Talking about your ex isn’t “living in the past.” It’s honoring the experiences that shaped you.

In this episode, Steve and I talk about why your past relationships aren’t a threat they’re context. When your partner can hold space for your history without insecurity, that’s emotional safety.

Healing means you don’t erase your story. You understand it.

This episode is a little different in the best way. For the first time, I’m inviting my boyfriend, Steve, into the Heart First, Head Later space to talk about what it actually looks like to build a healthy relationship in real time not after everything is “figured out,” but while you’re still learning each other.

In this episode, we’re talking about something almost every couple faces: people inserting themselves into your relationship as if they somehow earned a vote. Friends, family, coworkers, and even strangers on the internet often feel entitled to comment, advise, or critique even when no one asked.

We break down why people do this, how outside noise can clutter your emotional space, and how to protect your connection with healthy boundaries, privacy, and strong communication.

This episode is your reminder that your relationship isn’t a group project it belongs to the two people who are actually in it.

Sharing a home doesn’t mean sharing every moment and needing alone time doesn’t mean something’s wrong. In this episode, we break down why “me time” is one of the most underrated parts of a healthy relationship, especially when you live together.

You’ll learn how solitude helps you regulate your nervous system, maintain your identity, and show up more grounded and present with your partner. We’ll explore the difference between space and distance, why alone time isn’t rejection, and how to communicate your needs without triggering insecurity.

Whether you’re moving in together, already cohabitating, or simply navigating the balance between closeness and independence, this episode will help you understand why real love needs room to breathe.

Healthy couples don’t fear space they use it to stay connected.

Changing jobs isn’t just a career move — it’s an emotional transition. In this episode, we talk about the quiet moment you realize you’ve outgrown a chapter, the fear that comes with stepping into something new, and the grief of leaving behind a version of your life that once felt familiar.

This isn’t a conversation about having it all figured out. It’s about choosing yourself even when your voice shakes, trusting your growth, and believing you deserve better than exhaustion and bare-minimum appreciation.

And woven through all of it is the reminder that you don’t have to do this alone. We explore what it feels like to have a truly supportive partner — someone who listens, mirrors back your potential, and holds space for the fear, the excitement, and the messy in-between.

Whether you’re starting a new job, pivoting careers, or just feeling the pull toward a different version of your life, this episode gives you permission to be scared… and still go anyway.

Because new chapters aren’t about perfection — they’re about possibility.

This episode explores how to stay calm, curious, and connected during hard conversations so you can work with your partner, not against them.

It’s about learning to pause before getting defensive, listen to understand, and speak with care even when emotions run high.

Because love doesn’t mean avoiding conflict it means learning how to stay close through it.

For years, I believed that keeping my sadness alive was the only way to stay loyal to the person I lost. I thought happiness meant forgetting — and forgetting meant betrayal. But grief doesn’t want your punishment; it wants your peace.

In this vulnerable episode, I open up about how guilt quietly shaped my relationships, my self-worth, and the way I allowed myself to be loved. I share the moment I finally stopped punishing myself for surviving my best friend — and how that healing made room for a new kind of love, one rooted in safety, gentleness, and grace.

Fear loves to disguise itself as practicality, and before you know it, you’re living inside a story of “I can’t.” But those excuses aren’t protecting you; they’re keeping you stuck.

This episode is your push to stop waiting, stop doubting, and start moving. You’ll learn where excuses really come from, the quiet cost of letting them run your life, and how to start proving to yourself that you’re capable of so much more than you think.

If you’ve been waiting for the perfect time or the courage to magically appear, this is your reminder: confidence is built by action, and you can start today.

The love you’re dreaming of is real—the kind that feels safe, steady, and deeply fulfilling. But here’s the hard truth: you’ll miss it if you stay tied to someone who can’t or won’t love you the way you deserve.

In this episode, I share my own journey of leaving a narcissistic, abusive relationship—where fear kept me stuck—and how healing opened the door to meeting my boyfriend, a partner who is kind, consistent, and everything I once thought didn’t exist.

This is your wake-up call: staying in fear keeps you from the future you long for. Healing is the bridge. And on the other side of that healing is the love you’ve been waiting for.

What if your timeline isn’t broken—it’s just unfolding?

In this episode of Heart First, Head Later, Becky unpacks why timing is part of the magic when it comes to love. Using Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce’s engagement as a cultural reminder, she explores how love doesn’t need to happen by 22—or on anyone else’s schedule—to be real, lasting, and aligned.

This conversation is for every woman who’s ever worried she’s “behind,” compared herself to friends’ milestones, or questioned whether love passed her by. Becky shares why timing matters more than speed, how past heartbreaks can prepare you for the right relationship, and why your detours aren’t wasted—they’re set up.

If you’re still hoping, still waiting, and still trusting, this episode will remind you: you’re not late. You’re right on time for your own love story.

