watch for FREE (as of 12/31/24) on Oprah.com: (FYI, auto-captioning is provided but they edit out ALL sexual terms with " **** ", even minor ones, making it hard to follow)
Watch PART 2 here (preview only - full episode is not available)
John Briere (Google Search)
SUDS: Subjective Units of Distress Scale (Wikipedia; “on a scale of 0-10, how strong are you feeling ______”)
Michael Skinner’s Surviving Spirit
Celebrate Recovery (faith-based 12-step group; links to website; local affiliates listed)
Seneca the Younger (Wikipedia)
De Tranquillitate Animi (Wikipedia; “The tranquility of the mind”)
Dialectical behavior therapy (Wikipedia)
The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick J Carnes, PhD (Amazon)
Other Helpful Links:
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (links to Amazon)
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give
Jim Farrington is survivor and is also a men’s minister with First Stone Ministries, which will be 50 years old in January 2026, First Stone specializes in the area of sexual and relational redemption, proclaiming that freedom is not found in a method or a program but in the person of Jesus Christ. Jim does Pastoral Care with men who deal with sexual and relational brokenness and is also the coordinator of the in-person Be Steadfast Parents Support Group for families impacted by lgbt and also leads their newest Be Steadfast Online Parent Support Group that is serving families all over the US and in Canada.
If you want to see the VIDEO version of this podcast, you can watch from either Spotify or Youtube.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Jim’s Contact Information
Email: jim@firststone.org
Links Mentioned:
Corrie ten Boom (Wikipedia)
Husband Material Podcast episodes about sexual abuse (links to YouTube):
Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire (interview with Dr. Doug Carpenter)
A Grace-Based Approach To Sexual Recovery (with Jonathan Daugherty)
Word (of Knowledge) (Wikipedia)
Husband Material Retreat in Colorado - next date: Sept 5-9, 2025 (Western Georgia retreat is tentatively scheduled for Spring 2026)
Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):
Episode 16 - 200 Men Came Forward (Oprah 200)
Episode 54 - Live Interview with Michael Skinner (Oprah 200 alumni)
Episode 67 - Live Interview with Robert Maniscalco (Oprah 200 alumni)
Sy Rogers (Wikipedia)
Other Helpful Links:
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
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“Peter W.,” who recently turned 60, has been married for over 36 years and has three children. He has struggled with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts for many years and sought help at a residential program two years ago. During his time in the program, he opened up for the first time about a sexual assault he experienced at age 26. While he has been working through this trauma in therapy, he was recently assaulted again. Since then, other incidents triggered repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse. Despite these challenges, Peter is in recovery and hopes that sharing his story will help others.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Links Mentioned:
A Christmas Story (1983) (JustWatch)
Alcoholics Anonymous (links to website; local affiliates listed)
Celebrate Recovery (faith-based 12-step group; links to website; local affiliates listed)
Other Helpful Links:
Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
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Alex Abraham has spent years researching, exploring, and experiencing firsthand the therapeutic treatment options for healing from childhood sexual abuse. Psychedelics and integration therapy forever changed his life. When not educating other survivors about the benefits of psychedelics, Alex enjoys traveling the world and experiencing new foods. A connoisseur of food truck fare, he lives in Austin, Texas.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Contact info for Alex:
Other Links Mentioned:
Olive, The Other Reinsdeer (1999) (Youtube)
Pelvic Floor (Wikipedia)
Time Ferriss (Wikipedia)
Tucker Max (Wikipedia)
MDMA-assisted psychotherapy (Wikipedia)
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (links to Amazon)
EMDR (Wikipedia)
Other Helpful Links:
“Five Things to Know About MDMA-Assisted Psychotherapy for PTSD” (Mt. Sinai Physician’s Channel)
Previous HFMS podcast episodes (links to Spotify):
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
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I wanted to update listeners on the follow-up to the HBO/Max documentary “Leaving Neverland”
In addition, I wanted to update my listeners on the Erik & Kyle Menéndez case that I mentioned in Episodes 47 & 63
I also wanted to share about my own personal Healing Journey especially after attending a Regional Men’s Retreat where I got triggered.