Love isn’t built on anniversaries and Valentine’s Day alone — it’s built in the everyday. In this episode, we unpack what it really means to treat love as a daily practice: showing up on the ordinary Tuesdays, not just the highlight moments.

We’ll talk about the myth of “effortless love,” why relationships are work (in the best possible way), and how small, consistent gestures matter more than grand, occasional ones. From choosing patience after a long day, to listening with intention, to simply being present — the daily choices are what create trust, safety, and lasting intimacy.

Whether you’re partnered or single, this episode will help you reframe love as a practice: something you nurture, tend to, and grow with time. Because the truth is, ordinary love is extraordinary when it’s consistent.

In this episode, we explore why your partner deserves to feel seen, valued, and appreciated even on the most ordinary days. Because visibility shouldn’t be a reward for performance—it should be the baseline of connection.

We’ll talk about the subtle but powerful ways to affirm your partner’s presence, how to show up with emotional attentiveness in the everyday, and why relationships suffer when people feel invisible. If you’ve ever wondered how to build a love that lasts—not just performs—this one’s for you.

Because your person shouldn’t have to wait for a birthday, breakdown, or crisis to know they matter.

Healing after a toxic or abusive relationship isn’t just about reclaiming your own peace—it’s also about the partner you’ll someday share your life with. When we do the work to unlearn survival patterns, set boundaries, and rebuild our sense of worth, we don’t just transform how we treat ourselves—we transform how we show up in love.

In this episode, I talk about why healing isn’t selfish, why it matters for the intimacy and stability you’ll share in a future relationship, and how doing the work allows you to listen more deeply, love more fully, and create safety where once there was chaos. If you’ve ever wondered whether all the inner work is worth it, here’s your reminder: your healing doesn’t just change your story—it changes the love you’re capable of giving and receiving.

If you’ve ever been in a relationship where you had to shrink yourself or edit your truth just to keep the peace, you know how exhausting it is. Real intimacy—emotional and physical—can only grow when both people feel safe enough to be their full selves.

We’ll dive into what emotional safety actually looks like, how to create it for your partner day-to-day, and why it’s the secret ingredient to deeper trust, better communication, and the most connected sex of your life.

Let’s talk about sex—the kind that feels safe, connected, and wildly fulfilling. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on what it really means to have intimate chemistry that’s rooted in trust, emotional safety, and mutual desire.

This isn’t about performance. It’s about presence.

It’s about being seen, heard, and wanted for exactly who you are—and how that kind of connection changes everything behind closed doors.

After emotional abuse, your nervous system doesn’t just remember pain—it expects it. In this episode, we unpack the difference between anxiety and intuition, especially when past trauma has made it hard to tell them apart. If you’ve ever spiraled over a text, questioned a calm connection, or felt “off” in moments that might actually be safe, this one's for you.

We talk about how trauma creates false alarms, what real intuition actually feels like, and how to slowly rebuild self-trust after gaslighting, manipulation, or betrayal. This episode is a gentle invitation to stop letting fear lead—and start hearing your true inner voice again.

Because you’re not broken. You’re just learning how to trust yourself on new ground.

Being clear doesn’t make you cold. Being honest doesn’t make you harsh. In this episode, we’re rewriting the narrative that kindness means sugarcoating, and directness means cruelty. You’ll learn how to communicate your needs, set boundaries, and speak your truth without guilt, aggression, or apology. Because when you lead with care and clarity, you don’t have to choose between being kind and being honest—you get to be both.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your growth.

In this episode, we talk about what it means to outgrow the roles, relationships, and survival strategies that once defined you—and how to stop shrinking yourself to stay familiar to people who only remember your past self. From setting unapologetic boundaries to releasing the need for approval, this is your permission slip to embody the version of you you fought to become.

You’re not who you used to be.
You’re becoming someone deeper, softer, stronger—and that’s the point.

If you’ve ever replayed a text a dozen times, read too much into a “hey” that came late, or wondered if you’re just too sensitive for this dating world, this episode is your permission slip. We dive into why your overactive radar isn’t a flaw but a superpower, how to tell intuitive nudges from anxious spirals, and practical tools for dating without letting your mind run the show. Say goodbye to self-doubt and hello to emotional clarity.

In this episode of Heart First, Head Later, we’re getting real about the value of honest communication—especially in the early stages of dating. Because let’s be honest (pun intended): the clearer you are, the less chaos you invite.

We talk about why transparency doesn’t have to be terrifying, how to express what you want without oversharing or over-explaining, and how to create a connection without playing guessing games.

If you’ve ever held back out of fear of “ruining it,” this one’s for you. Because honesty—early and often—isn’t too much. It’s exactly how you protect your peace and find people who are actually aligned.

Let’s normalize saying what we mean from the beginning.