Links Mentioned - Leaving Neverland II:
Leaving Neverland (full 4-hour movie; JustWatch page, includes International Viewing Options)
Leaving Neverland (in 2 parts; JustWatch page)
Oprah Winfrey Presents: After Neverland (Oprah.com | YouTube)
Leaving Neverland II (YouTube)
Leaving Neverland II (JustWatch page, includes International Viewing Options)
Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):
How to Recognize Coercive Control (Healthline)
Links Mentioned - Menéndez:
Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):
Episode 47 - Three Word Challenge Update & The Lyle and Erik Menéndez Case Update
Episode 63 - Update on the Menéndez case & my recent Charlotte interview
New Article with a good explanation of the current state of the Menéndez case. (BBC)
CourtTV Video Archive: CA v. MENENDEZ (1993) (121 parts)
Peacock Documentary Series (2023): Menendez + Menudo: Boys Betrayed
Netflix Docudrama Series (2024): Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story
Netflix Documentary (2024): The Menendez Brothers
LA Times Article (05/2023): Ex-Menudo star accuses boy band founder of sexual assault. Now the LAPD is investigating
Real Crime Profile Podcast (discussing the case and how it relates to all CSA cases; Spotify): Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 l Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6
Deadline.com articles:
Los Angeles District Attorney Gascón’s Press Conference on the Menendez Sentencing Reconsideration (from Oct., 2024; links to YouTube)
Links Mentioned - Menéndez:
Kintsugi Bowls - (links to Wikipedia)
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
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Robert Maniscalco is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and has been a professional creative his entire adult life. Born in 1959 in Detroit, he has lived in New York, New Orleans and currently in Charleston. His commission portraits and fine art are part of over a thousand collections throughout North America. In Detroit he hosted Artbeat on PBS and founded the Maniscalco Gallery. As a fine artist, he likes to work in multiple series. Perhaps his most enduring series is that of a commission portrait artist, immortalizing Supreme Court Justices as well as children and families. Robert blogs on a wide range of subjects and written three other books, The Fishly and Point of Art. His fourth book, an Amazon #1 bestseller, is a full color drawing/painting method, called The Power of Positive Painting. He is an actor/director, writer/playwright, musician/composer and teacher, a former Adjunct Professor of fine art and theatre at Charleston Southern University and drawing illustration at the College for Creative Studies in Detroit. Robert has expanded his creative milieu to include courtroom sketching, covering the Dylann Roof and Michael Slager trials in Charleston. His multi-disciplinary play, Vincent John Doe, received its world premiere, to rave reviews, during the 2018 and 2019 Piccolo Spoleto Festivals. He is now a regular exhibitor in the Piccolo Spoleto Outdoor Art Exhibition. Robert was also one of the 200 audience members on Oprah Winfrey’s groundbreaking episode on male childhood sexual abuse.
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Contact info for Robert:
Books (Amazon)
Comedy Bits (Youtube):
Vincent John Doe (new Play with CSA Themes)
Other Links Mentioned:
Jack Van Impe (Wikipedia)
Speaking in Tongues (Wikipedia)
Baptism with the Holy Spirit (Wikipedia)
Secular Humanism (Wikipedia)
“You only fail when you stop trying” - Thomas Edison (GoodReads)
Previous HFMS podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):
Oprah's "200 Men Come Forward" TV event:
Watch PART 2 here (preview only)
EMDR (Wikipedia)
Exposure Therapy (Wikipedia)
PTSD - Symptoms & Causes (links to Mayo Clnic)
Don Harvey (IMDB)
Tyler Perry (Wikipedia)
Primal Therapy (Wikipedia)
The Last Judgment (Wikipedia)
Dylann Roof (wikipedia)
Other Helpful Links:
Groups offering Men’s Healing Weekend Retreats
Marked Men for Christ (faith-based)
Edge Venture (faith-based)
The Crucible Project (faith-based)
Brothers Road (multi-faith)
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give
Louis Romano is a parent of a CSA Survivor and a best-selling author of 21 novels, including Intercession and Besa. A crossover artist who has written true crime fiction, crime historic fiction, and one young adult book
Suicide is talked about in this episode. If you are experiencing feelings of suicide or you know someone who is, don't hesitate to get in touch with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in the US available 24/7 to provide free, confidential emotional support to people in suicidal or emotional distress. Their number in the US is 988 or 1-800-273-8255 or at https://988lifeline.org/ – in other countries, reach out to your local suicide prevention hotline which you can find at https://findahelpline.com/.
Contact info for Kyle:
Other Links Mentioned:
Millstone:
“But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.” Matthew 18:6 (NLT)
“But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone hung around your neck.” Mark 9:42 (NLT)
“It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin.” Luke 17:2 (NLT)
Previous HFMSwMC podcast episode mentioned (links to Spotify):
Road to Recovery - Hope and Healing for Surviviors of Sexual Abuse
Mitchell Garabedian - attorney, featured in the movie, Spotlight (2015)
Calumny - noun - Injuring another person's good name by lying. (Catholic Dictionary)
Lucky Luciano (Wikipedia)
Cardinal Timothy M. Dolan (Wikipedia)
Other Helpful Links:
MaleSurvivor.org - has an on-ine discussion board for survivors & more
MenHealing.org - non-religious healing weekends across the US for Male CSA Survivors & more
Mike Chapman’s links:
Husband Material Ministries (“HM”/”HMM”; faith-based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE
Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)
Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp
If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at:
Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, their beliefs, or any entity they represent, by neither Mike Chapman nor Polar Life Consulting.
**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victim's perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening.
Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.
DONATE – Tax-Deductible gifts to Husband Material Ministries: https://HusbandMaterial.com/give